Update on the soap opera that is my life...

I ended up talking to the other woman lastnight and she's been dating him
for the past 3 months and was completely unaware of Brian and I were still
together. She dropped by the house and took a look at my MSN chat logs and
saw a conversation that completely incriminated him. So yeah, he was
leading a double life and now both of us are feeling used. The hilarious
thing is he called me trying to make me feel sorry for him because I had his
vehicle towed, called his work, got him busted with the girlfriend, and I
laughed and said he brought it on himself. Can you believe the nerve of
that man??? I think I should consider selling my story to Hollywood, that's
how ridiculous this has all gotten. *sigh*

Christine

"CME" wrote in message
news:qdtqb.22420$6A4.15672@edtnps84...
I ended up talking to the other woman lastnight and she's been dating him
for the past 3 months and was completely unaware of Brian and I were still
together. She dropped by the house and took a look at my MSN chat logs
and
saw a conversation that completely incriminated him. So yeah, he was
leading a double life and now both of us are feeling used. The hilarious
thing is he called me trying to make me feel sorry for him because I had
his
vehicle towed, called his work, got him busted with the girlfriend, and I
laughed and said he brought it on himself. Can you believe the nerve of
that man??? I think I should consider selling my story to Hollywood,
that's
how ridiculous this has all gotten. *sigh*

Christine



And was he aware that it was You that had his car towed, called his work(?)
and ratted him out to this other person?

I don't entirely understand what you hoped to gain from the car and work
part. I mean really, what's the point?

Lisa

'Kate wrote in message ...
On Thu, 6 Nov 2003 09:54:38 -0500, "Lisa aka Surfer"


"CME" wrote in message
news:qdtqb.22420$6A4.15672@edtnps84...
I ended up talking to the other woman lastnight and she's been dating
him
for the past 3 months and was completely unaware of Brian and I were
still
together. She dropped by the house and took a look at my MSN chat logs
and
saw a conversation that completely incriminated him. So yeah, he was
leading a double life and now both of us are feeling used. The
hilarious
thing is he called me trying to make me feel sorry for him because I
had
his
vehicle towed, called his work, got him busted with the girlfriend, and
I
laughed and said he brought it on himself. Can you believe the nerve
of
that man??? I think I should consider selling my story to Hollywood,
that's
how ridiculous this has all gotten. *sigh*

Christine



And was he aware that it was You that had his car towed, called his
work(?)
and ratted him out to this other person?

I don't entirely understand what you hoped to gain from the car and work
part. I mean really, what's the point?

Lisa

I'd imagine that it's difficult to keep doing things for someone who has
screwed with your head. She allowed him to keep his car at the apt.
complex where she lives. It's taking up a space that belongs,
essentially, to a resident at the apartment complex. Should she have to
keep doing that for him after he's treated her with little
consideration? So, she had it towed. She won't have to keep looking at
it and hurting if it's gone. She won't have to worry about him coming
by for it and possibly running into her.

The other woman contacted her on behalf of the cheating boyfriend.
Evidently the boyfriend was inconvenienced by the car being towed -
inconvenienced enough to whine to his new girlfriend. That the
girlfriend took matters into her own hands and found out what she did
was based on the new girlfriend's initiative.

The guy made his own bed. You can't cheat on a woman and expect her to
still keep doing things for you once you've been discovered.

'Kate

Thank you. Really, I'm coping with all this by focusing on my anger because
if I stopped and thought about it for a moment, I'm afraid I'll just roll
into a ball and gather dust. The only thing I've been doing to him is
telling everyone the truth. I called his work and told him his grandmother
didn't die last month, and they should ask for some sort of verification
because he took 2 days off work, and made the whole company feel sorry for
him. I had his vehicle towed because it was in MY parking space and I've
given him MONTHS to get it. I alerted the police to the fact that he's
driving an uninsured/unregistered vehicle because I will no longer cover for
him. He lied about having insurance and when I found out, I told him to get
his **** together then he gave me some bull**** story. Well that turned out
to be another lie, so he's busted. The reason I'm doing all this is because
it makes me feel better, plain and simple. Why should I let him get away
with it? Why should I make this easy for him? I'm finally making him
accountable for the wrongs he's committed and I couldn't stand by while he
lied to this other woman too. We know eachother!!! He's been seeing BOTH
of us at the same time... leading a double life and she had NO idea. She
came over to see the proof I had, which was an MSN chat log of a
conversation on Oct. 20 and she witnessed a conversation between myself and
his bestfriend where he verified that Brian was seeing me, so she was duped,
just like I was. I knew she didn't know about us, she's not that kind of
person. But Brian blatantly lied to both of us. He made his bed, now he's
gotta lie in it... alone. You're damn right I feel good about sticking it
to him, am I being vindictive? Hell yes I am, he involved my children, my
family, my friends in this whole LIE and I will not let him get away with
it.

Christine

CME wrote in message
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'Kate wrote in message
...
On Thu, 6 Nov 2003 09:54:38 -0500, "Lisa aka Surfer"


"CME" wrote in message
news:qdtqb.22420$6A4.15672@edtnps84...
I ended up talking to the other woman lastnight and she's been dating
him
for the past 3 months and was completely unaware of Brian and I were
still
together. She dropped by the house and took a look at my MSN chat
logs
and
saw a conversation that completely incriminated him. So yeah, he was
leading a double life and now both of us are feeling used. The
hilarious
thing is he called me trying to make me feel sorry for him because I
had
his
vehicle towed, called his work, got him busted with the girlfriend,
and
I
laughed and said he brought it on himself. Can you believe the nerve
of
that man??? I think I should consider selling my story to Hollywood,
that's
how ridiculous this has all gotten. *sigh*

Christine



And was he aware that it was You that had his car towed, called his
work(?)
and ratted him out to this other person?

I don't entirely understand what you hoped to gain from the car and
work
part. I mean really, what's the point?

Lisa

I'd imagine that it's difficult to keep doing things for someone who has
screwed with your head. She allowed him to keep his car at the apt.
complex where she lives. It's taking up a space that belongs,
essentially, to a resident at the apartment complex. Should she have to
keep doing that for him after he's treated her with little
consideration? So, she had it towed. She won't have to keep looking at
it and hurting if it's gone. She won't have to worry about him coming
by for it and possibly running into her.

The other woman contacted her on behalf of the cheating boyfriend.
Evidently the boyfriend was inconvenienced by the car being towed -
inconvenienced enough to whine to his new girlfriend. That the
girlfriend took matters into her own hands and found out what she did
was based on the new girlfriend's initiative.

The guy made his own bed. You can't cheat on a woman and expect her to
still keep doing things for you once you've been discovered.

'Kate

Thank you. Really, I'm coping with all this by focusing on my anger
because
if I stopped and thought about it for a moment, I'm afraid I'll just roll
into a ball and gather dust. The only thing I've been doing to him is
telling everyone the truth. I called his work and told him his
grandmother
didn't die last month, and they should ask for some sort of verification
because he took 2 days off work, and made the whole company feel sorry for
him. I had his vehicle towed because it was in MY parking space and I've
given him MONTHS to get it. I alerted the police to the fact that he's
driving an uninsured/unregistered vehicle because I will no longer cover
for
him. He lied about having insurance and when I found out, I told him to
get
his **** together then he gave me some bull**** story. Well that turned
out
to be another lie, so he's busted. The reason I'm doing all this is
because
it makes me feel better, plain and simple. Why should I let him get away
with it? Why should I make this easy for him? I'm finally making him
accountable for the wrongs he's committed and I couldn't stand by while he
lied to this other woman too. We know eachother!!! He's been seeing BOTH
of us at the same time... leading a double life and she had NO idea. She
came over to see the proof I had, which was an MSN chat log of a
conversation on Oct. 20 and she witnessed a conversation between myself
and
his bestfriend where he verified that Brian was seeing me, so she was
duped,
just like I was. I knew she didn't know about us, she's not that kind of
person. But Brian blatantly lied to both of us. He made his bed, now
he's
gotta lie in it... alone. You're damn right I feel good about sticking it
to him, am I being vindictive? Hell yes I am, he involved my children, my
family, my friends in this whole LIE and I will not let him get away with
it.

Christine



You posted previously that you were a bit worried he might come after
you..... aren't you worried that you might be provoking him? Just be careful
Christine.

T

I called his work and told him his grandmother
didn't die last month, and they should ask for some sort of verification
because he took 2 days off work, and made the whole company feel sorry for
him.

Okay, I know you are ****ed off--but I have to ask - why is it wrong for him to
have done this NOW that you are aware he has also lied to you? I hope this was
one of the clues for you that this guy was a liar and a manipulator. I'm only
pointing this out because sometimes we tolerate dishonesty in other people as
long as we are not the victim and then are surprised when a dishonest person
treats us no differently. Cheaters cheat. It's what they do.

Joelle

"Joelle" wrote in message
...
I called his work and told him his grandmother
didn't die last month, and they should ask for some sort of verification
because he took 2 days off work, and made the whole company feel sorry
for
him.

Okay, I know you are ****ed off--but I have to ask - why is it wrong for
him to
have done this NOW that you are aware he has also lied to you? I hope
this was
one of the clues for you that this guy was a liar and a manipulator. I'm
only
pointing this out because sometimes we tolerate dishonesty in other people
as
long as we are not the victim and then are surprised when a dishonest
person
treats us no differently. Cheaters cheat. It's what they do.

Joelle

I know... one of the things I kept saying to myself is he lied to other
people, why did I think it was going to be different with me??? *sigh* you
live and learn... the hard way.

Christine

"Tiffany" wrote in message
...

CME wrote in message
news:mfzqb.144556$EO3.20802@clgrps13...

'Kate wrote in message
...
On Thu, 6 Nov 2003 09:54:38 -0500, "Lisa aka Surfer"


"CME" wrote in message
news:qdtqb.22420$6A4.15672@edtnps84...
I ended up talking to the other woman lastnight and she's been
dating
him
for the past 3 months and was completely unaware of Brian and I
were
still
together. She dropped by the house and took a look at my MSN chat
logs
and
saw a conversation that completely incriminated him. So yeah, he
was
leading a double life and now both of us are feeling used. The
hilarious
thing is he called me trying to make me feel sorry for him because
I
had
his
vehicle towed, called his work, got him busted with the girlfriend,
and
I
laughed and said he brought it on himself. Can you believe the
nerve
of
that man??? I think I should consider selling my story to
Hollywood,
that's
how ridiculous this has all gotten. *sigh*

Christine



And was he aware that it was You that had his car towed, called his
work(?)
and ratted him out to this other person?

I don't entirely understand what you hoped to gain from the car and
work
part. I mean really, what's the point?

Lisa

I'd imagine that it's difficult to keep doing things for someone who
has
screwed with your head. She allowed him to keep his car at the apt.
complex where she lives. It's taking up a space that belongs,
essentially, to a resident at the apartment complex. Should she have
to
keep doing that for him after he's treated her with little
consideration? So, she had it towed. She won't have to keep looking
at
it and hurting if it's gone. She won't have to worry about him coming
by for it and possibly running into her.

The other woman contacted her on behalf of the cheating boyfriend.
Evidently the boyfriend was inconvenienced by the car being towed -
inconvenienced enough to whine to his new girlfriend. That the
girlfriend took matters into her own hands and found out what she did
was based on the new girlfriend's initiative.

The guy made his own bed. You can't cheat on a woman and expect her
to
still keep doing things for you once you've been discovered.

'Kate

Thank you. Really, I'm coping with all this by focusing on my anger
because
if I stopped and thought about it for a moment, I'm afraid I'll just
roll
into a ball and gather dust. The only thing I've been doing to him is
telling everyone the truth. I called his work and told him his
grandmother
didn't die last month, and they should ask for some sort of verification
because he took 2 days off work, and made the whole company feel sorry
for
him. I had his vehicle towed because it was in MY parking space and
I've
given him MONTHS to get it. I alerted the police to the fact that he's
driving an uninsured/unregistered vehicle because I will no longer cover
for
him. He lied about having insurance and when I found out, I told him to
get
his **** together then he gave me some bull**** story. Well that turned
out
to be another lie, so he's busted. The reason I'm doing all this is
because
it makes me feel better, plain and simple. Why should I let him get
away
with it? Why should I make this easy for him? I'm finally making him
accountable for the wrongs he's committed and I couldn't stand by while
he
lied to this other woman too. We know eachother!!! He's been seeing
BOTH
of us at the same time... leading a double life and she had NO idea.
She
came over to see the proof I had, which was an MSN chat log of a
conversation on Oct. 20 and she witnessed a conversation between myself
and
his bestfriend where he verified that Brian was seeing me, so she was
duped,
just like I was. I knew she didn't know about us, she's not that kind
of
person. But Brian blatantly lied to both of us. He made his bed, now
he's
gotta lie in it... alone. You're damn right I feel good about sticking
it
to him, am I being vindictive? Hell yes I am, he involved my children,
my
family, my friends in this whole LIE and I will not let him get away
with
it.

Christine



You posted previously that you were a bit worried he might come after
you..... aren't you worried that you might be provoking him? Just be
careful
Christine.

T


Yeah I thought about that, I wasn't being very rational, but then again,
anger isn't really a rational emotion. I'm not as angry anymore, I'm just
numb. I actually just got off the phone with Nikki and you can see she
swaying towards taking him back, because he's putting on the charm. I told
her what she needed to hear, and I'm going to leave it at that. She'll
learn the hard way and I feel sorry for her.

Christine

'Kate wrote in message ...
On Thu, 06 Nov 2003 21:42:42 GMT, "CME"

'Kate wrote in message
...
On Thu, 6 Nov 2003 09:54:38 -0500, "Lisa aka Surfer"


"CME" wrote in message
news:qdtqb.22420$6A4.15672@edtnps84...
I ended up talking to the other woman lastnight and she's been
dating
him
for the past 3 months and was completely unaware of Brian and I were
still
together. She dropped by the house and took a look at my MSN chat
logs
and
saw a conversation that completely incriminated him. So yeah, he
was
leading a double life and now both of us are feeling used. The
hilarious
thing is he called me trying to make me feel sorry for him because I
had
his
vehicle towed, called his work, got him busted with the girlfriend,
and
I
laughed and said he brought it on himself. Can you believe the
nerve
of
that man??? I think I should consider selling my story to
Hollywood,
that's
how ridiculous this has all gotten. *sigh*

Christine



And was he aware that it was You that had his car towed, called his
work(?)
and ratted him out to this other person?

I don't entirely understand what you hoped to gain from the car and
work
part. I mean really, what's the point?

Lisa

I'd imagine that it's difficult to keep doing things for someone who
has
screwed with your head. She allowed him to keep his car at the apt.
complex where she lives. It's taking up a space that belongs,
essentially, to a resident at the apartment complex. Should she have
to
keep doing that for him after he's treated her with little
consideration? So, she had it towed. She won't have to keep looking
at
it and hurting if it's gone. She won't have to worry about him coming
by for it and possibly running into her.

The other woman contacted her on behalf of the cheating boyfriend.
Evidently the boyfriend was inconvenienced by the car being towed -
inconvenienced enough to whine to his new girlfriend. That the
girlfriend took matters into her own hands and found out what she did
was based on the new girlfriend's initiative.

The guy made his own bed. You can't cheat on a woman and expect her to
still keep doing things for you once you've been discovered.

'Kate

Thank you. Really, I'm coping with all this by focusing on my anger
because
if I stopped and thought about it for a moment, I'm afraid I'll just roll
into a ball and gather dust. The only thing I've been doing to him is
telling everyone the truth. I called his work and told him his
grandmother
didn't die last month, and they should ask for some sort of verification
because he took 2 days off work, and made the whole company feel sorry
for
him. I had his vehicle towed because it was in MY parking space and I've
given him MONTHS to get it. I alerted the police to the fact that he's
driving an uninsured/unregistered vehicle because I will no longer cover
for
him. He lied about having insurance and when I found out, I told him to
get
his **** together then he gave me some bull**** story. Well that turned
out
to be another lie, so he's busted. The reason I'm doing all this is
because
it makes me feel better, plain and simple. Why should I let him get away
with it? Why should I make this easy for him? I'm finally making him
accountable for the wrongs he's committed and I couldn't stand by while
he
lied to this other woman too. We know eachother!!! He's been seeing
BOTH
of us at the same time... leading a double life and she had NO idea. She
came over to see the proof I had, which was an MSN chat log of a
conversation on Oct. 20 and she witnessed a conversation between myself
and
his bestfriend where he verified that Brian was seeing me, so she was
duped,
just like I was. I knew she didn't know about us, she's not that kind of
person. But Brian blatantly lied to both of us. He made his bed, now
he's
gotta lie in it... alone. You're damn right I feel good about sticking
it
to him, am I being vindictive? Hell yes I am, he involved my children,
my
family, my friends in this whole LIE and I will not let him get away with
it.

Christine


heh... nevermind.
I wouldn't have gone so far as to call the cops or the job. I would
have had the car towed though.

I don't think he's going to learn any lessons from this. He'll just
blame it all on the crazy ex-girlfriend.

'Kate


Yeah in hindsight I went too far, but hey you don't think rationally when
you're angry and wounded, I went into mother bear mode. I regret twisting
the knife but he stabbed himself and so he still has to live with the
consequences but I get the feeling he doesn't even think he did anything
wrong, he just regrets getting caught.

Christine

CME wrote in message ...

Hell yes I am, he involved my children, my
family, my friends in this whole LIE and I will not let him get away with
it.


Correction, YOU involved you children and family.
Now perhaps you will realise why many of us here keep our love lives and
family lives separate.

Dennis

'Kate wrote in message ...
On Thu, 06 Nov 2003 21:42:42 GMT, "CME"



heh... nevermind.
I wouldn't have gone so far as to call the cops or the job. I would
have had the car towed though.

I don't think he's going to learn any lessons from this. He'll just
blame it all on the crazy ex-girlfriend.

'Kate


Isn't that true.......with so many people, it is always somebody else's
fault.