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VENT: Wait Time
On Tue, 19 Aug 2003 22:09:40 GMT, "P. Tierney"
wrote: Relatives, Friends, and anyone else who talks to my child, It would help my daughter if, when asking a question, you actually tried to let her think and respond, at her own rate, instead of continue to talk yourself. Instead of a "Did you go to the fair today? Did you ride the merry go round? What did you eat? What animals did you see? Horses? Sheep?" lightning round that takes about five seconds, let her try to talk, or at least nod. She's still young, and may not know what to say, but she might. It would help her development if she had a chance. As a teacher, I knew the importance of allowing wait time after a question. It stimulates thought, and giving the child time to answer avoids making the child feel unintelligent because she/he isn't quick enough, or submissive, as there any point in contributing if one knows that the adult will jump in after a second or two. All of this translates to parenting as well. My child is active, smart, and enjoys communicating. But at 19.5 months, she doesn't communicate as we do quite yet, nor should she. She won't reach our levels just yet, but you can reach hers with a little bit of patience and understanding. And we'll all be better off for it. Thanks. P. Tierney Very common behavior. When my dd was ~3yo, she had a baby doll. Grandma asked her the doll's name. DD said "Adnes." (Agnes) Grandma repeated the question loudly and slowly, like dd was an idiot. Same answer. Grandma gives the big eye to 7yo cousin who laughs and says, "She doesn't even know her doll's name." They walked off. DD looked at me, and I said, "They're idiots. Forget them." Big smile, ego restored. Grandma does it to everybody. |
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VENT: Wait Time
P. Tierney wrote:
All of this translates to parenting as well. My child is active, smart, and enjoys communicating. But at 19.5 months, she doesn't communicate as we do quite yet, nor should she. This is not a vent, but an excellent piece of advice. I will keep it in mind. Thanks P! -- -- I mommy to DS (13m) guardian of DH TTC #2 War doesn't decide who's right - only who's left |
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