sad news (m/c)

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Warning - m/c D&C mentioned...


My worst fears were confirmed yesterday.
After waking up to bright red blood ... not a lot, but a change in pattern,
I rang my Ob.
I saw him yesterday afternoon and he could not find the baby on the u/s at
first, just the sac in the uterus. When he did find a shadow in the sac, he
said it measured almost the same as we'd seen it the week before and had
probably died shortly after the last scan. I was prepared for this news but
poor DH was ever the optimist, so I think the news hit him harder. My Ob
was wonderful throughout and let us weep in privacy while he organised a D&C
(at the hospital right next door) and all the paper work.
I had a curette last night and the Ob said my cervix had already started to
dilate, but would have taken quite some time to naturally miscarry. Even
though I was apprehensive about the D&C (the Anaesthetic mostly) I'm glad it
is done as I don't think I could have coped emotionally with a natural m/c.
I have almost stopped bleeding this morning and am feeling a lot brighter
about the world. Of course I think I'll be rather emotional for some time
to come.

I also had a dream that my baby is now with a friend of mine who died a
couple of years ago. It was lovely and they were both surrounded by light.

Hopefully it will not be long before I'm pregnant again ..... and I have my
order in for a straight-forward, uncomplicated, healthy, happy pregnancy

Amanda

DD 15th August 2002
1 tiny Angel Nov 2004

"Some day I'll wish upon a star and wake up where the clouds are far behind
me. Where troubles melt like lemon drops, away above the chimney tops
that's where you'll find me".

I'm so very sorry. :-(

((((((Amanda))))))

--
Brigitte aa #2145
edd #3 February 15, 2004
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/joshuaandkaterina/

"Readers are plentiful; thinkers are rare."
~ Harriet Martineau

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Mary Ellen
William (8)
Matthew (6)
Margaret (2)

(((Amanda)))

I'm so sorry.

Leslie

--
~Carol Ann
www.lowcarblosers.com ~ Home of the Monthly Weightloss Challenge!
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: My worst fears were confirmed yesterday.
: After waking up to bright red blood ... not a lot, but a change in
pattern,
: I rang my Ob.
: I saw him yesterday afternoon and he could not find the baby on the u/s at
: first, just the sac in the uterus. When he did find a shadow in the sac,
he
: said it measured almost the same as we'd seen it the week before and had
: probably died shortly after the last scan. I was prepared for this news
but
: poor DH was ever the optimist, so I think the news hit him harder. My Ob
: was wonderful throughout and let us weep in privacy while he organised a
D&C
: (at the hospital right next door) and all the paper work.
: I had a curette last night and the Ob said my cervix had already started
to
: dilate, but would have taken quite some time to naturally miscarry. Even
: though I was apprehensive about the D&C (the Anaesthetic mostly) I'm glad
it
: is done as I don't think I could have coped emotionally with a natural
m/c.
: I have almost stopped bleeding this morning and am feeling a lot brighter
: about the world. Of course I think I'll be rather emotional for some time
: to come.
:
: I also had a dream that my baby is now with a friend of mine who died a
: couple of years ago. It was lovely and they were both surrounded by
light.
:
: Hopefully it will not be long before I'm pregnant again ..... and I have
my
: order in for a straight-forward, uncomplicated, healthy, happy pregnancy

:
: Amanda
:
: DD 15th August 2002
: 1 tiny Angel Nov 2004
:
: "Some day I'll wish upon a star and wake up where the clouds are far
behind
: me. Where troubles melt like lemon drops, away above the chimney tops
: that's where you'll find me".


I am so very sorry for your loss.

((((((((Amanda))))))))))))))

~Carol Ann

"A&G&K" wrote in message
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Warning - m/c D&C mentioned...


My worst fears were confirmed yesterday.
After waking up to bright red blood ... not a lot, but a change in
pattern,
I rang my Ob.
I saw him yesterday afternoon and he could not find the baby on the u/s at
first, just the sac in the uterus. When he did find a shadow in the sac,
he
said it measured almost the same as we'd seen it the week before and had
probably died shortly after the last scan. I was prepared for this news
but
poor DH was ever the optimist, so I think the news hit him harder. My Ob
was wonderful throughout and let us weep in privacy while he organised a
D&C
(at the hospital right next door) and all the paper work.
I had a curette last night and the Ob said my cervix had already started
to
dilate, but would have taken quite some time to naturally miscarry. Even
though I was apprehensive about the D&C (the Anaesthetic mostly) I'm glad
it
is done as I don't think I could have coped emotionally with a natural
m/c.
I have almost stopped bleeding this morning and am feeling a lot brighter
about the world. Of course I think I'll be rather emotional for some time
to come.

I also had a dream that my baby is now with a friend of mine who died a
couple of years ago. It was lovely and they were both surrounded by
light.

Hopefully it will not be long before I'm pregnant again ..... and I have
my
order in for a straight-forward, uncomplicated, healthy, happy pregnancy


Amanda

DD 15th August 2002
1 tiny Angel Nov 2004


Oh Amanda, I'm so very sorry for your loss. I had a similar experience
before I became pregnant with Laszlo, as did my sister in law and several of
my friends. EVERY one of us went on to have a healthy pregnancy right away.
I'm not saying that's a rule, just that it's happened to at least 5 people
that I can think of off the top of my head and I'm 1 of them. My sister in
law always said that the D&C "cleaned her out" and got her all ready for a
healthy pregnancy to live there. I tried to have the same attitude when I
had mine, although mine came after several years of infertility treatment
and that was our first positive pregnancy outcome. As devastated as we were
at the time, I'm quite glad that things turned out as they did, I'm positive
that Laszlo is the baby that was meant for me to have at the time that I had
him. That may sound strange, but it's how I truly feel.

Apparently, 30% of all pregnancies end up in miscarriage, and most of those
times the moms don't even know they were pregnant because they just
attributed it to a late period that was heavy due to the extra few weeks in
the cycle.

I hope you heal well and quickly and that you go on to have more good news
to share in the very near future.

Best,

Jen

I am very sad to hear this Amanda.

--
Andrea mom of 5 - latest addition Kamron David 5 months 20lbs

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My worst fears were confirmed yesterday.
After waking up to bright red blood ... not a lot, but a change in
pattern,
I rang my Ob.
I saw him yesterday afternoon and he could not find the baby on the u/s at
first, just the sac in the uterus. When he did find a shadow in the sac,
he
said it measured almost the same as we'd seen it the week before and had
probably died shortly after the last scan. I was prepared for this news
but
poor DH was ever the optimist, so I think the news hit him harder. My Ob
was wonderful throughout and let us weep in privacy while he organised a
D&C
(at the hospital right next door) and all the paper work.
I had a curette last night and the Ob said my cervix had already started
to
dilate, but would have taken quite some time to naturally miscarry. Even
though I was apprehensive about the D&C (the Anaesthetic mostly) I'm glad
it
is done as I don't think I could have coped emotionally with a natural
m/c.
I have almost stopped bleeding this morning and am feeling a lot brighter
about the world. Of course I think I'll be rather emotional for some time
to come.

I also had a dream that my baby is now with a friend of mine who died a
couple of years ago. It was lovely and they were both surrounded by
light.

Hopefully it will not be long before I'm pregnant again ..... and I have
my
order in for a straight-forward, uncomplicated, healthy, happy pregnancy


Amanda

DD 15th August 2002
1 tiny Angel Nov 2004

"Some day I'll wish upon a star and wake up where the clouds are far
behind
me. Where troubles melt like lemon drops, away above the chimney tops
that's where you'll find me".

Amanda, so very sorry for your loss.

Heres an extract out of a poem called Desiderata by Max Ehrmann.

'Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams;
it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.'

Leanne.

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Hopefully it will not be long before I'm pregnant again ..... and I have
my
order in for a straight-forward, uncomplicated, healthy, happy pregnancy


Amanda

DD 15th August 2002
1 tiny Angel Nov 2004

I am so sorry to hear this.

Nancy

"Some day I'll wish upon a star and wake up where the clouds are far
behind
me. Where troubles melt like lemon drops, away above the chimney tops
that's where you'll find me".

(((((((((((Amanda)))))))))))))

I am so sorry.

Sue