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help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)
Cele wrote:
I don't think you can expect much from 'the system'. What? Oh, Nooooo! I'm screwed. LOL. Whatever's gone wrong before is over, it's written, it's done. You can't affect it. Walk away from it. Work on the now. It's all you can do. For him and for yourself. And be well. What is it with people who can not see that history repeats itself unless you actively seek to stop the cycles? I've been in therapy so much that it is just so clear to me that my son saw me be abused as a child so that is what was role modeled for him and now he is acting that out as he becomes a man. Also, he is reacting to me as I only know how to live with a man from a victim's stand point, I have lots of male friends that I keep at a distance but living with one is a different story. You can't just "let it go" or "forget about it" or "put it in the past" abuse isn't like that. History isn't like that. Time isn't like that. If only it were that simple. But it isn't, it is very convoluted. The rest of your post was right on, depressing though, as I was really hoping "the system" was going to save us. damn. |
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