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getting pregnant too soon after giving birth
has anyone here gotten pregnant very soon after giving birth? i just gave
birth to my precious daughter emily faith on 3/19/06. but she was still born. i went into labor without being induced on my due date, but when i got to the hospital, she didnt have a heartbeat. she died earlier that morning (heart failure due to fifths disease). she was beautiful! at had her 8:54pm that same night. everything had been fine my entire pregnancy, i had no idea i had even come in contact with fifths disease, so i had no idea she was even sick, until i got to the hospital and they said she didn't have a heartbeat. i had just felt her move about 3 hours before that. i'm so sad. i miss her sooo much, and my arms are just aching to hold her again. i keep thinking that if i could get pregnant again, that it might ease the pain a little, and give me something to look forward to. i dont want anyone to think that i am trying to replace her, i just want feel some kind of happiness again, and i know i won't until i can feel that life inside of me again. i'm just so sad. my doctor said i could wait 3 months to try again, its been 6 and 1/2 weeks already. but if i wait another month and 1/2 i might end up aving the next baby around emily's birthday, and i don't want to do that, nor do i want to wait any longer than 3 months. i've already gotten my period back this past monday- so i'm hoping to start trying to concieve again when i ovulate again- but i dont want to endanger myself or baby- to- be by t.t.c too soon. has anyone gotten pg within 2 to 3 months after gigving birth? was everything ok? or did it end in miscarriage. my doctor said that i immune to the virus now, and i could never catch it again, nor pass it on to another child in my womb, but i know that this will never out my mind at ease, because emily is gone., and i will never get her back. i can only hope that my next pg will be ok and pray that my baby will be helathy, because i dont think i could do this again. i feel like my heart and soul have been snatched away from me. and i keep thinking that if i could get pg again that i might just get a little piece of that back again... i know i will be very scared and worried with my next pregnancy, but i dont think that will ever go away, no matter how long i wait, just because i know now that these terrible things CAN and DO happen, life is sooo fragile. the odds were already against me once, only 5 to 10 % of women that come in contact with 5ths disease while pg result in a stillborn child, so i know now that something could always go wrong, and i risk losing another child, no matter what... but i think that this is a risk i'm willing to take, just to hold a beautiful living, breathing child in my arms. i want so badly to be a mommy... it just hurts so bad because i carried emily for nine long months, with every kick from her, every ache and pain, and i was sent home from the hospital with empty arms, to a house filled with pretty pink baby things. i never got to hear her cry... never got to dress her... feed her... bathe her... change her diaper... see her smile. she never even took one breath here on earth. i want SO BADLY to experience these things... i feel so alone. sorry this is so long- i'm just so stressed, so angry, so worried, so anxious... please if you have had a subsequent pregnancy very close to your first, what was the outcome... was your baby ok? living, breathing, healthy baby? thank you for listening ~ Brandi (mommy to an angel emily faith ^o^) please feel free to email me~ |
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Oh Brandi -- big hugs.
I think it is OK to make the personal decision to try to conceive right away (particularly if you didn't have a section and if you are good with your nutrition or willing to learn). My son was conceived when my daughter was 6.5 months old and I was nursing nearly exclusively (and I nursed through the pregnancy) but I ate lots and well. He was born full term at 11 pounds, all good. You're not nursing so your body will not have that obligation as well. BUT you have to know that miscarriages are very common and you can't think you've killed your baby if you have a miscarriage. These things happen, usually for things beyond your body's control and usually not for identifiable reasons, and the special, unique child you will have when you have a living child will be a product of the beating of a butterfly's wing and the birth and death of long flung stars. Be good to yourself and do what is right for you. Dagny |
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bmwbrandi2005 wrote: has anyone here gotten pregnant very soon after giving birth? i just gave birth to my precious daughter emily faith on 3/19/06. but she was still born. i went into labor without being induced on my due date, but when i got to the hospital, she didnt have a heartbeat. she died earlier that morning (heart failure due to fifths disease). she was beautiful! at had her 8:54pm that same night. everything had been fine my entire pregnancy, i had no idea i had even come in contact with fifths disease, so i had no idea she was even sick, until i got to the hospital and they said she didn't have a heartbeat. i had just felt her move about 3 hours before that. i'm so sad. i miss her sooo much, and my arms are just aching to hold her again. i keep thinking that if i could get pregnant again, that it might ease the pain a little, and give me something to look forward to. i dont want anyone to think that i am trying to replace her, i just want feel some kind of happiness again, and i know i won't until i can feel that life inside of me again. i'm just so sad. my doctor said i could wait 3 months to try again, its been 6 and 1/2 weeks already. but if i wait another month and 1/2 i might end up aving the next baby around emily's birthday, and i don't want to do that, nor do i want to wait any longer than 3 months. i've already gotten my period back this past monday- so i'm hoping to start trying to concieve again when i ovulate again- but i dont want to endanger myself or baby- to- be by t.t.c too soon. has anyone gotten pg within 2 to 3 months after gigving birth? was everything ok? or did it end in miscarriage. my doctor said that i immune to the virus now, and i could never catch it again, nor pass it on to another child in my womb, but i know that this will never out my mind at ease, because emily is gone., and i will never get her back. i can only hope that my next pg will be ok and pray that my baby will be helathy, because i dont think i could do this again. i feel like my heart and soul have been snatched away from me. and i keep thinking that if i could get pg again that i might just get a little piece of that back again... i know i will be very scared and worried with my next pregnancy, but i dont think that will ever go away, no matter how long i wait, just because i know now that these terrible things CAN and DO happen, life is sooo fragile. the odds were already against me once, only 5 to 10 % of women that come in contact with 5ths disease while pg result in a stillborn child, so i know now that something could always go wrong, and i risk losing another child, no matter what... but i think that this is a risk i'm willing to take, just to hold a beautiful living, breathing child in my arms. i want so badly to be a mommy... it just hurts so bad because i carried emily for nine long months, with every kick from her, every ache and pain, and i was sent home from the hospital with empty arms, to a house filled with pretty pink baby things. i never got to hear her cry... never got to dress her... feed her... bathe her... change her diaper... see her smile. she never even took one breath here on earth. i want SO BADLY to experience these things... i feel so alone. sorry this is so long- i'm just so stressed, so angry, so worried, so anxious... please if you have had a subsequent pregnancy very close to your first, what was the outcome... was your baby ok? living, breathing, healthy baby? thank you for listening ~ Brandi (mommy to an angel emily faith ^o^) please feel free to email me~ I'm so very sorry for your loss. I can't answer your question for you, but I can recommend a book I found very helpful - Pregnancy After Loss by Carol Cirulli Lanham. It won't answer your question either, but will give you many things to think about and explore your feelings when making the decision. |
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"Dagny" wrote in message ... ..and the special, unique child you will have when you have a living child will be a product of the beating of a butterfly's wing and the birth and death of long flung stars. And of course this is also true of those no longer living -- sorry if I implied ... Dagny |
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bmwbrandi2005 wrote:
has anyone here gotten pregnant very soon after giving birth? i just gave birth to my precious daughter emily faith on 3/19/06. but she was still born. i went into labor without being induced on my due date, but when i got to the hospital, she didnt have a heartbeat. she died earlier that morning (heart failure due to fifths disease). she was beautiful! at had her 8:54pm that same night. everything had been fine my entire pregnancy, i had no idea i had even come in contact with fifths disease, so i had no idea she was even sick, until i got to the hospital and they said she didn't have a heartbeat. i had just felt her move about 3 hours before that. i'm so sad. i miss her sooo much, and my arms are just aching to hold her again. i keep thinking that if i could get pregnant again, that it might ease the pain a little, and give me something to look forward to. i dont want anyone to think that i am trying to replace her, i just want feel some kind of happiness again, and i know i won't until i can feel that life inside of me again. i'm just so sad. my doctor said i could wait 3 months to try again, its been 6 and 1/2 weeks already. but if i wait another month and 1/2 i might end up aving the next baby around emily's birthday, and i don't want to do that, nor do i want to wait any longer than 3 months. i've already gotten my period back this past monday- so i'm hoping to start trying to concieve again when i ovulate again- but i dont want to endanger myself or baby- to- be by t.t.c too soon. has anyone gotten pg within 2 to 3 months after gigving birth? was everything ok? or did it end in miscarriage. my doctor said that i immune to the virus now, and i could never catch it again, nor pass it on to another child in my womb, but i know that this will never out my mind at ease, because emily is gone., and i will never get her back. i can only hope that my next pg will be ok and pray that my baby will be helathy, because i dont think i could do this again. i feel like my heart and soul have been snatched away from me. and i keep thinking that if i could get pg again that i might just get a little piece of that back again... i know i will be very scared and worried with my next pregnancy, but i dont think that will ever go away, no matter how long i wait, just because i know now that these terrible things CAN and DO happen, life is sooo fragile. the odds were already against me once, only 5 to 10 % of women that come in contact with 5ths disease while pg result in a stillborn child, so i know now that something could always go wrong, and i risk losing another child, no matter what... but i think that this is a risk i'm willing to take, just to hold a beautiful living, breathing child in my arms. i want so badly to be a mommy... it just hurts so bad because i carried emily for nine long months, with every kick from her, every ache and pain, and i was sent home from the hospital with empty arms, to a house filled with pretty pink baby things. i never got to hear her cry... never got to dress her... feed her... bathe her... change her diaper... see her smile. she never even took one breath here on earth. i want SO BADLY to experience these things... i feel so alone. sorry this is so long- i'm just so stressed, so angry, so worried, so anxious... please if you have had a subsequent pregnancy very close to your first, what was the outcome... was your baby ok? living, breathing, healthy baby? thank you for listening ~ Brandi (mommy to an angel emily faith ^o^) please feel free to email me~ Hugs Brandi. I'm so sorry for your loss. I think you should wait a little longer to get pregnant, so that you can deal with the emotions surrounding your loss a bit more. Grief is a long term thing, and needs to be actively worked through. I know lots of people who have gotten pregnant right away, and lots of people who waited a bit, and most people who got pregnant right away had a much tougher time during the subsequent pregnancy -- they were much more on edge, frightened, scared, and anxious than those who waited. Perhaps if you just wait a few more months, until a sub baby wouldn't have the same due date. I know that to go through a sub pg and have the same due date is REALLY hard, because you hit all the same milestones at the same time -- positive pg test, heartbeat, end of first trimester, level II u/s, etc, and it brings back everything from the first pg. Waiting just another few months will also allow your body to heal a bit more. Pregnancy and childbirth are hard on your body, and your uterus needs more than one cycle to heal so that it can really handle another pg. I'm sorry for your loss. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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"bmwbrandi2005" wrote in message lkaboutparenting.com... has anyone here gotten pregnant very soon after giving birth? snip First of all, I'm so sorry about your loss. I can only imagine how hard that would be, but you *appear* so strong, even though I would only imagine how hard it would be. DS1 and DS2 are 1 year, 1 month and 2 days apart in age. DS1 was born via emergency C-section, and I guess that would have made DS1 about 4 months old when I was pg with DS2. Both boys are normal, average kids - now 5 and 6 years old. Never any problems, issues or concerns with my second pregnancy, other than the high risk of another c-section (as there was one not long before and it was because of a bicornuate uterus) DD is also 9 months old (tomorrow) and I'm about 14 and a half weeks pg with #4, so DD was about 6 months old when I became pg again. The boys are very close in age, and DD and this next one will also be fairly close in age (DD will be 15 months old to the day on the EDD of this next one) So far, no problems or concerns, but then again, it's also fairly early - I've only had one dr's appointment and have an u/s scheduled for the 8th of this month to confirm dates. If you had a basically normal delivery otherwise and no problems (with all things considered, I know that's probably not the best word to use, so my apologies) what is the reason that it was suggested to wait 3 months before trying again? Was it only a recommendation to allow YOU time to recover or heal emotionally, physically, psychologically? Was it to give you time to mourn or cope with your situation? If you're told there's absolutely no chance of that same problem happening again, I'm not a doctor or have any experience with that kind of situation, but I don't see a reason to wait... I had 2 very close in age and they both had good weights and health, so FWIE, there's never been a concern about illness, problems or similar to happen with being pg shortly after a delivery. |
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"bmwbrandi2005" wrote in message
has anyone here gotten pregnant very soon after giving birth? i just gave birth to my precious daughter emily faith on 3/19/06. but she was still born. I am very sorry for your loss. I don't know for sure the answer to that question, but my MIL was pregnant at her six-week check up with my husband's brother. This was many years ago, so I don't have any answers, just an anecdote. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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bmwbrandi2005 wrote:
things... i feel so alone. sorry this is so long- i'm just so stressed, so angry, so worried, so anxious... please if you have had a subsequent pregnancy very close to your first, what was the outcome... was your baby ok? living, breathing, healthy baby? thank you for listening I'm so sorry for all you've been through. It must just be terrible. A large majority of women who get pregnant again very quickly have normal, healthy pregnancies and babies. However, statistically speaking, there is a slightly elevated risk of premature labor and small for gestational age babies with very close spacing. (I think there's a slightly increased risk of one other thing as well, along similar lines as the other two, but I can't recall what it is at the moment.) It is a stress on your body to be pregnant again before you've had a chance to build up your reserves again. But, the large majority of babies in this situation are fine, so it just depends on your feelings about what level of risk you're comfortable with. Best wishes, Ericka |
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I'm so sorry, Brandi.
I got pregnant with my second son 3.5 months after the first was born. I'd had two sections already, I nursed throughout the pregnancy, and the baby was fine--in fact, he weighed 12 pounds! Chances are your baby would be fine too. Leslie |
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