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Pregnant with second--should we move into town where no car is needed?
We have a nine month old and I just discovered I'm pregnant with #2. We
just moved to a great new 3BR house 10-15 mins outside of Boulder CO. We are on a park and can walk to a supermarket. My boyfriend owns another 4BR home downtown where you can walk/bike everywhere--to coffee shops, restaurants, the rec center, kids activities, etc. You rarely have to get in the car. We do have the option of moving there. The house is not quite as nice, but it's certainly liveable. I'm very happy in our current house with one child. I also enjoy being half owner of it. The only down side is the driving in and out of town between naps, (I go once or twice a day) and sometimes a fussy baby who'd rather be playing! Would driving in and out of town with two babies be nearly impossible, or just too annoying to do? Would being able to walk/bike everywhere with them improve our quality of life greatly? Or are you basically stuck at home anyway? Thanks for your thoughts! Amy |
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Pregnant with second--should we move into town where no car is needed?
In article .com, amy says...
We have a nine month old and I just discovered I'm pregnant with #2. We just moved to a great new 3BR house 10-15 mins outside of Boulder CO. We are on a park and can walk to a supermarket. My boyfriend owns another 4BR home downtown where you can walk/bike everywhere--to coffee shops, restaurants, the rec center, kids activities, etc. You rarely have to get in the car. We do have the option of moving there. The house is not quite as nice, but it's certainly liveable. I'm very happy in our current house with one child. I also enjoy being half owner of it. The only down side is the driving in and out of town between naps, (I go once or twice a day) and sometimes a fussy baby who'd rather be playing! Would driving in and out of town with two babies be nearly impossible, or just too annoying to do? Would being able to walk/bike everywhere with them improve our quality of life greatly? Or are you basically stuck at home anyway? Thanks for your thoughts! Amy A three bedroom house will do just fine for a two-child family down the road, a four bedroom place has more room for office/guest room. You like owning half of what you're in (important), your boyfriend's house has advantages of living in-town. And you say the decision should hinge on what it's like to haul two babies around. It really shouldn't hinge on what it's like to haul two babies around. That would be a very temporary situation. You might not believe it now, but it's pretty soon that you'd wake up and realize that you don't have two babies anymore. So, from my limited vantage, it looks even-steven, advantages vs. disadvantages, and the decision should really be based on what is best in the long haul. I don't think anyone other than you and your family would know what that really is. Speaking of long hauls, an important closely related question you didn't ask: are you and your boyfriend in it for the long haul? If you want my off-the-cuff advice, it would be either that you make that relationship so (it's called marriage), or hang on to the house where you have half ownership. Banty |
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Pregnant with second--should we move into town where no car isneeded?
amy wrote:
We have a nine month old and I just discovered I'm pregnant with #2. We just moved to a great new 3BR house 10-15 mins outside of Boulder CO. We are on a park and can walk to a supermarket. My boyfriend owns another 4BR home downtown where you can walk/bike everywhere--to coffee shops, restaurants, the rec center, kids activities, etc. You rarely have to get in the car. We do have the option of moving there. The house is not quite as nice, but it's certainly liveable. I'm very happy in our current house with one child. I also enjoy being half owner of it. The only down side is the driving in and out of town between naps, (I go once or twice a day) and sometimes a fussy baby who'd rather be playing! Would driving in and out of town with two babies be nearly impossible, or just too annoying to do? Would being able to walk/bike everywhere with them improve our quality of life greatly? Or are you basically stuck at home anyway? I think it depends totally on you. I don't see why driving in and out of town would be any more disruptive than walking or biking around town the same number of times. Yes, it'll be more of a challenge with two. Yes, you're going to have to accommodate your children's needs as they grow and have their own interests and activities, though you will also still do some of your own things too. You may find that some activities you do now with a 9mo will be less rewarding with a toddler and an infant to chase. It all boils down to the lifestyle you want to live. Some folk prefer city life; others prefer life in suburbia (and others different options yet). *I* certainly don't see any need for you to be stuck at home all the time with two kids, but there are other parents who don't choose to go out much with young kids. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Pregnant with second--should we move into town where no car is needed?
amy wrote:
We have a nine month old and I just discovered I'm pregnant with #2. We just moved to a great new 3BR house 10-15 mins outside of Boulder CO. We are on a park and can walk to a supermarket. I found moving to town a blessing. Getting milk, going to the pool, any activity at all was a major undertaking of bringing snacks, clothes, timing around this and that. The difference is I lived totally in the country and was 25-35 minutes from anything at all so an hour long pool trip or a few groceries was a 2.5hr event by the time all was said and done. My boyfriend owns another 4BR home downtown where you can walk/bike everywhere--to coffee shops, restaurants, the rec center, kids activities, etc. Personally I don't think there will be any difference in 'easiness' between walking, biking, or driving with two kids. You'll have two versus one in all those situaitons. There will be a time difference if you can walk to a kid activity in 5 minutes or drive in 15 minutes but that isn't all that big of a deal IMO. I'm very happy in our current house with one child. I also enjoy being half owner of it. The only down side is the driving in and out of town between naps, (I go once or twice a day) and sometimes a fussy baby who'd rather be playing! Well I don't think adding a second is going to change a lot with regards to how much you do or don't like living there. At least adding a second didn't really impact my happiness in the country. I loved it as a single person, not so much as a parent. My first kid cried all the time in the car though. Both my husband and I work and it seemed we spent so much time in the car. It felt like I added another day to the week when we moved :-). Would driving in and out of town with two babies be nearly impossible, or just too annoying to do? I didn't find it any different with two versus one. Would being able to walk/bike everywhere with them improve our quality of life greatly? Only if you prefer to walk/bike everywhere :-) Or are you basically stuck at home anyway? Not at all but I do not go out as much with two as I did with one. It *is* more work and it just isn't as fun. For me - YMMV ;-) I also find I'm busier doing things at home for and with the kids, as well as for myself. I can do things for myself at home now that the kids are not babies/toddlers anymore and I get stimulation from those personal activites so I don't feel the need to go out as much. I'm *not* a shopper though so again, YMMV. -- Nikki Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 EDD 4/06 |
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Pregnant with second--should we move into town where no car is needed?
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"amy" wrote: We have a nine month old and I just discovered I'm pregnant with #2. We just moved to a great new 3BR house 10-15 mins outside of Boulder CO. We are on a park and can walk to a supermarket. My boyfriend owns another 4BR home downtown where you can walk/bike everywhere--to coffee shops, restaurants, the rec center, kids activities, etc. You rarely have to get in the car. We do have the option of moving there. The house is not quite as nice, but it's certainly liveable. I'm very happy in our current house with one child. I also enjoy being half owner of it. The only down side is the driving in and out of town between naps, (I go once or twice a day) and sometimes a fussy baby who'd rather be playing! Would driving in and out of town with two babies be nearly impossible, or just too annoying to do? Would being able to walk/bike everywhere with them improve our quality of life greatly? Or are you basically stuck at home anyway? Thanks for your thoughts! Amy You will only have young children for a few years. I think the bigger question is, how happy will you be living in a house completely owned by someone else? How committed is your relationship with BF? Would he be willing to sell you half of his house, or put you on the title as well? Is legal marriage coming any time soon? There are advantages and disadvantages to both houses -- but I think you want to seriously consider the ownership part of this before you make a move. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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Pregnant with second--should we move into town where no car is needed?
In article .com,
"amy" wrote: We have a nine month old and I just discovered I'm pregnant with #2. We just moved to a great new 3BR house 10-15 mins outside of Boulder CO. We are on a park and can walk to a supermarket. My boyfriend owns another 4BR home downtown where you can walk/bike everywhere--to coffee shops, restaurants, the rec center, kids activities, etc. You rarely have to get in the car. We do have the option of moving there. The house is not quite as nice, but it's certainly liveable. Where are you now, and where downtown? (I live in SW Boulder, so I'm just curious!) Getting around with two is more complicated than with one - and a toddler is more complicated than a baby - so no matter what you do, it's going to get more complicated! My hubby and I chose to buy a house in town (well, sort of - we're in the Table Mesa area, so not DOWNtown, but IN town) for several reasons. We moved here from New Jersey and could see that with the population growing so fast, the commute was likely to get worse over time. And now that gas prices are exploding, we're glad to have made that decision. It's nice being able to bike the kids to school/daycare, and us to work, without it taking much longer than driving would. (But you won't be able to do this right away; the Burley-type trailers aren't recommended for kids less than 18 months old.) And the bus system in town is fabulous, and pretty easy to manage with kids. Another thing to consider is where you want your kids to go to school. BVSD has a very liberal open enrollment policy, so you're not just stuck with your neighborhood school, but it's done on a lottery system, and there's plenty of competition for the "best" schools. Not that any of them are bad, but we chose our specific neighborhood because we liked the neighborhood schools and wouldn't have to bother with open enrollment. Good luck with the decision - and congrats on your pregnancy! Jeanne |
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Pregnant with second--should we move into town where no car is needed?
amy wrote:
We have a nine month old and I just discovered I'm pregnant with #2. We just moved to a great new 3BR house 10-15 mins outside of Boulder CO. We are on a park and can walk to a supermarket. My boyfriend owns another 4BR home downtown where you can walk/bike everywhere--to coffee shops, restaurants, the rec center, kids activities, etc. You rarely have to get in the car. We do have the option of moving there. The house is not quite as nice, but it's certainly liveable. I'm very happy in our current house with one child. I also enjoy being half owner of it. The only down side is the driving in and out of town between naps, (I go once or twice a day) and sometimes a fussy baby who'd rather be playing! I think with two you will have to become more efficient. I would rarely go out even once a day even with one child. I've also NEVER lived where I could walk everywhere (either because of distance or lack of sidewalks), and I have often lived a half an hour out of town. Would driving in and out of town with two babies be nearly impossible, or just too annoying to do? Would being able to walk/bike everywhere with them improve our quality of life greatly? Or are you basically stuck at home anyway? The number of children has nothing much to do with it especially if you have them as close together as yours are. It did slow me down a bit when I had a third one 5 years after the 2nd, but it wasn't too bad. A two year old is already going to be a toddler and not a baby. As others have said - the children will grow up. You need to consider how the house will suit you in the long term. Not only when they are a baby and a 2 year old, but when they are 3 and 5 and the 5 year old is in kindergarten (that's only 4 years from now - how are the schools in both places), and when they are 8 and 6 (what kinds of children's activities are there in each place) and when they are 14 and 16. grandma Rosalie |
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Pregnant with second--should we move into town where no car is needed?
"Rosalie B." wrote in message news amy wrote: We have a nine month old and I just discovered I'm pregnant with #2. We just moved to a great new 3BR house 10-15 mins outside of Boulder CO. We are on a park and can walk to a supermarket. My boyfriend owns another 4BR home downtown where you can walk/bike everywhere--to coffee shops, restaurants, the rec center, kids activities, etc. You rarely have to get in the car. We do have the option of moving there. The house is not quite as nice, but it's certainly liveable. I'm very happy in our current house with one child. I also enjoy being half owner of it. The only down side is the driving in and out of town between naps, (I go once or twice a day) and sometimes a fussy baby who'd rather be playing! I think with two you will have to become more efficient. I would rarely go out even once a day even with one child. Different strokes for different folks. I liked getting out and about. I've also NEVER lived where I could walk everywhere (either because of distance or lack of sidewalks), and I have often lived a half an hour out of town. Would driving in and out of town with two babies be nearly impossible, or just too annoying to do? Would being able to walk/bike everywhere with them improve our quality of life greatly? Or are you basically stuck at home anyway? The number of children has nothing much to do with it especially if you have them as close together as yours are. It did slow me down a bit when I had a third one 5 years after the 2nd, but it wasn't too bad. A two year old is already going to be a toddler and not a baby. As others have said - the children will grow up. You need to consider how the house will suit you in the long term. Not only when they are a baby and a 2 year old, but when they are 3 and 5 and the 5 year old is in kindergarten (that's only 4 years from now - how are the schools in both places), and when they are 8 and 6 (what kinds of children's activities are there in each place) and when they are 14 and 16. grandma Rosalie |
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Pregnant with second--should we move into town where no car is needed?
Hi everyone, thanks for the thoughtful answers! We're in Gunbarrel
currently and the other house is at 18th/Dellwood. To answer the relationship questions: yes, we are planning on marrying (at this point it seems ridiculous not to ) and I could buy part of his house, but what I can afford in Boulder would buy me about an inch of it. |
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Pregnant with second--should we move into town where no car is needed?
"amy" wrote in message ups.com... Hi everyone, thanks for the thoughtful answers! We're in Gunbarrel currently and the other house is at 18th/Dellwood. To answer the relationship questions: yes, we are planning on marrying (at this point it seems ridiculous not to ) and I could buy part of his house, but what I can afford in Boulder would buy me about an inch of it. Well, call me nuts, but if you are getting married, the whole ownership thing seems like a moot thing to consider. You get married, he puts your name on the title. And eliminate that from the decision equation. |
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