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Won't go potty at home
We have been trying to train our 2 1/2 yo daughter for almost a
month. It started out kind of rough and we switched from panties to pullups (at daycare's request). After that, things were good. She would sit on the potty a couple of times at daycare, sometime succeeding and sometimes not. On friday, she was dry ALL DAY at daycare. Yeah. I thought the end was near. She didn't use the potty at home all night. she went off with my dad saturday night and stayed dry all night (except for poop, still working on that), and was dry in the morning. When she came home, failure again. She used to go really good for me at home, but recently, she had stopped. Whenever I ask her, she says she doesn't have to go. When she has an accident, I try not to get mad, but it is getting hard. I know she knows better. Any suggestions? Also, on friday, my husband left on a business trip for two weeks, could this cause her sudden regression at home? |
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"mylittlelisa" wrote in message ups.com... We have been trying to train our 2 1/2 yo daughter for almost a month. It started out kind of rough and we switched from panties to pullups (at daycare's request). After that, things were good. She would sit on the potty a couple of times at daycare, sometime succeeding and sometimes not. On friday, she was dry ALL DAY at daycare. Yeah. I thought the end was near. She didn't use the potty at home all night. she went off with my dad saturday night and stayed dry all night (except for poop, still working on that), and was dry in the morning. When she came home, failure again. She used to go really good for me at home, but recently, she had stopped. Whenever I ask her, she says she doesn't have to go. When she has an accident, I try not to get mad, but it is getting hard. I know she knows better. Any suggestions? Also, on friday, my husband left on a business trip for two weeks, could this cause her sudden regression at home? LOL No help, but commiseration. This almost but not quite there stage is frustrating, to say the least. I have the opposite problem. My 2 1/2 yr old does great at home, but won't go outside the house. She'll talk about it, get her "circle", sit on it and...nothing. The good news is that she has an iron bladder, and can easily make it several hours without distress, but even past that point, she'll sit on the thing and do nothing, then gets very upset when she just can't hold it anymore. We do use pull-ups away from the house, just in case, and 90% of the time they stay dry, and it upsets her to no end to have an accident in the pullups, so I don't think it's a case of not feeling a need because of the difference between pull-ups and panties. |
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On Jun 26, 4:22?pm, mylittlelisa wrote:
We have been trying to train our 2 1/2 yo daughter for almost a month. It started out kind of rough and we switched from panties to pullups (at daycare's request). After that, things were good. She would sit on the potty a couple of times at daycare, sometime succeeding and sometimes not. On friday, she was dry ALL DAY at daycare. Yeah. I thought the end was near. She didn't use the potty at home all night. she went off with my dad saturday night and stayed dry all night (except for poop, still working on that), and was dry in the morning. When she came home, failure again. She used to go really good for me at home, but recently, she had stopped. Whenever I ask her, she says she doesn't have to go. When she has an accident, I try not to get mad, but it is getting hard. I know she knows better. Any suggestions? Also, on friday, my husband left on a business trip for two weeks, could this cause her sudden regression at home? I would switch to the cotton training undies while at home. Most kids don't like it when they have accidents in those. I think it is natural for kids to go back and forth with the whole thing. You have to remember that pushing it can also cause problems. My ped shared that there are a few things, and I think there were 4, even though I can only remember 3, that we cannot control--sleeping, eating, and going potty. Some kids take joy in the discovery that we cannot control them too. lol. There isn't any need to show your frustration with her either; that can backfire as well. Making accidents not so easy can help too; things like putting her standing up in the tub with water running only (so it doesn't fill up) for the clean up process afterward can cause them to realize "Hey, every time I do this, I have to stand in the tub, get washed up, and get a chill, which I don't like." lol. There is still plenty of time and hope for a 2.5-year-old too. |
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Won't go potty at home
"mylittlelisa" wrote in message ups.com... We have been trying to train our 2 1/2 yo daughter for almost a month. It started out kind of rough and we switched from panties to pullups (at daycare's request). After that, things were good. She would sit on the potty a couple of times at daycare, sometime succeeding and sometimes not. On friday, she was dry ALL DAY at daycare. Yeah. I thought the end was near. She didn't use the potty at home all night. she went off with my dad saturday night and stayed dry all night (except for poop, still working on that), and was dry in the morning. When she came home, failure again. She used to go really good for me at home, but recently, she had stopped. Whenever I ask her, she says she doesn't have to go. When she has an accident, I try not to get mad, but it is getting hard. I know she knows better. Any suggestions? Also, on friday, my husband left on a business trip for two weeks, could this cause her sudden regression at home? My only suggestion would be that at 2 1/2 you consider successful potty training gravy and not strictly necessary. Many a successful potty user has balked once they realize that you mean them to do it *all the time from now on.* Whether or not she knows what you want and is capable of doing it, she can have any number of thoughts or feelings on the subject from what a pain in the neck to have to stop what I am doing to go, to hey it seems Mommy wants this a lot more than I do I wonder why? to... well anything. Work the whole process cheerfully and with detachment. If you can't do that, I would probably recommend abandoning it for now. If the child were approaching 4 or beyond 4 my thougts might be different. |
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I have the opposite problem. My 2 1/2 yr old does great at home, but won't go outside the house. She'll talk about it, get her "circle", sit on it and...nothing. The good news is that she has an iron bladder, and can easily make it several hours without distress, but even past that point, she'll sit on the thing and do nothing, then gets very upset when she just can't hold it anymore. We do use pull-ups away from the house, just in case, and 90% of the time they stay dry, and it upsets her to no end to have an accident in the pullups, so I don't think it's a case of not feeling a need because of the difference between pull-ups and panties. When you're away from home, if you are ever in a location where the sink is in the same room as the toilet, have you every tried the turning the tap on trick? I've used it a couple of times with my son when needing to get a urine sample, he was clearly trying to go and I knew he hadn't been for a couple of hours or more so that he should be able to go, so I gave him a little water to drink, and left the tap running and wham bam we had our sample. No idea why this works, but it's worked for me too on the rare ocassion I've somehow not been able to let go. Cheers Anne |
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"Anne Rogers" wrote in message ... I have the opposite problem. My 2 1/2 yr old does great at home, but won't go outside the house. She'll talk about it, get her "circle", sit on it and...nothing. The good news is that she has an iron bladder, and can easily make it several hours without distress, but even past that point, she'll sit on the thing and do nothing, then gets very upset when she just can't hold it anymore. We do use pull-ups away from the house, just in case, and 90% of the time they stay dry, and it upsets her to no end to have an accident in the pullups, so I don't think it's a case of not feeling a need because of the difference between pull-ups and panties. When you're away from home, if you are ever in a location where the sink is in the same room as the toilet, have you every tried the turning the tap on trick? I've used it a couple of times with my son when needing to get a urine sample, he was clearly trying to go and I knew he hadn't been for a couple of hours or more so that he should be able to go, so I gave him a little water to drink, and left the tap running and wham bam we had our sample. No idea why this works, but it's worked for me too on the rare ocassion I've somehow not been able to let go. I'll have to try it and see what happens! Cheers Anne |
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Won't go potty at home
This too shall pass
It is incredibly frustrating! Daddy's trip may definitely be a culprit. I went back to work parttime while my son was at this stage. He stayed with grandma 3 days a week. Every single week, after gma's days, it was like starting over. Regression happens. One thing I learned from my first child, just roll with it. It's just not as important to them as it is to you. And the urge to use the toilet will sometimes inexplicably disappear for a week or two when they pick up a different interest that holds their attention more strongly than the novelty of peeing in a toilet. Mine randomly decided one day to stop using it at home, then began to use every public restroom he could get me to go into as many times as he could get me to go into it. The novelty of it, I assume. It will come back. I have seen many a mom ready to cry or explode while coming out of a bathroom stall with a toddler. You are NOT alone. The poop thing will also come along - much to your relief! The light at the end of the tunnel? FULL SUCCESS BEFORE HE HIT THREE! On Jun 26, 4:22 pm, mylittlelisa wrote: We have been trying to train our 2 1/2 yo daughter for almost a month. It started out kind of rough and we switched from panties to pullups (at daycare's request). After that, things were good. She would sit on the potty a couple of times at daycare, sometime succeeding and sometimes not. On friday, she was dry ALL DAY at daycare. Yeah. I thought the end was near. She didn't use the potty at home all night. she went off with my dad saturday night and stayed dry all night (except for poop, still working on that), and was dry in the morning. When she came home, failure again. She used to go really good for me at home, but recently, she had stopped. Whenever I ask her, she says she doesn't have to go. When she has an accident, I try not to get mad, but it is getting hard. I know she knows better. Any suggestions? Also, on friday, my husband left on a business trip for two weeks, could this cause her sudden regression at home? |
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My ped shared that
there are a few things, and I think there were 4, even though I can only remember 3, that we cannot control--sleeping, eating, and going potty. I'm really not convinced, I mean you can't control whether you have a child for whom is naturally easy to fall asleep and to stay asleep or one for whom it is the complete opposite - so you can't suddenly make a child who's not that way inclined sleep 12 hours each night, but you can optimise their sleep, by insuring you are getting the right time for bedtime, providing a good environment for sleep, reacting appropriately if they wake at night, etc. The same goes with potty training, you can't change the point in time at which a child will have the physical ability to do it, but you can respond quite differently to the early signs they are getting there physically and it's highly likely they will affect the long term progress of potty training. Cheers Anne |
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Anne Rogers wrote:
My ped shared that there are a few things, and I think there were 4, even though I can only remember 3, that we cannot control--sleeping, eating, and going potty. I'm really not convinced, I mean you can't control whether you have a child for whom is naturally easy to fall asleep and to stay asleep or one for whom it is the complete opposite - so you can't suddenly make a child who's not that way inclined sleep 12 hours each night, but you can optimise their sleep, by insuring you are getting the right time for bedtime, providing a good environment for sleep, reacting appropriately if they wake at night, etc. The same goes with potty training, you can't change the point in time at which a child will have the physical ability to do it, but you can respond quite differently to the early signs they are getting there physically and it's highly likely they will affect the long term progress of potty training. I don't think that's what that means. It is perfectly possible if you go about it right to influence the child to eat, sleep and potty. But if you make a fight out of it, and the child figures out that he doesn't HAVE to do it just because you say so, then you are SOL. He can starve himself or impact his intestines just because he doesn't want to do what you say. So these areas are ones in which you do NOT want to make a contest of wills out of it. It's like the old saying "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink." Children are smarter than you might think. My sister used to read Parents Magazine so she could figure out what ploys my mom got out of it to try on us. |
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