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Am I expecting too much? My 5 year old is still doing quite a number on
her clothing. I expect a certain amount of dirt, paint, and other "fun" stuff to get on her clothes, but it seems like she should be making some progress with food. I found her favorite shirt stained with something brown and some greasy stain on it today in at leat 7 or 8 spots. It took a half inch of stain stick to get it treated. Unfortunately this isn't at all unusual. In fact, her favorite clothes tend to get stained first. What can I do? What should I do to help her keep her food in her mouth/stomach or on her plate? Is this normal? Karen G PS Comparisons are odious, but my 3 year old doesn't have any trouble with this issue. |
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Karen G wrote:
Am I expecting too much? My 5 year old is still doing quite a number on her clothing. I expect a certain amount of dirt, paint, and other "fun" stuff to get on her clothes, but it seems like she should be making some progress with food. I found her favorite shirt stained with something brown and some greasy stain on it today in at leat 7 or 8 spots. It took a half inch of stain stick to get it treated. Unfortunately this isn't at all unusual. In fact, her favorite clothes tend to get stained first. What can I do? What should I do to help her keep her food in her mouth/stomach or on her plate? Is this normal? Your 5-yo sounds normal to me. But I have an 8-yo who thinks shirts are really napkins that you wear Scott DD 10.5 and DS 8 |
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If you discover the trick, let me know.
Marijke mom to three teens who still stain their clothes on occasion "Karen G" wrote in message ... Am I expecting too much? My 5 year old is still doing quite a number on her clothing. I expect a certain amount of dirt, paint, and other "fun" stuff to get on her clothes, but it seems like she should be making some progress with food. I found her favorite shirt stained with something brown and some greasy stain on it today in at leat 7 or 8 spots. It took a half inch of stain stick to get it treated. Unfortunately this isn't at all unusual. In fact, her favorite clothes tend to get stained first. What can I do? What should I do to help her keep her food in her mouth/stomach or on her plate? Is this normal? Karen G PS Comparisons are odious, but my 3 year old doesn't have any trouble with this issue. |
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Hi - I had the same problem with one of my kids, now mostly resolved at age 8. We just keep reminding him to "sit up straight and eat over your plate". We had to be on top of him at all meals to enforce this. We also discovered that his abdominal muscles were very weak, so we started doing crunchers and stuff with him. It helped, and helped with sitting properly at the table! I hope these suggestions help, --Beth Kevles http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. NOTE: No email is read at my MIT address. Use the AOL one if you would like me to reply. |
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Karen G wrote: Am I expecting too much? My 5 year old is still doing quite a number on her clothing. I expect a certain amount of dirt, paint, and other "fun" stuff to get on her clothes, but it seems like she should be making some progress with food. I found her favorite shirt stained with something brown and some greasy stain on it today in at leat 7 or 8 spots. It took a half inch of stain stick to get it treated. Unfortunately this isn't at all unusual. In fact, her favorite clothes tend to get stained first. With my 7yo, I often have him take off his shirt to eat dinner if we are having something messy. Since he is a boy and rarely gets cold, he usually just eats with no shirt, but we do have some "grubby" tops he could put on instead if he wanted. His issues are usually related to fidgeting at the table (so he is not necessarily in his chair or eating over the table) or wiping his hands on his clothes. For this you just have to watch and remind frequently. It's getting better but... Good luck, Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) -- Support a family business and learn about the technologies underlying the Internet with the TCP/IP Guide! http://www.tcpipguide.com Special Limited-Time Offer for Educators Currently Available "Far and away the best prize that life has to offer is the chance to work hard at work worth doing." -- Theodore Roosevelt |
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Karen G wrote: Am I expecting too much? My 5 year old is still doing quite a number on her clothing. I expect a certain amount of dirt, paint, and other "fun" stuff to get on her clothes, but it seems like she should be making some progress with food. I found her favorite shirt stained with something brown and some greasy stain on it today in at leat 7 or 8 spots. It took a half inch of stain stick to get it treated. Unfortunately this isn't at all unusual. In fact, her favorite clothes tend to get stained first. What can I do? What should I do to help her keep her food in her mouth/stomach or on her plate? Is this normal? Karen G PS Comparisons are odious, but my 3 year old doesn't have any trouble with this issue. Some kids just seem to attract dirt. I'm one of them: my grandma told me that when I was a baby, she thought my mom wasn't doing a very good job, because I was ALWAYS dirty -- until she took care of me herself. I'm still like that. I have to work REALLY HARD to have my clothes clean at the end of the day. My kids joke about the "(maiden name) gene" -- there have been a few meals where a number of my family members have all ended up with similar spots on our clothing, and my kids think it's hilarious. I don't think any amount of prodding, cajolling, harping, or anything else could have made a difference: I am what I am. No matter how I sit, no matter how careful I am, no matter how attentive I am -- this is just the way it is. I've taken to useing "bibs" for messier meals. I think your best bet is to start teaching him now to take care of his own laundry: give HIM a stain stick, and show him how to use it, and get him to use it daily when he takes his clothes off at night. You'll have to help him at first, of course, but he'll start to notice when his clothes have gotten dirtier than normal, and that awareness may help him figure out how to be more careful (or not . . .). At a minimum, YOU will be out of the job of taking care of it! meh -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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"Karen G" wrote in message ... Am I expecting too much? My 5 year old is still doing quite a number on her clothing. I expect a certain amount of dirt, paint, and other "fun" stuff to get on her clothes, but it seems like she should be making some progress with food. [snip] Unfortunately this isn't at all unusual. In fact, her favorite clothes tend to get stained first. What can I do? What should I do to help her keep her food in her mouth/stomach or on her plate? Is this normal? It can be -- as you say, your 3 YO isn't like that, so not *all* kids are very messy with their food, but plenty of 5 YOs certainly are. However, you can stay on her while she is eating to eat over her plate. That's what I do. It does make meals less enjoyable, as I'm pretty much constantly saying either "please eat with your mouth closed!" to my 8 YO son (actually, he is finally getting better about that) or "please keep your food over your plate!" to my 5 YO daughter. Then, my husband gets worked up about my son not using his utensils -- he is almost 9 after all -- and about both of the kids not sitting face-front at the table! Dinnertime is not "bonding time" around here, to say the least. So, pick your poison: bug 'em during the meal, hoping that eventually they will internalize your lessons, or let it go for a while longer and take the dirty clothes. Maybe she could wear an apron? Karen G PS Comparisons are odious, but my 3 year old doesn't have any trouble with this issue. |
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In article , Beth Gallagher wrote:
"Karen G" wrote in message ... Am I expecting too much? My 5 year old is still doing quite a number on her clothing. I expect a certain amount of dirt, paint, and other "fun" stuff to get on her clothes, but it seems like she should be making some progress with food. [snip] Unfortunately this isn't at all unusual. In fact, her favorite clothes tend to get stained first. What can I do? What should I do to help her keep her food in her mouth/stomach or on her plate? Is this normal? It can be -- as you say, your 3 YO isn't like that, so not *all* kids are very messy with their food, but plenty of 5 YOs certainly are. However, you can stay on her while she is eating to eat over her plate. That's what I do. It does make meals less enjoyable, as I'm pretty much constantly saying either "please eat with your mouth closed!" to my 8 YO son (actually, he is finally getting better about that) or "please keep your food over your plate!" to my 5 YO daughter. Then, my husband gets worked up about my son not using his utensils -- he is almost 9 after all -- and about both of the kids not sitting face-front at the table! Dinnertime is not "bonding time" around here, to say the least. So, pick your poison: bug 'em during the meal, hoping that eventually they will internalize your lessons, or let it go for a while longer and take the dirty clothes. Maybe she could wear an apron? We've never had much problem with my son spilling food on his clothes---he's always had good fine motor control. We have had trouble getting him to sit down to eat. He prefers doing many things standing up (eating, writing, drawing). At home, we generally let him stand as long as he doesn't move away from the table without being excused, but in restaurants he has to sit. We also have to remind him to put his book on the other side of the plate or bowl, so that he doesn't spill anything on the books. (We only let him read at breakfast and lunch---at dinner we try to have conversation.) -- Kevin Karplus http://www.soe.ucsc.edu/~karplus life member (LAB, Adventure Cycling, American Youth Hostels) Effective Cycling Instructor #218-ck (lapsed) Professor of Biomolecular Engineering, University of California, Santa Cruz Undergraduate and Graduate Director, Bioinformatics Affiliations for identification only. |
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dragonlady wrote:
I think your best bet is to start teaching him now to take care of his own laundry: give HIM a stain stick, and show him how to use it, and get him to use it daily when he takes his clothes off at night. You'll have to help him at first, of course, but he'll start to notice when his clothes have gotten dirtier than normal, and that awareness may help him figure out how to be more careful (or not . . .). At a minimum, YOU will be out of the job of taking care of it! meh Thank You. I tought her how to use the stain stick last night. I gave her specific instructions about putting it on and washing her hands afterward. Obviously, the first time was pretty exciting. We'll see what she thinks of it in a week. Fortunately considering her age, she has good motor skills to work the stain stick--she said that it works just like a glue stick. Karen G |
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