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Old March 26th 09, 02:16 AM posted to misc.kids.pregnancy
MarieD[_2_]
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Today my neice had her second baby. It was a hospital birth. Every single
nurse who came in either asked if she wanted an epidural or tried to
convince her to have one, and when she turned it down they made a snotty
face and stupid jokes like, "If I had a nickel for every mom who said she
didn't want one and ended up having one anyway, I'd be rich" and said my
neice was definately in the minority in not having one! She had been very
clear on this subject to everyone so I had to ward off the pushes for her. I
do not get why they feel the need to be so pushy about an epidural. If the
mom asks for one, fine, but there's no need to be pushy and rude.
The nurses also seemed very uncaring towards a laboring woman, trying to
force her to do things during a contraction and acting like they had no
patience to wait half a minute on it to go away. I kept having to tell them
each time that she's in the middle of a contraction, hold on. I would expect
an L&D nurse to know something like that! *I* know it and I sure am not a
nurse. As an example, the nurse made her get up and go to the bathroom(neice
did not want to and stated so quite a few times) and on the way back, she
had a contraction. She told the nurse to wait until the contraction was
over, the nurse stopped for 2 seconds and then started pulling my neice back
to the bed anyway.
Also, at this hospital, no photography whatsoever is allowed during any
procedure or during the birth. The hospital 10 minutes away allowed
videotaping the whole birth process back when I had my babies, and I
videotaped a birth at a hospital in another state two years ago so I know
this isn't a ban in every hospital.
My neice did very well, she had gone in to be induced but when she got there
her labor started naturally so there was no use of pitocin, except to birth
the placenta(because, as the OB told her, you have to have pitocin to expell
the placenta). She was in labor for a good 11 hours and had a boy. She
stayed on top of the contractions and barely even moaned. She squashed my
hand pretty well but I'll treasure my squashed hand always She was so
great and I cried and was so proud of her. It's hard to see someone you love
hurt so much for so long!
I really love births so much but it burns me the way moms have to fight
their way to the kind of birth they want. My neice's first baby was born in
Germany and she said it was much different and she had more options and was
treated better there. (we are in the southeastern US)

--
Marie
~The test of courage comes when we are in the minority. The test of
tolerance comes when we are in the majority.~
Ralph W. Sockman

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Old March 27th 09, 02:05 AM posted to misc.kids.pregnancy
betsy
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MarieD wrote:
Today my neice had her second baby. It was a hospital birth. Every
single nurse who came in either asked if she wanted an epidural or tried
to convince her to have one, and when she turned it down they made a
snotty face and stupid jokes like, "If I had a nickel for every mom who
said she didn't want one and ended up having one anyway, I'd be rich"
and said my neice was definately in the minority in not having one! She
had been very clear on this subject to everyone so I had to ward off the
pushes for her. I do not get why they feel the need to be so pushy about
an epidural. If the mom asks for one, fine, but there's no need to be
pushy and rude.


This is interesting to read. Thanks for posting it.

While hospitals, even in the same area vary quite a bit, it seems that
in general the SE United States is much less friendly towards natural
birth and towards breastfeeding than many other parts of the country.
I'm glad you were there to support her in having the kind of birth she
wanted.

It seems like hospitals in our area have become more friendly towards
patients in general and especially during birth. I've seen a bit more
of hospitals recently as my 4 yo was ill. One hospital used the
"hold-them-down" method for blood tests, while the other took the time
to numb the spot first. I stayed in the hospital room with my 4 yo and
nursing 13 mo. Everyone was very nice to us. There was a couch bed
built into the room and they automatically ordered caregiver meals for me.

--Betsy
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Old March 28th 09, 03:10 PM posted to misc.kids.pregnancy
Sue
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That's too bad with the staff being pushy and not supportive. It sounds like
they may need another floor to work on, lol.. The hospital I work at and the
hospitals in surrounding areas are shifting to birth centers and
medication-free births so chances are no one would bat an eye at not gettig
an epidural.
--
Sue (mom to three girls)

"MarieD" wrote in message
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Today my neice had her second baby. It was a hospital birth. Every single
nurse who came in either asked if she wanted an epidural or tried to
convince her to have one, and when she turned it down they made a snotty
face and stupid jokes like, "If I had a nickel for every mom who said she
didn't want one and ended up having one anyway, I'd be rich" and said my
neice was definately in the minority in not having one! She had been very
clear on this subject to everyone so I had to ward off the pushes for her.
I do not get why they feel the need to be so pushy about an epidural. If
the mom asks for one, fine, but there's no need to be pushy and rude.
The nurses also seemed very uncaring towards a laboring woman, trying to
force her to do things during a contraction and acting like they had no
patience to wait half a minute on it to go away. I kept having to tell
them each time that she's in the middle of a contraction, hold on. I would
expect an L&D nurse to know something like that! *I* know it and I sure am
not a nurse. As an example, the nurse made her get up and go to the
bathroom(neice did not want to and stated so quite a few times) and on the
way back, she had a contraction. She told the nurse to wait until the
contraction was over, the nurse stopped for 2 seconds and then started
pulling my neice back to the bed anyway.
Also, at this hospital, no photography whatsoever is allowed during any
procedure or during the birth. The hospital 10 minutes away allowed
videotaping the whole birth process back when I had my babies, and I
videotaped a birth at a hospital in another state two years ago so I know
this isn't a ban in every hospital.
My neice did very well, she had gone in to be induced but when she got
there her labor started naturally so there was no use of pitocin, except
to birth the placenta(because, as the OB told her, you have to have
pitocin to expell the placenta). She was in labor for a good 11 hours and
had a boy. She stayed on top of the contractions and barely even moaned.
She squashed my hand pretty well but I'll treasure my squashed hand always
She was so great and I cried and was so proud of her. It's hard to see
someone you love hurt so much for so long!
I really love births so much but it burns me the way moms have to fight
their way to the kind of birth they want. My neice's first baby was born
in Germany and she said it was much different and she had more options and
was treated better there. (we are in the southeastern US)

--
Marie
~The test of courage comes when we are in the minority. The test of
tolerance comes when we are in the majority.~
Ralph W. Sockman



 




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