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Midwife choices
I had pretty much picked my midwife (and have a
signed contract at home, but haven't given her a copy). Now I'm starting to have second thoughts. My midwife has gotten excellent reviews on her technical skills, but I'm not sure that she does enough hand-holding for me. At 6.5 weeks, I had cramping (menstrual-like) and very light spotting (one bit of pink) after sex. I called the midwife to see if it was normal, and her response was "Well, you might be losing the baby, or you might not - there isn't anything we can do - keep me updated." So I asked if cramping after sex was normal and she said "yeah, it's normal, but you might want to lay off." No advice to drink water, or lie down, or anything other than not to have sex again. I wasn't even sure if she considered cramps without significant spotting to be a real miscarriage sign or if she was humoring me. I wanted to know if I needed to worry, or if I should go about my life normally, and didn't really get a good answer. Well, my cramping was caused by not eating enough, because when the midwife said "stop eating when you think you've eaten enough" my idea of eating enough and my body's idea of eating enough didn't agree and she didn't give me any guidelines for "enough". I've added another 600 calories to my diet and I seem to be fine. I spent a week worrying that I was in the process of a miscarriage because I was cramping for more than 12 hours a day. I know that if I'm going to lose this pregnancy, I'll lose it, but some kind of help figuring out if I was in the process of losing it would have been nice. Am I overreacting or expecting too much from my midwife, or is this a bad match? Elaine |
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