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On Wed, 8 Sep 2004 20:46:50 +0100, "denanson" Dennis@Large .ie
wrote: OK you two, just out of curiosity. How are you both dealing with the other family relationships. Presumably you two swap Email and chat on the phone but how do the assorted children build up their respective relationships with the other adult and other children? I don't know about anyone else but the 'assorted children' in our situation are my two, who are 19 and 17, and Paul's, who is 11. My 19 year old has a high school diploma, two years of college, a full time job and lives her own life away from home. She says she's happy for us and "it's about time, Mom!" She likes Paul's just fine and thinks he's a good guy, but she's an adult and not overly an issue. She has 3 cats, and I'm allergic to cats, which she well knows, so there's little likelihood of her expecting to move back home. ;-) She's going to Mexico for Christmas with her boyfriend and his family. My 17 year old is graduating at the end of the year and will have her high school diploma by the time Paul & co. arrive. She's eager to move out on her own and get a job for a year before going to college, which has been her agenda since long before all this. I'm not expecting it to change but she knows that she'll have a room with us as long as she wants or needs it. She think's Paul's son is a fabulous kid & is looking forward to spending more time with him. Claims she's keen on a younger kid in the mix. Younger than her, that is. :-) We spent a lot of time together while they were here, of course. In her words, the whole thing is "groovy." I'll leave it to Paul to speak WRT his own, if he chooses to. WRT building relationships, we did a fair whack of that while they were here, and we're meeting for two weeks over Christmas as well. Then when they get here in the summer we'll have all the time in the world to carry on the rest of it. Are they expected to just slot in with your wishes? Such an endearing turn of phrase. Does it seem likely that after all this time of intense microparenting of my injured youngster, including leaving a job I loved and moving thousands of miles to get her needs met, that suddenly her needs are of no consequence? Not trying to throw a dampner here, just curious. Not to worry. It's not likely to be overly affected by anyone's questions, I don't think. :-) Cele |
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