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"Cold turkey" weaning
wrote in message ... A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'. Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be so confused. Manda Poor baby ;( Too bad in cases like that people aren't required to get a license to parent because women like that would fail the test. Jen *feeling really bitchy tonight* |
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"Cold turkey" weaning
"Smart Lady" wrote in message om... The mother will be feeling the effects of this cold turkey thing pretty quickly too you know... I don't want to be in her shoes in the next few days when she develops one nasty breast infection! Don't get me wrong, that baby is suffering both physically and emotionally! There will be reprecutions for years on this one... I don't agree with cold turkey weaning because it's so cruel to a child who couldn't possibly understand what's going on. OTOH, I don't think the one incident will cause longlasting emotional trauma. What will cause everlasting trauma is the parenting philosophy behind it and the precedence it sets for future parenting decisions. I believe how we treat our babies will often be reflected in a lifelong pattern of parenting. If a mother doesn't respect her child's emotions as an infant, they often don't respect their child's emotions as a teen or an adult. That is only my experience, but it seems to bear true. |
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toypup wrote:
OTOH, I don't think the one incident will cause longlasting emotional trauma. I can only give my anecdote. Katerina was force-weaned at just over a year because of nipple confusion/bottle preference. She would not nurse without her brother starting the let-down. When he self-weaned, she was forced to wean but was not ready. Her personality suffered a dramatic change. To this day she gropes and nuzzles me. -- Brigitte aa #2145 edd #3 February 15, 2004 http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/joshuaandkaterina/ "Readers are plentiful; thinkers are rare." ~ Harriet Martineau |
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DeliciousTruffles wrote:
toypup wrote: OTOH, I don't think the one incident will cause longlasting emotional trauma. I can only give my anecdote. Katerina was force-weaned at just over a year because of nipple confusion/bottle preference. She would not nurse without her brother starting the let-down. When he self-weaned, she was forced to wean but was not ready. Her personality suffered a dramatic change. To this day she gropes and nuzzles me. Ugh. I weaned Luke before he was ready. He is just obsessed with his num-nums. I'm currently weaning him of that too and he doesn't want to let go. I hope this is the end of the whole weaning/nursing/breast thing. We had a pretty awful biting phase as well. He had a history of that but it just went through the roof about 2 months after he weaned. It is hard to always do the right thing for everyone :-( -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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Ugh. I weaned Luke before he was ready. He is just obsessed with his num-nums. I'm currently weaning him of that too and he doesn't want to let go. That's interesting. I didn't exactly force Jake to wean but I did discourage nursing and was pretty resentful of nursing and showed it (I had been nursing non-stop for three years, two of them tandemming). After he stopped nursing he kept on with that whole hands down my shirt thing for quite a long time. It will be interesting to see if William does it after he weans, since the current plan is to let him wean when he wants to. Leslie |
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