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  #81  
Old October 27th 03, 08:36 PM
Taniwha grrrl
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Kimme mik wrote:
Hi all,
Personally, I don't like taking my twins out all too much.

Especially
with all of my other kids. My oldest is 15, then 13, 8,

and the twin
girls. What a specticle we are. People don't know what to

think and
yes, they do ask stupid intrusive questions.


I agree, my 'Are they all your's' 'how do you cope' 'where
do you put them all' 'How many bedrooms do you have' 'Did
you plan such a large family' 'Are you having any more' 'Is
this *it* then' 'Haven't you heard of contraception' 'Don't
you have a T.V' questions FAR outway my twin questions from
people. It's rare we go out all together these day's, I tend
to take them out in smaller groups or individually to avoid
the gogglers and questions.


--
Andrea

If I can't be a good example, then I'll just have to be a
horrible warning.





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Old October 27th 03, 10:51 PM
Seth Jackson
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On 23 Oct 2003 16:05:52 -0700, David desJardins
wrote:

I wonder if there are more twins where I live (Silicon Valley), or the
people are different, or my own reaction is different. I never have had
a big problem with people "bothering" us when we go out. Maybe it's a
combination of all three.


I think my own reaction is different. We used to get a lot of
attention when our twins were babies, but frankly, I enjoyed it most
of the time. The only thing that bothered me were certain
particularly dumb questions like, "Are they identical?", when one is a
boy and one is a girl.
--
-Seth Jackson, proud father of Derek and Mariel(10/1/99). Pictures at:
http://hitmeister.home.mindspring.co...lypictures.htm

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  #83  
Old October 27th 03, 10:51 PM
Seth Jackson
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On 23 Oct 2003 16:05:52 -0700, David desJardins
wrote:

I wonder if there are more twins where I live (Silicon Valley), or the
people are different, or my own reaction is different. I never have had
a big problem with people "bothering" us when we go out. Maybe it's a
combination of all three.


I think my own reaction is different. We used to get a lot of
attention when our twins were babies, but frankly, I enjoyed it most
of the time. The only thing that bothered me were certain
particularly dumb questions like, "Are they identical?", when one is a
boy and one is a girl.
--
-Seth Jackson, proud father of Derek and Mariel(10/1/99). Pictures at:
http://hitmeister.home.mindspring.co...lypictures.htm

Music links: www.mp3.com/SethJackson
www.mp3.com/loudspeaker
www.SethJackson.net
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Old October 28th 03, 12:04 AM
multimom4
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I guess part of the reason I am so open about it is because of the help it
can
bring someone who asks. I once answered the twin question to a woman who

I
sort of knew as an aquaintance and came to find out that she and her DH

were
just about to start fertility treatment, etc. We became good friends and

I was
her "source" of info. throughout. She was very grateful to be able to

talk to
someone who had been through it. I realize that those situations are few

and
far between, but it's just another viewpoint.


I agree, but I don't think such people are so very "few and far between",
though. I have had a *lot* of women approach me say and ask very personal
questions -- and then as we chat, tell me they are undergoing or about to
start treatment, or just lost an IVF pregnancy, or whatever. Since the
questions happen not to bother me, it's nice to be able to offer a few kind
words to a stranger suffering as we used to. Everyone's mileage and
tolerance varies of course -- and the interruptions were less welcome when
they were 3 weeks old than later of course.

--Janet
Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96)
and Holly (4/4/01)


  #85  
Old October 28th 03, 12:04 AM
multimom4
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I guess part of the reason I am so open about it is because of the help it
can
bring someone who asks. I once answered the twin question to a woman who

I
sort of knew as an aquaintance and came to find out that she and her DH

were
just about to start fertility treatment, etc. We became good friends and

I was
her "source" of info. throughout. She was very grateful to be able to

talk to
someone who had been through it. I realize that those situations are few

and
far between, but it's just another viewpoint.


I agree, but I don't think such people are so very "few and far between",
though. I have had a *lot* of women approach me say and ask very personal
questions -- and then as we chat, tell me they are undergoing or about to
start treatment, or just lost an IVF pregnancy, or whatever. Since the
questions happen not to bother me, it's nice to be able to offer a few kind
words to a stranger suffering as we used to. Everyone's mileage and
tolerance varies of course -- and the interruptions were less welcome when
they were 3 weeks old than later of course.

--Janet
Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96)
and Holly (4/4/01)


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Old October 28th 03, 12:04 AM
multimom4
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It may be that as they get bigger people will become less sensitive to the
need to stay back. I know that happened to us. So just be wary as the
winter goes on ... RSV remains a problem for a couple of years --- long
after the babies stop looking so fragile.

--Janet
Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96)
and Holly (4/4/01)

"The Huwe Family" wrote in message
.com...
While I am very afraid of the RSV, I also don't want fear to rule my life.
I don't go out all the time, but staying inside day after day drives me
batty. There have been an occasional person who has stuck out their hands
to touch, but for the majority of people, they seem to know better and
refrain from touching. It's enough for them to look :-). I know in my
daughter's case, she is so tiny that people seem afraid to touch her

because
they think they will hurt her. That's ok in my book. The only place I

have
a problem saying "No" to people is at church, and have been lucky that the
only people who have been able to hold them are the few people that came
with me to the NICU to help take care of them. (I won't put them in the
nursery.)


"KimandJuan" wrote in message
...
The other day my family (DH, Me, 1 month old
triplets, and my mom) and a friend of mines family (Her, husband and 9

month
old twin daughters) went to a restaurant to eat.


WOW, Gayle! You are so brave! I don't think I left the house at least

until
the babies were 3 months old. I was afraid of everyone wanting to touch

them
and getting sick in the fall season. You haven't had a problem with

people
wanting to touch?


~Kimberly
Mommy to Alexis Iliana 07/17/99 and
Emma Elidia & Aislyn Gabriela 10/01/02
come see us...
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aislynemma/





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Old October 28th 03, 12:04 AM
multimom4
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It may be that as they get bigger people will become less sensitive to the
need to stay back. I know that happened to us. So just be wary as the
winter goes on ... RSV remains a problem for a couple of years --- long
after the babies stop looking so fragile.

--Janet
Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96)
and Holly (4/4/01)

"The Huwe Family" wrote in message
.com...
While I am very afraid of the RSV, I also don't want fear to rule my life.
I don't go out all the time, but staying inside day after day drives me
batty. There have been an occasional person who has stuck out their hands
to touch, but for the majority of people, they seem to know better and
refrain from touching. It's enough for them to look :-). I know in my
daughter's case, she is so tiny that people seem afraid to touch her

because
they think they will hurt her. That's ok in my book. The only place I

have
a problem saying "No" to people is at church, and have been lucky that the
only people who have been able to hold them are the few people that came
with me to the NICU to help take care of them. (I won't put them in the
nursery.)


"KimandJuan" wrote in message
...
The other day my family (DH, Me, 1 month old
triplets, and my mom) and a friend of mines family (Her, husband and 9

month
old twin daughters) went to a restaurant to eat.


WOW, Gayle! You are so brave! I don't think I left the house at least

until
the babies were 3 months old. I was afraid of everyone wanting to touch

them
and getting sick in the fall season. You haven't had a problem with

people
wanting to touch?


~Kimberly
Mommy to Alexis Iliana 07/17/99 and
Emma Elidia & Aislyn Gabriela 10/01/02
come see us...
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aislynemma/





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Old November 2nd 03, 05:08 AM
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"Seth Jackson" wrote in message
...
On 23 Oct 2003 16:05:52 -0700, David desJardins
wrote:

I wonder if there are more twins where I live (Silicon Valley), or the
people are different, or my own reaction is different. I never have had
a big problem with people "bothering" us when we go out. Maybe it's a
combination of all three.


I think my own reaction is different. We used to get a lot of
attention when our twins were babies, but frankly, I enjoyed it most
of the time. The only thing that bothered me were certain
particularly dumb questions like, "Are they identical?", when one is a
boy and one is a girl.


People can be very ignorant with these questions, can't they? Once, a woman
who claimed to have b/g twins actually told me her twins were identical!
And, although my girls are fraternal, I get a lot of people that ask me
which side of the family twins come from. When I tell them that it had to
be from mine since my girls are fraternal, I get usually get a lot of
puzzled looks. But, it usually doesn't bother me and I often enjoy bragging
on my girls unless I'm in a hurry. )

Tori
Mommy to
Lauren & Madison
4/4/01


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Old November 2nd 03, 05:08 AM
telmgren
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"Seth Jackson" wrote in message
...
On 23 Oct 2003 16:05:52 -0700, David desJardins
wrote:

I wonder if there are more twins where I live (Silicon Valley), or the
people are different, or my own reaction is different. I never have had
a big problem with people "bothering" us when we go out. Maybe it's a
combination of all three.


I think my own reaction is different. We used to get a lot of
attention when our twins were babies, but frankly, I enjoyed it most
of the time. The only thing that bothered me were certain
particularly dumb questions like, "Are they identical?", when one is a
boy and one is a girl.


People can be very ignorant with these questions, can't they? Once, a woman
who claimed to have b/g twins actually told me her twins were identical!
And, although my girls are fraternal, I get a lot of people that ask me
which side of the family twins come from. When I tell them that it had to
be from mine since my girls are fraternal, I get usually get a lot of
puzzled looks. But, it usually doesn't bother me and I often enjoy bragging
on my girls unless I'm in a hurry. )

Tori
Mommy to
Lauren & Madison
4/4/01


 




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