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Hi, everyone.
I have a bit of a difficult situation to describe. Let me start out by saying it involves a current legal battle, and I do have counsel that I go to for legal advice. I am concerned here with practical, parenting advice. My five-year old son lives with his mom. I get him on alternating weekends, holidays, etc. He is going to therapy, supposedly because he is aggitated upon returning from his visits with me. I note that he is always happy with me and he never seems agitated. In several of his therapy sessions, he has stated that I speak badly of his mother, even repeating obscenities that I don't even know. In fact, I speak very highly of her, telling him she is a wonderful person, and loves him very much. I know there will probably be some here who simply don't believe me, but that's ok. What I want to know is does anyone have any advice on how I can speak to my son on why he's telling these lies? If it somehow comes across that I am "coaching" my son for his therapist sessions, I can get in trouble with the courts. If he continues, lying, I can get in trouble with the courts. It's a lose-lose situation. |
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This is a very common problem, kids will tell parents what they think they
want to hear. I would be very much concerned about this 'therapist' where did he/she come from, who started it, is it by court order, if not, try to stop it and get a neutral court appointed/approved one.......this could be a set up for bigger accusations against you. "Tim" wrote in message om... Hi, everyone. I have a bit of a difficult situation to describe. Let me start out by saying it involves a current legal battle, and I do have counsel that I go to for legal advice. I am concerned here with practical, parenting advice. My five-year old son lives with his mom. I get him on alternating weekends, holidays, etc. He is going to therapy, supposedly because he is aggitated upon returning from his visits with me. I note that he is always happy with me and he never seems agitated. In several of his therapy sessions, he has stated that I speak badly of his mother, even repeating obscenities that I don't even know. In fact, I speak very highly of her, telling him she is a wonderful person, and loves him very much. I know there will probably be some here who simply don't believe me, but that's ok. What I want to know is does anyone have any advice on how I can speak to my son on why he's telling these lies? If it somehow comes across that I am "coaching" my son for his therapist sessions, I can get in trouble with the courts. If he continues, lying, I can get in trouble with the courts. It's a lose-lose situation. |
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What I want to know is does anyone have any advice on
how I can speak to my son on why he's telling these lies? I think you gotta keep your son out of this. If it somehow comes across that I am "coaching" my son for his therapist sessions, I can get in trouble with the courts. If he continues, lying, I can get in trouble with the courts. It's a lose-lose situation. What bothers me is that you seem more concerned about how this affects you then the fact that your son is in the middle of a battle. If it's bad for Mom to use him, it's bad for you. If she's coaching him to say things, it's not his fault and your talking to him will cause him even more trouble. Get a lawyer and keep your son out of it. Don't even talk about Mom with him. Joelle |
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Tim wrote: Hi, everyone. I have a bit of a difficult situation to describe. Let me start out by saying it involves a current legal battle, and I do have counsel that I go to for legal advice. I am concerned here with practical, parenting advice. My five-year old son lives with his mom. I get him on alternating weekends, holidays, etc. He is going to therapy, supposedly because he is aggitated upon returning from his visits with me. I note that he is always happy with me and he never seems agitated. In several of his therapy sessions, he has stated that I speak badly of his mother, even repeating obscenities that I don't even know. In fact, I speak very highly of her, telling him she is a wonderful person, and loves him very much. I know there will probably be some here who simply don't believe me, but that's ok. What I want to know is does anyone have any advice on how I can speak to my son on why he's telling these lies? If it somehow comes across that I am "coaching" my son for his therapist sessions, I can get in trouble with the courts. If he continues, lying, I can get in trouble with the courts. It's a lose-lose situation. I agree with Paul... It sounds like your being set up for an abuse charge. If this Therapist IS court appointed get your own. If his Mom is paying GET YOUR OWN... It may be that your ex IS coaching him... Of course this is ok as long as YOU don't then it's wrong... Ask your son to tell you what she says about you... Chances are she is cutting you down every chance she gets. If so inform her this stops or YOU will request the court place your son in a neutral environment with separate supervised visitations. In fact I would request via your atty that your son be granted a court appointed Atty of his own. Express your concerns & that you would like to nip any plans to coach your son into making worse charges. Request that the Atty be present at ALL therapy sessions. IOW you make it all but impossible for your soon to be ex to turn your son against you and use him as a weapon against you. IF your son's CAA Does believe that he is being coached by your wife & the therapist then go for the foster home request & sole custody w/ supervised visitations. Oh I'd also keep the photos up to date, as well as finger prints & DNA just in case she decides to kidnap your son as a way to hurt you. Ike |
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