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no toys please
In article , enigma says...
Jeff wrote in news:8W7gi.2355$YS.974@trnddc03: Stephanie wrote: "toypup" wrote in message ... If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think that means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I go to thinking. . . .sigh I think it means no toys but we would love your other filthy lucre. I think indicating no gifts is Ok. But to tell a gift giver WHAT to give unasked is rude. But... that said, what are you going to do? I would get a book if it were me. If you were giving a gift, would you rather give a gift that the recipient would use or would you rather give a gift that the recipient already has 100s of? I think indicating no toys because the kid has enough toys is perfectly fine. Boo got a bunch of toys for his last birthday, maybe a dozen or so. of those, all but maybe 2 (which were a Playmobile & a giant bubblewand) have gone into the trash or to charity. i think it's a bit rude to specify what kind of gifts are ok, but i can understand the no toys thing. oh, & one of his gifts was a gift card to Toys R Us, a place i generally dislike (i'm a fan of small independant toy shops). because he had the gift card i took him there & let him look around. there was not *one toy* he wanted there... and you can't cash in gift cards. i'm so sad that person wasted their money lee If nothing else, you can pick up batteries and something like that with the gift card. Banty |
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On Tue, 26 Jun 2007 09:56:33 -0500, Donna Metler wrote:
I wish there WAS a polite way to specify, though. DD's birthday and Christmas are close together, and really, by the time she gets through her birthday, she doesn't need much of anything for Christmas-but at least while she's a toddler, often things given now can't be saved for a few months because if she's really into it now, that may change in 6 months. I'm seriously considering celebrating a half-birthday in the summer, and not doing anything but a cake with family for her real birthday. Which is why I often give gifts the kids have to grow into, especially for my niece and nephew, whose birthdays are in December. |
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"Jeff" wrote in message news:8W7gi.2355$YS.974@trnddc03... Stephanie wrote: "toypup" wrote in message ... If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think that means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I go to thinking. . . .sigh I think it means no toys but we would love your other filthy lucre. I think indicating no gifts is Ok. But to tell a gift giver WHAT to give unasked is rude. But... that said, what are you going to do? I would get a book if it were me. If you were giving a gift, would you rather give a gift that the recipient would use or would you rather give a gift that the recipient already has 100s of? I think indicating no toys because the kid has enough toys is perfectly fine. jeff I think that mention of what gift to give smacks of greed. The onus for chosing a gift that the recipient would like belongs with the giver, and it is that which makes the giving fun. If the recipient wants something in particular, then they can go buy it, save for it, moan for it... whatever. |
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"Banty" wrote in message ... In article 8W7gi.2355$YS.974@trnddc03, Jeff says... Stephanie wrote: "toypup" wrote in message ... If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think that means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I go to thinking. . . .sigh I think it means no toys but we would love your other filthy lucre. I think indicating no gifts is Ok. But to tell a gift giver WHAT to give unasked is rude. But... that said, what are you going to do? I would get a book if it were me. If you were giving a gift, would you rather give a gift that the recipient would use or would you rather give a gift that the recipient already has 100s of? I think indicating no toys because the kid has enough toys is perfectly fine. jeff I completely understand the reasoning and the temptation (before I read up on etiquette, I had specified "xxx likes books" to get away from the toy-clutter problem), but properly, gifts are up to the giver. Birthday parties are not supposed to be viewed like catalog orders by the party-giver. That's gets more into grubbing (yes, even though it's the lack of toys that's actually wanted, it's still I-want-this-I-don't-want-that). You can call and find out what the child likes, but the parent isn't supposed to put restrictions and requests on the birthday invite as to gifts. For example, a relative very familliar with the child may really know they have an idea for THE toy the child would love and the parent would gladly make an exception for. So - - they bring it. Everyone else heeded the birthday invite and brought a book, and they see this gift. Now what. OK, you can blame the relative for not bringing a book instead, but, since gifts are required at birthday parties, they're stuck with either giving two gifts (a public and a private one, so to speak), or not giving the gift they'd really like to give. It sounds like a good idea to specify something like this, but it really doesn't work all around. That's why the etiquette rule is there. Yeah yeah, people increasingly do different things, but then, this is where the RSVP problem came from, too - people decided they didn't reaaally haaavve to. You are going to shiver with this one. A couple of years ago, a friend of ours responded in the affirmative to a bbq. He asked what can he bring. I told him a side dish of his choice. This is an annual bbq and folks always ask what to bring. It is a huge party so if folks ask, I take 'em up on it. He calls hours after the bbq ended and TOLD ME that his friend called him at the last minute and invited him to a different party. Havent invited them back for years. They'd rather wait and see what comes up (and, it could be argued, shouldn't the party-giver really want people who really want to be at the party to be there, even if they're non-planners?) Lots of things are like that. There's reasons why there are sets of rules. Banty |
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"Donna Metler" wrote in message . .. I wish there WAS a polite way to specify, though. DD's birthday and Christmas are close together, and really, by the time she gets through her birthday, she doesn't need much of anything for Christmas-but at least while she's a toddler, often things given now can't be saved for a few months because if she's really into it now, that may change in 6 months. I'm seriously considering celebrating a half-birthday in the summer, and not doing anything but a cake with family for her real birthday. I think the kids love the present aspect so much, it is tough to eliminate. But it does seem like a kinda crazy lootfest for hte sake of present opening sometimes, doesn't it? I like the 1/2 birthday idea. |
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On Jun 26, 12:14 pm, "Stephanie" wrote:
"Jeff" wrote in message news:8W7gi.2355$YS.974@trnddc03... Stephanie wrote: "toypup" wrote in message . .. If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think that means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I go to thinking. . . .sigh I think it means no toys but we would love your other filthy lucre. I think indicating no gifts is Ok. But to tell a gift giver WHAT to give unasked is rude. But... that said, what are you going to do? I would get a book if it were me. If you were giving a gift, would you rather give a gift that the recipient would use or would you rather give a gift that the recipient already has 100s of? I think indicating no toys because the kid has enough toys is perfectly fine. jeff I think that mention of what gift to give smacks of greed. The onus for chosing a gift that the recipient would like belongs with the giver, and it is that which makes the giving fun. If the recipient wants something in particular, then they can go buy it, save for it, moan for it... whatever. On the contrary, I prefer this. Gives me an idea on what to get. |
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"Banty" wrote in message ... In article , Donna Metler says... I wish there WAS a polite way to specify, though. DD's birthday and Christmas are close together, and really, by the time she gets through her birthday, she doesn't need much of anything for Christmas-but at least while she's a toddler, often things given now can't be saved for a few months because if she's really into it now, that may change in 6 months. I'm seriously considering celebrating a half-birthday in the summer, and not doing anything but a cake with family for her real birthday. I certainly know the feeling. I think yours is a great idea. Or one can just not have such a big party invite list (fewer presents that way, and IMO the better way to go anyway). Or anyone (not specifically you) can just give a party, not billed specifically as a birthday party but close to the birthday date, with family and a few of the actual friends. People who are close enough to know it pertains to a birthday can bring a gift just as people can always give gifts for whatever reason. I think the main culprit for the birthday toy/clutter problem is this idea that many kids (even the whole class) has to be invited. If folks could just get off the Chuck-ee-cheese or hired-clown bandwagon (not meaning you specifically). Well, because her birthday falls right around a holiday, often parties are quite small (which actually is one reason for doing a mid-year half birthday-that way, as she gets older and more aware of peer group stuff hopefully we won't have the "only two people showed up for my party-no one likes me" thing going on) -but it doesn't seem to reduce getting gifts much! |
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"Donna Metler" wrote in message . .. I wish there WAS a polite way to specify, though. DD's birthday and Christmas are close together, and really, by the time she gets through her birthday, she doesn't need much of anything for Christmas-but at least while she's a toddler, often things given now can't be saved for a few months because if she's really into it now, that may change in 6 months. I'm seriously considering celebrating a half-birthday in the summer, and not doing anything but a cake with family for her real birthday. Really, there is no winning. My birthday is just before Christmas ... our family tried to do a 1/2 birthday ... when my real birthday rolled around it seemed like it didn't matter to anyone and my feelings were VERY hurt. Talking w/ other ppl who have Christmas birthdays and had a 1/2 birthday .. they have said the same thing. My suggestions is ... don't wrap her birthday gifts in Christmas paper, don't complain to her (or w/i her hearing) that her birthday being on/near Christmas is a hardship and don't buy gifts that are 1/2 Christmas and 1/2 birthday gifts. Good luck, it's not easy. |
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"toypup" wrote in message ... If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think that means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I go to thinking. . . .sigh I would LOVE for someone to give us an invite that said no toys! I would gladly spend the money on a gift card, a book, a movie pass, anything but toys. I always want to say no wepons (our family is anti-wepons for children) on invites. Because we have girls ... it's never been an issue. If I had boys, I would put it in the invite. I don't know if it would be considered rude or not. I would do it either way. |
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Knit Chic wrote:
"toypup" wrote in message ... If a kid's birthday invitation states "No toys PLEASE," do you think that means no toys but other gifts are okay or do you think that means no presents period? My first impression was it meant no gifts, but then I go to thinking. . . .sigh I would LOVE for someone to give us an invite that said no toys! I would gladly spend the money on a gift card, a book, a movie pass, anything but toys. I always want to say no wepons (our family is anti-wepons for children) on invites. Because we have girls ... it's never been an issue. If I had boys, I would put it in the invite. I don't know if it would be considered rude or not. I would do it either way. I am anti weapons, except I like the nerf arrows and stuff like that and I love water fights (although little kids don't like the if you get me wet, I get you wet rule - but they go off and cry with their parents and learn a lesson - I am always clear about this too). |
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