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Too early to have baby #2
Just looking for some opinions/experiences of others in my situation.
I have a 17 month old who is generally very well behaved and was an excellent baby (Slept 10 hrs after 3 wks, fed well, mild tempered etc) and myself and my husband are starting to think about trying for baby #2. Were both young 24 & 25, have been married for 2 yrs, have great jobs a house of our own blah blah blah....what do you think? Our plan was to start trying when baby #1 turns 2 but now were thinking the 3 yr age gap would be too much....any ideas? were leaning towards trying NOW...we KNOW we want #2 and were ready, just wondering if it would be harder to do it now when baby #1 is young or easier when his 3 yrs. I know its not gonna be easy either way...LOL Just looking for opinions TIA |
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Too early to have baby #2
"Blue Eyes Blue" wrote in message oups.com... Just looking for some opinions/experiences of others in my situation. I have a 17 month old who is generally very well behaved and was an excellent baby (Slept 10 hrs after 3 wks, fed well, mild tempered etc) and myself and blah blah....what do you think? Our plan was to start trying when baby #1 turns 2 but now were thinking the 3 yr age gap would be too much....any ideas? were leaning towards trying NOW...we KNOW we want #2 and were ready, just wondering if it would be harder to do it now when baby #1 is young or easier when his 3 yrs. I know its not gonna be easy either way...LOL Just looking for opinions TIA I have boys 1 year, 1 month and 2 days apart in age. Also will have 2 girls that are close in age - DD will be 15 months when this one is due. There's also 4 and a half years age difference between DS and DD. I like close in age. Things I've found is that you don't have to pack away all the baby stuff, as almost when one grows out of it, the other will use it shortly. Also, there's always a playmate that's kinda close to your age. You go through the stages, basically, as one big blow, but then it's all done with around the same time and then you move on to the next 'stage' - like potty training, the years of "NO!", preteen age, etc. I also found that when DD was born, even though there's only 4 and a half years between DS and DD, I almost felt like I was starting all over as a brand new parent. I had long ago passed the stage of getting up at night, changing diapers, having this little, tiny, useless thing crying at me and not knowing why, and all that 'baby' stuff. Now with DD#2 on her way, I feel more ready, kinda. I am still in the diapers stage, so I fear no diaper lol Also, as kind of convenient as it is, I have a place to put the baby with DD in her room, as we don't have the extra bedroom for another baby - DD and this one will be close in age, have similar interests around the same time and sharing a room with someone your own age is a plus - sure beats putting a 4 or 5 year old in with a newborn or one that's not very old and still in a crib or something. I don't think trying to start when your baby is 17 months is too long or too short for age difference. Also, keep in mind how it can be very easy or very difficult to get pg. Some try for years, others hit bang on with the first month. All mine were fairly easy - basically first try - but I'm sure I got lucky with that, as there are some who try and try and try, others who just try, and this goes for second and third and so on, just as often as first. I think for each person/couple, it all depends on how you both feel. If now feels good, then go for it! |
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Too early to have baby #2
Blue Eyes Blue wrote:
Just looking for some opinions/experiences of others in my situation. I have a 17 month old who is generally very well behaved and was an excellent baby (Slept 10 hrs after 3 wks, fed well, mild tempered etc) and myself and my husband are starting to think about trying for baby #2. Were both young 24 & 25, have been married for 2 yrs, have great jobs a house of our own blah blah blah....what do you think? Our plan was to start trying when baby #1 turns 2 but now were thinking the 3 yr age gap would be too much....any ideas? were leaning towards trying NOW...we KNOW we want #2 and were ready, just wondering if it would be harder to do it now when baby #1 is young or easier when his 3 yrs. I know its not gonna be easy either way...LOL Just looking for opinions TIA If you and your dh are on the same page, then go for it. If you were to get pregnant on the first try, your older child would be just over 2 (26 months) when the second comes along, which many people think of as the perfect age gap. And if it takes longer, that gap is going to get longer as well, but you have almost a year before you hit the 3 year gap. And if it takes that long, then it takes that long, but at least you tried, right? As with anything, there are pluses and minuses for any age gap. The benefit to 3 years between is that the older child may be potty trained and in preschool, which would allow you some one-on-one time with your new baby. Also, it's much easier to communicate with a 3 year old -- they can follow directions, and understand that they have a new baby in the house, and they can't always have your undivided attention. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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Too early to have baby #2
Blue Eyes Blue wrote:
Just looking for some opinions/experiences of others in my situation. I have a 17 month old who is generally very well behaved and was an excellent baby (Slept 10 hrs after 3 wks, fed well, mild tempered etc) and myself and my husband are starting to think about trying for baby #2. Were both young 24 & 25, have been married for 2 yrs, have great jobs a house of our own blah blah blah....what do you think? Our plan was to start trying when baby #1 turns 2 but now were thinking the 3 yr age gap would be too much....any ideas? were leaning towards trying NOW...we KNOW we want #2 and were ready, just wondering if it would be harder to do it now when baby #1 is young or easier when his 3 yrs. I know its not gonna be easy either way...LOL Just looking for opinions TIA Nah it's not too early, not if you and your husband both want to go ahead. There are pros and cons to all situations, I don't see why you shouldn't revise your plan given circumstances. Elle DD Feb 23, 2005 #2 due April 2007 |
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Too early to have baby #2
Blue Eyes Blue wrote:
Just looking for some opinions/experiences of others in my situation. I have a 17 month old who is generally very well behaved and was an excellent baby (Slept 10 hrs after 3 wks, fed well, mild tempered etc) and myself and my husband are starting to think about trying for baby #2. Were both young 24 & 25, have been married for 2 yrs, have great jobs a house of our own blah blah blah....what do you think? Our plan was to start trying when baby #1 turns 2 but now were thinking the 3 yr age gap would be too much....any ideas? were leaning towards trying NOW...we KNOW we want #2 and were ready, just wondering if it would be harder to do it now when baby #1 is young or easier when his 3 yrs. I know its not gonna be easy either way...LOL Just looking for opinions Medically, it's not too soon. Other than that, it's a very personal decision. Some people like longer gaps and some like them closer together. Pretty much every gap has pros and cons, and there is no magic gap that guarantees that your kids will get along/play with each other/share interests/whatever. If you get pregnant now, you'll have a fairly high maintenance 2.5yo when the baby arrives, which can be a little wearing, but frankly, an almost 3yo isn't much better in that department. I think in these situations, you just do whatever you feel most comfortable with. And really, even that isn't cast in stone. You can start trying now, but there's no guarantee that you won't end up with a 3 year--or greater-- gap anyway. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Too early to have baby #2
Just looking for some opinions/experiences of others in my situation.
I have a 17 month old who is generally very well behaved and was an excellent baby (Slept 10 hrs after 3 wks, fed well, mild tempered etc) and myself and my husband are starting to think about trying for baby #2. Were both young 24 & 25, have been married for 2 yrs, have great jobs a house of our own blah blah blah....what do you think? Our plan was to start trying when baby #1 turns 2 but now were thinking the 3 yr age gap would be too much....any ideas? were leaning towards trying NOW...we KNOW we want #2 and were ready, just wondering if it would be harder to do it now when baby #1 is young or easier when his 3 yrs. I know its not gonna be easy either way...LOL Just looking for opinions TIA you sound very much like me and my husband, we are young, 26&25 now, but our youngest is the same age as your one and only. We started trying for her just as our then one and only was 16ish months and we'd just had our 2nd wedding anniversary, we conceived straight away and ended up with a due date the same as or due date had been 2 years previously, our kids ended up having birthdays 2 weeks apart though. I have to say that I think our older adapted well to having a sister when he had just turned 2, and seeing the way he is now at 3 and a quarter that I don't think he'd react nearly so well, so from that point of view sooner was better. All our difficulties have been due to a difficult delivery with number 2, which could have happened whenever she had been born, it's hard to imagine life without those problems now, but we've survived even with those problems, we love having 2 kids, if we hadn't had those problems, we'd be loving it even more! Personally I thought I'd manage pregnancy better with a 1-2 yr old then a 2-3yr old, they tend to sleep more, if you need to carry them, they are lighter, etc. Difficult to say whether I was right or not, but basically pregnancy went fine and was fairly similar in how I coped to the first, when I was working full time (or rather working 3 jobs!). Caring for a 2 yr old and a baby turned out to be fine, much easier than I had expected, I did a lot of reading to the 2 yr old whilst nursing the newborn. All in all, I have no regrets in just going for it, once we had decided to do it, as I got pregnant first cycle the gap was closer than I might have expected, but I think that was actually the best way it could have worked out. Cheers Anne |
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Too early to have baby #2
Blue Eyes Blue wrote:
Just looking for some opinions/experiences of others in my situation. I have a 17 month old who is generally very well behaved and was an excellent baby (Slept 10 hrs after 3 wks, fed well, mild tempered etc) and myself and my husband are starting to think about trying for baby #2. Were both young 24 & 25, have been married for 2 yrs, have great jobs a house of our own blah blah blah....what do you think? Our plan was to start trying when baby #1 turns 2 but now were thinking the 3 yr age gap would be too much....any ideas? were leaning towards trying NOW...we KNOW we want #2 and were ready, just wondering if it would be harder to do it now when baby #1 is young or easier when his 3 yrs. I know its not gonna be easy either way...LOL Just looking for opinions TIA There's something to be said for letting a baby BE the baby for as long as possible. Mine are almost exactly 5 years apart and while they were not great playmates, the older one was old enough to be ready to give up being the baby and never really resented her brother or the attention he needed. ' Now, as adults, they are quite close. gloria p |
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Too early to have baby #2
"Blue Eyes Blue" wrote in message oups.com... Just looking for some opinions/experiences of others in my situation. I have a 17 month old who is generally very well behaved and was an excellent baby (Slept 10 hrs after 3 wks, fed well, mild tempered etc) and myself and my husband are starting to think about trying for baby #2. Were both young 24 & 25, have been married for 2 yrs, have great jobs a house of our own blah blah blah....what do you think? I think you should do whatever sounds good to you. :-) There are pro's and con's to all age spacing. My first two are 24mos apart. My oldest was not sleeping well and still nursing when I got pregnant and I always say I'll never do that again but everything else was good. I thought it was a good age spacing. :-D. -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 |
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Too early to have baby #2
Blue Eyes Blue writes:
: Just looking for some opinions/experiences of others in my situation. : I have a 17 month old who is generally very well behaved and was an : excellent baby (Slept 10 hrs after 3 wks, fed well, mild tempered etc) : and myself and my husband are starting to think about trying for baby : #2. Were both young 24 & 25, have been married for 2 yrs, have great : jobs a house of our own blah blah blah....what do you think? Our plan : was to start trying when baby #1 turns 2 but now were thinking the 3 yr : age gap would be too much....any ideas? were leaning towards trying : NOW...we KNOW we want #2 and were ready, just wondering if it would be : harder to do it now when baby #1 is young or easier when his 3 yrs. I : know its not gonna be easy either way...LOL Just looking for opinions : TIA Studies show that you body is best ready to have a new baby between 18 and 30 months after the last. Since both your early and late dates fall in that range, I would say go for it whenever you want! Is that an informed non-answer? :-) Larry |
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