another expecting the unexpected

I guess that counts as an announcement! Much to our surprise we seem to
be expecting number 3. Over the last few months I finally got to the
point where I was content with not having another child, regardless of
happenings in pregnancy we'd planned to have a gap between 2 and 3
anyway. With a bad pregnancy and birth for number 2 it took me a long
time to process that number 3 wasn't going to happen, but I eventually
swung round and was starting to feel that actually I didn't want one
after a long gap, I was beginning to enjoy the freedom!

In early September, I joked with my husband that if I got pregnant later
that month, I'd have the same due date as both our previous children,
who were both due on 14th June. I think fate settled things at that
point, we think I must have got pregnant the first time I used a new
diaphragm, I remember checking it was over my cervix when I used it and
I'm pretty sure I used the right about or spermicide, but even used
correctly, I know it's only about 95% reliable. Ironically, I'd made an
appointment where I intended to ask about other more reliable methods,
but by then it was too late!

I'm now 7+1, so it's still early days, but I'm very sick, more than
either of my other pregnancies, so I'm hopeful that it will stick
around! Having had the other two in the UK, I know live in the US, so
I've got the system here to figure out now! I'd investigated it before
and had thought that I would probably not be accepted by a midwife, but
it turns out that the nearest to us are a pair where one is also a
natropathic doctor, that qualification gives them a lot more breathing
room in state law as they can consult her rather than going to an
obstetrician and they have taken me on, which was such a relief. I've
explained how there are situations where I wouldn't take the chance of a
vaginal birth and they are happy with that and keen to work with me to
avoid those situations - having had a severe injury from birthing a
posterior baby that didn't turn, I'm not happy going into labour with
anything other than a good position.

This is great news as my biggest fear had been vaginal birth in
hospital, if it's coming out that way then I want to be in water under
the care of a midwife I know, not whichever nurse is assigned and the
doctor called at the very end.

I've already had some bloods drawn and they all came back fine other
than very low vitamin D, I don't know if I've ever had that tested
before, I remember reading somewhere about vitamin D being related to
perception of pain in someway, so it will be interesting to see what
happens. I'm supposed to be taking 5000IU per day. The problem is, I'm
sick so often, I don't know how much stays down!

I'm curious as to the frequent sickness, I was very nauseous with #1,
but only sick twice at 14 and 28 weeks, so not even first trimester.
With #2 I had less nausea and more sickness, but it was right through so
it was probably only a couple of times in the first trimester, right
now I'm sick in the morning on an almost daily basis and occasionally at
other times of day. #1 was a boy and #2 was a girl, so I can't attribute
this to the baby being the opposite sex! Twins did cross my mind, but
I'm not rushing to get a scan to figure that out, though if it
continues, I might consider it as I would find it very reassuring to
find out it's only one!

This group is really quiet these days, where else are people hanging
out? I've really valued having people to talk to, but message boards
that stick 10 messages per page and have loads of colours and no
restrictions about people putting tickers in their signatures drive me
crazy!

Cheers
Anne