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Paranoid Parenting: Why Ignoring the Experts May Be Best for Your Child
"PF Riley" wrote in message ... On Tue, 22 Jul 2003 19:56:00 GMT, "JG" wrote: It's impossible, not to mention costly (time-wise, = inefficient) for pediatricians to advise their patients' parents about every conceivable hazard, the awareness of which often arises from freak, isolated accidents. Wouldn't it be much, much better for them (pediatricians) to simply encourage (advise) parents to keep a close eye on their young kids at all times and to acquire some basic life-saving (e.g., CPR) skills? Give me a break. You've tried to make this ridiculous suggestion before. Why you think it's condescending and/or insulting to parents if I warn against specific hazards but somehow it's not even more so if I simply "advise" them to "keep a close eye on their young kids" is beyond me. Imagine the howls we would read from JGer if the AAP came out with that policy! "Today the AAP announced a new recommendation admonishing pediatricians to remind parents to keep a close eye on their childen. 'The list of specific hazzards was growing just too darn long, so we are just saying to watch them. It is much more time efficient that way,' said an AAP spokesperson who wishes to remain anonymous. In a related story the NIH has decided to do away with all classificcations of disease favoring the two term system of 'healthy' and 'not healthy' as much more practical........" -- CBI, MD |
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Paranoid Parenting: Why Ignoring the Experts May Be Best for Your Child
"PF Riley" wrote in message
... On Tue, 22 Jul 2003 19:56:00 GMT, "JG" wrote: It's impossible, not to mention costly (time-wise, = inefficient) for pediatricians to advise their patients' parents about every conceivable hazard, the awareness of which often arises from freak, isolated accidents. Wouldn't it be much, much better for them (pediatricians) to simply encourage (advise) parents to keep a close eye on their young kids at all times and to acquire some basic life-saving (e.g., CPR) skills? Give me a break. You've tried to make this ridiculous suggestion before. Why you think it's condescending and/or insulting to parents if I warn against specific hazards but somehow it's not even more so if I simply "advise" them to "keep a close eye on their young kids" is beyond me. Sure, it's insulting. (*Equally*, not more so: At least you'd be conveying that you think they're capable of monitoring their kids and learning CPR). Instead of "better," I should have simply said "more efficient," which is what I assumed people would infer after my statement that specifying all conceivable hazards is *inefficient*. It's like when you said I should tell people to avoid choking hazards but not elaborate lest I insult someone, when what would typically happen is that the ones who would want me to go into more detail would be the ones least likely to ask me to for fear that I would think they're stupid, as my initial failure to go into more detail would be a tacit implication that they should know such details already without having to ask. Holy cow, Riley! First you make assumptions about what parents do and don't KNOW, and now you make assumptions about what they FEEL (e.g., embarrassment). Do they know how utterly arrogant you are? (I suppose not, huh, since they apparently have to have you do their thinking for them...) You think that parents would perceive your "initial failure to go into more detail" as implying that they *should* know such details? Why shouldn't/wouldn't they perceive it as your believing that they *DO* know them, i.e., that you believe (and trust) that they're competent, informed parents? Here's an idea. Instead of trying to warn about every conceivable hazard, which is impossible (except when it comes to obtaining informed consent for vaccines, according to Roger), why not have pediatricians glean from their experience the hazards that are commonly overlooked by parents and frequently result in harm, and advise selectively on those particular hazards? Oh wait, that's what I do already. Fine, go ahead and treat each set of parents differently (selectively), based upon not only how much you think they need to be told, but also upon how much you believe they want--even though they're too embarrassed to ask for--your advice. Let's hope you're never sued for malpractice by the parents of a deceased patient whose death would likely have been prevented had they simply followed some piece of advice you *regularly dispense* to others but didn't (neglected to?) convey to them because you thought they were "smart enough" to know it. (It wouldn't matter if you're right--i.e., if they did, in fact, know it--unless you could prove they knew it.) Your failure to convey the advice to them, in light of your dispensing it, UNSOLICITED, to others, probably wouldn't sit well with jurors. Why not follow Mark's example? Say to parents, "At his age he can eat anything he isn't going to choke on." You can't possibly believe that any conscientious-but-"uneducated" parent's curiosity wouldn't be piqued, i.e., that he/she wouldn't ask, "Such as?" or "What kinds of things do kids choke on?" At least you have, as Mark pointed out, covered your ass. JG |
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Paranoid Parenting: Why Ignoring the Experts May Be Best for Your Child
"Roger Schlafly" wrote in message
.. . "PF Riley" wrote pediatricians glean from their experience the hazards that are commonly overlooked by parents and frequently result in harm, ... When do you give all this advice, anyway? The only time I ever take my kid to the ped is when she is sick, and then all I ask about concerns the diagnosis and treatment of the problem. I would never ask about choking. If I wanted parenting advice, then I'd consult a parenting book. There are lots of good cheap books that are a whole lot better than talking to a ped. I agree. Perhaps PF should "gift" all his new patients' parents with such a book. (Ooops! That would probably be insulting/embarrassing to those who are illiterate and ashamed to admit it, huh? g) JG |
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Paranoid Parenting: Why Ignoring the Experts May Be Best for Your Child
"PF Riley" wrote in message
... So what about the educated, conscientious mom who simply didn't know about the risk of hot dogs? Was her son's death "necessary" so that people could learn from her? (1) "Educated" (...what an utterly bogus word that has become; it means nothing these days other than someone has completed a course of training/instruction, whether it be in astronomy or astrology) does not mean *thinking*. (2) Merely because the woman never fixed on a (piece of) hot dog *specifically* doesn't mean she wasn't capable of knowing, and probably *would* have known, IF SHE'D GIVEN IT EVEN FIVE SECONDS OF THOUGHT, that her son might choke. (3) People--adults and kids alike (remember, this kid was *4*) can choke on just about anything. If he'd choked on a chunk of peanut butter, his mom would probably have said, "I didn't know you could choke on peanut butter!" Is she going to insist that she didn't know, AT ALL, what choking is? Let's say, over the course of her lifetime, she's either witnessed or heard reports of three individuals who choked on (1) a bite of steak, (2) some popcorn, and (3) a bite of apple. Is she such a dolt that she'd think, "It's okay to give my son anything except steak, popcorn, and apples."? C'mon! Furthermore, would you honestly expect her to say either, "Yeah, I knew he could choke on a hot dog, but I gave it to him anyway," or "I didn't think about whether he might choke on a hot dog"? The latter statement would make her appear negligent; the former could be interpreted as her being *more* than negligent. Better, I guess (from a saving-face standpoint), to just plead ignorance, with the veiled implication that the incident wasn't your fault; i.e., that it was the fault of those--your son's pediatrician? the gubmnt?--who didn't "educate" you about hot dogs, who didn't look you directly in the eye and specifically state, "Your son can choke on a piece of hot dog." In answer to your question, no, it was not necessary for her son to die in order to learn from her. The lesson, though, is to be careful with any food at any age, not simply that a four-year-old can choke on a hot dog. (Do you honestly think there are parents who would hear this story and think, "I guess it's okay to give my kids hot dogs; this kid was four, and mine's five [or three]"?) JG |
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Paranoid Parenting: Why Ignoring the Experts May Be Best for Your Child
PF Riley wrote:
And in my experience, the children who only come in when they are sick and don't come in for check-ups certainly have a poorer outcome should they develop health problems. My two year old started throwing up on a Friday morning. No fever, no rash, no reported pain, just throwing up. On Sunday morning I insisted the ped x-ray his gut and get a WBC because, "something just isn't right." I showed up at the doctor's office in grungy sweats, unwashed, worried about things like obstructed bowel or perforated intestines with peritonitis or acute appendicitis... the Doctor laughed and asked if had been reading Robin Cook novels. BUT HE TOOK ME SERIOUSLY BECAUSE HE KNEW ME WHEN I *WASN'T* INCOHERENT WITH FEAR. Any other parent would have been told that it was the stomach flu and sent home without expensive off-hour tests. But after seeing the white blood count and the distended bowels in the x-ray we were sent immediately for emergency surgery at regional medical center. My previous relationship with that pediatric practice saved my two year old's life. He had several perforations in his small intestines with peritonitis. The "something doesn't feel right" was an ileus, which I had never heard of before and couldn't explain why it felt wrong, but I was correct that his nausea was different than normal stomach flu. (In a normal stomach flu you feel better after throwing up for a few minutes. With an ileus you do not. Four ounces of ginger ale would go down and four ounces of ginger ale would come back up and he would still be moaning. I learned many, many things during this kid's illness and recovery, but one thing I realized for su well baby check-ups served to establish MY relationship with the pediatrician so that they could believe me when I told them about zebras. -- Wendy |
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Paranoid Parenting: Why Ignoring the Experts May Be Best for Your Child
"JG" wrote in message t...
"Elizabeth Reid" wrote in message om... Though it makes me sound like a curmudgeonly fossil, I honestly think kids, *in general*, had it better in the '50s and '60s. I certainly don't recall any angst-afflicted parents (now they're ubiquitous), nor do I recall kids manifesting the conditions/behaviors--depression, hyperactivity (in settings/situations that demanded self-control, such as school or church), short attention spans, obesity, insolence--to anywhere near the extent they do today. It's sort of interesting; cnn.com's lead headline right now is 'Kids living better, but getting bigger.' Humph. "Better" is entirely subjective. I don't think anyone would argue with you that obesity is on the rise, that's well documented. For the other problems, though, I can't say for sure whether you're right or wrong, but my training leads me to distrust recollection as a measure of social change. For instance, one reason parents are so afraid right now is that they're convinced that child abductions and molestations are much more common now than they were during their own childhoods a few decades ago. This is just plain demonstrably untrue, but that perception is controlling a lot of parental behavior. So before we discuss the causes of these perceived changes, I'd want some evidence other than your memory that they actually exist. Look up stats for both legal (prescribed) and illegal drug usage. For divorce. For teen sexual activity/STD rates. (Okay, so contraceptives for kids weren't as readily obtainable in the '50s and '60s...) While you're at it, look up the stats (you might find some at the BLS; www.bls.gov) for the number (and demand) for social workers and psychologists. Either the "need" (demand) for those in the "caring" professions has increased exponentially OR individuals are going into these fields and *creating*/maintaining a (false) demand for their services. (And, lest anyone be tempted to trot out the tiresome "Well, we're simply better at diagnosing problems," explanation, forget about it; it's a load of--excuse me--crap.) I would look up stats for drug usage, divorce, and sexual activity if you'd said anything about those issues in the portion of you post I was referencing. You didn't. You mentioned increased incidence of depression, hyperactivity, short attention spans, and insolence. Increased reliance on mental-health professionals *might* be evidence of an increasing rate of mental health problems, but it might not. The most obvious alternative explanation I can think of is that there isn't nearly as much of a stigma attached to getting that kind of help, so people seek it more often. If you combine that with the decrease in church attendance (which deprives people of one historic source of quasi- profesional counseling) it makes reliance on psychologists a pretty indirect measure. Not at all! I'm assuming that virtually every parent (likely well in advance of becoming a parent) is going to hear about a choking incident. (Hard not to, of course, with 2500+ choking-related deaths a year!) And who hasn't, by adulthood, had a food-related choking incident *themselves*, i.e., one in which the possibility of passing out, if not dying, didn't briefly cross his/her mind? I think the average parent can extrapolate; if they'd stop to think about it, they'd realize that a bite of hot dog is similar to a piece of carrot, a chunk of fruit, or a piece of popcorn. (Fact is, people can and do choke on innumerable food and non-food items.) Saying "I didn't know (a kid could choke on a bite of hot dog)" is absurd; a believable statement would be, "I wasn't thinking (when I gave my toddler a hot dog)." I think the reason people make this mistake is that hot dogs are soft, while hard candy, peanuts, chunks of raw fruit, etc. are all hard. Generally, soft food is safer, so I don't think it's obvious that hot dogs should be grouped in the choking risk category. I agree that the statement "I didn't know a kid could choke on a bite of hot dog" is probably not literally true, as anyone could choke on a hot dog in a bad moment. I suspect what the parent meant was, "I didn't know that hot dogs were known to be a particular choking risk for toddlers," and that was probably true. which seems really unlikely. I don't know anyone who strangled on a sweatshirt cord, and to be honest, without the advice of professionals wouldn't have ever given it a second thought. To an adult, sweatshirts, the cords that hang from blinds, buckets with small amounts of water in them, etc., just don't look all that dangerous. Hoping that each parent will happen to read a story about a kid dying from one of these hazards is really inefficient, aside from the obvious defect that a kid has to die every once in a while to serve as an object lesson for others to write articles and tell stories about. It's impossible, not to mention costly (time-wise, = inefficient) for pediatricians to advise their patients' parents about every conceivable hazard, the awareness of which often arises from freak, isolated accidents. Wouldn't it be much, much better for them (pediatricians) to simply encourage (advise) parents to keep a close eye on their young kids at all times and to acquire some basic life-saving (e.g., CPR) skills? Wendy's drawstring strangling death would have been averted (had the family members present been keeping a closer eye on the girl), as would, I daresay, virtually every (especially non-food-related) choking death. Of course it's not possible for a pediatrician to advise parents of every conceivable hazard. That's a straw man, though, because no one's saying they should. No, I don't think it would be much, much better for peds to substitute advice to 'simply' keep a close eye on kids at all times, because most parents do this already, or think they do. I favor encouraging parents to keep a close eye on their kids, AND alerting them to specific common situations in which their kids may be in more danger than is intuitively obvious. It's really not practical for most parents to have their eyes focused on their child for every waking moment of the child's first few years. Unless one parent is willing to give up eating, excreting, cooking, cleaning, etc. for four years, or the child has two parents who don't work who can tag-team (and of course no siblings, since they might require a moment of attention), there will be times throughout the day when the parent's attention is briefly on something else. That's why virtually all advice to parents about this period stresses never leaving the child unattended, but also eliminating as many hazards as possible from the environment so that those inevitable moments don't result in an injury or fatality. Beth |
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Paranoid Parenting: Why Ignoring the Experts May Be Best for Your Child
"PF Riley" wrote in message
... On Tue, 22 Jul 2003 19:56:37 GMT, "JG" wrote: [Ray Bradbury-esque memoirs of a simpler time from JG omitted.] You don't honestly expect us to accept your own childhood memories as "proof" that the good ol' days really were better, now, do you? Of course not. Based upon our memories, however, I think my childhood was a heck of a lot more "typical" than Wendy's. (Was I shortchanged on something, other than unpleasant memories, by NOT growing up in a "dysfunctional" family?) I offered, in a separate post, (to which you haven't responded), some indicators (drug usage, the prevalence of psychologists/social workers, the rates of divorce and sexual activity [including abortions and STDs], fitness [obesity]) of the quality of life (for kids in general) now as compared to the '50s/'60s. Why don't you address those? JG |
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Paranoid Parenting: Why Ignoring the Experts May Be Best for Your Child
"Elizabeth Reid" wrote in message
om... "JG" wrote in message t... "Elizabeth Reid" wrote in message om... Though it makes me sound like a curmudgeonly fossil, I honestly think kids, *in general*, had it better in the '50s and '60s. I certainly don't recall any angst-afflicted parents (now they're ubiquitous), nor do I recall kids manifesting the conditions/behaviors--depression, hyperactivity (in settings/situations that demanded self-control, such as school or church), short attention spans, obesity, insolence--to anywhere near the extent they do today. It's sort of interesting; cnn.com's lead headline right now is 'Kids living better, but getting bigger.' Humph. "Better" is entirely subjective. I don't think anyone would argue with you that obesity is on the rise, that's well documented. For the other problems, though, I can't say for sure whether you're right or wrong, but my training leads me to distrust recollection as a measure of social change. For instance, one reason parents are so afraid right now is that they're convinced that child abductions and molestations are much more common now than they were during their own childhoods a few decades ago. This is just plain demonstrably untrue, but that perception is controlling a lot of parental behavior. So before we discuss the causes of these perceived changes, I'd want some evidence other than your memory that they actually exist. Look up stats for both legal (prescribed) and illegal drug usage. For divorce. For teen sexual activity/STD rates. (Okay, so contraceptives for kids weren't as readily obtainable in the '50s and '60s...) While you're at it, look up the stats (you might find some at the BLS; www.bls.gov) for the number (and demand) for social workers and psychologists. Either the "need" (demand) for those in the "caring" professions has increased exponentially OR individuals are going into these fields and *creating*/maintaining a (false) demand for their services. (And, lest anyone be tempted to trot out the tiresome "Well, we're simply better at diagnosing problems," explanation, forget about it; it's a load of--excuse me--crap.) I would look up stats for drug usage, divorce, and sexual activity if you'd said anything about those issues in the portion of you post I was referencing. You didn't. You mentioned increased incidence of depression, hyperactivity, short attention spans, and insolence. I don't think many (any?) psychologists would argue that there isn't a correlation between various behaviors--drug usage, promiscuous sexual activity, insolence, even short attention spans--and depression. (Indeed, in some persons these behaviors are undoubtedly induced by depression, while, conversely, these same behaviors, with a different etiology, might induce depression in others--rather a case of "Which came first?".) Increased reliance on mental-health professionals *might* be evidence of an increasing rate of mental health problems, but it might not. The most obvious alternative explanation I can think of is that there isn't nearly as much of a stigma attached to getting that kind of help, so people seek it more often. I don't know where you are, but around here there's apparently still a stigma attached to *kids* who receive counseling/therapy. Indeed, a group of parents at one local school was so concerned about the "post-lunch line up" (to receive various drugs, mostly psychotropics such as Ritalin, I'd imagine) outside the school nurse's office that they petitioned to have the practice changed. I'd argue that if the stigma is abating, it's precisely because so many more are receiving counseling these days; i.e., that the numbers--the increase--came first, and it's only because so many are now "in therapy" that much of the stigma is gone. Another factor accounting for some (hard to say how much) of the increase might well the "pushing"--the marketing (advertising) to potential users--of various mood-altering (antidepressant) drugs by pharmaceutical companies. Their ads are ubiquitous. [Surely I'm not the only one tired of seeing the "moaning/groaning" UNhappy face--actually sort of an egg-shaped blob--that turns happy (happy, HAPPY!) and bouncy once it's on whatever drug (Zoloft, I believe) is being hyped. I wonder how many parents are influenced by these ads: "You know, Mary just doesn't seem as merry anymore. Maybe her moodiness is caused by depression. I'll make an appointment for her to see her pediatrician; maybe he'll be able to give her something like this Zoloft." (And concurrently recommend counseling?)] If you combine that with the decrease in church attendance (which deprives people of one historic source of quasi- profesional counseling) it makes reliance on psychologists a pretty indirect measure. According to Barna (perhaps the most prominent surveyor of religious trends), church attendance has been "on a roller coaster ride" since the mid-'80s. (See http://www.barna.org/cgi-bin/PageCat...?CategoryID=10.) It's hard to say how much of an impact (reduced) church attendance has had on the rate at which people seek/obtain counseling from social workers and psychologists. Other factors that might have led (and be leading) to increased numbers of kids being counseled/guided include increased coverage of the cost by third-party payers (Tipper's efforts have paid off) and the increased accessibility (apart from simply the increase in number) of psychologists/social workers. As recently as 35-40 years ago, I daresay the only "counselors" high schools had were "guidance counselors" whose primary function (apparently) was to "counsel" students regarding such things as which "track"--college prep, business/secretarial, general HS education, trade--best suited them and to provide information (e.g., college/university catalogs for those intending to further their education and the names of prospective employers for others) to assist them in making choices. There were no "on site" social workers and psychologists (at elementary and junior high schools as well as high schools); if anything, school districts might have had one of each working out of the central administration offices. [...] It's impossible, not to mention costly (time-wise, = inefficient) for pediatricians to advise their patients' parents about every conceivable hazard, the awareness of which often arises from freak, isolated accidents. Wouldn't it be much, much better for them (pediatricians) to simply encourage (advise) parents to keep a close eye on their young kids at all times and to acquire some basic life-saving (e.g., CPR) skills? Wendy's drawstring strangling death would have been averted (had the family members present been keeping a closer eye on the girl), as would, I daresay, virtually every (especially non-food-related) choking death. Of course it's not possible for a pediatrician to advise parents of every conceivable hazard. That's a straw man, though, because no one's saying they should. I rather think PF *would*, if he could (i.e., if he didn't have time constraints); I believe he has a terribly overblown sense of duty. No, I don't think it would be much, much better for peds to substitute advice to 'simply' keep a close eye on kids at all times, ... "Better" from the perspective of *efficiency*, not necessarily effectiveness. because most parents do this already, or think they do. I favor encouraging parents to keep a close eye on their kids, AND alerting them to specific common situations in which their kids may be in more danger than is intuitively obvious. I think perhaps the ideal solution would be for pediatricians to recommend (or, better yet, *give* to parents...passing on the cost, of course g) a good, basic "how to raise an infant/child" book. (The AAP itself even publishes such a book--"Caring for Your Baby and Young Child: Birth to Age 5"--as well as a number of other "guide" books (see https://www.aap.org/sforms/parentresourceguide.htm#5). While there's no guarantee parents would read them, such a practice would avoid both stigmatizing "idiot" parents and being perceived as condescending by "competent" parents. [...] JG |
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Paranoid Parenting: Why Ignoring the Experts May Be Best for Your Child
"JG" wrote in message t...
"Elizabeth Reid" wrote in message om... I would look up stats for drug usage, divorce, and sexual activity if you'd said anything about those issues in the portion of you post I was referencing. You didn't. You mentioned increased incidence of depression, hyperactivity, short attention spans, and insolence. I don't think many (any?) psychologists would argue that there isn't a correlation between various behaviors--drug usage, promiscuous sexual activity, insolence, even short attention spans--and depression. (Indeed, in some persons these behaviors are undoubtedly induced by depression, while, conversely, these same behaviors, with a different etiology, might induce depression in others--rather a case of "Which came first?".) Sure, there are correlations between these things. It's still really poor evidence for your original assertions. Kids are more insolent and hyperactive today - as proof, here are some statistics on teen sexual activity! Other factors that might have led (and be leading) to increased numbers of kids being counseled/guided include... Right. So how is increased counseling evidence of increasing disorder incidence? I think perhaps the ideal solution would be for pediatricians to recommend (or, better yet, *give* to parents...passing on the cost, of course g) a good, basic "how to raise an infant/child" book. (The AAP itself even publishes such a book--"Caring for Your Baby and Young Child: Birth to Age 5"--as well as a number of other "guide" books (see https://www.aap.org/sforms/parentresourceguide.htm#5). While there's no guarantee parents would read them, such a practice would avoid both stigmatizing "idiot" parents and being perceived as condescending by "competent" parents. Stop the presses: we agree! I'd be fine with that, especialy if the ped also said, "... and feel free to ask me about any safety concerns," leaving the door open for parents to get more advice if they wanted it. I don't care whether the doc speaks the words, I just want the parents to get the information they need. It might be more effective to distill the basic advice into a pamphlet (shorter than a book easier to read) but that's just qa uibble. I'm curious, though. Do you have any reason to think that anyone besides you perceives orally delivered safety advice as condescending? I'm hypereducated about some baby stuff (feeding practices for one thing) and I've never been insulted when my son's doctor has told me things I already know, even things I think are common knowlege. He's not a mind reader, and he doesn't have any way of knowing which factoids I've encountered and which I haven't. I'm able to say, "Thanks, I'd heard that," without it ruining my whole day. And I don't get why giving a basic book is not insulting, while giving basic advice is. It'd be a time-saver, sure, but you seem to be wavering back and forth between objecting to advice because it's inefficient and objecting to it because it's insulting. Your solutions to the inefficiency problem seem to up the insult factor, if anything. Beth |
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Paranoid Parenting: Why Ignoring the Experts May Be Best for Your Child
"Elizabeth Reid" wrote
I'm curious, though. Do you have any reason to think that anyone besides you perceives orally delivered safety advice as condescending? I'm hypereducated about some baby stuff (feeding practices ... And I don't get why giving a basic book is not insulting, while giving basic advice is. ... Peds are trained in medicine, not safety. You probably know more about safety than your local ped. If I take my kid to a ped, then I am looking for medical advice, not safety advice. Safety advice is more reliably obtained from books and other sources. The safety advice from a ped is apt to be silly, wrong, and unwanted. |
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