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"Sophie" wrote None of my children ever said they didn't like their new baby brother. My niece said it during and after my SIL's pregnancy. She is 6 now and was 5 when nephew was born. She still doesn't like him. She basically ignores him or tries to control him. LOL. The situation is not that bad though, she just wants attention herself and is used to having her way and doesn't like sharing, but she is not hateful. He, on the other hand, ADORES his big sister. If you ask her if she loves her little brother you will get a silent, stony stare, and not a word. But of course she loves him. |
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Karen wrote in message thlink.net...
I too would generally prefer books without the whole sibling rivalry thing, not to deny any feelings he might be having, but moreso to not give him ideas he didn't already have on his own (like additional subjects to be jealous about) and to not reinforce any negative issues, but just talk through them on our own if we can. At least, that's the hope! -Karen, mom to Henry 3 1/2 and someone due 4/24/04- I definitely found that the typical sibling books influenced my DD's perception of her experience as a big sister. I had actually just kind of been lazy about not getting the big sister books out of the library *before* the baby was born, but finally did when the baby was a few months old. Suddenly, big sis here (4 at the time) starts quoting verbatim from all these jealous-sibling books. It was hilarious. I had to remind her that she hadn't felt that way before we read such-and-such book, that she in fact had always seemed quite ecstatic about being a big sister! One book that clearly influenced her way of dealing in what I found was a good way was an almost offensively old-fashioned book called "My New Baby". It's a "little golden book". It's so 50s -- the Stepford parents, the crib, the bottle, and all. But the story is really about the little girl (3?) whose mom has a baby. It's written in first person, in the girl's voice. It's about her "shadowing" her mom's every move with the baby with her new doll, which daddy brought her home at the same time as mommy brought "her" new baby home. When mommy feeds the baby, the little girl feeds "baby dear" (the doll); when mommy sings to the baby, the little girl sings to baby dear; when mommy talks to the baby "to let her know she's the best baby in the world," the girl talks to baby dear. The way it's written and drawn, it used to creep me out, but my DD loved it and, indeed, she got a Bitty Baby doll from my mom just before the baby was born, and she spent much of her time those first few months imitating me, right down to the painful nipples, the pumping (I had major BFing problems with the baby), and the lactation consultant visits. It worked for her... LOL For a different data point, though, I'll note that my eldest child, my DS, did not seem affected by the sibling-jealousy books, which I dutifully got out for him before his little sister (who would later become big sister to our baby) was born. He never said a negative word about her or about her presence in our lives; he was 3 when she was born, and appears to have fallen in love at first sight. Pictures of him holding her as a newborn show him to be in rapture. Stayed that way until she got to be about 3.5. He still loves her dearly, but can be mean to her as well, and obviously competitive, which is sad. Now, he did have an adjustment period, but it did not involve being anti-baby. It involved being anti-MOMMY. He was obviously very angry at me for weeks. I remember crying to my husband one day, "he hates me now!" And this, even though we got out doing all his usual activities -- playgrounds and museums, enormous amounts of reading together, preschool -- pretty much right away. They're so unpredictable! |
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That's a good point. However, the book that I chose (the Berenstein Bears,
the new baby) doesn't address jealously at all and is more what things you can do with a new baby. Brother bear is put out that the baby can't play yet and it goes on to say what things brother can do with the baby. I thought it was good. -- Sue (mom to three girls) I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World... Jan Andrea wrote in message ... "Karen" wrote in message link.net... With new baby due end of April, I'd like to find some books for my 3 1/2 yo to prepare him a bit for the arrival and life with baby. He is at the moment particularly unwilling to accept the idea that baby will be nursing (he still nurses 1-2x/day). MIL gave ds a book for x-mas, but I returned it as it showed baby being given a bottle and put in a crib, neither of which we have ever done or ever will do, so what we need are AP friendly books. ANything that includes breastfeeding, co-sleeping, sling carrying, etc. I would appreciate any specific recommendations or links to sites with lists of recommendations or books for sale. "We Have a Baby" is good -- the kids are both gender-neutral, the family could be just about any race, the baby is shown breastfeeding, and while they don't touch the sleeping issues, there's no crib in sight -- I think at some point the baby is sleeping in the parent's arms. There's also no mention of sibling rivalry, which is nice -- Stephen has had none towards Sophia, and I think it's partly because he doesn't know he's "supposed" to. Most of the books I looked at in the library went "older child learns of new sib, child is jealous, child gradually learns to appreciate new sib". I didn't want to make him think he had to be jealous, KWIM? If your older child is already feeling threatened, though, maybe one of those would also be helpful. Jan -- Mum to Stephen, 22 May 2000 and Sophia, 2 October 2003 My personal page: http://www.sleepingbaby.net/jan/ Baby-related crafts: http://www.sleepingbaby.net/jan/Baby/crafts.html |
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"Welches" wrote in message ...
Totally agree on jealousy issues. Most books had 2 things I disliked. 1. The older sibling was almost always looked after by grandparents when baby was being born. This wasn't happening, and I didn't want her to think it would. I question how often this happens nowadays. She was staying with a friend, which was fine, but if she'd expected granny to come, it might not have been. As it happens, our plan is for ds to be with grandma, but largely because she lives about 5 minutes from our house. Most of my friends are actually much farther away! Irene mom to Thomas 7/01 #2 EDD 4/04 |
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I haven't read much of this thread but I did find a really good book for
preschoolers. It's by Lucy Cousins and it's called "Za-Za's Baby Brother." My 2 year old loves it. It doesn't address b/fing but it's simple and sweet. Beautiful illustrations too. Susan |
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AP friendly books. ANything that includes breastfeeding, co-sleeping,
sling carrying, etc. I would appreciate any specific recommendations or links to sites with lists of recommendations or books for sale. Karen, you will love the Sears book, "What Baby Needs." It's perfect for you. I have it tucked away for Sproutkin, hopefully! Mary S. |
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I got ds a baby doll and sling ages ago. He mostly carries Elmo in the
sling, but he does like to take care of his doll sometimes. He goes through little phases of being really interested and then not so much. The doll is 20", so it's newborn size and he has a little diaper bag with a few diaper covers and clothes that were his as a newborn. It gave him the idea all on his own that the new baby could wear the clothes that don't fit him anymore! -K- |
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Here is a great list of children's books that show breastfeeding:
http://www.in.gov/isdh/programs/brea...rens_books.htm .. Also, you could try http://www.platypusmedia.com/main_children.html . They have a new book called "I Was Born to be a Brother" that is excellent. This book was written by Dia Michel's son. She was a speaker at the last Indiana LLL conference, so it is sure to be breastfeeding friendly. Anna Karen wrote: With new baby due end of April, I'd like to find some books for my 3 1/2 yo to prepare him a bit for the arrival and life with baby. He is at the moment particularly unwilling to accept the idea that baby will be nursing (he still nurses 1-2x/day). MIL gave ds a book for x-mas, but I returned it as it showed baby being given a bottle and put in a crib, neither of which we have ever done or ever will do, so what we need are AP friendly books. ANything that includes breastfeeding, co-sleeping, sling carrying, etc. I would appreciate any specific recommendations or links to sites with lists of recommendations or books for sale. Thanks in advance! -Karen, mom to Henry 3 1/2 and someone due 4/24/04- |
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Karen wrote in message hlink.net...
With new baby due end of April, I'd like to find some books for my 3 1/2 yo to prepare him a bit for the arrival and life with baby. He is at the moment particularly unwilling to accept the idea that baby will be nursing (he still nurses 1-2x/day). MIL gave ds a book for x-mas, but I returned it as it showed baby being given a bottle and put in a crib, neither of which we have ever done or ever will do, so what we need are AP friendly books. ANything that includes breastfeeding, co-sleeping, sling carrying, etc. I would appreciate any specific recommendations or links to sites with lists of recommendations or books for sale. Karen, my DD loves _Newborn_ by Karen Henderson (I think that's right). No bottles in it at all, and no crib either. I think there is a bassinet/cradle, but it's not a huge issue, as in I don't think you see the baby sleeping in it. Feeding isn't mentioned at all in the book, but on the back cover, it really looks to me like the mom is BF'ing. The big brother and big sister (and the parents) take turns carrying the baby through the house and introducing her to the new sights, sounds, and textures of everyday life. No sibling rivalry shown at all, and both parents are involved with the baby. At the end of the book, the mom is holding the baby as the baby sleeps in the mom's arms. Very realistic-looking facial expressions on the newborn. -Sara (not currently expecting) Mommy to a DD, 22 months, who wants a baby sister |
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