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Number of kids -- 2 vs. 3?
Alphawave wrote:
Yes, somewhere close to my limit now, but the point of asking is to gauge the future, not the present. What I don't know is what it's like to have a child close to kindergarten age, a toddler, and a newborn. I think it really depends on the person. I wasn't quite ready at the time that spacing could have happened, but it would have been easier than closer spacing. So I was hoping to hear from anyone who could tell me first-hand what their experience was/is like. Is it easier, because you're a more experienced mom at that point, or the oldest child is in somewhat better position to help? Both were true for us. I'm far more organized now than I was, and it helps a lot to have older children who are more able to handle themselves. Is it just plain harder because more kids means more work? There are times when more kids mean more work, but on the other hand, there are times when more kids are *less* work (because they occupy each other). Or does it depend on the personalities of the kids? I'm sure this is a big part of it. Some kids just demand more of you than others. Or do moms in this situation just tend to take greater advantage of things like pre-school, "mother's morning out", babysitting co-ops, cleaning service, etc.? There are only 24 hours in a day, and taking advantage of time savers does give you more time to do the things you want to do. I'm a big fan of having groceries delivered ;-) I have to say, though, that we chose pre-school more for what it offered the kids than for time off (it doesn't add up to much time off, especially when you consider the transportation time and the time it takes to participate)-- although some days *any* time off seems important. And so much also depends on your partner and how much he can share in the parenting. It's a lot easier if the other parent gets home at 5pm than at 8pm! Best wishes, Ericka |
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On Tue, 02 Sep 2003 18:03:13 -0700, aps wrote:
I don't disagree that it's not always good short-term economic policy to favor immigration over high birth rates, but that kind of policy is awfully kind to racist thought and to hints of fascism. Well, in Australia, we have controlled and uncontrolled immigration. If you are from NZ or you marry an Aussie, there is no limit to how many migrate to Australia. However, if you are any other category, there is a cap. I married an Aussie so I didn't worry about numbers. -- Daye Momma to Jayan "Boy" EDD 11 Jan 2004 See Jayan: http://jayan.topcities.com/ |
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Alphawave wrote:
Barbara says: Well, I have to tell you that three under 5 was a good deal easier than three under 6 was! Life got dramatically more complicated, IMO, when Julian started kindergarten last fall, and it's even more complicated now that he's in first grade. Before he started school, we could pick up and do what we wanted when we wanted. If he missed a week of preschool here or there, it was no big deal. Now, it's a big issue. Yeah, I haven't really thought much in terms of what it would be like throughout all of childhood -- I tend to think about that intense time when #3 would be a newborn; and then the future, when they're all adults; and only in passing do I think much about having to coordinate 3 children's schedules. Of course, I guess I tend to feel that by the time they all have schedules, I'll be an old hand at all this. :-) (Naive, eh??) ;-) I have to say that coordinating schedules is *hard* with a first grader and a third grader. My only hope is that by the time Genevieve's schedule starts ramping up, Adrian and Colin will be managing a bit of their own schedules. Obviously, they won't be driving, but I could probably drop them off at the dance studio rather than staying for the whole class, or we could carpool to soccer practices with other families, etc. We could choose to do less, and perhaps some would argue we *should* do less. But at the moment the boys are doing what they love and thriving on it and I'm still managing to keep up, so we're forging ahead. It is tough to juggle activities and homework, though. And it's not just the activities and homework. There are all these demands that come with school, too--lots of paperwork, helping out with the PTA, helping out in the classroom, fundraising, projects, field trips, book fairs, parties, etc. etc. etc. You can pick and choose what you're going to do, and you don't have to do everything, but I do feel like I ought to do *some* of it. If you don't learn to say "no," you can get totally sucked in and have no life. Best wishes, Ericka |
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"Circe" schrieb im Newsbeitrag
news:Ar25b.14152$n94.845@fed1read04... "zeldabee" wrote in message ... "Nina" wrote: "Daye" wrote In Australia, the government is encouraging woman to give birth. In Italy and Singapore as well. It's a bit silly and short-sighted of them, IMHO. I just can't see it as a bad thing when the population growth slows or even reverses in some countries. It's a global issue. The problem is that people in countries with falling birth rates (you can add Japan and Germany to this list, as well and the US and Canada would be on it as well if it weren't for immigration) can suffer fairly dramatic economic hardship. Yep, yep, yep. The health and pension systems must be reformed thoroughly, but for the foreseeable future there won't be any change in today's problem that there are too many pensioners and too few workers for our system to work much longer. My husband pays a fifth of his income to old-age pensioners. -- Tatjana PCOS - TTC #1 for 2 years |
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Sophie says:
That help? Yep. ;-) I wonder the same about 4. I just keep telling myself when #4 comes all the others will be that bit older, that bit more self sufficient. Personally I think in some ways it gets easier. Obviously in other ways it gets harder. I also wonder if it just seems harder in the moment because it's *new*. When Eamon was a newborn/infant, it seemed really hard. Then when we had Quinn, we realized -- no, one is cake; *two* is hard. ;-) Now that Quinn is almost 5 mos., it doesn't seem as hard anymore. So far the challenges have been fun/do-able, obviously, or we wouldn't have done it so many times :-D Thanks for your thoughts, Sophie. :-) -- Alpha alphawave at earthlink dot net |
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Em says:
I feel fairly strongly that only two children sounds like too small of a family to me (personally) and also I do not want my kids to have only one adult sibling when grown up. Three sounds like a good size--not too big, not too small. Yeah, I know what you mean. I've thought about that too. One thing I wonder about is how it sometimes seems like the world is designed for the 4-member family. Most tables and booths at restaurants seat 4; standard hotel rooms sleep 4; cars are more comfortable for 4; etc. -- just seems like it could be easier to be 4 people rather than 5 when you're out as a family. -- Alpha alphawave at earthlink dot net |
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Alpha wrote:
One thing I wonder about is how it sometimes seems like the world is designed for the 4-member family. Most tables and booths at restaurants seat 4; standard hotel rooms sleep 4; cars are more comfortable for 4; etc. -- just seems like it could be easier to be 4 people rather than 5 when you're out as a family. That is definitely true. It's not a deal breaker, mind you, but it is true :-) --Helen |
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Alphawave wrote:
One thing I wonder about is how it sometimes seems like the world is designed for the 4-member family. Most tables and booths at restaurants seat 4; standard hotel rooms sleep 4; cars are more comfortable for 4; etc. -- just seems like it could be easier to be 4 people rather than 5 when you're out as a family. I do think that's true, but obviously not insurmountable. Fortunately, while the kids are small, you can often fit in a situation designed for four ;-) Best wishes, Ericka |
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Oh don't get me started on the perfect four in a family. Everything is for a
four member family. Any kind of contest is for four people. I once won tickets to see Sesame Street live and recieved four tickets, um hello, I have five in my family, what am I supposed to do, leave one child home? Camping this summer, we had to pay extra for our third child. It drives me mad especially when the average number of chidlren for a household is like 2.3 or something. Why don't they round up, ugh. -- Sue mom to three girls Alphawave wrote in message ... Em says: I feel fairly strongly that only two children sounds like too small of a family to me (personally) and also I do not want my kids to have only one adult sibling when grown up. Three sounds like a good size--not too big, not too small. Yeah, I know what you mean. I've thought about that too. One thing I wonder about is how it sometimes seems like the world is designed for the 4-member family. Most tables and booths at restaurants seat 4; standard hotel rooms sleep 4; cars are more comfortable for 4; etc. -- just seems like it could be easier to be 4 people rather than 5 when you're out as a family. -- Alpha alphawave at earthlink dot net |
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