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return to work and preparing my baby for a babysitter
Hi! My daughter is almost 7 month now and in September I need to be
back to work and she will be with a babysitter during the day (most likely the whole day, about 10 hours). I am a first-time mom and so is her babysitter (babysitter's son is 1.5 months younger than my daughter). The babysitter doesn't have much experience in childcare, so we both have lots of questions. I would like to make this transition the least stressful for my baby, and start working with a peaceful mind (although I'll probably be very anxious anyway). I'll appreciate if you could help me with your advice on a few questions: 1. How to introduce the baby to the babysitter? The babysitter is just someone I found through an ad online, we haven't even met much. Does it make sense let my girl stay with the babysitter a few times for a few hours before I dive into work and she has to be there all day long? My daughter is very attached to me and will probably be more attached in a couple of months. 2. What kind of items will the babysitter need to care for my baby (besides the regular set - diapers, bottles, etc.)? I don't have an extra crib - does it make sense to buy one or will she be ok sleeping on a mattress on the floor? She always sleeps on a mattress on the floor when we visit my in-laws, but she's 7 months now and not very mobile. Would a mattress be a good idea when she's 9 months or should I still buy a crib for her? 3. Day schedule - it is wise to ask a babysitter to stick to some kind of schedule (feeding, sleep)? I don't really feed her by the clock these days, more on demand (she's breastfed) but obviously I'll have to give up breastfeeding when I start working. 4. General issues - I don't know how to phrase this question properly, but I would like to know what the babysitter is planning to do with the baby and how she's going to adjust her life (shopping, household duties, hobbies, etc.) to her childcare commitment. I wouldn't like her to watch TV all day or take my child grocery shopping - how should I start this topic with the babysitter without too much interference in her personal life? 5. Any other tips and recommendations? I'll be very, very thankful for any information you're willing to share. Thank you in advance for all replies! |
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In article ,
Nan wrote: 4. General issues - I don't know how to phrase this question properly, but I would like to know what the babysitter is planning to do with the baby and how she's going to adjust her life (shopping, household duties, hobbies, etc.) to her childcare commitment. I wouldn't like her to watch TV all day or take my child grocery shopping - how should I start this topic with the babysitter without too much interference in her personal life? Frankly, I think a sitter shouldn't have a "personal life" when they're watching my child. Since you're not comfortable with her taking your child on errands, you need to be up front. She'll need to adjust her errand-running just like other parents do.... by doing it after she's done working. Some parents don't mind having a sitter cart their child around on personal business, and that's fine, too. I just don't happen to be one of them. Actually, I think this is worth thinking about. WHY do you not want her taking the baby grocery shopping or out running errands? If she is running a largish day care, I could understand that -- but if she's only going to have two babies, outings like the grocery store and whatnot would not be difficult, and would break up the day, both for her and for the babies. Many babies thrive on this sort of active life -- out and about instead of in the same house all day. If you don't want her to do things like that, you have to be up front about it -- but first make sure you are clear about WHY you don't want her to be doing it. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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dragonlady wrote:
WHY do you not want her taking the baby grocery shopping or out running errands? Mine did it and when her errands got to be to much (seemed she had a lot) we eventually switched providers. The main reason I didn't like it is because my kid went on all her errands and then he had to come on all mine too (when was I going to do them?). That is a lot of errands and he'd get crabby and I can see why. She got all her errands done during the day, with my kid, and then got a relaxing evening at home. My poor kid got drug around all day but then got drug around all night too. That wasn't every day of course - I wasn't that errand crazy :-) It was also a lot of driving because there was a 15-30 minute trip in the car to get anywhere. There was also the added concern that she wasn't as safe with the carseat as I wanted. I did address this to my satisfaction but it was another down side. -- Nikki |
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wrote in message oups.com... The babysitter is just someone I found through an ad online, we haven't even met much. I would check the babysitter out very carefully. I would definitely google her (both the web and news) and see what turns up. It probably makes sense to have police checks done on her too, just to be on the safe side. Does it make sense let my girl stay with the babysitter a few times for a few hours before I dive into work and she has to be there all day long? Yeah. Actually, if you can negoiate with your new employer so that you return to work part time at first (perhaps beginning in August), this may be best. It would get the kinks out of the system between you and the babysitter, and help you adjust to work life again. Don't forget, you're going from one full-time job to two. My daughter is very attached to me and will probably be more attached in a couple of months. 2. What kind of items will the babysitter need to care for my baby (besides the regular set - diapers, bottles, etc.)? I don't have an extra crib - does it make sense to buy one or will she be ok sleeping on a mattress on the floor? They use mats at a lot of daycare centers. A mattress should be just fine. 3. Day schedule - it is wise to ask a babysitter to stick to some kind of schedule (feeding, sleep)? I don't really feed her by the clock these days, more on demand (she's breastfed) but obviously I'll have to give up breastfeeding when I start working. Talk to the babysitter about this. If her feeding schedule or lack thereof works fine for the sitter, you're set. If not, you have to work with the sitter to get one that works for you so that you can feed her after work and on weekends without upsetting yourself or you daughter. 4. General issues - I don't know how to phrase this question properly, but I would like to know what the babysitter is planning to do with the baby and how she's going to adjust her life (shopping, household duties, hobbies, etc.) to her childcare commitment. I wouldn't like her to watch TV all day or take my child grocery shopping - how should I start this topic with the babysitter without too much interference in her personal life? The first thought that comes to my mind is: are you paying her enough so that she should be paying attention to your daughter instead of the TV or go grocery shopping? You're not talking about someone who cuts your grass once a week. You're talking about your daughter's wellbeing. I am not saying your babysitter shouldn't have down time (like during the naps), but she should also be playing with your daughter. Also, try to be considerate to the baby sitter. E.g., don't bring her with a poopy diaper every morning, if you can avoid it. 5. Any other tips and recommendations? I'll be very, very thankful for any information you're willing to share. You absolutely need emergency babysitter plans for when the babysitter's sick, her kid is sick, you're sick and your kid is sick. You also need backup plans if it turns out that you don't want to keep child with the new babysitter. Jeff Thank you in advance for all replies! |
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wrote in message
oups.com... 1. How to introduce the baby to the babysitter? The babysitter is just someone I found through an ad online, we haven't even met much. I'd suggest you and your baby spend time together with the babysitter at first. That way, you can see how they interact and take it from there. 2. What kind of items will the babysitter need to care for my baby (besides the regular set - diapers, bottles, etc.)? The same things you need to care for your baby - expressed breastmilk, food, changes of clothes, diaper cream, sunscreen, etc. As for the crib, maybe you could see how it works out with the mattress and if all goes well, don't worry about it. If you find you need a crib, maybe get a pack-n-play or something. 3. Day schedule - it is wise to ask a babysitter to stick to some kind of schedule (feeding, sleep)? I don't really feed her by the clock these days, more on demand (she's breastfed) but obviously I'll have to give up breastfeeding when I start working. I wouldn't. At this age, it's probably best she eats when she needs to eat and sleeps when she needs to sleep. I assume you'll still be breastfeeding in the evenings and weekends. You might find she feeds more when she's with you than when you're at work. Is she OK taking a bottle? My DD never would and drank from a sippy cup. Even then, she preferred the milk directly from the source, so she made up for lost time in the evenings. 4. General issues - I don't know how to phrase this question properly, but I would like to know what the babysitter is planning to do with the baby and how she's going to adjust her life (shopping, household duties, hobbies, etc.) to her childcare commitment. You definitely need to find out what the babysitter plans to do all day. Just ask her what the day will involve. If her ideas don't match your own, I'd find another sitter, or if you really have your heart set on this one, you need to explain what is acceptable and what is not. It seems like you've selected this babysitter without really shopping around. I don't know if that's true or not, but it might not hurt to look into some other babysitters too, for comparison. Lucy |
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On Tue, 14 Jun 2005 16:27:54 GMT, dragonlady
wrote: In article , Nan wrote: 4. General issues - I don't know how to phrase this question properly, but I would like to know what the babysitter is planning to do with the baby and how she's going to adjust her life (shopping, household duties, hobbies, etc.) to her childcare commitment. I wouldn't like her to watch TV all day or take my child grocery shopping - how should I start this topic with the babysitter without too much interference in her personal life? Frankly, I think a sitter shouldn't have a "personal life" when they're watching my child. Since you're not comfortable with her taking your child on errands, you need to be up front. She'll need to adjust her errand-running just like other parents do.... by doing it after she's done working. Some parents don't mind having a sitter cart their child around on personal business, and that's fine, too. I just don't happen to be one of them. Actually, I think this is worth thinking about. WHY do you not want her taking the baby grocery shopping or out running errands? If she is running a largish day care, I could understand that -- but if she's only going to have two babies, outings like the grocery store and whatnot would not be difficult, and would break up the day, both for her and for the babies. Many babies thrive on this sort of active life -- out and about instead of in the same house all day. If you don't want her to do things like that, you have to be up front about it -- but first make sure you are clear about WHY you don't want her to be doing it. My reasoning is this: Not only would my child have to run errands with the sitter, but most likely with me, too. That is just too much running around for my comfort level. I don't mind special outings to the park, zoo, or whatnot. However, I believe someone I'm paying to watch my child should be focused on that, not what she/he needs to get done for her own benefit. Nan |
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1. About a month before I left my daughter with her sitter, we would
visit every couple days just for an hour or so, I would stay as well. Then for 2 weeks before I left her there every second afternoon by herself. I was very comfortable leaving DD at that point and she was loving it there! 2. DD sleeps in a pack and play in the sitters spare bedroom. The other boy sleeps in a seperate p&p in the same room. The sitters son sleeps in his own crib. When the sitter has company she can just put away the p&p's. If your DD is used to sleeping on a mattress, and the room is completely child proofed so she is unable to get into trouble if she doesn't sleep right away or wakes up undetected, I would just do that. That's what larger care centres here do. At the sitters house we leave a blanket, diapers, wipes, bum cream, toothpaste, toothbrush, hairbrush, and some bibs. That way we're not lugging everything back and forth all the time. Our sitter also has an extra high chair, if you have a small one you can bring that along. Since the sitter has a baby, she should have most other things associated with caring for one! 3. My daughter has one schedule with us, and another with the sitter. The sitter gradually changed them all to the same schedule so they eat breakfast at 8, have milk at 10, lunch at 11:30, nap from 1-3, then snack, then outside again. There really is no need to give up breastfeeding, as long as your baby will take a bottle at sitters you can breastfeed her at home. 4. I have no idea. My baby sitter doesn't take the kids to the store or anything, she does it after her work hours just like you have to. She takes them outside all morning, and again after afternoon snack (weather permitting), she doesn't have a TV around where the kids are most of the time. If you call or visit and are always hearing the TV, chances are your DD will be watching it all the time. Ask her if she expects to take your DD out, then she would need the appropriate car seat and all that stuff. 5. Nutrition was important to me. I interviewed one girl who fed her then 11 month old chicken fingers and fries mostly. According to her, she stopped giving him veggies. DD gets lots of fruit, veggies, and healthy foods. She does get the occassional chicken nugget or other treat, but it's rare! Receipts was also important since in Canada we can claim it on our income tax as long as receipts are provided and the sitter gives us their Social Insurance #. I also asked about toys and activities. Coloring, toy rotation, etc. were all factors. They also attempt to make cards and stuff for special occassions. Make sure your sitter's house is clean and you are welcome to drop by at any time. We keep a daily journal back and forth. The babysitter writes down if DD had a bm, what she ate for breakfast, lunch & snack, what times she slept, and if there was an incident like a fall or a scratch, or the rare biting (ack!). she writes that in. I really love my sitter! That's about all I can think of now! |
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dragonlady wrote:
In article , Nan wrote: 4. General issues - I don't know how to phrase this question properly, but I would like to know what the babysitter is planning to do with the baby and how she's going to adjust her life (shopping, household duties, hobbies, etc.) to her childcare commitment. I wouldn't like her to watch TV all day or take my child grocery shopping - how should I start this topic with the babysitter without too much interference in her personal life? You can be pro-active about this and say - I'd like you to take the baby for a walk each morning, or have some time outside or something like that. Or just ask what she customarily does during the day with the kids. Frankly, I think a sitter shouldn't have a "personal life" when they're watching my child. Since you're not comfortable with her taking your child on errands, you need to be up front. She'll need to adjust her errand-running just like other parents do.... by doing it after she's done working. Some parents don't mind having a sitter cart their child around on personal business, and that's fine, too. I just don't happen to be one of them. Actually, I think this is worth thinking about. WHY do you not want her taking the baby grocery shopping or out running errands? If she is running a largish day care, I could understand that -- but if she's only going to have two babies, outings like the grocery store and whatnot would not be difficult, and would break up the day, both for her and for the babies. In some cases, the parent may not have a chance to find out what kind of a driver the babysitter is. And she may not even have a license. Or there may not be an extra car seat available. But when my dd#2 had a nanny/babysitter, one of the things that she needed to have done was to have the older child picked up at school and taken to practice etc. So it would not be sensible to say that she didn't want the child taken out in the car. Many babies thrive on this sort of active life -- out and about instead of in the same house all day. If you don't want her to do things like that, you have to be up front about it -- but first make sure you are clear about WHY you don't want her to be doing it. Nikki has given a good reason, but in that case, I'd have gone on ahead and done my errands before I picked the kid up, and explained why I was doing that. If she objected, then I'd say - either don't take my kid on errands and I'll pick him up right after work. grandma Rosalie |
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