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I would like some advice...anything to help
To start off i'm a single parent of a 2yr old. Her father has never wanted
to be around until i took him to court for child support. Now, he just got married and she wants my daughter around alot. Yet the only reason her father wants her around is b/c of his wife. Both of them don't have a job and live with her parents. So, he's not paying child support. He now want to have some custody of my daughter and he has never been there for her. Him and his wife are bad influences on my daughter like: they cut there wrists, drink a lot, smoke, Probably do other drugs, and don't have any sense of responsibility at all. I'm scared to leave my daughter alone with them and don't think she needs to be around that. I am trying to find out if there's any way that i can get sole custody with no vistitation rights or only supervised visitation. so, any information you could offer would be very helpful and appreciated. |
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I would like some advice...anything to help
"amandasc20" wrote To start off i'm a single parent of a 2yr old. Her father has never wanted to be around until i took him to court for child support. Now, he just got married and she wants my daughter around alot. Yet the only reason her father wants her around is b/c of his wife. Both of them don't have a job and live with her parents. So, he's not paying child support. He now want to have some custody of my daughter and he has never been there for her. Him and his wife are bad influences on my daughter like: they cut there wrists, drink a lot, smoke, Probably do other drugs, and don't have any sense of responsibility at all. I'm scared to leave my daughter alone with them and don't think she needs to be around that. I am trying to find out if there's any way that i can get sole custody with no vistitation rights == But, still collect child support fom him, I presume? |
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I would like some advice...anything to help
"amandasc20" wrote in message lkaboutparenting.com... To start off i'm a single parent of a 2yr old. Her father has never wanted to be around until i took him to court for child support. Now, he just got married and she wants my daughter around alot. Yet the only reason her father wants her around is b/c of his wife. Both of them don't have a job and live with her parents. So, he's not paying child support. He now want to have some custody of my daughter and he has never been there for her. Him and his wife are bad influences on my daughter like: they cut there wrists, drink a lot, smoke, Probably do other drugs, and don't have any sense of responsibility at all. I'm scared to leave my daughter alone with them and don't think she needs to be around that. I am trying to find out if there's any way that i can get sole custody with no vistitation rights or only supervised visitation. so, any information you could offer would be very helpful and appreciated. Yes. Try to keep his time with your child to a minimum. In fact, if you can eliminate him having ANY time with her all the better; because, as you already know, the more you can keep your daughter fatherless the more FREE MONEY you can get! And the more money you can get, the better. So............................ you go girl! |
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I would like some advice...anything to help
"amandasc20" wrote in message lkaboutparenting.com... To start off i'm a single parent of a 2yr old. Her father has never wanted to be around until i took him to court for child support. Now, he just got married and she wants my daughter around alot. Yet the only reason her father wants her around is b/c of his wife. Both of them don't have a job and live with her parents. So, he's not paying child support. He now want to have some custody of my daughter and he has never been there for her. Him and his wife are bad influences on my daughter like: they cut there wrists, drink a lot, smoke, Probably do other drugs, and don't have any sense of responsibility at all. I'm scared to leave my daughter alone with them and don't think she needs to be around that. I am trying to find out if there's any way that i can get sole custody with no vistitation rights or only supervised visitation. so, any information you could offer would be very helpful and appreciated. Do you have any proof of the allegations you are making? Or are you just going on hearsay? The other possibility is that you might be afraid that the dad might be able to get custody away from you now that he is married and his wife doesn't work and can be a stay-at-home mom to the child. Pretty scary, isn't it? Don't you believe that your child needs a relationship with her father? You wouldn't deprive *her* because of his foolishness in not wanting to be a father for 2 years, would you? That was HIS mistake--not hers. Don't make her suffer for it. The only way I can think of for you to totally cut him off from his child is to encourage him to renounce all parental rights, and you never contact him again--including for any sort of child support. Are you willing to give up child support in return for his absence from your daughter's life? |
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I would like some advice...anything to help
"amandasc20" wrote in message lkaboutparenting.com... To start off i'm a single parent of a 2yr old. Her father has never wanted to be around until i took him to court for child support. Now, he just got married and she wants my daughter around alot. Yet the only reason her father wants her around is b/c of his wife. Both of them don't have a job and live with her parents. So, he's not paying child support. He now want to have some custody of my daughter and he has never been there for her. Him and his wife are bad influences on my daughter like: they cut there wrists, drink a lot, smoke, Probably do other drugs, and don't have any sense of responsibility at all. I'm scared to leave my daughter alone with them and don't think she needs to be around that. I am trying to find out if there's any way that i can get sole custody with no vistitation rights or only supervised visitation. so, any information you could offer would be very helpful and appreciated. His new wife is encouraging him to be a good father to a child from a previous relationship. What is the problem with that? You can get sole custody but you cannot block visitation. In fact, if you want child support the best way to get it paid on time and on schedule is to encourage regular visitation. |
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I would like some advice...anything to help
On Mar 21, 4:47 pm, "teachrmama" wrote:
"amandasc20" wrote in message lkaboutparenting.com... To start off i'm a single parent of a 2yr old. Her father has never wanted to be around until i took him to court for child support. Now, he just got married and she wants my daughter around alot. Yet the only reason her father wants her around is b/c of his wife. Both of them don't have a job and live with her parents. So, he's not paying child support. He now want to have some custody of my daughter and he has never been there for her. Him and his wife are bad influences on my daughter like: they cut there wrists, drink a lot, smoke, Probably do other drugs, and don't have any sense of responsibility at all. I'm scared to leave my daughter alone with them and don't think she needs to be around that. I am trying to find out if there's any way that i can get sole custody with no vistitation rights or only supervised visitation. so, any information you could offer would be very helpful and appreciated. Do you have any proof of the allegations you are making? Or are you just going on hearsay? The other possibility is that you might be afraid that the dad might be able to get custody away from you now that he is married and his wife doesn't work and can be a stay-at-home mom to the child. Pretty scary, isn't it? Don't you believe that your child needs a relationship with her father? You wouldn't deprive *her* because of his foolishness in not wanting to be a father for 2 years, would you? That was HIS mistake--not hers. Don't make her suffer for it. The only way I can think of for you to totally cut him off from his child is to encourage him to renounce all parental rights, and you never contact him again--including for any sort of child support. Are you willing to give up child support in return for his absence from your daughter's life? - Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Getting a father is renounce all parental rights can be very cruel to the child. It may be OK if the mother can form a stable relationship with a new man who can become the childs surrogate father. This can sometimes work very well. But if the mother can't form that relationship, the child will continually search for her real father. The need for a father will get stronger as the years pass untill she eventually reaches her teen years when she will try to turn the world upside down to be a part of her fathers life. Believe me, I've been there. Ino |
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I would like some advice...anything to help
" wrote in message ups.com... On Mar 21, 4:47 pm, "teachrmama" wrote: "amandasc20" wrote in message lkaboutparenting.com... To start off i'm a single parent of a 2yr old. Her father has never wanted to be around until i took him to court for child support. Now, he just got married and she wants my daughter around alot. Yet the only reason her father wants her around is b/c of his wife. Both of them don't have a job and live with her parents. So, he's not paying child support. He now want to have some custody of my daughter and he has never been there for her. Him and his wife are bad influences on my daughter like: they cut there wrists, drink a lot, smoke, Probably do other drugs, and don't have any sense of responsibility at all. I'm scared to leave my daughter alone with them and don't think she needs to be around that. I am trying to find out if there's any way that i can get sole custody with no vistitation rights or only supervised visitation. so, any information you could offer would be very helpful and appreciated. Do you have any proof of the allegations you are making? Or are you just going on hearsay? The other possibility is that you might be afraid that the dad might be able to get custody away from you now that he is married and his wife doesn't work and can be a stay-at-home mom to the child. Pretty scary, isn't it? Don't you believe that your child needs a relationship with her father? You wouldn't deprive *her* because of his foolishness in not wanting to be a father for 2 years, would you? That was HIS mistake--not hers. Don't make her suffer for it. The only way I can think of for you to totally cut him off from his child is to encourage him to renounce all parental rights, and you never contact him again--including for any sort of child support. Are you willing to give up child support in return for his absence from your daughter's life? - Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Getting a father is renounce all parental rights can be very cruel to the child. It may be OK if the mother can form a stable relationship with a new man who can become the childs surrogate father. This can sometimes work very well. But if the mother can't form that relationship, the child will continually search for her real father. The need for a father will get stronger as the years pass untill she eventually reaches her teen years when she will try to turn the world upside down to be a part of her fathers life. Believe me, I've been there. I agree with you. I think every child deserves a mother and a father. My question for this lady is about what she is willing to give up to get what she says she wants. Is she willing to give up the $$$ to keep dad away? Is she willing to deprive her daughter of a father? Hopefully, she will think about these things before she makes any further moves. |
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