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Crying fits
I have a 17 month old who has pretty intense crying fits. My wife believes they happen pretty much every night, except some Saturday and Sunday nights it won't happen as much, or won't happen at all. At first we thought they were night terrors, but they don't always happen at night anymore, and they aren't always right after he's woken from a nap either. He's in daycare M-F during the day. We're pretty happy with his daycare, but we're starting to think he may be lactose intolerant, and his daycare likes to feed him dairy yogurt. But that's (probably?) another story. When he gets going on his crying, he'll cry so hard he chokes too hard to cry, arch his back, make himself hard to hold onto, wriggle onto the floor, even beat his head on the floor. For a while when he gets like this, he won't breast feed, but usually the cycle is broken eventually when he finally breast feeds. The crying spells usually last 5 to 10 minutes. Have any other parents experienced anything like this? It's kind of scary when it happens. We're pretty much trying to stay calm ourselves and say soothing things, and hold him when he'll let us and breast feed him when my wife can, but there's still this tough period to wait out that concerns us. Thanks! |
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Hi -- Although I cannot address the issue of what the problem actually is, I can tell you that your baby is NOT lactose intolerant, not if he's still breastfeeding happily. Breastmilk is high in lactose (milk sugar). If there's a cow's milk problem then it's probably an intolerance to milk PROTEIN, not lactose. Lactose is the same across mammalian milks; the proteins, however, are about 15% different from each other across different mammalian milks. Also, the proteins don't change much with cooking, becoming yogurt, etc while the lactose does change with cooking, etc. Of course, the problem could be something completely unrelated. It's hard to tell from the far end of a computer! Good luck, --Beth Kevles http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. NOTE: No email is read at my MIT address. Use the AOL one if you would like me to reply. |
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"strombrg" wrote in message
news I have a 17 month old who has pretty intense crying fits. My wife believes they happen pretty much every night, except some Saturday and Sunday nights it won't happen as much, or won't happen at all. At first we thought they were night terrors, but they don't always happen at night anymore, and they aren't always right after he's woken from a nap either. Night terrors don't happen AFTER a nap. They happen in the first two hours after a person goes to sleep (which is part of what differentiates them from nightmares, which tend to happen later in the night, more towards the morning). Typically, the person does not wake up but cries/screams in their sleep, often sounding like they are scared of something. A night terror is a bad transition between phases of sleep - the person is NOT dreaming of something terrifying like they sometimes show on TV. They can start any time after around 6 months of age. He's in daycare M-F during the day. We're pretty happy with his daycare, but we're starting to think he may be lactose intolerant, and his daycare likes to feed him dairy yogurt. But that's (probably?) another story. I'm no doctor and haven't seen your child or observed what he does and when so get him allergy tested if you are worried. Does he pass lots of gas? Are his stools loose and/or frothy? Does his tummy (particualrly below the belly button) look bloated? Is he curling up in a foetal position like he's in abdominal pain? When he gets going on his crying, he'll cry so hard he chokes too hard to cry, arch his back, make himself hard to hold onto, wriggle onto the floor, even beat his head on the floor. Ummm... Kind of sounds like a tantrum... For a while when he gets like this, he won't breast feed, but usually the cycle is broken eventually when he finally breast feeds. The crying spells usually last 5 to 10 minutes. Have any other parents experienced anything like this? My DS had night terrors from 6 months old. He was definitely asleep when the crying and screaming started and he typically stayed still and did not wiggle but kind of pressed into us, looking for comfort. In fact, he remained asleep throughout the whole episode unless we woke him because we thought the situation warranted it. Soothing him and sometimes waking him were all we could do. I am allergic to milk proteins and DD seems to be as well (she gets VERY gassy when I eat dairy). So I stopped eating dairy. If you think that your son is lactose intolerant then tell the daycare to stop feeding him yoghurt. You're the parents. If you think your child is allergic to something, then act on it. Don't just stand around and say "they" gave it to him. You have control over this - tell them to stop doing it and see if it helps. Also, your wife will need to stop dairy for a couple of weeks and see if the combination of no dairy for her and for him makes a difference. It's kind of scary when it happens. We're pretty much trying to stay calm ourselves and say soothing things, and hold him when he'll let us and breast feed him when my wife can, but there's still this tough period to wait out that concerns us. I'm no expert but I'm tending towards thinking that you're looking at some form of separation anxiety here. The crying fits sound kind of like a tantrum and they typically happen on nights (days?) when your son is left in daycare but miraculously almost stop on the weekend when he's home with you. Sounds like he's scared of being left somewhere without you. He probably wakes after a 45 minute sleep cycle and starts crying because he's alone in bed. He's looking for attention and you're giving it to him. And he's letting you know he's not happy. But I'm not there and your description is scant on details of when these crying fits actually happen, why you think it's lactose intolerance, etc. Hard to tell exactly what it is that your son is going through, but I'd have a good think about trying to ease separation anxiety rather than jumping to conclusions about food intolerances. Sounds like you're trying to pin this on something you can control (a food intolerance) and you have ignored the possibility that the problem may be psychological (fear of being left behind/alone by the parents) and not physical. Engram |
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"strombrg" wrote in message news I have a 17 month old who has pretty intense crying fits. My wife believes they happen pretty much every night, except some Saturday and Sunday nights it won't happen as much, or won't happen at all. At first we thought they were night terrors, but they don't always happen at night anymore, and they aren't always right after he's woken from a nap either. He's in daycare M-F during the day. We're pretty happy with his daycare, but we're starting to think he may be lactose intolerant, and his daycare likes to feed him dairy yogurt. But that's (probably?) another story. When he gets going on his crying, he'll cry so hard he chokes too hard to cry, arch his back, make himself hard to hold onto, wriggle onto the floor, even beat his head on the floor. For a while when he gets like this, he won't breast feed, but usually the cycle is broken eventually when he finally breast feeds. The crying spells usually last 5 to 10 minutes. Have any other parents experienced anything like this? It's kind of scary when it happens. We're pretty much trying to stay calm ourselves and say soothing things, and hold him when he'll let us and breast feed him when my wife can, but there's still this tough period to wait out that concerns us. Thanks! I can't help but wonder if these are his way of saying, "Please don't wake me up." The question that comes to mind is why are these happening on weekdays, but not weekends? Something is different. I doubt that it is the milk. However, you can tell your daycare not to give him milk for a week or two. See what happens. Also, ask them to keep a diary of what he is eating for a while. Does he have any digestive systems, like stuff coming out strangely, from the top or bottom? Lots of gas? Jeff |
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I twould have to agree with others when they say it sounds like a
tantrum. At that age they are trying to learn how to control all their emotions and feelings. Crying is one way and you guys are teaching him that by throwing these fits he gets attention from two of you at the same time, and then nursing as well. I, personally, would move him to his bed or crib when one of these starts and I would tell him to come out when he's happy, or go in to get him when he's happier. This isn't for everybody, but it's how I deal with my 3 year old's temper tantrums. He could also be cutting some jaw teeth, which is apparently pretty painful. Teething pain often accounts for otherwise unexplained crying. Best of luck, KR strombrg wrote: I have a 17 month old who has pretty intense crying fits. My wife believes they happen pretty much every night, except some Saturday and Sunday nights it won't happen as much, or won't happen at all. At first we thought they were night terrors, but they don't always happen at night anymore, and they aren't always right after he's woken from a nap either. He's in daycare M-F during the day. We're pretty happy with his daycare, but we're starting to think he may be lactose intolerant, and his daycare likes to feed him dairy yogurt. But that's (probably?) another story. When he gets going on his crying, he'll cry so hard he chokes too hard to cry, arch his back, make himself hard to hold onto, wriggle onto the floor, even beat his head on the floor. For a while when he gets like this, he won't breast feed, but usually the cycle is broken eventually when he finally breast feeds. The crying spells usually last 5 to 10 minutes. Have any other parents experienced anything like this? It's kind of scary when it happens. We're pretty much trying to stay calm ourselves and say soothing things, and hold him when he'll let us and breast feed him when my wife can, but there's still this tough period to wait out that concerns us. Thanks! |
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