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Not really TTC anymore... For now...
So, we've kind of, unofficially, put the TTC thing on the back burner. I
got into a pretty bad accident on Thursday the 2nd, and it seems now is not really such a good time. I wrote my car off, and thankfully injuries weren't too bad, all things considered... We were T boned by a truck speeding through an intersection after he changed lanes from behind some cars making left-hand turns. Nailed us on the passenger's side, which is DS's side of the car. I really don't remember too much, but he hit us so hard that it blew a fuse and all the lights in my car went out, and hit us so that we spun around at least once and were on the southeast corner of the road, facing north, when we were closer to the southwest corner, facing south. Anyways, DD - not a scratch on her. They had done a full inspection on her car seat and there wasn't a scratch on the seat either, and we were told it was perfect shape and there is no reason we can't keep using it since it had no damage to it at all. DS's booster seat is totaled, and DS had a pretty bad scalp laceration which the plastic surgeon stitched up very good. He said there should be no scars because of the location of the laceration and because of his age. The laceration was clean and clear and no parts were missing (sorry if that's TMI!) DS also had a tiny fracture in his nose. There's nothing that can be done about that, and there will be no damage, not even a bump from the fracture, he just has a black eye, and the swelling went down by Saturday morning. It's just black and green and yellow, but he can open it all the way now. He complains of no pain at all, which is a surprise. They did CT scans and Xrays, and he has no internal injuries. I count my lucky stars, and I know we got out lucky. I just keep wondering... Why him and not me? I think I'll always wish it would have been me and not him... Kind of off topic, but since it's kind of in my mind, I recommend one of those infant car seat bunting bag things... The car seat baby cover things that go into an infant seat and zipper up around baby... That is definitely what saved DD from even a tiny scratch on her, and we were finding pieces of glass in her seat the next day even... But anyways. I don't know what happened. The last thing I remember was seeing the coast was clear, turning, then seeing big Dodge truck lights in my passenger windows, I remember saying OMFG! NO! (pardon the language) and then the last clear thing in my mind was the cabin light in the car sparking and going out. I do remember DD start crying, but I remember DS screaming, and I kind of remember running out of the car around the front to DS's side (side of impact) and I vaguely remember pulling DS out of the car through the blown out window and seeing him covered in blood, even in the darkness. I remember grabbing him out and then running around the back of the car to DD's side, and I sort of remember not being able to open her door, probably because of major frame damage that kept the door shut, and I recall kicking and hitting the car/door and freaking out even more when I couldn't get the door open. I don't remember anything else... I don't even remember if the police were there, even though they obviously were and MIL said they were, who was called from the scene because she lives 2 blocks away, and I don't remember giving her phone number to someone who was there... Don't remember the ambulance ride to the hospital or anything... DS is now fine, it seems. He's back to a normal 5 year old, and everyone is constantly telling him to settle down before he hurts himself, and if he bangs his head, it will start to bleed and hurt a lot, and he'll have to spend another night, or more, in the hospital again. He doesn't want that! DD seems to be just fine. She's sleeping and eating as normal, it seems, and she's just as active as she always was. I was fine the first night in the hospital when I slept on the bed beside DS's bed, but I know I tossed and turned all night and woke up stiff and sore and in pain. They did chest and knee xrays, since I had some pretty big bruises. I feel fine other than being stiff and sore and this headache that just won't go away. I also can't sleep, which leaves me struggling to keep my eyes open all day long. DH and I have decided that we aren't going to actually try at this point. It's probably not wise to find out we're expecting again when I can barely walk or function, and I think we need to concentrate more on DS for the time being. We agreed that we won't try, but we won't not try. We'll not TTC when we know we have the best chance, and we'll wait a couple months before we actually try and aim for the best chance days. We decided it's best that I don't go on any type of BC (like pills or shots or anything) but we'll use something for him until everyone's feeling better. Right now, I know, just isn't the right time, but soon I know it will be. I can deal with losing the car, it's just a car, even though I loved my car very much, it doesn't come near my kids. It's easy to replace a car, and I am greatful that we're all alive and kickin' and not hurt a lot worse. Next baby we'll try for will wait, and at the soonest will probably be a New Year's baby, if not later! What a crappy week it's been, but I do recommend one of those bag things for infant seats, if you can get one. Maybe that's just my own paranoia speaking, but still... Saved my DD from a lot of glass! Hope everyone else around here is doing alright and hope no one else has had a horrible last few days! lol |
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so sorry to hear this, hope you are feeling better soon and that DS is
healing well I really would ditch that car seat, just because there is no scratch on it, doesn't mean there is no internal damage, make sure you claim it on the truck drivers insurance. I had to really push this point with my parents after they had a crash with DS in the car with them and when my dad did call the insurance they didn't even ask questions, just stated all carseats involved in accidents should be destroyed and asked us to send the instruction book so they knew which make and model so they could work out how much to give us. Anne |
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xkatx wrote: So, we've kind of, unofficially, put the TTC thing on the back burner. I got into a pretty bad accident on Thursday the 2nd, and it seems now is not really such a good time. I wrote my car off, and thankfully injuries weren't too bad, all things considered... How scary! It sounds just awful. I'm glad you are all (mostly) OK. Take care! Mary W. |
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Hugs. What a scary thing to endure. I can't imagine. Like you, I'm glad
it was just your car. You said, "I just keep wondering... Why him and not me? I think I'll always wish it would have been me and not him..." The only thing I can say to this is that in a way, Thank God it was him, as if it had been you, or dh in the passenger side, you might have been killed since you are larger and take up more space. I'm sorry your ds was injured, but glad that it wasn't bad, and glad that no one was seriously hurt or killed. Hugs. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 -- Who's got the Christmas spirit, singing all day long, "You put one foot in front of the other, and soon you'll be walking out the doooo-oooo-ooor! Addison Grace, 9/30/04 -- My Little Ham, who smiles so big her eyes disappear and she says, "Cheese" on command. Although it sounds more like "eeeeeesssshhh"! Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password "xkatx" wrote in message news:ktRFf.180408$6K2.6849@edtnps90... So, we've kind of, unofficially, put the TTC thing on the back burner. I got into a pretty bad accident on Thursday the 2nd, and it seems now is not really such a good time. I wrote my car off, and thankfully injuries weren't too bad, all things considered... We were T boned by a truck speeding through an intersection after he changed lanes from behind some cars making left-hand turns. Nailed us on the passenger's side, which is DS's side of the car. I really don't remember too much, but he hit us so hard that it blew a fuse and all the lights in my car went out, and hit us so that we spun around at least once and were on the southeast corner of the road, facing north, when we were closer to the southwest corner, facing south. Anyways, DD - not a scratch on her. They had done a full inspection on her car seat and there wasn't a scratch on the seat either, and we were told it was perfect shape and there is no reason we can't keep using it since it had no damage to it at all. DS's booster seat is totaled, and DS had a pretty bad scalp laceration which the plastic surgeon stitched up very good. He said there should be no scars because of the location of the laceration and because of his age. The laceration was clean and clear and no parts were missing (sorry if that's TMI!) DS also had a tiny fracture in his nose. There's nothing that can be done about that, and there will be no damage, not even a bump from the fracture, he just has a black eye, and the swelling went down by Saturday morning. It's just black and green and yellow, but he can open it all the way now. He complains of no pain at all, which is a surprise. They did CT scans and Xrays, and he has no internal injuries. I count my lucky stars, and I know we got out lucky. I just keep wondering... Why him and not me? I think I'll always wish it would have been me and not him... Kind of off topic, but since it's kind of in my mind, I recommend one of those infant car seat bunting bag things... The car seat baby cover things that go into an infant seat and zipper up around baby... That is definitely what saved DD from even a tiny scratch on her, and we were finding pieces of glass in her seat the next day even... But anyways. I don't know what happened. The last thing I remember was seeing the coast was clear, turning, then seeing big Dodge truck lights in my passenger windows, I remember saying OMFG! NO! (pardon the language) and then the last clear thing in my mind was the cabin light in the car sparking and going out. I do remember DD start crying, but I remember DS screaming, and I kind of remember running out of the car around the front to DS's side (side of impact) and I vaguely remember pulling DS out of the car through the blown out window and seeing him covered in blood, even in the darkness. I remember grabbing him out and then running around the back of the car to DD's side, and I sort of remember not being able to open her door, probably because of major frame damage that kept the door shut, and I recall kicking and hitting the car/door and freaking out even more when I couldn't get the door open. I don't remember anything else... I don't even remember if the police were there, even though they obviously were and MIL said they were, who was called from the scene because she lives 2 blocks away, and I don't remember giving her phone number to someone who was there... Don't remember the ambulance ride to the hospital or anything... DS is now fine, it seems. He's back to a normal 5 year old, and everyone is constantly telling him to settle down before he hurts himself, and if he bangs his head, it will start to bleed and hurt a lot, and he'll have to spend another night, or more, in the hospital again. He doesn't want that! DD seems to be just fine. She's sleeping and eating as normal, it seems, and she's just as active as she always was. I was fine the first night in the hospital when I slept on the bed beside DS's bed, but I know I tossed and turned all night and woke up stiff and sore and in pain. They did chest and knee xrays, since I had some pretty big bruises. I feel fine other than being stiff and sore and this headache that just won't go away. I also can't sleep, which leaves me struggling to keep my eyes open all day long. DH and I have decided that we aren't going to actually try at this point. It's probably not wise to find out we're expecting again when I can barely walk or function, and I think we need to concentrate more on DS for the time being. We agreed that we won't try, but we won't not try. We'll not TTC when we know we have the best chance, and we'll wait a couple months before we actually try and aim for the best chance days. We decided it's best that I don't go on any type of BC (like pills or shots or anything) but we'll use something for him until everyone's feeling better. Right now, I know, just isn't the right time, but soon I know it will be. I can deal with losing the car, it's just a car, even though I loved my car very much, it doesn't come near my kids. It's easy to replace a car, and I am greatful that we're all alive and kickin' and not hurt a lot worse. Next baby we'll try for will wait, and at the soonest will probably be a New Year's baby, if not later! What a crappy week it's been, but I do recommend one of those bag things for infant seats, if you can get one. Maybe that's just my own paranoia speaking, but still... Saved my DD from a lot of glass! Hope everyone else around here is doing alright and hope no one else has had a horrible last few days! lol |
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Wow!! That is terrible to have happened. I can totally understand how you
can't remember much of what happened. I'm glad to hear that no one was seriously hurt and that DS will heal nicely. You were very lucky. I agree with Anne, I was always told that if a carseat was in an accident, throw it away. It works by absorbing the shock of the accident so not as much is transferred to the baby. Once it does this it can become structurally damaged, even though no damage is visible, in a subsequent collision (hopefully there will never be one) the car seat can fail to perform properly and the child can be injured as a result. Claim it on the other person's insurance and it should be replaced for you. "xkatx" wrote in message news:ktRFf.180408$6K2.6849@edtnps90... So, we've kind of, unofficially, put the TTC thing on the back burner. I got into a pretty bad accident on Thursday the 2nd, and it seems now is not really such a good time. I wrote my car off, and thankfully injuries weren't too bad, all things considered... We were T boned by a truck speeding through an intersection after he changed lanes from behind some cars making left-hand turns. Nailed us on the passenger's side, which is DS's side of the car. I really don't remember too much, but he hit us so hard that it blew a fuse and all the lights in my car went out, and hit us so that we spun around at least once and were on the southeast corner of the road, facing north, when we were closer to the southwest corner, facing south. Anyways, DD - not a scratch on her. They had done a full inspection on her car seat and there wasn't a scratch on the seat either, and we were told it was perfect shape and there is no reason we can't keep using it since it had no damage to it at all. DS's booster seat is totaled, and DS had a pretty bad scalp laceration which the plastic surgeon stitched up very good. He said there should be no scars because of the location of the laceration and because of his age. The laceration was clean and clear and no parts were missing (sorry if that's TMI!) DS also had a tiny fracture in his nose. There's nothing that can be done about that, and there will be no damage, not even a bump from the fracture, he just has a black eye, and the swelling went down by Saturday morning. It's just black and green and yellow, but he can open it all the way now. He complains of no pain at all, which is a surprise. They did CT scans and Xrays, and he has no internal injuries. I count my lucky stars, and I know we got out lucky. I just keep wondering... Why him and not me? I think I'll always wish it would have been me and not him... Kind of off topic, but since it's kind of in my mind, I recommend one of those infant car seat bunting bag things... The car seat baby cover things that go into an infant seat and zipper up around baby... That is definitely what saved DD from even a tiny scratch on her, and we were finding pieces of glass in her seat the next day even... But anyways. I don't know what happened. The last thing I remember was seeing the coast was clear, turning, then seeing big Dodge truck lights in my passenger windows, I remember saying OMFG! NO! (pardon the language) and then the last clear thing in my mind was the cabin light in the car sparking and going out. I do remember DD start crying, but I remember DS screaming, and I kind of remember running out of the car around the front to DS's side (side of impact) and I vaguely remember pulling DS out of the car through the blown out window and seeing him covered in blood, even in the darkness. I remember grabbing him out and then running around the back of the car to DD's side, and I sort of remember not being able to open her door, probably because of major frame damage that kept the door shut, and I recall kicking and hitting the car/door and freaking out even more when I couldn't get the door open. I don't remember anything else... I don't even remember if the police were there, even though they obviously were and MIL said they were, who was called from the scene because she lives 2 blocks away, and I don't remember giving her phone number to someone who was there... Don't remember the ambulance ride to the hospital or anything... DS is now fine, it seems. He's back to a normal 5 year old, and everyone is constantly telling him to settle down before he hurts himself, and if he bangs his head, it will start to bleed and hurt a lot, and he'll have to spend another night, or more, in the hospital again. He doesn't want that! DD seems to be just fine. She's sleeping and eating as normal, it seems, and she's just as active as she always was. I was fine the first night in the hospital when I slept on the bed beside DS's bed, but I know I tossed and turned all night and woke up stiff and sore and in pain. They did chest and knee xrays, since I had some pretty big bruises. I feel fine other than being stiff and sore and this headache that just won't go away. I also can't sleep, which leaves me struggling to keep my eyes open all day long. DH and I have decided that we aren't going to actually try at this point. It's probably not wise to find out we're expecting again when I can barely walk or function, and I think we need to concentrate more on DS for the time being. We agreed that we won't try, but we won't not try. We'll not TTC when we know we have the best chance, and we'll wait a couple months before we actually try and aim for the best chance days. We decided it's best that I don't go on any type of BC (like pills or shots or anything) but we'll use something for him until everyone's feeling better. Right now, I know, just isn't the right time, but soon I know it will be. I can deal with losing the car, it's just a car, even though I loved my car very much, it doesn't come near my kids. It's easy to replace a car, and I am greatful that we're all alive and kickin' and not hurt a lot worse. Next baby we'll try for will wait, and at the soonest will probably be a New Year's baby, if not later! What a crappy week it's been, but I do recommend one of those bag things for infant seats, if you can get one. Maybe that's just my own paranoia speaking, but still... Saved my DD from a lot of glass! Hope everyone else around here is doing alright and hope no one else has had a horrible last few days! lol |
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OMG -- that must have been terrifying. Just reading about it is scary
-- your poor little ds! I hope he's feeling lots better and isn't too traumatized (although I can imagine that you are!) Thank G-d everyone is alive and okay. Try to get some rest and feel better soon! Bryna |
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xkatx wrote:
So, we've kind of, unofficially, put the TTC thing on the back burner. I got into a pretty bad accident on Thursday the 2nd, and it seems now is not really such a good time. I wrote my car off, and thankfully injuries weren't too bad, all things considered... Oh, I'm so sorry to hear about your accident. I hope you can recover soon enough emotionally. I agree with Anne to get a new carseat. -- Anita -- |
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"xkatx" wrote:
So, we've kind of, unofficially, put the TTC thing on the back burner. I got into a pretty bad accident on Thursday the 2nd, and it seems now is not really such a good time. I wrote my car off, and thankfully injuries weren't too bad, all things considered... Wow, that must have been terrifying. I'm glad you're all "okay". I hope you get some good restful sleep soon! rj |
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OMG - I'm glad you & your family are OK! What a frightening
experience! I would replace your DDs car seat - apparantly the seat belts can be weak and not show up any damage. I hope you get some sleep soon Kindest regards Camille |
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"xkatx" wrote in message
news:ktRFf.180408$6K2.6849@edtnps90... So, we've kind of, unofficially, put the TTC thing on the back burner. I got into a pretty bad accident on Thursday the 2nd, and it seems now is not really such a good time. I wrote my car off, and thankfully injuries weren't too bad, all things considered... Oh God...that is my worst fear, being in a bad accident with my daughter in the car :-( I can't begin to imagine how traumatic that felt, still feels. Take it easy. (((hugs))) -- Amy Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 http://www.freewebs.com/carlos2002/ http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/ana%5Fj%5F2004/ My blog: http://spaces.msn.com/members/querer-hijo-querer-hija/ |
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