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question - or maybe ramble - about my 4yo
My son is in daycare/preschool. I was talking to his teacher the other day.
I was asking what skills were expected going into kindergarten after preschool. The teacher listed knowing shapes, colors and recognizing letters. Hmmm said I, DS has had that cold for a really long time. Then I asked what basic skills are expecting going into first grade. She said (in a neighboring state in which she used to teach kindergarten) knowing letters cold, knowing many letter sounds, recognizing numbers. By this account, academically speaking, my 4yo is ready for first grade. He knows a lot of whole words that he recognizes on sight. And he is getting more and more adept at reading words by sounding them out. He does not know any compound sounds like "ee" and "th" but he is very interested in them. We have started talking about them, but he would not be able to tell me what "th" sounds like. I have not asked him. His math skills are very good. He can count forever, as long as he is paying attention. He can add small numbers using his fingers. He enjoys this stuff. Anyway, he is 4 and will be 5 in december. Meaning, he missed the kindergarten cut off at our school. I could apply for a cut off waiver, which apparently is not granted very often in our district. I have to go speak to the principal for more details. My concern is that over the normal course of events, he will not be able to go to kindergarten until Sept 2006. If he is so acedemically ahead of the game now, what will things be like then? I have thought to basically de-emphasize reading and math for now. Some more writing would be fine. But maybe I could bring up more science topics which we have been ignoring, like how do flowers grow? How do bees make honey, and stuff like that. But even so, if DS is not reading by Kindergarten I'll be a monkey's uncle. My point is I am not sure what I should be thinking about in terms of education options for him. His acedemic ability is not on the same track as his social skills. I do not want to advance him acedemically at the expense of being able to get along with his peers. I think my folks did that. It worked out Ok. I am pretty sure I would have been a massive geek anyway. But I never did understand what was going on with my own peer group. But I do not want learning and school to be boring and drudgery all the time. At some point, a child sometimes has to do things that they do not want to do. But I have visions of learning letter sounds and counting which will be just too easy for him, and resultant behavioral issues stemming from boredom. Options may include: - Do nothing and wait and see how things are when he is eligible for kindergarten. - Attempt to get him into kindergarten this September at 4 yo. That's kind of young, don't you think? - Plan on homeschooling. This one would be the biggest life departure from our current scene. But I am working on being more available for this sort of thing. I would say that private schooling is not an option, as I want to reduce the family reliance on my income, not increase it. Ok, I am done rambling now. Anyone have any comments? Thanks! |
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Stephanie wrote:
My concern is that over the normal course of events, he will not be able to go to kindergarten until Sept 2006. If he is so acedemically ahead of the game now, what will things be like then? I have thought to basically de-emphasize reading and math for now. Some more writing would be fine. But maybe I could bring up more science topics which we have been ignoring, like how do flowers grow? How do bees make honey, and stuff like that. But even so, if DS is not reading by Kindergarten I'll be a monkey's uncle. Just because the criteria for getting into grade X are somewhat limited doesn't mean that that's all they cover in grade X-1. There's a whole lot of variation from school district to school district, but around here, a whole lot of kids are reading by kindy (and a whole lot aren't). Some go into first grade barely reading, and others go into first grade reading very well. They just meet the kids where they are and make progress from there. It's not perfect, but it's not like they're going to hold a child who is reading back for the whole year. They'll usually find a way to accommodate, especially if you say something about it. That said, I certainly would not be pushing him academically at home. I wouldn't stand in his way if he wants to learn more about a particular area, but I wouldn't be encouraging it. There are *SO* many things he can spend his time with now--science, as you say, as well as music and dance and other arts and things in the community and so forth. Options may include: - Do nothing and wait and see how things are when he is eligible for kindergarten. That's what I'd do. Both my boys are gifted and neither had any serious problems being accommodated in kindy (one started at 5 years 7 months and the other at 5 years 1 month). It *could* be a disaster with a poor teacher, but it is far from necessarily being a disaster. Any kindy teacher worth his or her salt should be able to accommodate a wide range of abilities, as that's *very* common in kindy. - Attempt to get him into kindergarten this September at 4 yo. That's kind of young, don't you think? Yes. Even with more academic kindys, kindy is still *very* social and a lot about learning all the "school rules." I think it would likely to him a great disservice to put him in so much younger than the other kids. - Plan on homeschooling. This one would be the biggest life departure from our current scene. But I am working on being more available for this sort of thing. I wouldn't borrow trouble. Things could still work out just fine. Unless you want to homeschool for other reasons, I'd reserve that option for when and if it turns out to be clearly necessary. Best wishes, Ericka |
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"Stephanie" wrote in message
... My son is in daycare/preschool. I was talking to his teacher the other day. I was asking what skills were expected going into kindergarten after preschool. The teacher listed knowing shapes, colors and recognizing letters. Hmmm said I, DS has had that cold for a really long time. My daughter had all of those down by the time she was 3.5, despite having a learning disability. Because of that learning disability, she is struggling in kindergarten (though she is, quite happily, making progress and according to her teacher, she won't be held back, which was my greatest concern when I decided not to keep her out of kindy until next year). My point here is that a *lot* of kids, particularly those with preschool or daycare experience, have the "prerequisites" for kindergarten down pat well before they're old enough to go to kindergarten. That doesn't mean they're socially or psychologically or physically ready for all that kindergarten entails. Then I asked what basic skills are expecting going into first grade. She said (in a neighboring state in which she used to teach kindergarten) knowing letters cold, knowing many letter sounds, recognizing numbers. That sounds more like what our school district wants for kindergarten entry, not first grade entry. They don't make a big deal out of knowing letter sounds, but they definitely like it if the kids know some of them. I don't know where you live, but the expectation for children leaving kindergarten in California includes the ability to identify, count, and write number to 30, the ability to write three non-patterned sentences (meaning it can't be "I see the cat. I see the dog. I see the kite." but has to be "I see the cat. The cat is gray. I like petting the cat."), and be able to read/write roughly 30 sight words. I wouldn't go by a report of what the expectations in another state are (or were when she was teaching there). By this account, academically speaking, my 4yo is ready for first grade. He knows a lot of whole words that he recognizes on sight. And he is getting more and more adept at reading words by sounding them out. He does not know any compound sounds like "ee" and "th" but he is very interested in them. We have started talking about them, but he would not be able to tell me what "th" sounds like. I have not asked him. His math skills are very good. He can count forever, as long as he is paying attention. He can add small numbers using his fingers. He enjoys this stuff. That's great. For a child like this, a Montessori pre-K/K program is probably a great option. But the ability to read and do math doesn't mean he's really ready for kindergarten. A *lot* of kids are reading and doing rudimentary mathematics when they enter kindergarten. That doesn't mean that the entire kindergarten curriculum is too easy for them, though. Just as an example, my cousin's son was reading at about a third grade level when he entered kindy last fall. His parents actually have had to hide the newspaper from him since he was about 4 because he read the headlines and then wanted to know about car bombs in Iraq and the like. Even though he was *very* advanced at reading, he still found learning to write and many of the other skills taught in kindergarten to be challenging. And, in fact, kindergarten is a *whole* lot more about learning to write than it is about learning to read, so if he's already reading when he enters kindergarten, it's *not* going to make the entire curriculum boring for him. My concern is that over the normal course of events, he will not be able to go to kindergarten until Sept 2006. If he is so acedemically ahead of the game now, what will things be like then? I have thought to basically de-emphasize reading and math for now. Some more writing would be fine. But maybe I could bring up more science topics which we have been ignoring, like how do flowers grow? How do bees make honey, and stuff like that. But even so, if DS is not reading by Kindergarten I'll be a monkey's uncle. Personally, I'd lay off academic stuff unless *he's* pushing you for it. I never made any effort to get my children to read or write or do math before they got to kindergarten. They learned what they learned in preschool and I supported that if they asked me to, but I never made any great point to doing academic stuff with them at home. Aside from reading them lots of books, taking them to museums and parks and the zoo, and answering their questions about anything and everything ("what are trees made of? what is glass made of? what is the sky made of?"--my oldest could come up with these all day long), I didn't think it was particularly desirable to spend a lot of our family time on "teaching" them things. My point is I am not sure what I should be thinking about in terms of education options for him. His acedemic ability is not on the same track as his social skills. I do not want to advance him acedemically at the expense of being able to get along with his peers. I think my folks did that. It worked out Ok. I am pretty sure I would have been a massive geek anyway. But I never did understand what was going on with my own peer group. But I do not want learning and school to be boring and drudgery all the time. At some point, a child sometimes has to do things that they do not want to do. But I have visions of learning letter sounds and counting which will be just too easy for him, and resultant behavioral issues stemming from boredom. And you can cross that bridge when you come to it. I think you're borrowing trouble here based on your own experiences. Don't assume your kid is you, even if he looks and acts a lot like you g. And don't assume that his school experiences will necessarily be the same as yours, because school today is not what it was when you went. (Trust me on this one. I'm shocked by how different kindy is for my kids than it was for me...ahem...30+ years ago, and I had a more academic than usual kindergarten experience for my day because I was identified gifted and taught to read.) Options may include: - Do nothing and wait and see how things are when he is eligible for kindergarten. This gets my vote. - Attempt to get him into kindergarten this September at 4 yo. That's kind of young, don't you think? Depending on when the cut-off in your district is, it could be very young. The California state cut-off is Dec. 2, though some districts have later cut-offs, so we actually have a *lot* of kids who are 4 when they start kindergarten and most of them do fine. That said, if the cut-off for your district is late like ours, it's all the more reason to respect it if your child's birthdate falls after it. IOW, the likelihood that your child really isn't socially, psychologically, and physically ready for kindergarten are greater the later the cut-off is. Many people in California hold back children with Oct.-Nov. birthdays until the following school year precisely because our cut-off is so late and our requirements are so academic. - Plan on homeschooling. This one would be the biggest life departure from our current scene. But I am working on being more available for this sort of thing. Like Ericka, this isn't something I'd put on the table at this juncture. Home schooling is something I'd do if I felt is was the absolutely only option for some reason, but it would take a lot to get me there. -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Mr. Congeniality (7), the Diva (5) and the Race Car Fanatic (3) I have PMS and ESP...I'm the bitch who knows everything! 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- Do nothing and wait and see how things are when he is eligible for kindergarten. - Attempt to get him into kindergarten this September at 4 yo. That's kind of young, don't you think? - Plan on homeschooling. This one would be the biggest life departure from our current scene. But I am working on being more available for this sort of thing. I have a friend who decided to homeschool for the reasons you listed. She could not see sending her daughter to school to learn things she already knew the year before she could go to public school. Tori -- Bonnie 3/02 Xavier 10/04 Goal 1- lose 20 lbs By May 1st |
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"Tori M." wrote in message
... - Do nothing and wait and see how things are when he is eligible for kindergarten. - Attempt to get him into kindergarten this September at 4 yo. That's kind of young, don't you think? - Plan on homeschooling. This one would be the biggest life departure from our current scene. But I am working on being more available for this sort of thing. I have a friend who decided to homeschool for the reasons you listed. She could not see sending her daughter to school to learn things she already knew the year before she could go to public school. Of course, this assumes that public schools cannot accommodate the needs of children who are academically ahead of their peers. This is no more true than the assumption that they cannot accommodate the needs of those who are academically behind their peers. In point of fact, public schools deal with children in a single grade with a range of academic skills and needs on a daily basis. Some of them do it better than others, of course, but the fact remains that all children in a single grade in school are not all learning/performing exactly the same skills because they're not all at exactly the same level when they get there. That's a fact of life. -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Mr. Congeniality (7), the Diva (5) and the Race Car Fanatic (3) I have PMS and ESP...I'm the bitch who knows everything! (T-shirt slogan) |
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I would put him into kindergarten and not worry about it. There is more to
just knowing how to count and knowing letters. He needs to be able to pick them out and know all of the sounds. There is social things going on that you are not aware of. If he seems bored in kindergarten, then perhaps you can do something about it then. -- Sue (mom to three girls) "Stephanie" wrote in message ... My son is in daycare/preschool. I was talking to his teacher the other day. I was asking what skills were expected going into kindergarten after preschool. The teacher listed knowing shapes, colors and recognizing letters. Hmmm said I, DS has had that cold for a really long time. Then I asked what basic skills are expecting going into first grade. She said (in a neighboring state in which she used to teach kindergarten) knowing letters cold, knowing many letter sounds, recognizing numbers. By this account, academically speaking, my 4yo is ready for first grade. He knows a lot of whole words that he recognizes on sight. And he is getting more and more adept at reading words by sounding them out. He does not know any compound sounds like "ee" and "th" but he is very interested in them. We have started talking about them, but he would not be able to tell me what "th" sounds like. I have not asked him. His math skills are very good. He can count forever, as long as he is paying attention. He can add small numbers using his fingers. He enjoys this stuff. Anyway, he is 4 and will be 5 in december. Meaning, he missed the kindergarten cut off at our school. I could apply for a cut off waiver, which apparently is not granted very often in our district. I have to go speak to the principal for more details. My concern is that over the normal course of events, he will not be able to go to kindergarten until Sept 2006. If he is so acedemically ahead of the game now, what will things be like then? I have thought to basically de-emphasize reading and math for now. Some more writing would be fine. But maybe I could bring up more science topics which we have been ignoring, like how do flowers grow? How do bees make honey, and stuff like that. But even so, if DS is not reading by Kindergarten I'll be a monkey's uncle. My point is I am not sure what I should be thinking about in terms of education options for him. His acedemic ability is not on the same track as his social skills. I do not want to advance him acedemically at the expense of being able to get along with his peers. I think my folks did that. It worked out Ok. I am pretty sure I would have been a massive geek anyway. But I never did understand what was going on with my own peer group. But I do not want learning and school to be boring and drudgery all the time. At some point, a child sometimes has to do things that they do not want to do. But I have visions of learning letter sounds and counting which will be just too easy for him, and resultant behavioral issues stemming from boredom. Options may include: - Do nothing and wait and see how things are when he is eligible for kindergarten. - Attempt to get him into kindergarten this September at 4 yo. That's kind of young, don't you think? - Plan on homeschooling. This one would be the biggest life departure from our current scene. But I am working on being more available for this sort of thing. I would say that private schooling is not an option, as I want to reduce the family reliance on my income, not increase it. Ok, I am done rambling now. Anyone have any comments? Thanks! |
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"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... Stephanie wrote: My concern is that over the normal course of events, he will not be able to go to kindergarten until Sept 2006. If he is so acedemically ahead of the game now, what will things be like then? I have thought to basically de-emphasize reading and math for now. Some more writing would be fine. But maybe I could bring up more science topics which we have been ignoring, like how do flowers grow? How do bees make honey, and stuff like that. But even so, if DS is not reading by Kindergarten I'll be a monkey's uncle. Just because the criteria for getting into grade X are somewhat limited doesn't mean that that's all they cover in grade X-1. There's a whole lot of variation from school district to school district, but around here, a whole lot of kids are reading by kindy (and a whole lot aren't). Some go into first grade barely reading, and others go into first grade reading very well. They just meet the kids where they are and make progress from there. It's not perfect, but it's not like they're going to hold a child who is reading back for the whole year. They'll usually find a way to accommodate, especially if you say something about it. That said, I certainly would not be pushing him academically at home. We don't push. We just live. And in the course of doing that, he picks these things up. Lots of toys are "learning" toys these days, so it is rather hard to avoid, if one wanted to, which we don't particularly. And he loves books. I wouldn't stand in his way if he wants to learn more about a particular area, but I wouldn't be encouraging it. What do you mean by this? There are *SO* many things he can spend his time with now--science, as you say, as well as music and dance and other arts and things in the community and so forth. Yeah, that's what I mean. Options may include: - Do nothing and wait and see how things are when he is eligible for kindergarten. That's what I'd do. Both my boys are gifted and neither had any serious problems being accommodated in kindy (one started at 5 years 7 months and the other at 5 years 1 month). It *could* be a disaster with a poor teacher, but it is far from necessarily being a disaster. Any kindy teacher worth his or her salt should be able to accommodate a wide range of abilities, as that's *very* common in kindy. - Attempt to get him into kindergarten this September at 4 yo. That's kind of young, don't you think? Yes. Even with more academic kindys, kindy is still *very* social and a lot about learning all the "school rules." I think it would likely to him a great disservice to put him in so much younger than the other kids. That was my main worry. - Plan on homeschooling. This one would be the biggest life departure from our current scene. But I am working on being more available for this sort of thing. I wouldn't borrow trouble. It is something we are considering for a host of reasons. But I am curious, why would you call it borrowing trouble? Things could still work out just fine. Unless you want to homeschool for other reasons, I'd reserve that option for when and if it turns out to be clearly necessary. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Stephanie wrote:
"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... I wouldn't stand in his way if he wants to learn more about a particular area, but I wouldn't be encouraging it. What do you mean by this? I mean that I would let him take the lead in picking up academic stuff. I wouldn't be suggesting he work on academics. I wouldn't actively teach him to read. I would actively search out other interesting, non-academic things to do together. However, I wouldn't refuse to answer a question or show him how to do something *he* wanted to do just because I was trying to slow down the academic juggernaut. With kids who are academically precocious, you have to wage a full out war against making academics seem like the be all and end all. Because so many parents are dealing with the opposite set of issues, there is a *lot* of stuff out there that gives the impression that academic stuff (and focusing on it) is a Good Thing. Your son will get a lot of positive reinforcement for being so smart and will pick up very quickly on the fact that it is something that his parents value highly. It's easy for him to decide that academics are his long suit, and they're a Good Thing, so this is where he will put all his energy and all that other stuff (where he may not be as precocious) gets short shrift. Pretty soon, he's fit himself in a niche and doesn't want to go do other things because they don't come as easily to him and they're not "his thing." I'm not suggesting that you somehow try to turn academics into a bad thing. I'm just suggesting that you work hard to make sure that he gets a more balanced perspective, which can be an uphill struggle if you tend to be more academically inclined yourself. - Plan on homeschooling. This one would be the biggest life departure from our current scene. But I am working on being more available for this sort of thing. I wouldn't borrow trouble. It is something we are considering for a host of reasons. But I am curious, why would you call it borrowing trouble? Because you don't know you have a problem as yet. Best wishes, Ericka |
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"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... Stephanie wrote: "Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... I wouldn't stand in his way if he wants to learn more about a particular area, but I wouldn't be encouraging it. What do you mean by this? I mean that I would let him take the lead in picking up academic stuff. I wouldn't be suggesting he work on academics. I wouldn't actively teach him to read. I would actively search out other interesting, non-academic things to do together. However, I wouldn't refuse to answer a question or show him how to do something *he* wanted to do just because I was trying to slow down the academic juggernaut. I am not sure I understand the thinking here. I am inclined to assume that my thinking is not clear, since you often make so much sense to me. But if he wants to learn it and we (he in particular) are having a good time, I should attempt to direct our attention elsewhere so that he can be kept to the same level as other people his age? That's what it sounds like you are saying. I definitely think that the worl is big, and that there is a lot of stuff to see and touch and learn. But if I hear you correctly, it sounds like you think I shoud intentionally steer clear of "acedemic" subjects. That does not make sense to me. With kids who are academically precocious, you have to wage a full out war against making academics seem like the be all and end all. Because so many parents are dealing with the opposite set of issues, there is a *lot* of stuff out there that gives the impression that academic stuff (and focusing on it) is a Good Thing. We don't particularly focus on it. He has advanced with precious little effort from anyone. I am interested in balance. Your son will get a lot of positive reinforcement for being so smart and will pick up very quickly on the fact that it is something that his parents value highly. That's not quite on target. I actually have told DH to knock oit off with the smart comments and focus more on the try comments. Like noticing when he is trying something challenging is more important than succeeding at something easy. There is nothing meritorious about doing something well that comes very easily. It's easy for him to decide that academics are his long suit, and they're a Good Thing, so this is where he will put all his energy and all that other stuff (where he may not be as precocious) gets short shrift. Pretty soon, he's fit himself in a niche and doesn't want to go do other things because they don't come as easily to him and they're not "his thing." I'm not suggesting that you somehow try to turn academics into a bad thing. I'm just suggesting that you work hard to make sure that he gets a more balanced perspective, which can be an uphill struggle if you tend to be more academically inclined yourself. I think you are assuming there is a lack of balance which may have been implied, but if so was incorrectly so. There are certainly things he does less of because of his own disinterest. Ask him to play music, and he will give you a blank look. Ask him about the solar system, and he will read you chapter and verse! We go where his interest lead, for the most part. The day when he has to do things that are dissinteresting are too fast approaching. - Plan on homeschooling. This one would be the biggest life departure from our current scene. But I am working on being more available for this sort of thing. I wouldn't borrow trouble. It is something we are considering for a host of reasons. But I am curious, why would you call it borrowing trouble? Because you don't know you have a problem as yet. I thank you for your time and willingness to discuss this with me. But I actually do think this bears thinking about on my part. I may not conclude to do anything. The fact that myself, all my brothers and sisters and my husband all faced a situation that seems to be dawning for my son *does* strike me as more than coincidence. Like all parents, I would like my son to excel. (Don't I sound like one of those mega pressure parents?) I want him to excel at being the best him he can be. The most important lessons that I hope for my children do not necessarily include being able to read. They are smart enough to read, so it is a forgone conclusion that they will read unless some other information comes forth. The most important lessons include giving your best and your all to achieve the things you want to achieve, being able to face challenges without shrinking in fear of failure. Being willing to try, fail and then try again. These are lessons that I think are easier learned early in life. I think I hear what you are saying to me. That I run the risk of being an overbearing parent who is trying to *see* a gifted child whether there is one there or not. I hear you (or I hear myself if you were not saying that). I am cautious of that. But that is not really what I am about. I am trying to think in my mind what would be the best set of learning experiences for my son. Then, if I can imagine what that is, I can see how close things are to my image. I am not expressing this very well. What I do not think is that I am limited to what the public schools have to offer. I do not think I need to wait until they determine my kids are old enough or know enough or whatever and sort of sit back and wait for them to tell me what constitutes education. This paragraph probably bears a little background explanation, with some apologies to some of the excellent educators in this group. Where I come from there were precious few excellent educators. My mom was a teacher at a good private school for a lot of years. She then eventually moved into the public school system. She had to leave in disgust at what constituted education in the public schools. So I am pretty biased, I suspect. But also, it seems unlikely that you can take a large number of kids (depending on their age) with nothing in common but their age, stick them in a room with one or two adults, and teach each kid to *their* needs and abilities. Don't get me wrong, I am not blaming teachers. They do the best that they can, and better than I could, under pretty tough circumstances. But until such time as society values the excellence of education more highly than it does, then we will continue to fail to provide the resources necessary to get the excellence part of the job done. I don't want my children to get lost in that shuffle. I have probably said too much. I hope I did not offend anyone. I certainly did not mean to, but I am good at it nonetheless. |
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"Stephanie" wrote in message
... There are certainly things he does less of because of his own disinterest. Ask him to play music, and he will give you a blank look. Ask him about the solar system, and he will read you chapter and verse! We go where his interest lead, for the most part. The day when he has to do things that are dissinteresting are too fast approaching. I think it is a bit worrisome that you presume that school will include many subjects that will be uninteresting to him. That does not necessarily have to be the case and, indeed, for most well-rounded, academically gifted children, almost all of school is a pleasure. (It certainly was for me until I got into middle school.) Elementary school teachers generally love academically precocious children who are easy to teach (which means that some gifted kids who are hard to teach because they have issues like ADHD sometimes get short-shrift, but that's a separate issue!) and cater to them quite a bit. The kids with identified problems at the other end of the spectrum also get a lot of attention. It's the ones in the middle who tend to get the least direct attention. Because you don't know you have a problem as yet. I thank you for your time and willingness to discuss this with me. But I actually do think this bears thinking about on my part. I may not conclude to do anything. The fact that myself, all my brothers and sisters and my husband all faced a situation that seems to be dawning for my son *does* strike me as more than coincidence. Like all parents, I would like my son to excel. (Don't I sound like one of those mega pressure parents?) I want him to excel at being the best him he can be. The problem that I see is that you are trying to make a decision about something that isn't happening yet based on information you don't have. Your son appears to be very gifted academically. That doesn't mean, however, that he's doomed to be bored in school if he started kindergarten when the school district says he should or that his teachers won't provide him with challenging and interesting material to learn once they see and understand his strengths and potential. And, to be honest, it doesn't seem entirely clear to me that you even know yet what the kindergarten curriculum is in your state/school district/school, so it's very hard for me to see that it's rational to assume that it will all be too easy and dull for him. Beyond that, if he is academically gifted, he will certainly be identified as gifted before he enters the third grade, at which point, he will have access to gifted/talented programs. These programs exist precisely to serve children like your son and do an excellent job, overall, of providing challenging and interesting learning experiences to gifted/talented students. IOW, it seems to me that you can't really make a decision about what situation will allow your son to be the best he can be until you have more information. I think by bringing up homeschooling as an option before you've even fully explored what your public school's policies and programs are is, at a minimum, jumping the gun, unless there are other reasons you want to homeschool anyway. (In which case, don't make your son's apparent giftedness an excuse, but homeschool because that's what you want to do.) Being willing to try, fail and then try again. These are lessons that I think are easier learned early in life. Which is one reason that steering him to try things he's not necessarily all that interested in (like music, just as a fer instance) in addition to, though not at the expense of, the things he *is* interested in might be a good idea. I think I hear what you are saying to me. That I run the risk of being an overbearing parent who is trying to *see* a gifted child whether there is one there or not. I hear you (or I hear myself if you were not saying that). I don't think that's what she's saying at all and I don't think it's somethi ng you should say to yourself, either. The thing is, if your child is gifted, he's gifted. What *grade* he's in won't make him any more or less gifted, if you see what I mean. I mean, yes, I suppose if you put a gifted 5yo in a second grade class, the standard curriculum is more likely to be challenging for him. On the other hand, there would be significant social and psychological issues to being the only 5yo in a class full of 7 and 8yo's that might well mean he'd be better off in a kindergarten classroom getting a supplemented curriculum. Either way, he'd still be gifted! I am cautious of that. But that is not really what I am about. I am trying to think in my mind what would be the best set of learning experiences for my son. Then, if I can imagine what that is, I can see how close things are to my image. I am not expressing this very well. Nah, you're expressing it fine. I just think you don't know enough about the learning experiences being offered by your public school to judge whether or not it's going to be close to your image or not. What I do not think is that I am limited to what the public schools have to offer. I do not think I need to wait until they determine my kids are old enough or know enough or whatever and sort of sit back and wait for them to tell me what constitutes education. This paragraph probably bears a little background explanation, with some apologies to some of the excellent educators in this group. Where I come from there were precious few excellent educators. My mom was a teacher at a good private school for a lot of years. She then eventually moved into the public school system. She had to leave in disgust at what constituted education in the public schools. So I am pretty biased, I suspect. You are g. And your bias is leading you to assume that homeschooling would be better for your child than public schooling. Honestly, it's fine to have that bias. I just think that looking at your child's relative level of academic ability shouldn't have *anything* to do with that decision. After all, as you said below, it doesn't really matter exactly *what* any child's abilities a a teacher can't (in your opinion) teach to the abilities and needs of each individual child. But also, it seems unlikely that you can take a large number of kids (depending on their age) with nothing in common but their age, stick them in a room with one or two adults, and teach each kid to *their* needs and abilities. Don't get me wrong, I am not blaming teachers. They do the best that they can, and better than I could, under pretty tough circumstances. But until such time as society values the excellence of education more highly than it does, then we will continue to fail to provide the resources necessary to get the excellence part of the job done. I don't want my children to get lost in that shuffle. I think you've said all you need to. Whether I agree with you or not is irrelevant. You don't trust the public school system to provide your child with an excellent education. You want to homeschool. So do it. -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Mr. Congeniality (7), the Diva (5) and the Race Car Fanatic (3) I have PMS and ESP...I'm the bitch who knows everything! (T-shirt slogan) |
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