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"Time Wasting Rules" - from Real Simple Magazine - NOT GOOD!
"Clisby Williams" wrote in message ... dragonlady wrote: In article , Clisby Williams wrote: dragonlady wrote: In article ymHPa.38200$H17.11890@sccrnsc02, "Corinne" wrote: I was alerted to this article on an email group I'm part of....I was AMAZED and greatly disappointed to read the following: "The August 2003 issue of Real Simple magazine, currently on newstands, contains an article titled "20 Time Wasting Rules to Break Now." (page 136) What's one of the rules to break? Breastfeeding. The article states that with bottle-feeding, "you know exactly how much food the baby is eating, and Mom may be less tired because Dad has no excuse to sleep through 3 a.m. feedings." Aside from everything else that's wrong with this, I can't, personally, imagine that bottle feeding is LESS time consuming that breast feeding -- assuming you aren't "propping" your baby, which is a bad idea anyway. I know I visited households with twins the same age as mine who were being bottle fed, and the amount of time devoted to mixing formula, cleaning bottles, buying stuff, and, in one case, keeping the two formulas seperate -- it just looked like a real time consuming effort compared to plopping a breast (or two) out. meh Actually, that's the one thing I agree with. My first child was formula-fed, and my second breastfed. The formula-feeding was definitely simpler for me. But then, it might have made my life "simpler" to plop the babies in a playpen in a soundproofed room and close the door. What's simplest is not always what's preferable. Clisby I don't want to dispute you -- I believe you -- but I can't figure out how formula and bottles could be simpler than breastfeeding, especially if you spend much time out of the house, but even if you are home all the time. Can you explain how it was simpler? meh Sure. The major thing, of course, is that if you formula-feed a child, you don't have to do it all. Until my daughter was about 7 months old, my husband did the majority of the feeding (he was the SAHP for most of that time.) How could BF possibly have been simpler for me? With my breastfed child: for the first 3 months, breastfeeding was very difficult. YMMV, but I can't consider something that caused that much pain to have made my life simpler. The second three months were much better, but still not easy, by any measure. And again, I had to do it all. That's the huge downside of breastfeeding. I think it's easy now; but I have a 17-month-old who only nurses 3-4 times in a 24-hour period, and probably wouldn't care if I cut it back to twice. In my experience of reading these newsgroups, people who talk about the inconvenience of formula feeding typically are grossly exaggerating the amount of time and bother it takes. Here's the kind of thing I read: 1. You have to sterilize bottles. (No, you don't.) 2. You have to get up in the middle of the night and fix a bottle. (Only if your definition of "fixing a bottle" is: reach in the refrigerator, pull out a bottle, stick it in the baby's mouth. If you have a picky baby, maybe you microwave it for 10 seconds first.) 3. If you go out with the baby, you have to wait until you find somewhere to warm up the bottle. (No, you don't.) 4. You have to go to the trouble of buying the formula. (Oh, give me a break.) 5. You might run out of formula. (Never happened. How much trouble is it to remember to buy the only food your baby eats?) Clisby Sorry I certainly don't want to say that breastfeeding is time wasting. I have every intention of breastfeeding my second for as long as possible. However I do agree, bottle feeding was easier for us. For pretty much the same reasons. I made up all the bottles at once and then he had the same amount at the same time very day, very simple. I did breastfeed him at first before he got into a pattern, I imagine bottle feeding on demand in the early weeks is a bit more complicated though. Judy |
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"Time Wasting Rules" - from Real Simple Magazine - NOT GOOD!
toto wrote: On Sun, 13 Jul 2003 00:02:10 -0400, Clisby Williams wrote: toto wrote: Difference in the time frame? When my children were young, we did not have so many ready mixed things. Maybe - but I still don't see how it could involve much paraphernalia. If I hadn't had ready-to-feed formula, I could have filled the bottles of water and taken along enough powder to mix. Or if you mean before there was powdered formula - I could have taken along a couple of bottles already filled with formula. At worst, I wouldn't need it and would throw it out, but that's no big deal. It's not like I had to carry around a portable sterilizer or something. Clisby Well, perhaps you didn't have to carry it around, but bf mothers don't have to carry around breast pumps either. No, but I don't hear FF mothers say they aren't BF because they don't want to carry around all the paraphernalia. I'm curious why the comment is made the other way around. What is it that people imagine you have to carry around with you to FF? Or do some people really think a couple of bottles and a baggie of powder or a can or so of ready-mixed formula is a lot of stuff? Clisby |
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"Time Wasting Rules" - from Real Simple Magazine - NOT GOOD!
On Fri, 11 Jul 2003 23:30:47 GMT, dragonlady
wrote: Aside from everything else that's wrong with this, I can't, personally, imagine that bottle feeding is LESS time consuming that breast feeding -- assuming you aren't "propping" your baby, which is a bad idea anyway. I know I visited households with twins the same age as mine who were being bottle fed, and the amount of time devoted to mixing formula, cleaning bottles, buying stuff, and, in one case, keeping the two formulas seperate -- it just looked like a real time consuming effort compared to plopping a breast (or two) out. Well first of all, I didnt clean bottles. I used the replaceable bags and had enough nipples to lst a long time. Secondly (and this is a benefit, having done both), my younger children could be held and fed by their dad, by me, by their ten year old sister ..you get the drift. I got much more sleep as a formula feeding parent, and much more free time. This is not a statement about the value of one kind of feeding over the other, just a statement on my experience with the "time" factor. Barb |
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"Time Wasting Rules" - from Real Simple Magazine - NOT GOOD!
On 12 Jul 2003 19:10:18 -0700, Banty wrote:
Friends: Sooo, what are you doing Sunday? Me: I finally have time to get back to that quilt I've been putting off! Friends: Oh - since you're not reaally doing anything, how about going boating with us on Sunday! NOt really doing anything????????????????????/ Barb ( who loves to quilt but does try and have both a big and a protable project at all times, since she travels at a minute's notice sometimes) |
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"Time Wasting Rules" - from Real Simple Magazine - NOT GOOD!
In article ,
Barbara Bomberger wrote: On Fri, 11 Jul 2003 23:30:47 GMT, dragonlady wrote: Aside from everything else that's wrong with this, I can't, personally, imagine that bottle feeding is LESS time consuming that breast feeding -- assuming you aren't "propping" your baby, which is a bad idea anyway. I know I visited households with twins the same age as mine who were being bottle fed, and the amount of time devoted to mixing formula, cleaning bottles, buying stuff, and, in one case, keeping the two formulas seperate -- it just looked like a real time consuming effort compared to plopping a breast (or two) out. Well first of all, I didnt clean bottles. I used the replaceable bags and had enough nipples to lst a long time. Secondly (and this is a benefit, having done both), my younger children could be held and fed by their dad, by me, by their ten year old sister ..you get the drift. I got much more sleep as a formula feeding parent, and much more free time. This is not a statement about the value of one kind of feeding over the other, just a statement on my experience with the "time" factor. Barb I can definately see how formula and bottles would be a time saver and simpler for the mother in a household with more adults (or older kids) than babies; I know how much I enjoyed feeding my younger brother and sister -- and if mom had nursed, I would not have had that particular pleasure. I guess I was just thinking in terms of "person hours" -- the total time spent -- not just "mother hours". meh -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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"Time Wasting Rules" - from Real Simple Magazine - NOT GOOD!
Karen Askey wrote: I'm curious why the comment is made the other way around. What is it that people imagine you have to carry around with you to FF? Or do some people really think a couple of bottles and a baggie of powder or a can or so of ready-mixed formula is a lot of stuff? As Cheryl said in another post, it must be a huge YMMV thing. I've not used formula, but I've exclusively bf my first and am using bottles of ebm for my second. Almost every ff mom I have known in person has stated that a few times she had to return home earlier than planned or go back to the house upon setting out because they didn't bring enough formula or they plain old forgot to pack it. I myself have had to turn around 1/2 doz times in the past 3 months b/c I forgot to bring DS's bottles along for the outing. I just am not in the habit of thinking of it since I never had to with DS#1! Well, I can see that. It might be different if you BF the first and bottlefeed the 2nd (I know you're not formula-feeding, but the mechanics of carrying the bottles around is similar). I never forgot to take formula with me and never forgot to buy it - of course, you can buy it at any grocery store or drugstore around here, so it wouldn't be any big deal if I did forget it. For me, all the "stuff" i have to think about now is the number of bottles I might need (1? 2? more?), the little cooler, an ice pack, an extra nipple (in case the one I have rips), and sometimes my Avent breastpump if I am concerned I might be gone long enough that I should also pump. That's, to me, a lot more than I ever had to take when I was only bf. When you pack that into a backpack with a couple diapers each for 2 kids, wipes, a couple of small toys or books to distract the older one, a change of clothes for at least one child, a sippy cup and snack for older child, my wallet, and burp cloths, I'm getting a little loaded down. Like you said later in the post, this is at least partly because you're pumping. Which, by the way, I think is great. Women who exclusively pump for their babies are the heroines of feeding, IMO. I didn't have to take a cooler, or an ice pack, or a pump. When I'm out and about in town I don't worry as much b/c I can always return home if I need to. But if I go to my mom's where my emergency freezer stash is not readily available, then there is a little more pressure to plan the number of bottles and to pump once I get there. Of course, that's b/c I'm pumping. If I was ff then I could just pick up a can of formula and some bottled water if I was to run out during errands. Over the long haul, though, that's an expense I'd rather avoid while I can. Again, I guess it's a YMMV thing, but especially since I bf the first and am not in the habit of thinking about taking a bunch of stuff with me, and perhaps b/c I'm pumping and using ebm and a specialty feeding device, bf is definitely much easier for me!!!!! I can well imagine. I pumped for my first child for a little over 2 months and it nearly drove me crazy. I would never claim that pumping/bottlefeeding was easier than breastfeeding. Clisby |
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"Time Wasting Rules" - from Real Simple Magazine - NOT GOOD!
Cheryl S. wrote: Elizabeth Reid wrote in message . com... I don't know. I used powdered formula, and I carried a couple of bottles of water, plus a Baggie of powder. Nothing that would require a giant bag, and if you carry water plus powder there's no fretting about anything going bad, because the clock doesn't start until you mix the two together. This is clearly a huge YMMV thing. For me, getting out the door was hard enough the first few months, and even this much more to do (measure water into bottles and powder into baggies) would be more than I wanted to add. I really liked that feeding, at least, was the one thing I never had to think about at all. Plus, water is heavy, and my diaper bag was heavy enough already (compared to the tiny purse I'd been used to, pre-baby). I wouldn't want to have to carry water around. The biggest thing for me is that I really dislike washing dishes, so adding several bottles and nipples a day to the dish-washing is way more than I'm willing to do in order to use formula. But, like I said, YMMV. Sure. And in my case, most of the burden of that fell on my husband, anyway. I will readily admit that BF would have been easier than FF for *him*. Clisby |
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"Time Wasting Rules" - from Real Simple Magazine - NOT GOOD!
Sue wrote: Cheryl S. wrote in message news:bes69l$8en21 Another INTJ heard from. ;-) If I knew what that meant, I could probably say that I am too. ) -- Sue mom to three girls Well, of course, because INTJs are cool. The initials come from the Myers-Briggs personality assessement test, which is based (I think) on Jungian psychology. Anyhow, you answer a bunch of questions and are assessed on these characteristics: I/E introverted/extroverted N/S intuitive/sensing T/F thinking/feeling J/P judging/perceiving I took it at work once - I can't remember if it was a team-building exercise or something else. There are web-based tests, too - I took one of those once and also came out as INTJ. However, you didn't say what kind of needlework you do. Clisby |
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"Time Wasting Rules" - from Real Simple Magazine - NOT GOOD!
"dragonlady" wrote in message ... I don't feel guilty or have second thoughts; I guess that was the point I was trying to make: the if the article was REALLY about reducing guilt, they should have said that, instead of making it sound like breast feeing was a "time waster". For some people, it DOES appear to be a time sink; for others it appears to be a time saver. Either way -- do what works, and don't look back! Amen! --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.497 / Virus Database: 296 - Release Date: 7/4/03 |
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"Time Wasting Rules" - from Real Simple Magazine - NOT GOOD!
"dragonlady" wrote in message ... In article , "The Ranger" wrote: dragonlady asked in message ... [snip] but I can't figure out how formula and bottles could be simpler than breastfeeding, [..] Can you explain how it was simpler? In our case it was as simple as: 1) Purchase multiple cases of concentrated liquid formula insert myriad of choices from Toys-R-Us (either at a B&M or on-line); store in pantry until needed. On our trip through TX, we were able to purchase pre-measured, fully-mixed liquid formula where we swapped their lid for our bottle nipples. 2) Get two cans from storage. Pop tops with can opener. 3) Pour both into pitcher; measure out appropriate amount of water. Stir. 4) P(remeasure)our into all available bottles. Cap. Refrigerate. During feeding the steps we 1) Grab two at a time from 'fridge, pop into microwave, nuke for 30 seconds, shake, test. 2) Pop on nipple cap and pop into infants' mouths. I remember feeding taking a maximum of 15 minutes for each child. (Spawn was a little more difficult because she was a lazy feeder and tended to try to nap.) The Ranger OK -- but how was that simpler than: 1) Sit down 2) Plop out breast(s)? Which requires no refrigeration, microwave, store, pitcher, or measuring cups? (Again, I really am NOT trying to be difficult; I've heard people say that bottles were simpler than breasts. Since my first was bottle/formula fed after a few months, and my twins breastfed, I have the comparison, and considered breast SO much simpler -- I'm just trying to understand why, for some folks, the bottle is simpler.) (And, yes, I understand that for many people bottle feeding is necessary/desirable for reasons that have nothing to do with simplicity.) meh -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care I thought Clisby's answer was pretty descriptive. Pumping is a drag. There is nothing simple about it. Dad was home all day; she wasn't. And the ability to share feeding can simplify things. Simple is in the eye of the beholder if you ask me. Each family's organizational style is different. Some people acheive efficiency by job sharing, some by stripping steps. S |
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