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OT - Potty training - can it be child-led? (xpost)
Welches wrote: Cathy Weeks wrote in message om... Hi all, My daughter is almost two, and all of a sudden has started asking to sit on the potty. She prefers to do it fully clothed, and while one of her parents are sitting on the toilet, but I figured it was time to start reading up on the topic. I don't think it's too early. Dd#1 asked for the potty and I followed her. She was trained in about a week at 21 months. Would have been quicker I think if I hadn't gone out on the second day and put her in pull-ups. She had been asking for the potty for 2-3 months before I thought I'd give training a try, because she had older friends who used it. Really not trying to be judgemental...bear with me. IF your child were asking for books, or climbing toys, would you put them off for 2-3 months because someone said they may not be ready? I know, it may be a weird sort of comparison, but if the kid is ASKING for the potty, or mimicking you at the toilet, could someone please explain to me why that wouldn't indicate readiness??? And what is the dread consequense of offering too early? (with books they couldn't read them for "real" and with climbing toys they may not be able to lift themselves onto it, but you're alREADY changing diapers... ;-) ) Dawn |
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OT - Potty training - can it be child-led? (xpost)
Are there any good potty training books or resources out there that
follow our philosophy? Cathy Weeks Mommy to Kivi Alexis 12/01 I don't know about any books with that philosophy as I never read any at all. I have made plenty of mistakes potty training in my time though. First was listening to my well-meaning but totally wrong mom and grandma who insisted I train my dd#1 as soon as she turned 2. Long story short. Didn't work, we ended up putting it off and she trained just after 3. Turned out she had a small bladder and wasn't night trained until after she was 6. Next child trained just after 3 also-he was pretty easy, the next was pushing 4 (that was a nightmare-I waited too long to encourage him), the next was 2 1/2 and I'm currently working on my almost 3 year old. This is what I have figured out in my 10 years of diapers and potty training. You have a window of time. In that window your child will have the physical ability to control bowel and bladder but won't yet have the will to show YOU that they can control it by not using the toilet when needed. In this time period you can gently encourage your child to use the toilet and they will run with it, no pushing, no tears, everyone is happy. Wait too long and the child will see the toilet as a control issue, too soon and they aren't physically ready-both scenarios are pure misery for everyone. The trick is FINDING that window. For my children that has been between 2 1/2 and 3. If you get them at just the right time potty training will be easy. My $.10 on potty training K- |
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OT - Potty training - can it be child-led? (xpost)
"Rosie" wrote in message ...
"Dawn Lawson" : It's not as big a deal as soooo many people seem to make it. Why HAS it become such an enormous deal? I can't help wondering who's funding the research I keep reading about that shows toddlers aren't ready until they are 2.5-3 years old. It's not Proctor and Gamble is it by any chance? Or am I too cynical? Welllll...I can't speak for most people, (and I agree that it has become a big deal) but for us, there is a history of traumatic potty training. My husband's mom *still* talks about the time he ran down the hall with poop falling onto the carpet, and she shudders. Chris doesn't remember it, but I definitely get the idea that it wasn't a fun experience. Top it all off, both my husband and I were bedwetters, and though that's a different issue, we both grew up with all *those* stories, and remember it ourselves, too. My cousin's little girl was also a problem. They read the books, let her run around naked, and she would hold it for 6 hours, refusing to use the toilet. She was older at the time - 3 years old. She'd start to cry and beg for her diaper. It was a total power struggle, and I told them more than once to just give it up, that she wasn't ready (emotionally anyway). Eventually they did, and two weeks later, she asked her mother why she didn't want her to use diapers, and her mom said "I'm just tired of changing your diapers. But if you want to go longer, that's ok". She thought it over, and 3 days later asked to use the potty, and she was trained in something like 3 days. It was terrible leading up to that, though. So, I guess I'm a bit hyper-sensitive. Cathy Weeks Mommy to Kivi Alexis 12/01 |
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OT - Potty training - can it be child-led? (xpost)
Dawn Lawson wrote in message news:irOub.436983$9l5.295329@pd7tw2no...
My guess is that she's still a bit young for this - she is starting to show some signs of readiness: She tells me when she poops, and is asking to be changed (a huge change from 18 months of HATING to be changed), but she isn't showing other signs - she doesn't hold her pee consciously as far as I can tell, or even understand the concept of waiting. My guess is that she's starting to be aware of the function of the toilet and is copying us. I got the potty out because she *asked* to poop on the potty (I about fell over in shock!). Good grief,exactly WHAT would indicate readiness if not all this??? Why is she too young? Plenty of kids have historically been at least partially trained by this age. Well, one of the big ones, is going long periods of time (an hour or two) while staying dry - like the bladder waits longer before the urge to go hits, or something. She goes pretty frequently. Cathy Weeks Mommy to Kivi Alexis 12/01 |
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On Wed, 19 Nov 2003 14:09:18 -0500, "Sophie"
wrote: Sophie #4 due 7/18/04 Hey Sophie....I didn't know you were already expecting #4. Congrats! --Lisabell |
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OT - Potty training - can it be child-led? (xpost)
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LisaBell wrote: Hey Sophie....I didn't know you were already expecting #4. Congrats! I don't hink I knew either, but I have a terrible memory -- all the best, Sophie! -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "Jeez; if only those Ancient Greek storytellers had known about the astonishing creature that is the *Usenet hydra*: you cut off one head, and *a stupider one* grows back..." -- MJ, cam.misc |
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OT - Potty training - can it be child-led? (xpost)
"Dawn Lawson" wrote in message news:M1Rub.438050$9l5.2367@pd7tw2no... I know, it may be a weird sort of comparison, but if the kid is ASKING for the potty, or mimicking you at the toilet, could someone please explain to me why that wouldn't indicate readiness??? Well, this is an extreme example, but just because DS loves to play with the food processer pieces (minus the blades) on the kitchen floor, and mimics my cooking behaviors doesn't mean he's ready to plug the thing in and use it, or work at the stove. Or when he plays 'baby' does that mean I should let him start changing DD's diaper? Kids love to mimic and pretend they're adults. It should be encouraged and enjoyed up to a point, but it doesn't *necessarily* mean they're ready to actually do those things. Some kids are ready to start potty training when they start to mimic, and that's great. Others (like mine) are happy to mimic a day or two and then just aren't interested anymore. Should I force him to sit on the potty? Would that make him want to go? -- Jodi SAHM to Oliver (2 years, 9 months) & Arwen (7 months) |
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OT - Potty training - can it be child-led? (xpost)
hobbes wrote: "Dawn Lawson" wrote in message news:M1Rub.438050$9l5.2367@pd7tw2no... I know, it may be a weird sort of comparison, but if the kid is ASKING for the potty, or mimicking you at the toilet, could someone please explain to me why that wouldn't indicate readiness??? Well, this is an extreme example, but just because DS loves to play with the food processer pieces (minus the blades) on the kitchen floor, and mimics my cooking behaviors doesn't mean he's ready to plug the thing in and use it, or work at the stove. Or when he plays 'baby' does that mean I should let him start changing DD's diaper? Both of those examples have clear dangers associated wtih letting the child "play" more seriously. I'm asking why something as innocuous as sitting on the potty is seen as so potentially damaging a thing to encourage, which it seems to be, as people ignore the child's requests. Kids love to mimic and pretend they're adults. It should be encouraged and enjoyed up to a point, but it doesn't *necessarily* mean they're ready to actually do those things. Some kids are ready to start potty training when they start to mimic, and that's great. Others (like mine) are happy to mimic a day or two and then just aren't interested anymore. Should I force him to sit on the potty? Would that make him want to go? Who said anything about forcing...here we go again with the dicotomy of let the child decide or force them. Can you not see an option? Encouraging the mimicing, actively including potty behaviour into the list of things we encourage our kids to learn, like eating with utensils, playing with toys, looking at books, etc. I don't see that that sort of thing is unreasonable, traumatic, damaging or ineffective. What is the problem with "catching" a few pees or poops by the child playing and mimicking? That's how a LOT of skills are developed, and we don't discourage a kid from "reading" a book just because they can't really read and are just muttering in what Rosies mom aptly calls "scribble talk". SOME things kids want to do are, in the interest of safety or expense, obviously best discouraged, but I just have no idea why potty training is on that list. Dawn -- Jodi SAHM to Oliver (2 years, 9 months) & Arwen (7 months) |
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