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Crying it out
"Phoebe & Allyson" wrote in message ... hobbes wrote: If it helps to know this, neither of my children would take naps if they weren't being held for the first 3-5 months of their lives. It was tiring and really frustrating some days. But eventually, the problems fixed themselves (with some flexibility and experimentation from me). That's Caterpillar. What did you do? Honestly, I don't think I can take credit for any changes. Or not much. Seemed like eventually each of them decided that it's just as/more comfortable to sleep lying down than in my arms. (Well, DD might not be quite there--she certainly doesn't like to settle at night until I'm in bed with her.) With DS, my technique was nursing him in bed and sneaking away when he'd fallen asleep. That was the only thing that worked, and I had to keep it up until he was almost 1.5 years old. With DD, it has been persistance and necessity (with a toddler running around, I simply can't hold her for hours at a time, or lie down in bed 3 times a day). We're still working on it, but she is able to sleep for at least 20 minutes on her own three times a day. Let me think what got us there . . . It helped that my mom comes once a week and one time she just got persistant with putting DD down when she fell asleep, picking her up if she woke, and putting her right down again. Since she couldn't nurse (I had nursed recently, so we knew DD wasn't hungry), she had to try various things, and since DD knew she wasn't getting any milk out of the deal, I think she just gave up a lot quicker than she would with me, and slept on her own for over an hour. That's what gave me hope. So I just started nursing her and lying her down. Sometimes she'd wake up and I'd walk her and rock her or nurse her or whatever and lay her down again. Eventually, it just worked. That's why I think it was really a matter of her timing--nothing I did was unique at all. I doubt any of that will help Caterpillar. Sounds like she's a stubborn one. The only thing I wonder is whether she's too tired to sleep. You've probably tried this, but have you considered trying to get her to nap earlier? DD's first nap is about an hour and a half after she wakes up in the morning. Second nap is 3 hours later. Third nap is 3 hours later. (About 8:30, 11:30, 2:30.) I didn't invent the schedule, and it varies somewhat, but that's what has evolved. First two naps are usually 20-30 minutes. Third nap is closer to an hour, but she often wakes up after 30-40 minutes and finishes her nap in my arms. I have no idea if that's helpful or not, but sometimes it does help to hear what other babies are doing. Jodi |
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Crying it out
hobbes wrote:
First two naps are usually 20-30 minutes. Third nap is closer to an hour, but she often wakes up after 30-40 minutes and finishes her nap in my arms. I have no idea if that's helpful or not, but sometimes it does help to hear what other babies are doing. Very helpful! Caterpillar will nap 20 minutes by herself, as long as we can lay her down without waking her up. It's just that she sleeps up to 90 minutes on someone. She's being a perverse little Caterpillar today. I asked the pediatrician about her persistently dark-green poop (ped said it's undigested bile caused by fast transit time) and she was yellow for the rest of the day for the first time in over a month. I posted here about not napping, and she slept by herself for an hour and a half. (Well, 60 minutes during which she woke up and went back to sleep a few seconds later 3 times, woke up for real with a huge burp and a nurse back to sleep, then 30 more minutes by herself.) Too bad that nap was from 7:30 to 9:45, which means she'll be up until 1am. :P Phoebe -- yahoo address is unread - substitute mailbolt |
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Crying it out
Phoebe & Allyson wrote:
hobbes wrote: If it helps to know this, neither of my children would take naps if they weren't being held for the first 3-5 months of their lives. It was tiring and really frustrating some days. But eventually, the problems fixed themselves (with some flexibility and experimentation from me). That's Caterpillar. What did you do? Phoebe *and the never-napping baby who was up until 1am* That was Hunter. We held him or he didn't nap ;-) When he was weaned napping was well and truley a struggle. I quite struggling and holding when the baby was born and Hunter completely quit napping at 24 months, although he still needed one. If you are wondering...no he never napped for anyone else either, not dh nor the sitter. He'd occasionally fall over from complete exhaustion at the sitters but never from an intentional nap. I could get him to sleep and then transfer him over to dh for a nap and that worked pretty good though. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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