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Hello
My name is Pauline and I am the mother of a 7 year old, a 4 year old (both
boys) and twin girls that are almost 2. I am new here. My husband got a job in Boston a few months ago and we moved from Illinois in June. Back home, I had a lot of family around, but here, it is just me and the kids through the day. I have found that the girls either are inseparable, or they can't stand to be near each other. Does anyone else have this? They also 'talk' to each other all the time. They can say some things that we understand, but mostly they just talk in their own little language back and forth. I even found that when one was sick, the other seemed really lost. Twins don't run in either of our families, so they were a big surprise to us, but we are trying our best to have fun with them. But, we have no one to ask for help in dealing with the issues that they bring with them. Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with it when they want to be right next to each other, but at the same time, they don't want to be near each other? Thanks, Pauline |
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I feel for you because I myself have twins(boy/girl) that will be 3 in
September. They go thru some of the same things. Sometimes we let them fight some of their battles out till they get too rough with each other. They don't mind fighting with each other but no one else can fight with them or the other one gets very protective. They do share a very close bond that I hope they carry throughout life. I am not close with any of my family, actually I am like the "black sheep" and have little contact with them but have a great relationship with my husband's family. These are the first set of twins in 4 generations so this is new to all of us but my husband's family is very supportive. Only advise I have at this point is to have plenty of patients because it does seem to get a little easier(if only for a little while...lol) Christy |
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I try to let my girls battle it out too. That's what my mom did with me and
my sister (not twins) and we are pretty close. I think you just have to find a way to live together. My family is just the opposite. My family and I are very close and my husband's family doesn't talk to us much. It hurts my husband some, I think, when he sees how close my family is to us. I do my best with patience, but luckily my mom isn't afraid to fly anymore. She has been here once and is coming again soon. When does it get easier? |
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On Thu, 18 Aug 2005 10:34:20 -0400, "Pauline McCleary"
wrote: I try to let my girls battle it out too. That's what my mom did with me and my sister (not twins) and we are pretty close. I think you just have to find a way to live together. My family is just the opposite. My family and I are very close and my husband's family doesn't talk to us much. It hurts my husband some, I think, when he sees how close my family is to us. I do my best with patience, but luckily my mom isn't afraid to fly anymore. She has been here once and is coming again soon. When does it get easier? It gets easier the older they get. Our kids are almost 6 now. They can keep each other busy playing with each other for hours. Of course, there will be times when they fight over everything. When that happens, I can't really let them fight it out. One is a boy and one is a girl, and they boy is usually the aggressor and the stronger one, and he'd dominate in any fight. I usually have to step in and either help them negotiate a solution, separate them, and/or issue a timeout. -- -Seth Jackson, proud father of Derek and Mariel(10/1/99). Pictures at: http://hitmeister.home.mindspring.co...ypictures.html Music links: www.mp3.com/SethJackson www.mp3.com/loudspeaker www.SethJackson.net |
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