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One More Nail in Spanking's Ugly Coffin
I popped back in to see what's going on these days, and at a risk of being drawn in deeper than I want to be... "Chris" wrote in message ... Politically, spanking remains popular, although its approval rating in public opinion polls (USA) has slipped slowly but inexorably downward in recent years. But scientifically speaking, it is dead in the water. After decades of research, no one has yet demonstrated any evidence of any measurable form of long term benefit from spanking. And even when ideological prospankers in academia perform studies rigorous enough to pass peer review and receive approval for publication, they end up replicating the same evidence of long term negative effects which the other researchers found. There are at least two major problems with this claim. First, from what I've seen, studies seem to invariably have serious problems regarding how they define "spankers" and "non-spankers" (or "spanked" and "unspanked" children). Some studies ask whether parents spanked within a particular amount of time, and therefore can count parents who spank but have not spanked recently as non-spankers. I would contend that many of those mis-counted parrents are among the most effective parents who spank: parents who have made their expectations clear enough and reasonable enough, and done a good enough job persuading their children to live within those expectations, that the children only rarely behave in ways that result in actual spankings. Indeed, the more long-term benefit spanking produces in children's behavior, the smaller the chance that such studies will recognize that the children were ever spanked at all. Under those conditions, the misclassification would certainly make the spanking category look worse than it really is, and would likely make the non-spanking category look better than it really is as well. In other studies, the only non-spankers who are counted are those who achieve good enough results without spanking that they never choose to spank. If parents start off intending never to spank but at some point face problems serious enough that they change their minds and spank even once, they no longer count as non-spankers. That allows the "non-spanking" group to get rid of some percentage of its failures, making the group appear more successful than it would in a study with truly legitimate controls. Imagine if a drug company tested a new medication by looking only at the results the medication produced for a self-selected sample that used the new medication throughout the test period, and if the drug company ignored the results for people who stopped using it because they suffered harmful side effects or did not consider it effective. The FDA would reject the research in a heartbeat, and the drug company could count itself lucky if that was the only bad thing that happened as a result of such negligence and incompetence. Yet you attempt to argue that non-spanking parenting techniques have been "proven" effective on almost exactly the same basis. The second huge problem is that studies tend to do very little to differentiate among parents who spank. An average is just that: an average. It reflects both the best and the worst within a group with a single number, even though the difference between the best and the worst within the group may be enormous. Consider a table with two stacks of money on it. You are told that one stack has a value averaging $10 and the other a value averaging $8. Which stack contains the bills with the highest value? There is no way of knowing that from the averages. The stack with the $10 average might have three $20 bills, six $5 bills, and a $10 bill, or it might be all $10 bills. The stack averaging $8 might include six $10 bills and four $5 bills or it might include a $50 bill, a $10 bill, three $5 bills, and five $1 bills, Just knowing which stack contains a higher average value does not provide an indication of which stack contains the bill or bills with the highest value. Similarly, knowing that non-spankers currently have better average results than spankers says nothing about whether the best parents are spankers or non-spankers. It may just mean that more people use spanking in bad ways than use it in good ways, or that the harm caused when spanking is misused is greater than the benefit produced when it is used properly. Or there may be other differences that correlate with the choice of whether or not to use spanking that are what really accounts for the difference in results. For example, what if parents who spank are a lot less likely to use positive parenting skills, and it is the failure of many spankers to use positive skills, not the fact that they spank, that causes the worse results? (Considering how many of the strongest opponents of spanking put a strong emphasis on positive techniques, and how many advocates of spanking promote a much more confrontational view of parenting, such a correlation could reasonably be expected. Yet have any studies ever made more than a superficial effort to control for that possibility?) One thing we do know beyond a shadow of a doubt is that not all spankers are created equal. In Straus and Mouradian's 1998 study, one factor alone - whether or not mothers ever spanked as a result of having "lost it" - accounted for a difference in whether mothers who spanked had roughly equal results to the results of non-spankers (in the case those who never spanked as a result of having "lost it") or dramatically worse results (in the case of those who sometimes, and especially those who frequently, spanked as a result of having "lost it"). Not only does that study call into serious question the results of every study that has not controlled for the "lost it" factor, but it emphesizes the question of what other differences between parents who use spanking relatively effectively and those who use it relatively ineffectively have gone unnoticed amidst the averages. It really should come as no surprise that hitting and hurting children has numerous long term negative effects. After all, would anyone be surprised to learn that adults living with 15 foot tall people who hit them experienced negative psychological sequelae as a result? Why should it be any different for little children in a comparable situation? In my view, there are more than a few adults who could benefit from having a 15-foot giant who spanks them if they engage in behaviors that are dangerous or destructive to themselves or others. Such situations would be far from perfect, especially considering that adults are supposed to be mature and responsible enough not to need others to look after them. But I think there are times when that would be less imperfect than allowing adults to destroy their own lives through bad choices. Of course for that to work properly, the 15-foot giants would have to be mature, responsible, and fair, and would have to have the best interest of the people they are in charge of at heart. If, instead, the 15-foot giants would be selfish and immature, more likely to spank because a person got in their way or irritated them at the wrong time than because the behavior they are trying to correct is genuinely harmful or dangerous, then the odds of good long-term results would be much lower. The biggest single problem with spanking studies, in my view, is that they do not make anything resembling an adequate effort to distinguish between the different types of "giants" that might be doing the spanking. When good "giants" who use spanking in a relatively fair and effective way are lumped together with selfish "giants" who use it in ways that are far less fair and effective, the overall results will inevitably be far worse than the results for the "giants" who are making thoughtful, deliberate choices iwith their charges' best interest at heart. In this context, "drawing the line" is less important than demonstrating a dose/response effect: the more frequent the hitting and the more severe the hitting, the greater the likelihood of measurable long term negative effects. According to Straus and Mouradian, that dose-response pattern does not hold for parents (specifically, they were studying mothers) who never spank as a result of having "lost it." What emerges from the research is a picture similar to health effects of low level radiation. There is no "safe level" of disciplinary hitting and pain infliction on children. More precisely, again clarifying based on Straus and Mouradian's work, there is no 100% completely safe level of losing one's temper and hitting children as a result of doing so. Suppose a police officer went around and locking people up any time he was angry with them. Would the fact that he is a police officer make his actions in locking them up a case of administering law and justice? Or would the officer merely be misusing his position of authority as an excuse to engage in behavior that would be clearly illegal in other contexts? Following that analogy, when parents spank as a deliberately thought-out choice of how to punish a child for breaking a rule, the parents are acting in a position of authority administering justice. Straus and Mouradian's study failed to find statistically significant evidence of harm among the mothers who spanked MOST as long as those circumstances held. If, on the other hand, parents spank out of anger without carefully considering whether the child's behavior objectively warrants punishment or whether spanking is an appropriate form for the punishment to use, what they are doing has about as much in common with the legitimate use of spanking for discipline as a police officer's locking someone up just because he is angry at the person has to do with legitimate police functions. Which is, very little. Even if it turns out that the person committed a crime, the officer's behavior still has the appearance of being unfair and arbitrary. Straus and Mouradian's study seems to imply that essentially all of the harm attributed to spanking is associated with parents who at least sometimes use spanking in that type of manner, and especially with those who frequently do so. Unfortunately, few if any other studies distingush between those two cases. As a result, as long as parents hit the "right" part of their children's anatomy, parents who lose their temper and hit their children are lumped together with those who spank only as a carefully considered choice. Worse, some studies (at least mostly older ones, from what I've seen) didn't even confine the category of parents who spank to those who only hit the "right" part of their chldren's anatomy. In those studies, parents who sometimes punched their children, burned them with cigarettes, and did other things that indisputably qualify as child abuse were also included as spankers. Children want their relationships with the significant adults in their lives to be harmonious. Spanking may give an adult more power, but in the process it sacrifices influence. Adults in affectionate nonpunitive relationships with children may have less coercive power than spankers do, but they can have a great deal more influence on the child. First of all, this argument is not unique to spanking. It could be applied essentially equally to any form of punishment, including punishment applied in the guise of "natural consequences" that the child is smart enough recognize really come from the parents, not from nature. And second, while there are certainly a great many situations where the use of punishment (and, more often, the threat thereof) can weaken parents' influence, there are also times when it can strengthen that influence. Without the possibility of punishment, children are free to let what their parents say go in one ear and out the other if they wish to do so. The threat of punishment, however, can send two important messages. One message is, "This is something I view as so important that I won't let you do what I believe is wrong." The other is more implicit, "You might want to consider why I think this issue is so serious that I'm willing to punish you if you disobey." It is hard to imagine what parents who refuse to punish no matter what the circumstances could do to send a message with equal weight if a child is inclined not to listen. Of course if parents threaten and punish all the time, those messages can get old to a point where they are generally ignored. Worse, if children view their parents' use of threats and punishment as unfair, arbitarary, or hypocritical, the implicit messages can even come across as false. But if parents don't threaten or punish over every little thing, the times when they do consider something important enough to threaten or punish can be a pretty significant attention-getter when a child would otherwise not be inclined to pay attention. The most effective rules are the ones which parents and children create together in a mutually respectful way, so that everybody wins, rather than rules handed down from above accompanied by threats of punishment for breaking them. And how effective are such rules if children are free to deliberately ignore them without any serious consequence for doing so? What good is an agreement if the agreement is not binding? I agree that when parents and children can work together to find to a solution that is acceptable to both, that is vastly preferable to a "solution" imposed unilaterally by the parents. (Indeed, I think one reason why spankers don't look better in studies is that too many of them get so focused on spanking and on controlling their children's behavior that they miss opportunities to find genuine win-win solutions.) And in a perfect world, parents and children could always find solutions they can agree on, and find them in the amount of time that is available. But in the real world, parents don't always have time for lengthy negotiations. In the real world, children aren't always willing to accept a solution that is also acceptable to their parents - especially if the children know their parents won't unilaterally impose a solution if negotiations fail. And in the real world, the fact that children agree to something is no guarantee that they will actually live up to their end of the agreement. Also, there are some things that I believe must not be considered negotiable. I would not be willing to negotiate with a child over whether he is allowed to steal, or whether she is allowed to vandalize other people's property, or whether he is allowed to bully other children. Because of my own values and principles, I would also not be willing to negotiate whether a child is allowed to tell lies, at least if anything important is at stake. (Of course parents who try to enforce a higher standard of honesty on their children than they are willing to follow themselves would rightly be perceived by their children as hypocrites.) When children fully understand why behaviors are wrong and why the wrongness of those behaviors is not negotiable, yet engage in those behaviors anyhow, parents' only real options are to tolerate the behaviors or to use some kind of punishment. What is your magic solution to solve those types of situations without resorting to punishment? Nathan Straus, M.A. and Mouradian, V.E. 1998. "Impulsive Corporal Punishment by Mothers and Antisocial Behavior and Impulsiveness of Children." _Behavioral Sciences & The Law_ 16(3):353- |
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One More Nail in Spanking's Ugly Coffin
On Sun, 6 Jun 2004 21:20:19 -0700, Doan wrote:
More smoke and mirror! The problem with anti-spanking zealotS is that they forgot that 90%+ of people have experienced spanking. They won't buy into the rhetoric if it don't jive with reality! Gee, if 90% of the people had been hit over the head and robbed would that be how we discipline chldren. That WOULD jibe ("jive" is something YOU do here all the time) "with reality!" The question remained, No it doesn't. You've been answered time and again on this with valid research, one of which you seem to be hiding from the group. Many of us have it, if you have the same one I have. We are laughing at your many years of nonsense...and avoidance this same old question shows. are the non-cp alternatives any better under the same statistical analogy. Straus & Mouradian (1998) showed us that: I'm sorry. You seem to have claimed S & M no longer are valid to prove, by statistics, that non-CP produces less anti social behavior. If you refuse this, then we have no obligation to use the same model, though perfectly sound models have been used. And the, of course is "Yep" to the "any better" part of your question. Non-cp alternatives, especially as parents move further and further away from punishement of any kind (not the the S & M study actually USED punishment...which to me negated the study long ago...you don't see me quoting it as support, do you?) Much better first because non-cp can be no worse. Next because there is no risk. And last because millions of parents have put non-cp to the test and found it produces more cooperative, self motivated, less angry children with higher self esteem and better able to concentrate, learn, and best of all, the relationship with the parent is richer and more satisfying for both. And there is just one more little side effect that some of us value. We do NOT have to be bullies to our children. 1) Talking to the child calmly Only ONE non-punishment tactic out of four. I do wish I could have been a partner on developing the model. The problem with any punishment model is that there are many degress of punishment for each tactic. One can non-cp punishmildly, or harshly. A Non-punishment is very easy for a parent using it to recognize if it escalates into anything but non-punishing. Often the parent learns very quickly to control the way in which they make a request, ask questions, explain and can spot when their child is feeling punished. A spanking parent can hardly modulate in such a manner....the striking hand has already hit. And we know what escalating so often turns into over time. 2) Sent the child to the room 3) Time-out 4) Removal of privileges All very likely to create harm to the child, and to the relationship. In every case, if a child seems to need punishment, it's likely the parents doesn't know what is going on, and a stop to check is called for. All of these together "was found to have a much stronger relation than any of the other variables." We, it was a punishment model. You've been told time and again, even by those that support very mild punishments that even they fall behind the totally NON-punishment tactics. Straus, Murray A. & Vera E. Mouradian. 1998 "Impulsive Corporal Punishment by Mothers and Antisocial Behavior and Impulsiveness of children." Behavioral Sciences and the Law. 16: 353-374. You yourself do not accept the study, so why would you keep posting it to make a claim? A study that uses for it's behavioral interventions three punishments to only ONE non-punishing intervention proves that punishment doesn't work. I've proven to myself, as have others. When a parent makes up their own mind about how to discipline it is all to easy, if they've been battered around, and that "jives" with their experience, they are likely to batter around the child. What you suggest is that what ever was done to the parent can now be done to the child. That is about as immoral as one can get in this world. Especially if you 90% claim is true. Frankly It's self survey, so it's trash. A public opinion poll depend far more, for outcome, on the questions and pollster's delivery. I've never seen a single study that supports by science any such number. A sweet little old lady, nodding and smilling will get one answer, a biker size and visaged man will get another. Your are a fraud and sham, Droany, and it looks like your spanking took. Doan Now tell me again I was never spanked. R R R R R Watch him spin in circles folks. Kane On 6 Jun 2004, Chris wrote: Ivan Gowch wrote: : Health India: Spanking kids has adverse effect on their : academic performance : WELLINGTON, June 2(ANI) - The Otago University's Children's : Issues Centre has revealed that physical punishment of : children is associated with anti-social behaviour and poorer : performance at school. : According to the New Zealand Herald, the center was : commissioned by the Office of the Children's Commissioner to : survey over 300 international research articles. : "The literature is quite consistent in supporting the conclusion : that there is an association between the use of parental corporal : punishment and the development of anti-social behaviour in : children," lead researcher Professor Anne Smith was quoted as : saying. Politically, spanking remains popular, although its approval rating in public opinion polls (USA) has slipped slowly but inexorably downward in recent years. But scientifically speaking, it is dead in the water. After decades of research, no one has yet demonstrated any evidence of any measurable form of long term benefit from spanking. And even when ideological prospankers in academia perform studies rigorous enough to pass peer review and receive approval for publication, they end up replicating the same evidence of long term negative effects which the other researchers found. : Effects of smacking included: : - aggression, disruptive, delinquent and anti-social behaviour, : violent offending, and low peer status; : - poorer academic achievement including lower IQ, poorer : performance on achievement tests, poorer adjustment to school, : more attention deficit-like symptoms, and poorer self-esteem; : - diminished quality of parent-child relationships, with children : likely to be less securely attached to parents, and to feel : fearful or hostile towards them; : - increased depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, and : psychiatric disorders. It really should come as no surprise that hitting and hurting children has numerous long term negative effects. After all, would anyone be surprised to learn that adults living with 15 foot tall people who hit them experienced negative psychological sequelae as a result? Why should it be any different for little children in a comparable situation? : Prof Smith said one of the problems highlighted by the review was : the lack of agreement over when physical punishment stepped over : the line and became abuse. In this context, "drawing the line" is less important than demonstrating a dose/response effect: the more frequent the hitting and the more severe the hitting, the greater the likelihood of measurable long term negative effects. What emerges from the research is a picture similar to health effects of low level radiation. There is no "safe level" of disciplinary hitting and pain infliction on children. : The research also suggested principles of effective discipline : including: : - parental warmth, involvement and affectionate relationships; Children want their relationships with the significant adults in their lives to be harmonious. Spanking may give an adult more power, but in the process it sacrifices influence. Adults in affectionate nonpunitive relationships with children may have less coercive power than spankers do, but they can have a great deal more influence on the child. : - clear communication and messages to children, which are : age-appropriate, about why their behaviour is acceptable or : not; : - providing fair, reasonable and clearly defined rules, : boundaries and expectations for behaviour; The most effective rules are the ones which parents and children create together in a mutually respectful way, so that everybody wins, rather than rules handed down from above accompanied by threats of punishment for breaking them. Chris |
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One More Nail in Spanking's Ugly Coffin
On Sun, 6 Jun 2004 21:27:34 -0700, Doan wrote:
LOL! Singapore have a youth crime problem? Give us the rate and compare that to Sweden, shall we? Already did, weeks ago. So you are prepared to prove that not spanking creates youth crime, and spanking does't? That is the real question. I pointed out also that the population in Sweden that is now "youth" and young adult are from before the spanking ban and the early years, when the non-criminally...no penalty law went into effect. Singapore has been spanking for many decades now, with canning of youth a major "deterent." If you can defend it, be assured we'll read your posts. Basily you come here to play and pretend. You haven't presented a new argument, out of all those you have been defeated at for years now. Any newbie, not clever enough to google your archives, might assume this is all new. The only new things you've gotten involved in is when you weren't remembering to cover your ass and picked up a challenge. The Question would be one, as is Embry...and you, stupid little boy, threw that out as a red herring to escape the inevitability of the The Question...that you cannot answer it and defend your "let them make up your own mind" statement. It's amazing how spanking disrupts the moral development of children, and the many ways it surfaces in the youth. Your games are typical. Doan Yes, you are. Kane On 6 Jun 2004, Kane wrote: On Fri, 4 Jun 2004 20:26:02 -0700, Doan wrote: So what do Swedish parents do instead of spanking, Ivan? What do Singaporians use do with their population of youth once their spanking hasn't worked? They seem to have a youth crime problem that spanking and the threat having helped. Any thoughts? BTW, Chris beat you to it. You are a few days late! ;-) Irrelevant. Sweden isn't mentioned in the article. If you wish to discuss sweden why not refer to the many posts on this subject that explain all your garbage away quite nicely? You bring up argument you've been defeated in before. That's not debate...that's harrassment. Let's take a look at the article and discuss it's points, or don't you have the guts to actually discuss the subject brought up? Kind'a bring up old childhood memories? Doan On 4 Jun 2004, Ivan Gowch wrote: Health India: Spanking kids has adverse effect on their academic performance WELLINGTON, June 2(ANI) - The Otago University's Children's Issues Centre has revealed that physical punishment of children is associated with anti-social behaviour and poorer performance at school. According to the New Zealand Herald, the center was commissioned by the Office of the Children's Commissioner to survey over 300 international research articles. "The literature is quite consistent in supporting the conclusion that there is an association between the use of parental corporal punishment and the development of anti-social behaviour in children," lead researcher Professor Anne Smith was quoted as saying. Effects of smacking included: - aggression, disruptive, delinquent and anti-social behaviour, violent offending, and low peer status; So what do you thin, Droaner. Are they lying? If these things don't have a direct link to CP of children, what do you think is more likely to be the cause? In other words, instead of your usual garbage empty headed harrassing posts why not actually get into the issues presented? Chicken**** maybe? - poorer academic achievement including lower IQ, poorer performance on achievement tests, poorer adjustment to school, more attention deficit-like symptoms, and poorer self-esteem; If you think these are not a result of the use of CP then defend CP as NOT being connected. What does the use of CP actually produce, Droany, intelligent, self determined, responsible non-violent, socially effective people? If you think so defend how CP accomplishes this. Stop being one of the violence promoting spanked. - diminished quality of parent-child relationships, with children likely to be less securely attached to parents, and to feel fearful or hostile towards them; - increased depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, and psychiatric disorders. Prof Smith said one of the problems highlighted by the review was the lack of agreement over when physical punishment stepped over the line and became abuse. The research also suggested principles of effective discipline including: - parental warmth, involvement and affectionate relationships; - clear communication and messages to children, which are age-appropriate, about why their behaviour is acceptable or not; - providing fair, reasonable and clearly defined rules, boundaries and expectations for behaviour; - consistently following behaviours with appropriate consequences, rewards or mild non-physical punishments such as time-out. Children's Commissioner Cindy Kiro said the research had found that an authoritative and firm parenting style, accompanied by warmth and reasoning was associated with children's healthy social adjustment. "This is important research because it gives parents evidence- based information about the effects of physical punishment, as well as practical alternatives," she said. === Once again -- exactly what we child-friendly folks have been saying here for years. It's amazing, the consistency of results in these studies, which point to the same ill effects, virtually every time, with unerring predictability. It should be noted that this study's conclusions includes what I've been telling people for years: Parents who hit their children never have as close or loving a relationship with their kids as parents who don't. Besides the fact that that being hit is universally perceived by children as evidence that the hitting parent does not love them, each time a child is hit, s/he loves the hitting parent(s) a little less, until any love the child once had for the parent is replaced by fear, defiance and, ultimately, hate. Wise parents know in their hearts that this is true, and so do not inflict on their kids what they would not want inflicted on themselves. It's called the Golden Rule, and is a very good thing to teach your children. But you cannot teach it if you hit them. The only sane conclusion is that hitting one's kids is a really bad idea. For someone that claims to be neutral and simply wishes parents to make their own choices, you seem extraordinarily unmindful of the actual recommended parenting techniques suggested and defensive of the use of CP. Why is that I wonder? Seems these folks get it that CP can't be safely used since we really can't determine where the exact line is between it's non-injurious application and injury to body, mind, and development. Say, have you been working on defining that line for us, as you claimed to know? I'm waiting. The world is waiting. We need this, since it seems compulsives that spank appear not to be stopping. It would be a boon to humankind if we knew how to make spanking actually safe. Thanks for your coming contributions to safe spanking parameters. Sincerely, Kane |
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One More Nail in Spanking's Ugly Coffin
On Sun, 6 Jun 2004 21:33:08 -0700, Doan wrote:
On 6 Jun 2004, Kane wrote: Prof Smith said one of the problems highlighted by the review was the lack of agreement over when physical punishment stepped over the line and became abuse. Apparently we have a human behavior expert of greater knowledge and understanding, than these many researchers, right here on this ng. Experts??? You mean like Dr. Dobson? ;-) I don't believe he's visited here. Are you his sock? Doan has stated he knows where the line is between the two. You are being stupid again! The article said "lack of agreement" not that there is no line. I haven't claimed there is no line? Nor did they. Simply that they don't agree when they have stepped over it....exactly the argument I gave YOU when you tried your silly little schoolboy nonsense with "reasonable standards." What you just saw was that yet another group of people, just as those in the judicial in Canada, cannot determine were the line is by agreement. So this is a moveable line, eh? Using your logic, you don't know where the line is between talking to your kids and verbal abuse neither. So you don't talk to your kids??? :-) It's very easy to determine the line has been passed in verbal abuse, and stop, and little harm is done if stopped. Can you say the same for CP? How many bones or blood vessels does verbal abuse break? We are waiting a long time for his monumental disclosure of this vital information, as in his inimitable fashion, when he has studies and great disclosures to make he seems to become painfully shy. Have you checked Canada lately? Yep. And they too said the same thing. That is why they didn't "say, stop before you cross this line" but set age limits, where the child could be hit, and with what they could be hit. Very obviously having to put in to law so many limits that one following them would have to work much harder to cause damage. A sure sign, when a law limits to much great restraint than needed, that the risk is very high if one exceeds the limit. I note the I can drive, even in rainy weather, with good tires on my SUV, easily and safely10 to 15 mph over the posted speed limit, and 20 over the caution sign mph on curves. But I don't know, and neither do the highway engineers, precisely where my tires with the current wear, with the current load, on a wet road that may have not been rained on for three months, with leaves, might break traction and send me into the ditch, which here is about 150 ft deep. So I simply don't speed no matter what.. Same problem with spanking. With a perfectly healthy child one might hit with x frequency, using h force, and do so little harm as to be untraceable...however, all life, yours and theirs, has curves in it. Wet weather, leaves on the road, nutso drives out there, and high winds. So why "speed" at all? It's rumoured this is the result of his own repressive childhood where he was spanked. No wonder he posts here so compulsively. And you are a "never spanked" boy! An I? We'll never know, will we....R R R R No wonder you spewed "smelly-****" and "public masturbation" so compulsively! Your mom must be proud! ;-) Yah can tell when Droany is cornered. He know he has the choice to both ad hom me back, AND present his argument, but which does he leave out? R R R R R Doan And you are welcome. Always willing to provide a bolt hole to a frightened little weasel. You'll note that when I ad hom back, I always adress your challenges as well. Funny thing about honor. It's not really based on ad hom or obscenities. And you have used "smelly ****" many more times than I have...notice? I think you like the way it rolls off your tongue...R R R R Kane |
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Kane wrote:
: On Sun, 6 Jun 2004 21:27:34 -0700, Doan wrote: : :LOL! Singapore have a youth crime problem? Give us the rate and :compare that to Sweden, shall we? : Already did, weeks ago. This is par for the course with Doan. He will keep making the same "errors" over and over again, with a waiting period in between, so that yet another new crop of transient lurkers will get the impression that he has actual substantive arguments to make. If antispankers respond to him, this creates the illusion of a substantive debate about issues which are actually settled. And if antispankers get fed up with refuting the same thing over and over and ignore him, he grandstands about how he has "silenced" them with his logic. He knows that most of the lurkers weren't present the last 17 times antispankers conclusively debunked that same argument with facts and won't know the difference. : So you are prepared to prove that not spanking creates youth crime, : and spanking does't? : That is the real question. The answer, as always, is "no." Doan can't demonstrate this. No one can. The evidence simply isn't there. [snip] : Any newbie, not clever enough to google your archives, might assume : this is all new. That's it exactly. Chris |
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One More Nail in Spanking's Ugly Coffin
On 7 Jun 2004, Chris wrote:
Kane wrote: : On Sun, 6 Jun 2004 21:27:34 -0700, Doan wrote: : :LOL! Singapore have a youth crime problem? Give us the rate and :compare that to Sweden, shall we? : Already did, weeks ago. This is par for the course with Doan. He will keep making the same "errors" over and over again, with a waiting period in between, so that yet another new crop of transient lurkers will get the impression that he has actual substantive arguments to make. This would be easy to prove. A simple google search would turn up what Kane0 claimed. Come on, Chris! Here your chance to prove how "honest" Kane0 is. I'll give you ten days. If you can't, then I have to conclude that Kane is a liar and you are in cahoot! :-) If antispankers respond to him, this creates the illusion of a substantive debate about issues which are actually settled. And if antispankers get fed up with refuting the same thing over and over and ignore him, he grandstands about how he has "silenced" them with his logic. He knows that most of the lurkers weren't present the last 17 times antispankers conclusively debunked that same argument with facts and won't know the difference. LOL! The issues are settled??? Why the hell did Gershoff and now researchers in New Zealand wasted their time then? : So you are prepared to prove that not spanking creates youth crime, : and spanking does't? : That is the real question. The answer, as always, is "no." Doan can't demonstrate this. No one can. The evidence simply isn't there. Straw man! I have never claimed that spanking/no-spanking have anything to do with crime. You and Kane0, however, have. How about you substantiate your claim that spanking is the cause of crime? [snip] : Any newbie, not clever enough to google your archives, might assume : this is all new. That's it exactly. So go ahead, Chris. Why don't you do a google search for me? You're not clever neither? :-) Doan Chris |
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One More Nail in Spanking's Ugly Coffin
beat there ass as much as you can when they do wrong
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One More Nail in Spanking's Ugly Coffin
On Mon, 7 Jun 2004, Doan wrote:
On 7 Jun 2004, Chris wrote: Kane wrote: : On Sun, 6 Jun 2004 21:27:34 -0700, Doan wrote: : :LOL! Singapore have a youth crime problem? Give us the rate and :compare that to Sweden, shall we? : Already did, weeks ago. This is par for the course with Doan. He will keep making the same "errors" over and over again, with a waiting period in between, so that yet another new crop of transient lurkers will get the impression that he has actual substantive arguments to make. This would be easy to prove. A simple google search would turn up what Kane0 claimed. Come on, Chris! Here your chance to prove how "honest" Kane0 is. I'll give you ten days. If you can't, then I have to conclude that Kane is a liar and you are in cahoot! :-) Time is ticking away. Can Chris really be wrong about the "never-spanked" Kane0 again? :-) Doan |
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Can anyone trust Chris?
On Sat, 12 Jun 2004, Doan wrote: On Mon, 7 Jun 2004, Doan wrote: On 7 Jun 2004, Chris wrote: Kane wrote: : On Sun, 6 Jun 2004 21:27:34 -0700, Doan wrote: : :LOL! Singapore have a youth crime problem? Give us the rate and :compare that to Sweden, shall we? : Already did, weeks ago. This is par for the course with Doan. He will keep making the same "errors" over and over again, with a waiting period in between, so that yet another new crop of transient lurkers will get the impression that he has actual substantive arguments to make. This would be easy to prove. A simple google search would turn up what Kane0 claimed. Come on, Chris! Here your chance to prove how "honest" Kane0 is. I'll give you ten days. If you can't, then I have to conclude that Kane is a liar and you are in cahoot! :-) Time is ticking away. Can Chris really be wrong about the "never-spanked" Kane0 again? :-) Doan Not long ago, Chris Dugan made this charge against me: "Doan is a con man. I know that is a harsh thing to say about someone, and it is not something I would say about the vast majority of people who post as prospankers on these threads. The vast majority of prospankers are honest individuals. Doan is an exception to that rule." No ad-hom there, right? :-) Here is your chance, Chris! Prove to everyone on this newsgroup that I am a "con man". You are good at making accusation but can you back it up? Coward! Doan |
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