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The father factor: Fathers and sons
The father factor: Fathers and sons
http://www.antiguasun.com/paper/? as=view&sun=281935077507132005&an=4108020671061520 07&ac=Opinion http://tinyurl.com/38wf8g Saturday June 16 2007 Men become biological fathers in a moment. Not much is required except the right anatomical equipment and opportunity. The father need not love the mother. The father does not need a course in parenting, nor does he need to even desire to be a parent. The father does not always even know of his progeny. Nevertheless, each child born into this world has two parents, and one of them is, by definition, the father. For many men, that is where their input begins and ends. Children need fathers. Ideally, those fathers will be married to their mothers, and living together in a loving family. But, even if children cannot grow up in a two-parent home, no child deserves to grow up without a father. Fathers play a significant part in a son's life. At a certain age, little boys begin to investigate the world outside of their mother's touch, and their mother's voice. Little boys discover they are not the same as little girls, and all of a sudden their world needs redefining in the light of this revelation. Fathers, when your son begins this search, whether at age two or age 12, wondering what sort of man he will become - where does he look? Who does he see? Television dads? Sorry, but the days of Leave it to Beaver are gone and the new generation of television fathers are not on the same playing field as Bill Cosby. Soap opera fathers have switched partners so many times even they can't keep track. Sport stars sometimes recognise they can play a morally upright role model, but just as often fans see their drinking escapades, angry violence and drug violations. So fathers, what does your son see when he looks around? What kind of man do you want him to become? Honest, hard-working, ethical: the kind of man who keeps his promises; who is faithful to his wife, and who loves his children. You want your son to be like you - or maybe not, but you have something in mind for your son. You want to be the kind of father whose son can come and sit down beside him and say, "Dad, I'm really struggling with some things now, and I need your advice." How to begin...? The writer of Psalms 127 exhorts, "Sons are a heritage from the Lord; children a reward from him." (Verse 3) Now, if someone gives you an inheritance, it is usually something to treasu a keepsake not only valued for its monetary value, but for its significance, for its intrinsic value. Begin, fathers, by valuing your sons. Recognise they are unique, and special; a part of you that no one else can duplicate or replicate. There has been no one else like your son in the past, there is no one like him now, or will there be someone just like him in the future. Children are a reward. A reward even if you do not deserve it, a reward even when you do not ask for it - a reward from the Heavenly Father who has perfect love. Cherish and nurture your son, fathers, with an attitude of gratitude and love: they are your inheritance and your reward. -- Note: With the current state of affairs we thought it timely to reprint the above article published 11 Aug. 2003. |
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The father factor: Fathers and sons
Fred Goodwin, CMA wrote:
The father factor: Fathers and sons http://www.antiguasun.com/paper/? as=view&sun=281935077507132005&an=4108020671061520 07&ac=Opinion http://tinyurl.com/38wf8g Saturday June 16 2007 Men become biological fathers in a moment. Not much is required except the right anatomical equipment and opportunity. The father need not love the mother. The father does not need a course in parenting, nor does he need to even desire to be a parent. The father does not always even know of his progeny. Nevertheless, each child born into this world has two parents, and one of them is, by definition, the father. --------------------------- Nonsense, kids are born of sex, but it the people who care about them who are important, and they can be anyone or any group. Paternity is NOT "fatherhood". For many men, that is where their input begins and ends. Children need fathers. Ideally, those fathers will be married to their mothers, and living together in a loving family. But, even if children cannot grow up in a two-parent home, no child deserves to grow up without a father. ------------------- Children don't need fathers, if they have others who care about them they do perfectly fine. The assertion that a child needs a father is nothing more than blathering bull****. The myth that they must form some nuclear family is also complete and total bull****. Fathers play a significant part in a son's life. At a certain age, little boys begin to investigate the world outside of their mother's touch, and their mother's voice. Little boys discover they are not the same as little girls, and all of a sudden their world needs redefining in the light of this revelation. ------------------------------ They are abused and they question, but why abuse them AT ALL!?? It is NOT needed, it is NOT good, it is NOT beneficial. If they are not abused with externally imposed gender-roles they don't have a problem with girls being slightly different anatomically. It goes almost unnoticed as unimportant, which it is till they discover sex! Fathers, when your son begins this search, whether at age two or age 12, wondering what sort of man he will become - where does he look? Who does he see? -------------------------------- He sees your disapproval, the fact that you isolated him from others and selfishly, greedily made him depend on you alone, and he hates you for that! He knows there are others in the world whom he might well have preferred as a friend and advisor. He hates that you held him away from others and he knows what COULD have been if you weren't such an unbelievable asshole!! Television dads? Sorry, but the days of Leave it to Beaver are gone and the new generation of television fathers are not on the same playing field as Bill Cosby. Soap opera fathers have switched partners so many times even they can't keep track. Sport stars sometimes recognise they can play a morally upright role model, but just as often fans see their drinking escapades, angry violence and drug violations. ------------------------ Bill Cosby is vicious and abusive of children. Nobody watches TV to learn about people, because it's obviously distorted make-believe, even to a child. So fathers, what does your son see when he looks around? What kind of man do you want him to become? Honest, hard-working, ethical: the kind of man who keeps his promises; who is faithful to his wife, and who loves his children. You want your son to be like you - or maybe not, but you have something in mind for your son. ----------------------------------- Nuclear garbage. It's good to be reliable, but monogamy is crap! Honesty is no virtue unless it is appropriate. It is often appropriate to lie like crazy to assholes. You want to be the kind of father whose son can come and sit down beside him and say, "Dad, I'm really struggling with some things now, and I need your advice." ------------------------------------- One, that's TV and it doesn't happen that way!! How to begin...? The writer of Psalms --------------------- Oh just stop your biblical horse****! Cherish and nurture your son, fathers, with an attitude of gratitude and love: they are your inheritance and your reward. -------------------- More ****-eating paternalistic dreck!! Steve -- Listen: -- Kahlil Gibran "The Prophet" on Children: "And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, 'Speak to us of Children.' And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable." |
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The father factor: Fathers and sons
Would you say the same of mothers as well
"R. Steve Walz" wrote in message ... Fred Goodwin, CMA wrote: The father factor: Fathers and sons http://www.antiguasun.com/paper/? as=view&sun=281935077507132005&an=4108020671061520 07&ac=Opinion http://tinyurl.com/38wf8g Saturday June 16 2007 Men become biological fathers in a moment. Not much is required except the right anatomical equipment and opportunity. The father need not love the mother. The father does not need a course in parenting, nor does he need to even desire to be a parent. The father does not always even know of his progeny. Nevertheless, each child born into this world has two parents, and one of them is, by definition, the father. --------------------------- Nonsense, kids are born of sex, but it the people who care about them who are important, and they can be anyone or any group. Paternity is NOT "fatherhood". For many men, that is where their input begins and ends. Children need fathers. Ideally, those fathers will be married to their mothers, and living together in a loving family. But, even if children cannot grow up in a two-parent home, no child deserves to grow up without a father. ------------------- Children don't need fathers, if they have others who care about them they do perfectly fine. The assertion that a child needs a father is nothing more than blathering bull****. The myth that they must form some nuclear family is also complete and total bull****. Fathers play a significant part in a son's life. At a certain age, little boys begin to investigate the world outside of their mother's touch, and their mother's voice. Little boys discover they are not the same as little girls, and all of a sudden their world needs redefining in the light of this revelation. ------------------------------ They are abused and they question, but why abuse them AT ALL!?? It is NOT needed, it is NOT good, it is NOT beneficial. If they are not abused with externally imposed gender-roles they don't have a problem with girls being slightly different anatomically. It goes almost unnoticed as unimportant, which it is till they discover sex! Fathers, when your son begins this search, whether at age two or age 12, wondering what sort of man he will become - where does he look? Who does he see? -------------------------------- He sees your disapproval, the fact that you isolated him from others and selfishly, greedily made him depend on you alone, and he hates you for that! He knows there are others in the world whom he might well have preferred as a friend and advisor. He hates that you held him away from others and he knows what COULD have been if you weren't such an unbelievable asshole!! Television dads? Sorry, but the days of Leave it to Beaver are gone and the new generation of television fathers are not on the same playing field as Bill Cosby. Soap opera fathers have switched partners so many times even they can't keep track. Sport stars sometimes recognise they can play a morally upright role model, but just as often fans see their drinking escapades, angry violence and drug violations. ------------------------ Bill Cosby is vicious and abusive of children. Nobody watches TV to learn about people, because it's obviously distorted make-believe, even to a child. So fathers, what does your son see when he looks around? What kind of man do you want him to become? Honest, hard-working, ethical: the kind of man who keeps his promises; who is faithful to his wife, and who loves his children. You want your son to be like you - or maybe not, but you have something in mind for your son. ----------------------------------- Nuclear garbage. It's good to be reliable, but monogamy is crap! Honesty is no virtue unless it is appropriate. It is often appropriate to lie like crazy to assholes. You want to be the kind of father whose son can come and sit down beside him and say, "Dad, I'm really struggling with some things now, and I need your advice." ------------------------------------- One, that's TV and it doesn't happen that way!! How to begin...? The writer of Psalms --------------------- Oh just stop your biblical horse****! Cherish and nurture your son, fathers, with an attitude of gratitude and love: they are your inheritance and your reward. -------------------- More ****-eating paternalistic dreck!! Steve -- Listen: -- Kahlil Gibran "The Prophet" on Children: "And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, 'Speak to us of Children.' And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable." |
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The father factor: Fathers and sons
MSNothing wrote:
Would you say the same of mothers as well ---------------------------- Sure. Other than biology there is no special bond that could not be toward anyone important to the child, and far too much of the clap-trap surrounding motherhood is merely manipulative crap that this society uses to shame, guilt, abuse, and control. These stupid ****ing holidays are always commercially based, if not out and out commissioned by rich manipulators to help distract and control their slave-workers! Steve "R. Steve Walz" wrote in message ... Fred Goodwin, CMA wrote: The father factor: Fathers and sons http://www.antiguasun.com/paper/? as=view&sun=281935077507132005&an=4108020671061520 07&ac=Opinion http://tinyurl.com/38wf8g Saturday June 16 2007 Men become biological fathers in a moment. Not much is required except the right anatomical equipment and opportunity. The father need not love the mother. The father does not need a course in parenting, nor does he need to even desire to be a parent. The father does not always even know of his progeny. Nevertheless, each child born into this world has two parents, and one of them is, by definition, the father. --------------------------- Nonsense, kids are born of sex, but it the people who care about them who are important, and they can be anyone or any group. Paternity is NOT "fatherhood". For many men, that is where their input begins and ends. Children need fathers. Ideally, those fathers will be married to their mothers, and living together in a loving family. But, even if children cannot grow up in a two-parent home, no child deserves to grow up without a father. ------------------- Children don't need fathers, if they have others who care about them they do perfectly fine. The assertion that a child needs a father is nothing more than blathering bull****. The myth that they must form some nuclear family is also complete and total bull****. Fathers play a significant part in a son's life. At a certain age, little boys begin to investigate the world outside of their mother's touch, and their mother's voice. Little boys discover they are not the same as little girls, and all of a sudden their world needs redefining in the light of this revelation. ------------------------------ They are abused and they question, but why abuse them AT ALL!?? It is NOT needed, it is NOT good, it is NOT beneficial. If they are not abused with externally imposed gender-roles they don't have a problem with girls being slightly different anatomically. It goes almost unnoticed as unimportant, which it is till they discover sex! Fathers, when your son begins this search, whether at age two or age 12, wondering what sort of man he will become - where does he look? Who does he see? -------------------------------- He sees your disapproval, the fact that you isolated him from others and selfishly, greedily made him depend on you alone, and he hates you for that! He knows there are others in the world whom he might well have preferred as a friend and advisor. He hates that you held him away from others and he knows what COULD have been if you weren't such an unbelievable asshole!! Television dads? Sorry, but the days of Leave it to Beaver are gone and the new generation of television fathers are not on the same playing field as Bill Cosby. Soap opera fathers have switched partners so many times even they can't keep track. Sport stars sometimes recognise they can play a morally upright role model, but just as often fans see their drinking escapades, angry violence and drug violations. ------------------------ Bill Cosby is vicious and abusive of children. Nobody watches TV to learn about people, because it's obviously distorted make-believe, even to a child. So fathers, what does your son see when he looks around? What kind of man do you want him to become? Honest, hard-working, ethical: the kind of man who keeps his promises; who is faithful to his wife, and who loves his children. You want your son to be like you - or maybe not, but you have something in mind for your son. ----------------------------------- Nuclear garbage. It's good to be reliable, but monogamy is crap! Honesty is no virtue unless it is appropriate. It is often appropriate to lie like crazy to assholes. You want to be the kind of father whose son can come and sit down beside him and say, "Dad, I'm really struggling with some things now, and I need your advice." ------------------------------------- One, that's TV and it doesn't happen that way!! How to begin...? The writer of Psalms --------------------- Oh just stop your biblical horse****! Cherish and nurture your son, fathers, with an attitude of gratitude and love: they are your inheritance and your reward. -------------------- More ****-eating paternalistic dreck!! Steve -- Listen: -- Kahlil Gibran "The Prophet" on Children: "And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, 'Speak to us of Children.' And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable." |
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