Does anyone know of any studies regarding divorce and childs well-being?

I am looking for some reliable resources comparing how children fair
in a bad marriage (simply unhappy-not physically or verbally abusive)
compared to an amicable divorce with shared custody.

I would also be interested in how children in this situation fair if
the father has an affair and gets caught?

Any guidance would be appreciated.

Thanks

On Apr 20, 12:00 am, wrote:
I am looking for some reliable resources comparing how children fair
in a bad marriage (simply unhappy-not physically or verbally abusive)
compared to an amicable divorce with shared custody.

I would also be interested in how children in this situation fair if
the father has an affair and gets caught?

Any guidance would be appreciated.

Thanks

I'm not sure that there is anything, but I'm no expert either. What I
can tell you is this: I am a child of a bad marriage. Yes, my parents
argued a lot, and often very loudly. But my parents made sure to tell
me that I had nothing to do with their arguments and their eventual
divorce. Knowing that I was not responsible was a great comfort to me,
even though I was only 10.

Apparently, too many parents get caught up in the arguments and
divorce proceedings to sit down with their children and explain what
is happening, why it's happening, and most importantly, that the
children are *not* responsible.

About the father's affairs? Keep that between you and your hisband
during the divorce. Your children need to know that you and he still
love them. It's just that you and he don't love eachother anymore. DO
NOT tell the children about the affair, now or later. That will only
be eventually regarded as you trying to turn your children against
their father.

Sorry this isn't the results of some objective study. But it is
experience from somebody who's been there. HTH

Bill

Why would the children know about the affair unless the wife wants to get
even by turning the children against the father even though exposing the
affair emotionally damages the children.The statistics you need on
fatherless homes are at http://www.fathersrights.org. Think of the kids
instead of your hurt pride.
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I am looking for some reliable resources comparing how children fair
in a bad marriage (simply unhappy-not physically or verbally abusive)
compared to an amicable divorce with shared custody.

I would also be interested in how children in this situation fair if
the father has an affair and gets caught?

Any guidance would be appreciated.

Thanks

On Apr 20, 12:00 am, wrote:
I am looking for some reliable resources comparing how children fair
in a bad marriage (simply unhappy-not physically or verbally abusive)
compared to an amicable divorce with shared custody.

I would also be interested in how children in this situation fair if
the father has an affair and gets caught?

Any guidance would be appreciated.

Thanks

Actually, though I may have implied it was my husband that had the
affair, this is not the case. I am truly trying to help someone I care
about do what is best for his kids and himself, though he has no clue
what that is at this point in time.

Lisa