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Worlds pickiest kid
Help!
I'm trying to shop for camp for my daughter. She's almost 13, wears a size 4, is extremely opinionated about clothing, and we cannot agree on what to buy. I would like suggestions of web sites that carry hip, well made clothing. She WILL NOT wear anything from The Gap, Old Navy, Limited Too (too small), LLBean, Lands End, Abercrombie, or HollisterCo. She only wants to wear clothing from National Jean Company or Jasmine Sola. We went to National Jean Co this afternoon and the average price of a pair of jeans was over $200. We didn't get anything. She likes the bathing suits at Victoria's Secret, but all the sale ones are backordered and the regular prices ones are just too darn expensive. She also won't consider shopping at Target, Macy's or Nordstrom. I'm going insane. The only brands she likes are Juicy Coutoure, SoLow, and Jasmine Sola. Does anyone know of stores that sell knockoffs of this type of stuff. I just can't see spending $75 on a t-shirt that won't last 3 washings. Marjorie |
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"animzmirot" wrote:
Help! I'm trying to shop for camp for my daughter. She's almost 13, wears a size 4, is extremely opinionated about clothing, and we cannot agree on what to buy. I don't remember what kind of camp - I think you've mentioned it, but what does the camp say she needs? I would like suggestions of web sites that carry hip, well made clothing. She WILL NOT wear anything from The Gap, Old Navy, Limited Too (too small), LLBean, Lands End, Abercrombie, or HollisterCo. She only wants to wear clothing from National Jean Company or Jasmine Sola. We went to National Jean Co this afternoon and the average price of a pair of jeans was over $200. We didn't get anything. She likes the bathing suits at Victoria's Secret, but all the sale ones are backordered and the regular prices ones I would be sure that a bathing suit is actually made for swimming, and not just for lounging on the beach. If she's going to be doing any diving (like races for a swim team) the suit should be one piece. A two piece suit is to apt to come off when doing a racing dive. are just too darn expensive. She also won't consider shopping at Target, Macy's or Nordstrom. I'm going insane. The only brands she likes are Juicy Coutoure, SoLow, and Jasmine Sola. Does anyone know of stores that sell knockoffs of this type of stuff. I just can't see spending $75 on a t-shirt that won't last 3 washings. If I had that problem (which I never have so this is just an off the top of my head suggestion), I'd give her a list of what she has to have, and what you think of as a reasonable amount of money to buy it with, and let her get on with it. Perhaps give her a list of what she has to take, and have her write for each thing what she is spending on it before she gets it. She may decide to use clothing she already has for some of it, and splurge on the rest. grandma Rosalie |
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"animzmirot" wrote in message ... Help! I'm trying to shop for camp for my daughter. She's almost 13, wears a size 4, is extremely opinionated about clothing, and we cannot agree on what to buy. I would like suggestions of web sites that carry hip, well made clothing. She WILL NOT wear anything from The Gap, Old Navy, Limited Too (too small), LLBean, Lands End, Abercrombie, or HollisterCo. She only wants to wear clothing from National Jean Company or Jasmine Sola. We went to National Jean Co this afternoon and the average price of a pair of jeans was over $200. We didn't get anything. She likes the bathing suits at Victoria's Secret, but all the sale ones are backordered and the regular prices ones are just too darn expensive. She also won't consider shopping at Target, Macy's or Nordstrom. I'm going insane. Give her shopping money. Let her figure it out. At that age I gave my daughter a clothing budget of $100 a month. Sometimes she would splurge for one pair of expensive jeans, and wear them over and over. Sometimes she would hit Target for cheap shirts. This year she spent $90 on one bathing suit, but didn't buy any others. On our beach vacation she would just wear that one, and that was fine with her. Recently she found a dress nice enough to wear to formal dinners on the cruise ship for $44. When I was buying her things she had a lot of clothes she wouldn't wear. That has gone away entirely. She has a much smaller wardrob of clothes she likes. |
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I agree with the clothing budget ideas alreay presented. But I also
have a suggestion to offer. If your daughter feels that she absolutely "must" have name brands like the ones you mentioned, she might want to try looking on eBay. There's a lot of clothing listed, much of it brand new with tags, so it's sometimes possible to get a good deal. The one sticking point is that you can't try the clothing on, so you need to have a good idea ahead of time of what size you'd wear in a particular item. The feedback section will give you a good idea of the reliability of the individual sellers. Good luck! beeswing |
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"animzmirot" wrote: Help! I'm trying to shop for camp for my daughter. She's almost 13, wears a size 4, is extremely opinionated about clothing, and we cannot agree on what to buy. I would like suggestions of web sites that carry hip, well made clothing. She WILL NOT wear anything from The Gap, Old Navy, Limited Too (too small), LLBean, Lands End, Abercrombie, or HollisterCo. She only wants to wear clothing from National Jean Company or Jasmine Sola. We went to National Jean Co this afternoon and the average price of a pair of jeans was over $200. We didn't get anything. She likes the bathing suits at Victoria's Secret, but all the sale ones are backordered and the regular prices ones are just too darn expensive. She also won't consider shopping at Target, Macy's or Nordstrom. I'm going insane. The only brands she likes are Juicy Coutoure, SoLow, and Jasmine Sola. Does anyone know of stores that sell knockoffs of this type of stuff. I just can't see spending $75 on a t-shirt that won't last 3 washings. Marjorie She's old enough to be given a budget, and then make her own choices from there. So figure out how much $$ you are willing to spend, and tell her she can spend it any way she wants (as long as she gets underware) -- but that there'll be no more $$ after that. She may decide that the Red Dot Boutique (Target) isn't such a bad idea after all . . .) Yes, the first time you do this she may end up with one pair of overpriced jeans and three t-shirts, but as long as you stick to your guns and DON'T buy her more clothes, she'll learn to make better choices. One of my kids figured out how to make GREAT outfits out of what she could get at Goodwill, with one or two more expensive pieces. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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Hey, who's driving the boat here? I have a 14 year old son, and there
is NO WAY I would take him to a pricey store, even if he begged me on his knees. Forget it. I'm not pandering to that crap. Fads I understand, but not the designer label uber pricey thing. He's not too young to figure out that our family has a specific income and that has to cover everything, including clothing for five people. He can have 5 pairs of acceptible jeans from Sears or Walmart and look okay all school year, or he can have one pair of fancy pants from some designer store, and be wearing holey pants by Christmas. My parents started me on an annual allowance at 13. I had to do up a budget that included clothing, bus fare, lunch money, allowance, school supplies etc. Then I had to keep track of what I spent and on what in an account book. If I ran out of money, I could "apply" for more, if I could demonstrate that there were unanticipated expenses (such as a school trip, or a pair of boots unexpectedly giving out). However, I had to be able to demonstrate I was responsible with my purchases and stayed within budget - so if there was $500 allowed for clothing for me for the year (or whatever a reasonable figure was), and I blew it all on one designer outfit, too bad, kiddo. I'd have been wearing it 5 days a week, and my old stuff the other two. I was so paranoid of running out of money, I acquired the discount store habit, and am still allergic to inflated prices and designer labels. Mary G. |
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dragonlady wrote:
In article , "animzmirot" wrote: I'm trying to shop for camp for my daughter. She's almost 13, wears a size 4, is extremely opinionated about clothing, and we cannot agree on what to buy. I would like suggestions of web sites that carry hip, well made clothing. She WILL NOT wear anything from The Gap, Old Navy, Limited Too (too small), LLBean, Lands End, Abercrombie, or HollisterCo. She only wants to wear clothing from National Jean Company or Jasmine Sola. We went to National Jean Co this afternoon and the average price of a pair of jeans was over $200. We didn't get anything. She likes the bathing suits at Victoria's Secret, but all the sale ones are backordered and the regular prices ones are just too darn expensive. She also won't consider shopping at Target, Macy's or Nordstrom. I'm going insane. The only brands she likes are Juicy Coutoure, SoLow, and Jasmine Sola. Does anyone know of stores that sell knockoffs of this type of stuff. I just can't see spending $75 on a t-shirt that won't last 3 washings. Marjorie She's old enough to be given a budget, and then make her own choices from there. So figure out how much $$ you are willing to spend, and tell her she can spend it any way she wants (as long as she gets underware) -- but that there'll be no more $$ after that. She may decide that the Red Dot Boutique (Target) isn't such a bad idea after all . . .) Yes, the first time you do this she may end up with one pair of overpriced jeans and three t-shirts, but as long as you stick to your guns and DON'T buy her more clothes, she'll learn to make better choices. This was my mom's problem. I was given a budget at 12. My mom was a real bargain hunter, and I hated to shop. So she dragged me to the store and said "You have to have a winter coat". And then I bought one (which was a good coat and I liked it and wore it for many years -she'd advance the money because it was more than my budget for that month). Her real problem though was that I would cheerfully wear rags as long as I didn't have to shop. My mom would find something that was a bargain, and say - do you want this. And I would say, "Not if I have to buy it with my money." And it would be such a good deal that she would cave and buy it for me. Also she'd realize that I had no underwear or something and she'd buy that. I ended up with almost my whole allowance for the year (minus the winter coat money) in the savings bank. My sister had the opposite problem - she was never happy with what she bought when she got it home, and she didn't like to sew (I did), and she needed things to fit perfectly (I didn't). So she was always overdrawn on her allowance. One of my kids figured out how to make GREAT outfits out of what she could get at Goodwill, with one or two more expensive pieces. In spite of the fact that it didn't work well for us, I think the allowance deal especially just for this particular camp, is a good idea. grandma Rosalie |
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In article ,
animzmirot wrote: I would like suggestions of web sites that carry hip, well made clothing. She WILL NOT wear anything from The Gap, Old Navy, Limited Too (too small), LLBean, Lands End, Abercrombie, or HollisterCo. She only wants to wear clothing from National Jean Company or Jasmine Sola. We went to National Jean Co this afternoon and the average price of a pair of jeans was over $200. We didn't get anything. She likes the bathing suits at Victoria's Secret, but all the sale ones are backordered and the regular prices ones are just too darn expensive. She also won't consider shopping at Target, Macy's or Nordstrom. I'm going insane. I don't know anything about good stores/sites to shop at, but I will make a generic suggestion: give her a reasonable budget and let her make her own choices. My brothers and I all started buying our own clothes in 7th grade, and it is a great antidote to brand-name snobbiness. Since she will need a certain number of shorts, shirts, jeans, etc. for camp, require that she show you her "plan" for acquiring all those items within her budget before she gets access to the cash. When it is "her" problem, she will probably find places to buy acceptable knock-offs, consignment stores that offer slightly-used pieces of the brans she likes for much less, find a way to earn a little more money, or become a little less picky. Then, if she wants to allocate a huge portion of her budget to one single overpriced pair of jeans, while economizing on other items, you stand back and let her, even if you disagree with her priorities. A lifetime of good money habits can be learned through an exercise like this. Eventually, rather than just giving her a lump sum for camp or the start of school, you can give her a monthly allowance and have her save for those heavy-purchase times of year. Again, you can require her to show you her plans until she gets good at it. --Robyn .. |
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"beeswing" wrote in message oups.com... I agree with the clothing budget ideas alreay presented. But I also have a suggestion to offer. If your daughter feels that she absolutely "must" have name brands like the ones you mentioned, she might want to try looking on eBay. There's a lot of clothing listed, much of it brand new with tags, so it's sometimes possible to get a good deal. The one sticking point is that you can't try the clothing on, so you need to have a good idea ahead of time of what size you'd wear in a particular item. The feedback section will give you a good idea of the reliability of the individual sellers. Don't forget flea markets, garage sales and the local thrift shop. Sometimes you can get really good deals. Plus she can learn to watch the newspaper for sales. Jeff Good luck! beeswing |
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"Cathy Kearns" wrote in message m... (...) Give her shopping money. Let her figure it out. At that age I gave my daughter a clothing budget of $100 a month. Sometimes she would splurge for one pair of expensive jeans, and wear them over and over. Sometimes she would hit Target for cheap shirts. This year she spent $90 on one bathing suit, but didn't buy any others. On our beach vacation she would just wear that one, and that was fine with her. Recently she found a dress nice enough to wear to formal dinners on the cruise ship for $44. When I was buying her things she had a lot of clothes she wouldn't wear. That has gone away entirely. She has a much smaller wardrob of clothes she likes. I like this idea. She will learn the value of money and not to waste it. Jeff |
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