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I'm Baaaaack!
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Well, I've been off the ngs for almost 2 weeks -- I got hit in a major way by the Sasser worm. My computer was so infected that it wouldn't stay up for more than 10-20 minutes without crashing. I couldn't connect to the internet to fix it, and finally had to have Microsoft fax me the fix instructions. And, all the while, I could only work for about 10 minutes at a time before it crashed again, so the fix was slow going. But, it seems to be back up and running now. Oy. What a nightmare. I've been so stressed -- it's been down since the end of April, and I'm responsible for creating and printing the programs for our neighborhood Garden Tour (10-12 pages), which is in a few weeks, as well as our every-other month neighborhood newsletter (12 pages) which is due out June 1st, PLUS I've got to start working on our next Dear Birthmother letter! Can you say stressed!!!!! Yikes! So that brings us up to today... Well, it's official. We have signed up for Booga #2. We had our sign up appointment today at our adoption agency. The meeting went fine. We met with a counselor that we'd known from last time. Our meeting was very easy and casual -- more like a visit or chat than an official home study meeting. We had Taylor with us, so much of the meeting was spent talking to and about her -- what a cutie she is, etc. I turned in all of our paperwork, and have just a few items outstanding -- three, I think. I have to get a certified copy of our marriage license, wait for the Dr. to let me know that the medical tests are back so I can pick up those documents and hand deliver them to the agency, and I'm waiting for our last letter of recommendation. Other than that, it's all turned in and filled out. We may be "in the book" in June, which is exciting. Apparently the home study process for second timers at this agency, and the finalization process for any second timer in the state within 5 years is much faster! Yipeee! Also, she did say that she thought that people who were adopting a second time were in a good place to be chosen -- you are a proven parent, and a proven *adoptive* parent, and even better if adoption #1 was an open adoption. So, that leaves me feeling very hopeful. It still might take longer than it did the first time, but the pressure is off, since we have Taylor. Anyway, it went really well, and I'm feeling very relaxed about it all. -- Jamie & Taylor Earth Angel, 1/3/03 Check out Taylor Marlys -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password Handmade Baby Blankets -- www.geocities.com/digit_the_cat/Blankets.html |
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"Jamie Clark" wrote in message hlink.net... All, Well, I've been off the ngs for almost 2 weeks -- I got hit in a major way by the Sasser worm. My computer was so infected that it wouldn't stay up for more than 10-20 minutes without crashing. I couldn't connect to the internet to fix it, and finally had to have Microsoft fax me the fix instructions. And, all the while, I could only work for about 10 minutes at a time before it crashed again, so the fix was slow going. But, it seems to be back up and running now. Oy. What a nightmare. I've been so stressed -- it's been down since the end of April, and I'm responsible for creating and printing the programs for our neighborhood Garden Tour (10-12 pages), which is in a few weeks, as well as our every-other month neighborhood newsletter (12 pages) which is due out June 1st, PLUS I've got to start working on our next Dear Birthmother letter! Can you say stressed!!!!! Yikes! So that brings us up to today... Well, it's official. We have signed up for Booga #2. We had our sign up appointment today at our adoption agency. The meeting went fine. We met with a counselor that we'd known from last time. Our meeting was very easy and casual -- more like a visit or chat than an official home study meeting. We had Taylor with us, so much of the meeting was spent talking to and about her -- what a cutie she is, etc. I turned in all of our paperwork, and have just a few items outstanding -- three, I think. I have to get a certified copy of our marriage license, wait for the Dr. to let me know that the medical tests are back so I can pick up those documents and hand deliver them to the agency, and I'm waiting for our last letter of recommendation. Other than that, it's all turned in and filled out. We may be "in the book" in June, which is exciting. Apparently the home study process for second timers at this agency, and the finalization process for any second timer in the state within 5 years is much faster! Yipeee! Also, she did say that she thought that people who were adopting a second time were in a good place to be chosen -- you are a proven parent, and a proven *adoptive* parent, and even better if adoption #1 was an open adoption. So, that leaves me feeling very hopeful. It still might take longer than it did the first time, but the pressure is off, since we have Taylor. Anyway, it went really well, and I'm feeling very relaxed about it all. -- Jamie & Taylor Earth Angel, 1/3/03 Congratulations! I'm so happy for you! My girlfriend just went to California to get her baby and she's BEAUTIFUL! My brother and sister in law had trouble with the first birth mother (she ended up keeping the baby), but they are working with another birth mother now and so far so good (fingers crossed!). - Jen |
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"Jamie Clark" wrote in message hlink.net... snip Well, it's official. We have signed up for Booga #2. We had our sign up appointment today at our adoption agency. The meeting went fine. We met with a counselor that we'd known from last time. Our meeting was very easy and casual -- more like a visit or chat than an official home study meeting. We had Taylor with us, so much of the meeting was spent talking to and about her -- what a cutie she is, etc. I turned in all of our paperwork, and have just a few items outstanding -- three, I think. I have to get a certified copy of our marriage license, wait for the Dr. to let me know that the medical tests are back so I can pick up those documents and hand deliver them to the agency, and I'm waiting for our last letter of recommendation. Other than that, it's all turned in and filled out. We may be "in the book" in June, which is exciting. Apparently the home study process for second timers at this agency, and the finalization process for any second timer in the state within 5 years is much faster! Yipeee! Also, she did say that she thought that people who were adopting a second time were in a good place to be chosen -- you are a proven parent, and a proven *adoptive* parent, and even better if adoption #1 was an open adoption. So, that leaves me feeling very hopeful. It still might take longer than it did the first time, but the pressure is off, since we have Taylor. Anyway, it went really well, and I'm feeling very relaxed about it all. -- Congratulations Jamie ... I hope the road to getting 'Booga #2' is smooth and fast. Amanda -- DD 15th August 2002 1 tiny angel Nov 2003 EDD 19th August 2004 |
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Me Tori -- Bonnie 3/20/02 Anna or Xavier due 10/17/04 "Christine" wrote in message ... I'm Baaaaack |
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"A&G&K" wrote in message ... "Jamie Clark" wrote in message hlink.net... snip Well, it's official. We have signed up for Booga #2. We had our sign up appointment today at our adoption agency. The meeting went fine. We met with a counselor that we'd known from last time. Our meeting was very easy and casual -- more like a visit or chat than an official home study meeting. Congratulations Jamie ... I hope the road to getting 'Booga #2' is smooth and fast. Amanda -- DD 15th August 2002 1 tiny angel Nov 2003 EDD 19th August 2004 I just wanted to say that they had a segment on open adoptions in the US that aired on a major current affairs show here (Australia) last night. While it was interesting to see the process, it also made me cry the whole way through. The young birthmother had picked a young couple who seemed like a perfect match. The birthmother had asked what open adoption meant to each prospective couple. One older couple answered that they'd call her "Aunty x" or that she could be like a big sister ... which I thought was a bit strange. The birthmother pointed this out as being particularly "wrong" to her as it was essentially a lie. The couple that were chosen as the right parents for the baby seemed a lot more inclusive of the birthmother and encouraged her to phone them even if she'd had a dream about the baby boy and wanted to come and see him..... It was such a tearjerker, but I did find it very interesting. Amanda -- DD 15th August 2002 1 tiny angel Nov 2003 EDD 19th August 2004 |
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I just wanted to say that they had a segment on open adoptions in the US
that aired on a major current affairs show here (Australia) last night. While it was interesting to see the process, it also made me cry the whole way through. The young birthmother had picked a young couple who seemed like a perfect match. The birthmother had asked what open adoption meant to each prospective couple. One older couple answered that they'd call her "Aunty x" or that she could be like a big sister ... which I thought was a bit strange. The birthmother pointed this out as being particularly "wrong" to her as it was essentially a lie. The couple that were chosen as the right parents for the baby seemed a lot more inclusive of the birthmother and encouraged her to phone them even if she'd had a dream about the baby boy and wanted to come and see him..... It was such a tearjerker, but I did find it very interesting. Amanda Was this with Barbara Walters? The girl was only 16? If so I felt bad for the girl and her mother. If the step-father had said she could keep the baby, she would have. I think the couple will regret having an open adoption in the long run. |
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"Sophie" wrote in message ... I just wanted to say that they had a segment on open adoptions in the US that aired on a major current affairs show here (Australia) last night. While it was interesting to see the process, it also made me cry the whole way through. The young birthmother had picked a young couple who seemed like a perfect match. The birthmother had asked what open adoption meant to each prospective couple. One older couple answered that they'd call her "Aunty x" or that she could be like a big sister ... which I thought was a bit strange. The birthmother pointed this out as being particularly "wrong" to her as it was essentially a lie. The couple that were chosen as the right parents for the baby seemed a lot more inclusive of the birthmother and encouraged her to phone them even if she'd had a dream about the baby boy and wanted to come and see him..... It was such a tearjerker, but I did find it very interesting. Amanda Was this with Barbara Walters? The girl was only 16? If so I felt bad for the girl and her mother. If the step-father had said she could keep the baby, she would have. I think the couple will regret having an open adoption in the long run. It may have been, the same one I think ... although don't recall the girl's parents saying much about it (probably edited out). My heart did ache for the girl and I can only imagine the pain she as going through. I think its hard to say if the couple will regret it though ... just judging from two of my cousin's reactions to finding out who their birth parents were at around 20 years of age (they did always know they were adopted). One birthmother didn't want to know one of my cousins which really upset her. She had a hard time trying to understand how on earth her mother could give her up, and then when she decided to lift the block on her details at the government office which overseas adoption records, she was hurt that her birthmother had not made any attempt to find her. She was also devastated when her birthmother refused to give her her birthfather's name, even though she knew who it was. At the other extreme, both my other cousin's birth parents found out his details, looked up the name on the internet and just turned up at his office one day (his internet site was professional) and said "hi, we're your birth parents". They pestered him for months and even asked that he forgo Christmas with his family (us) to spend it with his "real" family. He ended up getting a restraining order and then eventually moved back to this State where most of his family live. Both of them were angry in different ways, and indeed the constant pestering of one cousin by his birth parents drove him into a deep depression. While my Aunt and Uncle supported their children's decisions whatever they decided, it was hard to deal with the fall-out over their children's individual reactions to finding their birthparent/s. Looking back, I think my female cousin might have coped better if she'd at least met her birthmother as a child (not permitted here in the 70s), and that my male cousin may have been better able to cope if he'd been able to meet his birthparents in familiar surrounds and with family support (instead of feeling isolated by living interstate at the time of the initial meeting). I guess it depends on the individual. I find it very interesting though. Amanda -- DD 15th August 2002 1 tiny angel Nov 2003 EDD 19th August 2004 |
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