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Choice for Men FAQ
Q: What is "Choice for Men"? A: Choice for Men is a proposal to improve the law so it protects men's right to plan their families. Q: Would Choice for Men force women to have abortions? A: No. Q: What exactly is Choice for Men? A: Choice for Men would give men a recourse, remedy or relief from being tricked or trapped into parenthood, perhaps by allowing them to relinquish their parental rights and responsibilities, like in an adoption, via financial compensation or by forcing an actual adoption. Some proposals would limit the time during which the choice can be made, make the choice irrevocable, only apply when men are lied to about birth control or when boys are statutorially raped. One proposal even allows women to relinquish their parental rights and responsibilities. Choice for Men isn't a medical procedure. Q: How many men are tricked or trapped into parenthood? A: No one knows the exact number, but we can estimate from the following statistics: * Preliminary data indicates that 33% of U.S. births may be unintended according to fathers[0]. * Paternities are established in U.S. courts at the rate of one or two per minute. Q: Isn't Choice for Men simply a way for men to get out of paying child support? A: No, it's more. Choice for Men is about fairness and family planning. Q: Can't men avoid paying child support by just using condoms? A: Proponents of legalizing choice for men generally support contraception, but keep in mind that condoms are unreliable. They have a 16% annual failure rate [1]. After just four years you can bet on having an accidental pregnancy and after 20 years of using condoms, the chances are that a man will most likely experience not one, not two, but three accidental pregnancies! Q: Can't men avoid paying child support by not consenting to sex? A: Many people are surprised to learn that men can't legally avoid parenthood by not consenting to sex. It's true! Here's a quote from a court case in Kansas: "The issue of consent to sexual activity under the criminal statutes is irrelevant in a civil action to determine paternity and for support of a minor child born of such activity." [3] Similar cases have happened in other states. Q: Aren't all children entitled to support from both parents? A: No. A common exception is single parent adoptions, which are fully legal and looked upon favorably by the various social service agencies. Q: Wouldn't Choice for Men impoverish children? A: It's not yet clear whether legalizing choice for men would affect how many fathers choose to be absent. The simple reason is that the current paternity laws reward women with child support for forcing men into fatherhood and may well result in more absent fathers. Even if legalizing choice for men did result in more single parent families, adoption and sperm donorship are already legal for single parents and looked upon favorably by various social service agencies. One can also show that the economic benefits of a second parent's income don't rise to the level of a "compelling state interest" which justifies the state forcing men into legal parenthood. [4] Q: Where can I find out more about Choice for Men? A: 1. Email list servers dedicated to legalizing Choice for Men (www.choiceformen.com/list_servers.html) 2. www.choiceformen.com 3. National Center for Men. Call (503) 224-9477 4. Men's Rights Inc. Call (916) 484-7333 References 0 - Abma, Joyce and Linda Piccinino, 1994 "Unintended Births: Women's Attitudes vis-a-vis their Male Partners' Attitudes: 1982-1990", paper presented at the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association, August 3, 1994, Los Angeles, CA. NCHS, 6525 Belcrest Road, Hyattsville, MD 20782, (301) 436-8731 1 - Facts in Brief, Contraceptive Use, Alan Guttmacher Institute, New York City, New York, (212) 248-1111. 2 - Griswold v. Connecticut 381 U.S. 479 (1965) 3 - State of Kansas, ex rel., Colleen Hermesmann, Appellee, v. Shane Seyer, a minor, and Dan and Mary Seyer, his parents, Appellants. No. 67,978. Supreme Court of Kansas. March 5, 1993. 4 - See generally Goldberg v. Kelly, 397 U.S. 254, 265-6, 90 S.Ct. 1011, 1019, 25 L.Ed.2d 287, 1970. |
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I agree with the idea in principle... However the praticle aplications
of this idea are far different.. as there is a nuetral 3rd party that has come into play... the Child. You can say all the legal arguments you want here... and Yes Accidents happen.. I am a classic Example of this.. However it's not my Sons Fault that he was created.. so I will live up to my Obligations as a parent.. I do agree with the idea that Men should have more control over their lives... and the idea of men having Unconsenting Sex is hard to phathom for most people.. as if the guy didn't really want to have Sex the physical aspects would not be able to happen in order to deposit the sperm into the Women... The argument of Oops.. I tripped on a Log.. and presto I ended up having Sex.. doesn't seem to fly to well.. Law of Nature pretty much dictates 99% of the time that in order for a Man to have Sex.. and release Sperm into a women... they have to first be erect. I do agree full hearted with the idea for the most part Fathers get pushed through the Coals.. but maybe we as men should simply use the same term as they use for Drugs.. Just Say No... If you Don't have Sex. I'm willing to bet you don't get a girl Pregnant... Pretty simply logic to me... and guess what the entire problem with having to deal with a child goes away... end of Story... I may sound a little Simple.. but the Argument you in all your Legal Mumble Jumble essentially is trying to say that Men need to have Sex... And therefore we shouldn't be held accountable to our actions. The same argument can be held that if I drink and drive.. and end up killing somone... well it's not totally my fault... the Alchol impaired my judgment... and then that Pesky Meridian on the road failed to stop me as I drove over it... And well it's not my fault that the person died as a result. SpiderHam77 |
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SpiderHam77 wrote:
The same argument can be held that if I drink and drive.. and end up killing somone... well it's not totally my fault... the Alchol impaired my judgment... and then that Pesky Meridian on the road failed to stop me as I drove over it... And well it's not my fault that the person died as a result. ...................yes, and what's the point? |
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What the original poster was referring to vis a vis males "consenting to
sex" is a case in Kansas where a woman over 18 commited a statutory rape on a boy of 12 or 13. The woman was convicted and sent to prison. The boy, at the age of 14, was brought to court for child support. That is when the judge, in his infinite wisdom, said: "The issue of consent to sexual activity under the criminal statutes is irrelevant in a civil action to determine paternity and for support of a minor child born of such activity." Does that put things in a new light for you? "SpiderHam77" wrote in message oups.com... I agree with the idea in principle... However the praticle aplications of this idea are far different.. as there is a nuetral 3rd party that has come into play... the Child. You can say all the legal arguments you want here... and Yes Accidents happen.. I am a classic Example of this.. However it's not my Sons Fault that he was created.. so I will live up to my Obligations as a parent.. I do agree with the idea that Men should have more control over their lives... and the idea of men having Unconsenting Sex is hard to phathom for most people.. as if the guy didn't really want to have Sex the physical aspects would not be able to happen in order to deposit the sperm into the Women... The argument of Oops.. I tripped on a Log.. and presto I ended up having Sex.. doesn't seem to fly to well.. Law of Nature pretty much dictates 99% of the time that in order for a Man to have Sex.. and release Sperm into a women... they have to first be erect. I do agree full hearted with the idea for the most part Fathers get pushed through the Coals.. but maybe we as men should simply use the same term as they use for Drugs.. Just Say No... If you Don't have Sex. I'm willing to bet you don't get a girl Pregnant... Pretty simply logic to me... and guess what the entire problem with having to deal with a child goes away... end of Story... I may sound a little Simple.. but the Argument you in all your Legal Mumble Jumble essentially is trying to say that Men need to have Sex... And therefore we shouldn't be held accountable to our actions. The same argument can be held that if I drink and drive.. and end up killing somone... well it's not totally my fault... the Alchol impaired my judgment... and then that Pesky Meridian on the road failed to stop me as I drove over it... And well it's not my fault that the person died as a result. SpiderHam77 |
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Well that clarifies the whole Consensual Sex.. Cause as a Guy.. I
remember being a teenager.. and well not wanting to have Sex is sorta out of the Picture... But that still does not apply to the Vast Majority of cases out there. I don't see alot of Cases of Statutory Rape Cases out there involving Boys.. I'm sure they Exsist... but not enough to really consider this a Normal Occurance in society to really use it as an Argument. To me.. and maybe this is the Dumbness in me coming out here.. but I tend to follow Logic... And well the idea of a Normal Grown Man. Someone 18 or above.. let me clarify that. Not being able to turn to a Woman and say.. No I don't want to have Sex with you. Just doesn't fly. Well I know me.. and if I don't want to have Sex with someone, I aint gettin Hard, nor producing the Sperm in which to ejuclate even. Sorry if thats a little to Crude.. but to me it's Simple Logic. I still can't see how an Adult Male, unless under somekind of Mind Altering Drug, or Brain Washed to an Extreme point cannot turn to a Woman and Say Back off and find some other guy to Jiggy With it. Or whatever Venecular you wish to put in there.. SpiderHam77 |
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SpiderHam77 wrote:
The same argument can be held that if I drink and drive.. and end up killing somone... well it's not totally my fault... the Alchol impaired my judgment... and then that Pesky Meridian on the road failed to stop me as I drove over it... And well it's not my fault that the person died as a result. ...................yes, and what's the point? The Point... Well I thought that would be Simple. You cannot use your own Stupidiy as a Defence. If you don't understand that having Sex will eventually create Children, then either you need to re-attend Highschool and take Bio again, or read Closely. IF YOU HAVE SEX BE PREPARED THAT A CHILD MAY BE CREADTED AS A RESULT. Hope that clarifies a bit. |
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I too like to think that I am a logical thinker, that is why I find it
illogical in the extreme to make the victim of a crime the further victim of a civil action. Had the rapist been a robber, the boy would have had his property or money returned, and the story would end there. In the illogical world of child support, even men that are demonstrably NOT the father of a particular child are forced to pay child support. It seems to me that part of the problem is the verbiage used to frame the discussion; men "get" girls pregnant. That implies that it's the fault of the man, that somehow the female responsibility in the equation is nil. This story perfectly illustrates, to me at least, how lopsided the system is: Gerardo Flores, 19, was convicted of murder in June in Lufkin, Texas, in the death of the 5-month-old fetus of his girlfriend, Erica Basoria. Flores admitted that he had stood on Basoria's stomach several times at her request to induce a miscarriage, but Basoria had told authorities that she had also punched herself in the stomach several times. Under Texas law, killing a fetus is a capital offense, and so Flores automatically received a life sentence, but Basoria could not be charged because of her constitutional right to abortion. [Washington Post-AP, 6-6-05] Where's the logic in that? The conclusion to be drawn is that WOMEN HAVE CHOICES, MEN HAVE RESPONSIBILITIES. "SpiderHam77" wrote in message oups.com... Well that clarifies the whole Consensual Sex.. Cause as a Guy.. I remember being a teenager.. and well not wanting to have Sex is sorta out of the Picture... But that still does not apply to the Vast Majority of cases out there. I don't see alot of Cases of Statutory Rape Cases out there involving Boys.. I'm sure they Exsist... but not enough to really consider this a Normal Occurance in society to really use it as an Argument. To me.. and maybe this is the Dumbness in me coming out here.. but I tend to follow Logic... And well the idea of a Normal Grown Man. Someone 18 or above.. let me clarify that. Not being able to turn to a Woman and say.. No I don't want to have Sex with you. Just doesn't fly. Well I know me.. and if I don't want to have Sex with someone, I aint gettin Hard, nor producing the Sperm in which to ejuclate even. Sorry if thats a little to Crude.. but to me it's Simple Logic. I still can't see how an Adult Male, unless under somekind of Mind Altering Drug, or Brain Washed to an Extreme point cannot turn to a Woman and Say Back off and find some other guy to Jiggy With it. Or whatever Venecular you wish to put in there.. SpiderHam77 |
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This story perfectly illustrates, to me at least, how lopsided the
system is: Gerardo Flores, 19, was convicted of murder in June in Lufkin, Texas, in the death of the 5-month-old fetus of his girlfriend, Erica Basoria. Flores admitted that he had stood on Basoria's stomach several times at her request to induce a miscarriage, but Basoria had told authorities that she had also punched herself in the stomach several times. Under Texas law, killing a fetus is a capital offense, and so Flores automatically received a life sentence, but Basoria could not be charged because of her constitutional right to abortion. [Washington Post-AP, 6-6-05] I don't know the case off hand... But I'll take your word on it... However again your spouting off single instances... Not the Norm. And even if the girl did jump on her to create a Miscarriage, he has commited a Crime Against the State not the Woman. When you commit a crime, you are technaclly commiting it against the People of the State, not the Person. The person is considered the Victim of the Crime. But the Crime is still the act. What I'm trying to get at is that in this Case if the Guy did not know State law, it does not excuse him from the Crime. Ignorance is not a Defence. Now your Second point of the the Woman having choices... and Men have Responsibilities. In a way I agree your right. But you seem to be missing the point to all of this. If you are not ready to consider Fathering a Child.. then you as a Man have Choice ahead of time not to have Sex. No one is forcing you to take off your Clothes.. insert your Penis into a Woman, and ejaculate... And I'd hate to break it to you... But Yes Men do get Women Pregnant. Unless a woman walks into Sperm Bank, she pretty needs to do it the old fashion way. And that would involve a Man. I'm really having trouble following your Line of argument on this one. You are essentially saying that I as a Man have very Little Control over my own Bodly Functions. And that Infact need the help of a woman to ensure she does not become Pregnant. Now with the little Argument about Child Support.. I'm not quite clear on how you mean NOT the Father... Are you talking about the Bio Dad, or say a Step Father.... Now I agree with the idea that of a Second man who becomes involved in a childs life should be held responsible for Child Support is a little Sketchy... but in the Same breath if the man has taken the time to create Home for the child, and then removes himself from it, the new needs of that child must now be maintained. One of the keys things I seem to missing from your arguments here is the right of the Child. |
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"SpiderHam77" wrote in message ups.com... This story perfectly illustrates, to me at least, how lopsided the system is: Gerardo Flores, 19, was convicted of murder in June in Lufkin, Texas, in the death of the 5-month-old fetus of his girlfriend, Erica Basoria. Flores admitted that he had stood on Basoria's stomach several times at her request to induce a miscarriage, but Basoria had told authorities that she had also punched herself in the stomach several times. Under Texas law, killing a fetus is a capital offense, and so Flores automatically received a life sentence, but Basoria could not be charged because of her constitutional right to abortion. [Washington Post-AP, 6-6-05] I don't know the case off hand... But I'll take your word on it... However again your spouting off single instances... Not the Norm. And even if the girl did jump on her to create a Miscarriage, he has commited a Crime Against the State not the Woman. When you commit a crime, you are technaclly commiting it against the People of the State, not the Person. The person is considered the Victim of the Crime. But the Crime is still the act. What I'm trying to get at is that in this Case if the Guy did not know State law, it does not excuse him from the Crime. Ignorance is not a Defence. Now your Second point of the the Woman having choices... and Men have Responsibilities. In a way I agree your right. But you seem to be missing the point to all of this. If you are not ready to consider Fathering a Child.. then you as a Man have Choice ahead of time not to have Sex. No one is forcing you to take off your Clothes.. insert your Penis into a Woman, and ejaculate... And I'd hate to break it to you... But Yes Men do get Women Pregnant. Unless a woman walks into Sperm Bank, she pretty needs to do it the old fashion way. And that would involve a Man. I'm really having trouble following your Line of argument on this one. You are essentially saying that I as a Man have very Little Control over my own Bodly Functions. And that Infact need the help of a woman to ensure she does not become Pregnant. Now with the little Argument about Child Support.. I'm not quite clear on how you mean NOT the Father... Are you talking about the Bio Dad, or say a Step Father.... Now I agree with the idea that of a Second man who becomes involved in a childs life should be held responsible for Child Support is a little Sketchy... but in the Same breath if the man has taken the time to create Home for the child, and then removes himself from it, the new needs of that child must now be maintained. One of the keys things I seem to missing from your arguments here is the right of the Child. Hmmmmmmmm....rights of a child. What exact rights would those be? I would be interested in your thoughts on this. Do all children have the exact same rights? Are all children equal before the law? Or are some children entitled to more than other children? Which rights are you referring to here? |
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"SpiderHam77" wrote in message ups.com... This story perfectly illustrates, to me at least, how lopsided the system is: Gerardo Flores, 19, was convicted of murder in June in Lufkin, Texas, in the death of the 5-month-old fetus of his girlfriend, Erica Basoria. Flores admitted that he had stood on Basoria's stomach several times at her request to induce a miscarriage, but Basoria had told authorities that she had also punched herself in the stomach several times. Under Texas law, killing a fetus is a capital offense, and so Flores automatically received a life sentence, but Basoria could not be charged because of her constitutional right to abortion. [Washington Post-AP, 6-6-05] I don't know the case off hand... But I'll take your word on it... However again your spouting off single instances... Not the Norm. And even if the girl did jump on her to create a Miscarriage, he has commited a Crime Against the State not the Woman. When you commit a crime, you are technaclly commiting it against the People of the State, not the Person. The person is considered the Victim of the Crime. But the Crime is still the act. What I'm trying to get at is that in this Case if the Guy did not know State law, it does not excuse him from the Crime. Ignorance is not a Defence. Now your Second point of the the Woman having choices... and Men have Responsibilities. In a way I agree your right. But you seem to be missing the point to all of this. If you are not ready to consider Fathering a Child.. then you as a Man have Choice ahead of time not to have Sex. No one is forcing you to take off your Clothes.. insert your Penis into a Woman, and ejaculate... A good argument against abortion on demand. I may come as a surprise but some women even encourage men placing their penis into them yet the onus in your world lies soley with the man as if women are too weak-minded to know how pregnancy occurs, certainly not wise enough to be held responsible for results of the choices they make. And I'd hate to break it to you... But Yes Men do get Women Pregnant. Unless a woman walks into Sperm Bank, she pretty needs to do it the old fashion way. And that would involve a Man. Spoken like a true feminist. Men alone do NOT get women pregnant no matter how much you want to believe otherwise. Women get pregnant by joining men in a sexual relationship. Both create the pregnancy, equally. Men provide sperm, women provide ova. Remove either and no pregnancy occurs. I'm really having trouble following your Line of argument on this one. You are essentially saying that I as a Man have very Little Control over my own Bodly Functions. And that Infact need the help of a woman to ensure she does not become Pregnant. What I see is that you are in favor of holding men alone responsible for the results of a joint action between themselves and another. It would seem logical that the only one of the two who can become pregnant should be the one to insure an unwanted pregnancy does not occur. Now with the little Argument about Child Support.. I'm not quite clear on how you mean NOT the Father... Are you talking about the Bio Dad, or say a Step Father.... I'm sure the meaning of "not the father" means someone who is biologically unrelated to the child. Many men have been forced to support children they had no part in creating and did not adopt. It's called "paternity fraud" and it is a fact. Some of these men have never even met the mother yet are held as responsible for child support to the children of this woman. Now I agree with the idea that of a Second man who becomes involved in a childs life should be held responsible for Child Support is a little Sketchy... but in the Same breath if the man has taken the time to create Home for the child, and then removes himself from it, the new needs of that child must now be maintained. Why? Who maintains the status quo for children in an intact family where a sole earner can no longer provide what once was? Why are children of divorce more worthy than other children? One of the keys things I seem to missing from your arguments here is the right of the Child. What rights do children have? Phil #3 |
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