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On Jul 10, 10:00 pm, Anne Rogers wrote:
Oh and the other thing is sometimes nothing helps. We feel helpless, but honestly sometimes we think just letting him cry for 10 mins in his crib seems to help. Maybe it helps him de-energize or something. only 10 minutes? some babies at this age will cry for hours and be unconsolable, 10 minutes really sounds very acceptable, your aim in life isn't for your child to never cry, or be soothed instantly, but to meet his needs, sometimes part of doing that includes some time crying. Cheers Anne I'm sorry, I wasn't clear. We'll let him cry it out for 10 mins before picking him up again. Sometimes that seems to help, although the wife is reluctant to do so. |
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ps.com... On Jul 10, 10:00 pm, Anne Rogers wrote: Oh and the other thing is sometimes nothing helps. We feel helpless, but honestly sometimes we think just letting him cry for 10 mins in his crib seems to help. Maybe it helps him de-energize or something. only 10 minutes? some babies at this age will cry for hours and be unconsolable, 10 minutes really sounds very acceptable, your aim in life isn't for your child to never cry, or be soothed instantly, but to meet his needs, sometimes part of doing that includes some time crying. Cheers Anne I'm sorry, I wasn't clear. We'll let him cry it out for 10 mins before picking him up again. Sometimes that seems to help, although the wife is reluctant to do so. Either which way, 10 minutes isn't very long to let him cry. Anne's comment, "your aim in life isn't for your child to never cry, or be soothed instantly, but to meet his needs, sometimes part of doing that includes some time crying" still stands true. For me, with both of my girls, I figured they'd only be babies once (heck, only be newborns once) and tried to spend as much time with them, holding them, feeding them, etc, as I could in those first 3 months. I mean, obviously they have to sleep, and they can't be in my arms 24/7, but at only 1 month old, your little bean is still so young, so immature, and is barely out of the womb. He's had the constant compantionship of your wife for the last 9 months, so it makes sense that he senses when he doesn't have someone near him and isn't a fan of it. Do you or your wife have a Baby Bjorn, or sling? That way you can wear him for an extended period of time, yet still do stuff around the house, even if it's sitting at the computer typing over/around your baby's head. That might help both you and your wife, and the baby, all get what they want. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys -- 01/03/03 Addison Grace -- 09/30/04 |
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"Jamie Clark" wrote in message ... snip Do you or your wife have a Baby Bjorn, or sling? That way you can wear him for an extended period of time, yet still do stuff around the house, even if it's sitting at the computer typing over/around your baby's head. That might help both you and your wife, and the baby, all get what they want. You don't need a sling to hold him and type on the keyboard. I'm feeding #3 as I type and don't need anything to hold him. Debbie |
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On Jul 11, 8:45 am, "Jamie Clark" wrote:
wrote in message ps.com... On Jul 10, 10:00 pm, Anne Rogers wrote: Oh and the other thing is sometimes nothing helps. We feel helpless, but honestly sometimes we think just letting him cry for 10 mins in his crib seems to help. Maybe it helps him de-energize or something. only 10 minutes? some babies at this age will cry for hours and be unconsolable, 10 minutes really sounds very acceptable, your aim in life isn't for your child to never cry, or be soothed instantly, but to meet his needs, sometimes part of doing that includes some time crying. Cheers Anne I'm sorry, I wasn't clear. We'll let him cry it out for 10 mins before picking him up again. Sometimes that seems to help, although the wife is reluctant to do so. Either which way, 10 minutes isn't very long to let him cry. Anne's comment, "your aim in life isn't for your child to never cry, or be soothed instantly, but to meet his needs, sometimes part of doing that includes some time crying" still stands true. For me, with both of my girls, I figured they'd only be babies once (heck, only be newborns once) and tried to spend as much time with them, holding them, feeding them, etc, as I could in those first 3 months. I mean, obviously they have to sleep, and they can't be in my arms 24/7, but at only 1 month old, your little bean is still so young, so immature, and is barely out of the womb. He's had the constant compantionship of your wife for the last 9 months, so it makes sense that he senses when he doesn't have someone near him and isn't a fan of it. Do you or your wife have a Baby Bjorn, or sling? That way you can wear him for an extended period of time, yet still do stuff around the house, even if it's sitting at the computer typing over/around your baby's head. That might help both you and your wife, and the baby, all get what they want. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys -- 01/03/03 Addison Grace -- 09/30/04- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Hi Jamie, Actually we're looking into the sling. She tried the snuggly, but it was too cumbersome to use. Some days my wife says he cries all day (off and on), for no apparent reason. |
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On Jul 11, 3:11 am, "Welches"
wrote: wrote in message oups.com... On Jul 10, 5:46 pm, Anne Rogers wrote: I agree with Jamie, as long as you don't just keep doing the same thing because it's what you've always done and at least give a brief try to what you ultimately want before trying other tricks, I don't think at this age you are making a rod for your own back. I know plenty of people who've not intended to co sleep, ended up doing so for the first 6 weeks, but not having any long term issues. Swaddling can be good, but I would be cautious just now depending on where you are, if you have air conditioning it would be fine, but here in WA we're having a heat wave and not many people have air con - swaddling a baby in these conditions would be dangerous. Cheers Anne Oh and the other thing is sometimes nothing helps. We feel helpless, but honestly sometimes we think just letting him cry for 10 mins in his crib seems to help. Maybe it helps him de-energize or something. I agree with Anne that 10 minutes is not long, although it can feel hours for you! He may be colicy at a month. Sometimes putting them down to cry for a few minutes can help. If they're windy and it doesn't seem to be coming out, then a few minutes crying seemed (for 2 of mine*) help it to come out. They'd burp as soon as I picked them up. It also tires them so then can then go off to sleep quicker. #3 is a month old (just) and he has on several occasions had to be left to cry (in moses basket) or taken out hungry and crying while I do something/fetch older sisters. Doesn't often happen but if I have to fetch #1 from school just as he decides he's hungry then he has to wait about 10 minutes. (I have tried feeding him in the sling, but he's too nosy and doesn't like lying down in the sling because he can't see!) Debbie *Leaving to cry didn't work for #2. She'd just get more and more hysterical and take for ever to calm down afterwards.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Here's another question, I've read that around 3 months things get better in regards to the crying. In other words it seems right now, when he's awake, he's crying sometimes he's just spacing out but for the most part he spends his day crying. Does it get better by three months? (I really hope so)...And what can we expect around 6 months in regards to crying? Thanks guys! |
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wrote in message oups.com... On Jul 11, 3:11 am, "Welches" wrote: wrote in message oups.com... On Jul 10, 5:46 pm, Anne Rogers wrote: I agree with Jamie, as long as you don't just keep doing the same thing because it's what you've always done and at least give a brief try to what you ultimately want before trying other tricks, I don't think at this age you are making a rod for your own back. I know plenty of people who've not intended to co sleep, ended up doing so for the first 6 weeks, but not having any long term issues. Swaddling can be good, but I would be cautious just now depending on where you are, if you have air conditioning it would be fine, but here in WA we're having a heat wave and not many people have air con - swaddling a baby in these conditions would be dangerous. Cheers Anne Oh and the other thing is sometimes nothing helps. We feel helpless, but honestly sometimes we think just letting him cry for 10 mins in his crib seems to help. Maybe it helps him de-energize or something. I agree with Anne that 10 minutes is not long, although it can feel hours for you! He may be colicy at a month. Sometimes putting them down to cry for a few minutes can help. If they're windy and it doesn't seem to be coming out, then a few minutes crying seemed (for 2 of mine*) help it to come out. They'd burp as soon as I picked them up. It also tires them so then can then go off to sleep quicker. #3 is a month old (just) and he has on several occasions had to be left to cry (in moses basket) or taken out hungry and crying while I do something/fetch older sisters. Doesn't often happen but if I have to fetch #1 from school just as he decides he's hungry then he has to wait about 10 minutes. (I have tried feeding him in the sling, but he's too nosy and doesn't like lying down in the sling because he can't see!) Debbie *Leaving to cry didn't work for #2. She'd just get more and more hysterical and take for ever to calm down afterwards.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Here's another question, I've read that around 3 months things get better in regards to the crying. In other words it seems right now, when he's awake, he's crying sometimes he's just spacing out but for the most part he spends his day crying. Does it get better by three months? (I really hope so)...And what can we expect around 6 months in regards to crying? For #2 I certainly remember it getting better round 3 months. It was very gradual, more suddenly thinking "hey, she hasn't sounded windy at night for a few nights" rather than a sudden change. At the moment they don't do a lot when awake except feed and cry. #3's began to bop his baby gym (neither of the others liked doing that) and will keep himself entertained for sometimes nearly 10 minutes! That's really long time for this age! Really the best thing for this age is an older sibling who will get on playing round them, and just keep them interested. I find the best thing for an inconsolable baby is the sling. Put them in the sling and walk down to the shops. Sometimes it was the only way of consoling #2 at that age. When I nannied, the first couple of weeks I tended to view it as a failure if the baby (he was 6 months) cried at all. So if they cried I felt panicky, which didn't help. About then I went out for the day with the baby and mother, and I discovered something. He cried even when his mother was there, even when she was holding him! After that I realised that he would cry at times and all I could do was my best to make sure he wasn't hungry, tired or needing a cuddle. Then I got on much better. So when you see these confident parents with their perpetually happy children, just remind yourself that these babies still cry. Debbie |
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"Welches" wrote in message
... "Jamie Clark" wrote in message ... snip Do you or your wife have a Baby Bjorn, or sling? That way you can wear him for an extended period of time, yet still do stuff around the house, even if it's sitting at the computer typing over/around your baby's head. That might help both you and your wife, and the baby, all get what they want. You don't need a sling to hold him and type on the keyboard. I'm feeding #3 as I type and don't need anything to hold him. Debbie While that's true, there are still lots of other things that they may be able to do more comfortably while wearing their child in some sort of carrier or sling, that they cannot do now, without one. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys -- 01/03/03 Addison Grace -- 09/30/04 |
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"Jamie Clark" wrote in message . .. "Welches" wrote in message ... "Jamie Clark" wrote in message ... snip Do you or your wife have a Baby Bjorn, or sling? That way you can wear him for an extended period of time, yet still do stuff around the house, even if it's sitting at the computer typing over/around your baby's head. That might help both you and your wife, and the baby, all get what they want. You don't need a sling to hold him and type on the keyboard. I'm feeding #3 as I type and don't need anything to hold him. Debbie While that's true, there are still lots of other things that they may be able to do more comfortably while wearing their child in some sort of carrier or sling, that they cannot do now, without one. -- Agreed: But if you're chopping veg. then make sure they're facing inwards rather than outwards once they're at the stage of grabbing! Debbie |
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