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"teachrmama" wrote in message ... The sad thing is that the law has not really stopped the irresponsible from running around fathering children. The law does not even go after those who have absolutely no means to pay. It's not worth the money spent of catching them if they can't pay anyway. Many of those who are caught in the system we now have do not want to abandon their children--they, in fact, want to be part of their children's lives, but are treated as visitors and walking wallets. They see their children at the mother's whim. They are told not to start a new family until they have finished paying for current children. Now, the mothers are not told to have no subsequent children, because the men who father those children will be held responsible for them. But a father paying child support gets no consideration for any child that is not on the support order. This may sound trivial to you, but would you want to spend 21 years of your life with no hope of a family, because you are forced to pay a lifestyle, rather than a needs, support for a child you rarely get to see? You need to look more deeply into the system rather than just blowing off the concerns of people who have been caught up in it for years. They just may have something to say that is worth your while to hear. The truly sad thing is that the guvmint has created the problem in the first place. It started with the nanny guvmint telling unwed mothers that they could not recieve welfare (not that they should be receiving it in the first place) if the father was living in the house. The guvmint basically tried to take over the role of breadwinner, and the ensuing mess has resulted. But people like 'stealing for kids' and their socialist mentality are slowing destroying this country. |
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Men are not "primarily" held financially responsible for the child.
"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Fighting for kids" adf wrote in message ... The only "victim" is the child. Unilateral decision??? It takes 2 to tango, not one. If you dont want a child then dont have sex. Its as simple as that. The only person here that being portrayed as a "victim" is the male, who somehow thinks he doesnt need to be responsible after the sperm hits the egg because its not happening in his body. There is no unilateral decision, its was a bilaterial decision when the two consenting adults (or children as the case may be) have sex. Thats the point of conception and point of bilaterial decision. All of you think its just a cut and dry situation, that if a woman has sex with a man and pregnancy occurs then the woman somehow "post conception" is soley responsible for the child. You have also clumped "women" into this group of people who just have children to trap men. Sorry, but the only one who trapped themselves was the man who stuck his penis into a women and there was a child conceived. Again, if you dont want children be respectful to your self and smart about what you do. Your "post conception unilaterial argument" is stale and quite frankly would mean that no man would be responisble for any child born, because the mother would have made the unilaterial decision to keep the child. Sorry, it just doesnt fly. I do agree with you that people who do not want to risk having children would be wise to abstain from sex. It is too bad that the sanctity of marriage has fallen by the wayside. However, the problem being spoken of here is not just about the women having the right to choose whether to carry a pregnancy to term. It's about all that follows. The MAN is held to be primarily financially responsible for the child, while the woman gets the majority of rights to the child. How often do you see true shared custody? The child needs both parents to be in his life, a part of his life. Not one doing the nurturing, and the sother sending money. When a woman decides to carry a conception to birth, she is chosing 21 years of lifestyle support from the father. HE has no choice about how much to pay. There is no requirement that the father and mother sit down and discuss what is best for the cild. A JUDGE gets to decide that. And if the parents do, by chance, come up with what they consider an equitable solution, the judge can overrule them and insist that it be done by the book--as if the parents have no right to decide what is best for their child! Look a little more closely at the system. You might be surprised at what you find there. |
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"Paul Fritz" wrote in message ... "Fighting for kids" adf wrote in message ... The only "victim" is the child. Unilateral decision??? It takes 2 to tango, not one. Sprry clueless......but it only takes ONE (and only one is allowed to) make the decision to birth a child IT TAKES TWO TO MAKE A CHILD!!! If you dont want a child then dont have sex. Its as simple as that. Then the same MUST apply to women Read my other post clueless The only person here that being portrayed as a "victim" is the male, who somehow thinks he doesnt need to be responsible after the sperm hits the egg because its not happening in his body. There is no unilateral decision, its was a bilaterial decision when the two consenting adults (or children as the case may be) have sex. Thats the point of conception and point of bilaterial decision. And after that point, a woman has a sole and unilateral choice to birtha child or not, Women should be responsible for their sole and unilateral choices......No amount of tap dancing will get arounf that fact. Sorry, but you dont quite "get it". All of you think its just a cut and dry situation, that if a woman has sex with a man and pregnancy occurs then the woman somehow "post conception" is soley responsible for the child. Yes. In many cases the woman finds out shes pregnant to far along for an abortion, then what? There was No "Unilaterial decision" made. You have also clumped "women" into this group of people who just have children to trap men. Sorry, but the only one who trapped themselves was the man who stuck his penis into a women and there was a child conceived. Women as victims......how quaint and you men in here are saying exactly what? All I here is "Im a victim...", the only true victim is the children. Again, if you dont want children be respectful to your self and smart about what you do. Your "post conception unilaterial argument" is stale and quite frankly would mean that no man would be responisble for any child born, because the mother would have made the unilaterial decision to keep the child. Sorry, it just doesnt fly. Only with the 'women as victims' crowd Whatever the "men are victims" crowd is just as much to blame. |
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"Paul Fritz" wrote in message ... Too bad you conviently forgot the fact that conception DOES NOT equal birth Actually it depends on what side of the fence you sit on. Some individuals in this country, male and female, believe the second contreceptions occurs that a child has been made and aborting one would be considered murder. There is no other alternative to them but to have the child. |
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"Fighting for kids" adf wrote in message news Men are not "primarily" held financially responsible for the child. == You really don't know much do you? We paid over 60% of the state's indicated "support need." That's "primarily responsible." You do the math. == == |
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"teachrmama" wrote in message ... The sad thing is that the law has not really stopped the irresponsible from running around fathering children.... The only true "victim" is the child. The mother and father are more concerned and wrapped up in playing games most of the time that the child gets ignored. BOTH parents are guilty of neglecting their children. |
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"teachrmama" wrote in message
... The sad thing is that the law has not really stopped the irresponsible from running around fathering children.... And the other sad part is that the law has really not stopped the irresponsible from running around getting "knocked up" and burdening the taxpayer ( and their recreational sex partners) with the tab for those choices. I really find it offensive at hell the gall at attacking men because some woman has had 19 children by 23 different fathers! It's all men's fault and the poor innocent women are victims. I want to puke! There is only one thing that makes me more violently ill that the liars who claim that; "it's all men's fault" and that is the idiots who believe them when they make that claim. |
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"gini52" wrote in message ... "Fighting for kids" adf wrote in message ... "Kenneth S." wrote in message ... Again, the answer to this is so OBVIOUS, that it hardly needs to be pointed out. But I'll point it out anyway. Obvious only to serve your own agenda maybe, but to many your obviously not reading things and going to sex education classes. In the U.S. no one tells women that, if they don't want to become pregnant, they shouldn't have sex. Quite the reverse -- huge changes have been inflicted upon society, through such things as free access to abortion, to give women post-conception reproductive choice, as it is called. In the US great emphasis is placed on women not having sex because if a child results she is the one that will be left to take care of the child, that the father will run out on her, and that he most likely wont pay support. This woman will be left to take care of a child, that two people made, on her own. ----------------- Ha this is a joke! There is no emphasis on women not having sex because she will be left to care for the child. Not with this huge cs machine in place to grind every man down, (whether they are the biological father or not), and give huge lifestyle awards to women via the state, (can't forget about those federal funds!). If a women can't take care of a child on her own then the father should get custody. And if neither of them can, give it up for adoption. -------------------- As far as this "free access to abortion" what planet are you living on. Ive never seen free access to an abortion clinic, most of the time its extremely expensive to get an abortion done. ------------------------- I think "extremely expensive" is pushing it. Yeah it costs some, ($200 to $300 here), but you can't even begin to compare it with the costs of having a baby. "Extremely expensive", bah! ------------------------ IT boils down to this, women and men when they have sex are not guaranteed that they are not going to conceive a child. If they do, then that child is the responsibility of BOTH parents. Why should a man get to just say, "I dont want a child" then be release of his duties as a parent. == Umm...because the mother does? == ----------------------------- Yanno Gini she or he is another one who is going to refuse to "get it" no matter what. A man should get to say "I don't want a child" and then be released of his duties as a parent because women already have this right. To say if you don't want to be a father then keep your dick in your pants while not saying (nearly) the same thing to women is just more proof of the unilateral 'rights' women have. To me a woman "oopsing" a man is no better than one who falsly cries rape. It makes all women look bad. And both should be held accountable for their crimnal actions. I believe that protection should always be used but if something happens, like the condom breaks, it is not murder if the woman goes the next day to a clinic and gets the morning after pill. All it does is immediately bring on your period. I don't like the idea of being marked a victim just because some other women can't make it on their own. ~AZ~ == |
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"AZ Astrea" wrote in message ... ----------------- Ha this is a joke! There is no emphasis on women not having sex because she will be left to care for the child. Not with this huge cs machine in place to grind every man down, (whether they are the biological father or not), and give huge lifestyle awards to women via the state, (can't forget about those federal funds!). If a women can't take care of a child on her own then the father should get custody. And if neither of them can, give it up for adoption. -------------------- Lifesyle support? What do you think the average support award is? It sure isnt enough to support a "lifestyle" or even a life in most cases. ------------------------- I think "extremely expensive" is pushing it. Yeah it costs some, ($200 to $300 here), but you can't even begin to compare it with the costs of having a baby. "Extremely expensive", bah! ------------------------ I guess that depends on how much money you have at your finger tips, for most people abortion is not somthing they can afford. |
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"Kenpangborn" wrote in message ... The sad thing is that the law has not really stopped the irresponsible from running around fathering children.... And the other sad part is that the law has really not stopped the irresponsible from running around getting "knocked up" and burdening the taxpayer ( and their recreational sex partners) with the tab for those choices. Takes two. .so its ok for men to go run around and knock them up, but they get blamed for having the children? Two way street. I really find it offensive at hell the gall at attacking men because some woman has had 19 children by 23 different fathers! It's all men's fault and the poor innocent women are victims. I want to puke! Yeah and I bet the 23 different fathers have multiple children by multiple women too. The men are just as bad. Takes two to tango. There is only one thing that makes me more violently ill that the liars who claim that; "it's all men's fault" and that is the idiots who believe them when they make that claim. Its not "all the men's fault", no one has said that here. It takes TWO. Its the men and womens fault if they have a child that neither one wants. The only "victim" is the child that results. |
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