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I have a daughter that is 6 her
"Tiffany" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Indyguy1" wrote in message ... AZ wrote: A woman who chooses to keep a child when she knows that the father is opposed to it should be prepared to raise it on her own. A man who chooses to participate in an activity that can produce a child should be prepared to help raise it. A man should have the ability to opt-out of fatherhood with the same impunity that the mother has. He has the same opportunity, just at a different time. Actually, Indy, he doesn't. If there is an "ooops" discovered after the act, SHE still has choices. But he no longer has any. I agree with AZ that a woman who chooses to bring a child into the world on her own should make darn sure she can support it on her own. If she can't do so, she should have the decency to give the child up for adoption, rather than feeling that she should have a pipeline to a man's wallet for 2 decades. Perhaps CSE should check the financials of all unmarried mothers-to-be and take the babies of those who cannot, either on their own or with a cosigner, meet the stringent financial requirements of supporting the child. But I do agree with you that abstinence would prevent the entire problem. That's all find and dandy but what about the soon to be father who claims that yes, he will help raise the child, he will be a DAD but then changes his mind after the baby is born? Before the mother realizes it, she IS a single mom, whether she wanted to be or not. Should she then dump the kid off that she has raised a few years because she doesn't have a lot of money? My opinion, Tiffany, is that any woman--married or single--should make sure that she has the means to support her child(ren) by herself in this day and age. Things happen--accidents, poor economy, war--you never know when you will find yourself alone. It is only wise to be prepared. That's not to criticize those to whom this has already happened, and they were not prepared--you can't turn back the clock. But it is important for every parent to be self supporting in some way in these uncertain times. I agree but one doesn't always know these things until later in life. lol Age makes us wiser! .......... or just an older fool. T |
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I have a daughter that is 6 her
"Tiffany" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Indyguy1" wrote in message ... AZ wrote: A woman who chooses to keep a child when she knows that the father is opposed to it should be prepared to raise it on her own. A man who chooses to participate in an activity that can produce a child should be prepared to help raise it. A man should have the ability to opt-out of fatherhood with the same impunity that the mother has. He has the same opportunity, just at a different time. Actually, Indy, he doesn't. If there is an "ooops" discovered after the act, SHE still has choices. But he no longer has any. I agree with AZ that a woman who chooses to bring a child into the world on her own should make darn sure she can support it on her own. If she can't do so, she should have the decency to give the child up for adoption, rather than feeling that she should have a pipeline to a man's wallet for 2 decades. Perhaps CSE should check the financials of all unmarried mothers-to-be and take the babies of those who cannot, either on their own or with a cosigner, meet the stringent financial requirements of supporting the child. But I do agree with you that abstinence would prevent the entire problem. That's all find and dandy but what about the soon to be father who claims that yes, he will help raise the child, he will be a DAD but then changes his mind after the baby is born? Before the mother realizes it, she IS a single mom, whether she wanted to be or not. Should she then dump the kid off that she has raised a few years because she doesn't have a lot of money? My opinion, Tiffany, is that any woman--married or single--should make sure that she has the means to support her child(ren) by herself in this day and age. Things happen--accidents, poor economy, war--you never know when you will find yourself alone. It is only wise to be prepared. That's not to criticize those to whom this has already happened, and they were not prepared--you can't turn back the clock. But it is important for every parent to be self supporting in some way in these uncertain times. I agree but one doesn't always know these things until later in life. lol Age makes us wiser! .......... or just an older fool. T |
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I have a daughter that is 6 her
Phil,
I had to respond to your last comment.I was the ONLY one working in this house for 5 years.I was supporting the children and their father..and when I was with My 6 year olds father I supported him too.The man I am with now just got a job.IT's not someone I just chose off the street to be her next father.My story is nothing like that. I was engaged to be married and I broke it off cause after having 2 kids things started to go down hill. During the break up I met my daughters father (it was about a yr. later) We were talking about marriage and how much he wanted a baby.then I got pregnant and he started cheating on me..He choked me in front of my 2 toddlers,and he ended up sending me to the hospitol when I was pregnant with his daughter. The last straw was when he went to another state to go to work(uh huh) and found out he was cheating on me the whole time.His daughter was 6 months old at this time.I then asked him to leave and we spoke a few times and that was it,he dissappeared. I went back with my childrens father and we have been together ever since my now 6 yr. old daughter was a baby so she knows no other daddy...He's the only man she has ever known. BTW yes I still support my daughter.I am a C.N.A. at a nursing home.Thats all I have to say on this. |
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I have a daughter that is 6 her
Phil,
I had to respond to your last comment.I was the ONLY one working in this house for 5 years.I was supporting the children and their father..and when I was with My 6 year olds father I supported him too.The man I am with now just got a job.IT's not someone I just chose off the street to be her next father.My story is nothing like that. I was engaged to be married and I broke it off cause after having 2 kids things started to go down hill. During the break up I met my daughters father (it was about a yr. later) We were talking about marriage and how much he wanted a baby.then I got pregnant and he started cheating on me..He choked me in front of my 2 toddlers,and he ended up sending me to the hospitol when I was pregnant with his daughter. The last straw was when he went to another state to go to work(uh huh) and found out he was cheating on me the whole time.His daughter was 6 months old at this time.I then asked him to leave and we spoke a few times and that was it,he dissappeared. I went back with my childrens father and we have been together ever since my now 6 yr. old daughter was a baby so she knows no other daddy...He's the only man she has ever known. BTW yes I still support my daughter.I am a C.N.A. at a nursing home.Thats all I have to say on this. |
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I have a daughter that is 6 her
Phil,
I had to respond to your last comment.I was the ONLY one working in this house for 5 years.I was supporting the children and their father..and when I was with My 6 year olds father I supported him too.The man I am with now just got a job.IT's not someone I just chose off the street to be her next father.My story is nothing like that. I was engaged to be married and I broke it off cause after having 2 kids things started to go down hill. During the break up I met my daughters father (it was about a yr. later) We were talking about marriage and how much he wanted a baby.then I got pregnant and he started cheating on me..He choked me in front of my 2 toddlers,and he ended up sending me to the hospitol when I was pregnant with his daughter. The last straw was when he went to another state to go to work(uh huh) and found out he was cheating on me the whole time.His daughter was 6 months old at this time.I then asked him to leave and we spoke a few times and that was it,he dissappeared. I went back with my childrens father and we have been together ever since my now 6 yr. old daughter was a baby so she knows no other daddy...He's the only man she has ever known. BTW yes I still support my daughter.I am a C.N.A. at a nursing home.Thats all I have to say on this. |
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I have a daughter that is 6 her
"Chris" wrote in message news:A6oIc.17898$yc.11945@fed1read06... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Indyguy1" wrote in message ... AZ wrote: A woman who chooses to keep a child when she knows that the father is opposed to it should be prepared to raise it on her own. A man who chooses to participate in an activity that can produce a child should be prepared to help raise it. A man should have the ability to opt-out of fatherhood with the same impunity that the mother has. He has the same opportunity, just at a different time. Actually, Indy, he doesn't. If there is an "ooops" discovered after the act, SHE still has choices. But he no longer has any. I agree with AZ that a woman who chooses to bring a child into the world on her own should make darn sure she can support it on her own. If she can't do so, she should have the decency to give the child up for adoption, rather than feeling that she should have a pipeline to a man's wallet for 2 decades. Perhaps CSE should check the financials of all unmarried mothers-to-be and take the babies of those who cannot, either on their own or with a cosigner, meet the stringent financial requirements of supporting the child. But I do agree with you that abstinence would prevent the entire problem. That's all find and dandy but what about the soon to be father who claims that yes, he will help raise the child, he will be a DAD but then changes his mind after the baby is born? Before the mother realizes it, she IS a single mom, whether she wanted to be or not. Should she then dump the kid off that she has raised a few years because she doesn't have a lot of money? My opinion, Tiffany, is that any woman--married or single--should make sure that she has the means to support her child(ren) by herself in this day and age. Things happen--accidents, poor economy, war--you never know when you will find yourself alone. It is only wise to be prepared. That's not to criticize those to whom this has already happened, and they were not prepared--you can't turn back the clock. But it is important for every parent to be self supporting in some way in these uncertain times. I agree but one doesn't always know these things until later in life. lol Age makes us wiser! ......... or just an older fool. Oh, Chris--you've got to stop thinking about yourself so negatively......... |
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I have a daughter that is 6 her
"Chris" wrote in message news:A6oIc.17898$yc.11945@fed1read06... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Indyguy1" wrote in message ... AZ wrote: A woman who chooses to keep a child when she knows that the father is opposed to it should be prepared to raise it on her own. A man who chooses to participate in an activity that can produce a child should be prepared to help raise it. A man should have the ability to opt-out of fatherhood with the same impunity that the mother has. He has the same opportunity, just at a different time. Actually, Indy, he doesn't. If there is an "ooops" discovered after the act, SHE still has choices. But he no longer has any. I agree with AZ that a woman who chooses to bring a child into the world on her own should make darn sure she can support it on her own. If she can't do so, she should have the decency to give the child up for adoption, rather than feeling that she should have a pipeline to a man's wallet for 2 decades. Perhaps CSE should check the financials of all unmarried mothers-to-be and take the babies of those who cannot, either on their own or with a cosigner, meet the stringent financial requirements of supporting the child. But I do agree with you that abstinence would prevent the entire problem. That's all find and dandy but what about the soon to be father who claims that yes, he will help raise the child, he will be a DAD but then changes his mind after the baby is born? Before the mother realizes it, she IS a single mom, whether she wanted to be or not. Should she then dump the kid off that she has raised a few years because she doesn't have a lot of money? My opinion, Tiffany, is that any woman--married or single--should make sure that she has the means to support her child(ren) by herself in this day and age. Things happen--accidents, poor economy, war--you never know when you will find yourself alone. It is only wise to be prepared. That's not to criticize those to whom this has already happened, and they were not prepared--you can't turn back the clock. But it is important for every parent to be self supporting in some way in these uncertain times. I agree but one doesn't always know these things until later in life. lol Age makes us wiser! ......... or just an older fool. Oh, Chris--you've got to stop thinking about yourself so negatively......... |
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I have a daughter that is 6 her
"Chris" wrote in message news:A6oIc.17898$yc.11945@fed1read06... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Indyguy1" wrote in message ... AZ wrote: A woman who chooses to keep a child when she knows that the father is opposed to it should be prepared to raise it on her own. A man who chooses to participate in an activity that can produce a child should be prepared to help raise it. A man should have the ability to opt-out of fatherhood with the same impunity that the mother has. He has the same opportunity, just at a different time. Actually, Indy, he doesn't. If there is an "ooops" discovered after the act, SHE still has choices. But he no longer has any. I agree with AZ that a woman who chooses to bring a child into the world on her own should make darn sure she can support it on her own. If she can't do so, she should have the decency to give the child up for adoption, rather than feeling that she should have a pipeline to a man's wallet for 2 decades. Perhaps CSE should check the financials of all unmarried mothers-to-be and take the babies of those who cannot, either on their own or with a cosigner, meet the stringent financial requirements of supporting the child. But I do agree with you that abstinence would prevent the entire problem. That's all find and dandy but what about the soon to be father who claims that yes, he will help raise the child, he will be a DAD but then changes his mind after the baby is born? Before the mother realizes it, she IS a single mom, whether she wanted to be or not. Should she then dump the kid off that she has raised a few years because she doesn't have a lot of money? My opinion, Tiffany, is that any woman--married or single--should make sure that she has the means to support her child(ren) by herself in this day and age. Things happen--accidents, poor economy, war--you never know when you will find yourself alone. It is only wise to be prepared. That's not to criticize those to whom this has already happened, and they were not prepared--you can't turn back the clock. But it is important for every parent to be self supporting in some way in these uncertain times. I agree but one doesn't always know these things until later in life. lol Age makes us wiser! ......... or just an older fool. Oh, Chris--you've got to stop thinking about yourself so negatively......... |
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I have a daughter that is 6 her
"Tiffany" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message .net... snip for length Okay. So what are your feelings about women who have children out of wedlock and refuse to use one of the many choices women have to deal with a pregnancy when they are not married? I don't think in or out of wedlock is in issue. Two people can take care of their children without being married. I don't agree with you on this, Tiffany. If you are going to agree to raise children together, why would you not take the step of marriage? Why would the man say "Sure, I want to be the father of your children" and not be willing to commit to you? Marriage is an expression of commitment, and raising a child together *is* a commitment. My brother-in-law was telling us today that he had broken up with his long time girlfriend. They were listening to the radio and someone on the program made the comment that, if a girl went out with a guy for more than 2 years, she was expecting marriage. (They had been together for 5) He turned to her in surprise, and said "Is that true?" She just looked at him. So he said "Gosh, I'm sorry. I have no intention of getting married." SHE thought they were committed to each other. HE thought she was a lot of fun. The question is not whether 2 people *can* raise a child together without being married. It's a question of whether or not their ideas of commitment are even close to being the same. "Sure, I'll help" may not mean the same thing to the guy as it does to the gal. |
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I have a daughter that is 6 her
"Tiffany" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message .net... snip for length Okay. So what are your feelings about women who have children out of wedlock and refuse to use one of the many choices women have to deal with a pregnancy when they are not married? I don't think in or out of wedlock is in issue. Two people can take care of their children without being married. I don't agree with you on this, Tiffany. If you are going to agree to raise children together, why would you not take the step of marriage? Why would the man say "Sure, I want to be the father of your children" and not be willing to commit to you? Marriage is an expression of commitment, and raising a child together *is* a commitment. My brother-in-law was telling us today that he had broken up with his long time girlfriend. They were listening to the radio and someone on the program made the comment that, if a girl went out with a guy for more than 2 years, she was expecting marriage. (They had been together for 5) He turned to her in surprise, and said "Is that true?" She just looked at him. So he said "Gosh, I'm sorry. I have no intention of getting married." SHE thought they were committed to each other. HE thought she was a lot of fun. The question is not whether 2 people *can* raise a child together without being married. It's a question of whether or not their ideas of commitment are even close to being the same. "Sure, I'll help" may not mean the same thing to the guy as it does to the gal. |
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