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I got a nice surprise tonight
Hubby and I were talking and he said "I want another one". I said another
what and he said another baby. He said he wanted ours to grow up with a brother or sister close to her so they won't fight as badly. We had talked about this in the past and I have been thinking of having the IUD out in August after she was a year old but now he wants me to have it removed sooner. I don't think I want to do this considering I had a c-section with the first one I want to let my body heal a bit. Do you think that this would be a good idea or should I go ahead have it taken out and try for the 2nd one? I'm not sure what to really do about it. Jennifer Ariana 8/27/03 |
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I got a nice surprise tonight
"Jennifer and Robert Howe" wrote in message ink.net... Hubby and I were talking and he said "I want another one". I said another what and he said another baby. He said he wanted ours to grow up with a brother or sister close to her so they won't fight as badly. We had talked about this in the past and I have been thinking of having the IUD out in August after she was a year old but now he wants me to have it removed sooner. I don't think I want to do this considering I had a c-section with the first one I want to let my body heal a bit. Do you think that this would be a good idea or should I go ahead have it taken out and try for the 2nd one? I'm not sure what to really do about it. Jennifer Ariana 8/27/03 I think you should ask your DR, I thought they liked 1 yr gaps just for healing of the uterine scar, then again accidents happen all the time and people have them sooner, I know someone who's children are exactly 1 yr appart.And of course you yourself need to feel it's the right time. Good luck Alissa |
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I got a nice surprise tonight
Jennifer and Robert Howe wrote in message
He said he wanted ours to grow up with a brother or sister close to her so they won't fight as badly. Oh now see, my girls who are 18 months apart didn't read that rule in the book. They fight like cats and dogs. However, the 3-year age gap between the two older ones has been very nice and they get along much better. If I had to do it all over again, I would opt for the longer age spacing. I also didn't like the fact that I felt I missed out on a lot of #2's baby years because I was pregnant and tired and didn't feel like doing a whole lot. Personally, the longer you can have your body heal and more bonding time with your oldest, is imo better for everyone involved. But, obviously it is your husband and your decision and not all kids happen to fight as much as mine does. I think I am at an disadvantage because they are all girls and much closer in age. It's like having triplets. -- Sue (mom to three girls) I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World... |
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I got a nice surprise tonight
"Jennifer and Robert Howe" wrote in message ink.net... Hubby and I were talking and he said "I want another one". I said another what and he said another baby. He said he wanted ours to grow up with a brother or sister close to her so they won't fight as badly. LOL!! Sorry but a close age gap does not mean no fighting. Mine are 16 months apart and 25 months apart. Yes they play together but boy, can they fight. We had talked about this in the past and I have been thinking of having the IUD out in August after she was a year old but now he wants me to have it removed sooner. I don't think I want to do this considering I had a c-section with the first one I want to let my body heal a bit. Do you think that this would be a good idea or should I go ahead have it taken out and try for the 2nd one? I'm not sure what to really do about it. Jennifer Ariana 8/27/03 All of mine are c-sections. I was never told to wait a certain amount time in-between. Sophie #4 due 7/7/04 - 4th c-section |
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I got a nice surprise tonight
Personally, the longer you can have your body heal
Not sure about that. My Dr said healed is pretty much healed with c-sections. Waiting longer doesn't mean more healed. |
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I got a nice surprise tonight
Jennifer and Robert Howe wrote:
Hubby and I were talking and he said "I want another one". I said another what and he said another baby. He said he wanted ours to grow up with a brother or sister close to her so they won't fight as badly. We had talked about this in the past and I have been thinking of having the IUD out in August after she was a year old but now he wants me to have it removed sooner. I don't think I want to do this considering I had a c-section with the first one I want to let my body heal a bit. Do you think that this would be a good idea or should I go ahead have it taken out and try for the 2nd one? I'm not sure what to really do about it. I don't know about the issues related to having had a c-section. Research has suggested that the optimal spacing for health reasons is 2.5 years to 5 years. Earlier than that the risk of preterm labor and low birthweight are increased. They aren't huge, but they are increased, which may indicate something about your body not being as ready for another pregnancy within that time frame. So, that would suggest starting trying for another baby when your first is around 18 months. By happenstance, that's what the spacing between my first two is. It worked well for us, though every spacing has it's good points and bad points. One thing I will say, though, is that there is NO spacing that will guarantee that the kids won't fight as much. Some of the siblings I know that fight the *MOST* are very close in age, and some that fight the least are further apart. My husband is less than a year younger than his brother and they fought like crazy as kids and weren't even really friends until they were adults. If you want close spacing for other reasons, then feel free, but don't take on the challenge of having two so close together (and it is definitely a challenge in the early years) under the assumption that it will guarantee sibling closeness. Also, it sounds like you're not quite ready to do this again right now. I think it's important to respect your body and your feelings too. Pregnancy is a major drain on your resources, and it's a lot harder being pregnant when you already have a child (you can't just take a nap when you're tired!). Don't let a false sense of urgency push you somewhere you're not ready to go yet. Best wishes, Ericka |
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I got a nice surprise tonight
You shouldn't do it until you both feel ready, but I wouldn't let the c-section
hold me back if I were you. I have two boys a year apart, both c-sections, and I've had another baby since with no problems. As Sophie said, once it's healed, it's healed. Leslie |
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I got a nice surprise tonight
I don't know about the issues related to having had
a c-section. Research has suggested that the optimal spacing for health reasons is 2.5 years to 5 years. Earlier than that the risk of preterm labor and low birthweight are increased. They aren't huge, but they are increased, which may indicate something about your body not being as ready for another pregnancy within that time frame. Well Patrick was more than a pound bigger than Charlotte and he came only cos it was scheduled (on his due date). *They* can say that *might* happen but I don't buy it. So, that would suggest starting trying for another baby when your first is around 18 months. By happenstance, that's what the spacing between my first two is. It worked well for us, though every spacing has it's good points and bad points. One thing I will say, though, is that there is NO spacing that will guarantee that the kids won't fight as much. Some of the siblings I know that fight the *MOST* are very close in age, and some that fight the least are further apart. My husband is less than a year younger than his brother and they fought like crazy as kids and weren't even really friends until they were adults. If you want close spacing for other reasons, then feel free, but don't take on the challenge of having two so close together (and it is definitely a challenge in the early years) under the assumption that it will guarantee sibling closeness. Absolutely agree. You can't guarantee a thing - that you'll get pregnant when you want to, that you'll have a certain gender, that they'll get along, etc....You just have to take your chances. Also, it sounds like you're not quite ready to do this again right now. I think it's important to respect your body and your feelings too. Pregnancy is a major drain on your resources, and it's a lot harder being pregnant when you already have a child (you can't just take a nap when you're tired!). Don't let a false sense of urgency push you somewhere you're not ready to go yet. Best wishes, Ericka But if you get pregnant and you have a younger child there's more chance that child naps - and you can too That was great when I was pregnant with Patrick, Charlotte still took 2 naps a day (then only one) and I did too. |
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I got a nice surprise tonight
Sophie wrote:
I don't know about the issues related to having had a c-section. Research has suggested that the optimal spacing for health reasons is 2.5 years to 5 years. Earlier than that the risk of preterm labor and low birthweight are increased. They aren't huge, but they are increased, which may indicate something about your body not being as ready for another pregnancy within that time frame. Well Patrick was more than a pound bigger than Charlotte and he came only cos it was scheduled (on his due date). *They* can say that *might* happen but I don't buy it. I think it's pretty hard to dispute a large, reasonably well done study that demonstrated a greater risk of preterm labor and low birthweight with closer spacings (especially since those findings have been supported by other studies as well). That doesn't mean that it will happen to everyone, of course. It simply means that the odds are higher that it will than if one has a larger gap. Just because you weren't one of the people it happened to doesn't mean the additional risk doesn't exist. After that, it becomes a personal choice whether the risk is something a person wants to accept or not. Different people have different levels of risk tolerance. Some people would look at those studies and still feel the risk was acceptable, and others wouldn't. Best wishes, Ericka |
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I got a nice surprise tonight
Sue wrote:
Personally, the longer you can have your body heal Sophie wrote in message Not sure about that. My Dr said healed is pretty much healed with c-sections. Waiting longer doesn't mean more healed. Probably not, but I think my mind needs to heal, lol. -- Sue (mom to three girls) I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World... |
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