Now see

What happens when I am not around! Everybody GO TO YOUR ROOMS!
There will be no T.V. and there is early bedtime for all of you until this
flirting, and bickering comes to an end and you can play nice!

So how's the single-parenting going? We have been struggling lately, ever since
my daughters B/F bailed out on her and the baby, my daughter has gone haywire.
She just had a psyc eval done, cause it has to be reviewed every so often for
SSI.
Now all of a sudden she is diagnosed, ADHD???? , Major depressive
disorder,Intermittent explosive disorder, and is being watched for Bulimia
nervosa.
I just am so exhausted with this? With all that said they just let us go with
no meds for any of this ? She had been on 40 mg. of Prozac and was doing o.k.
on that for the longest time, then after the breakup she started to not take
her med and began drinking again, she took a bottle of advil to off herself and
of course the cutting resurfaced,and with all of this going on she has been
unable to focus on her baby much, I have tried to get her admitted into a
mental health situation to get her back on track and all they say is she can
sign herself out so there is no sence in signing her in ?, we are stumbling
through with the mobil therapist that comes to the house twice a week for about
an hour and a half each time. The
earliest Psyciatrist appt. we can get is Nov. 23rd. I lost my job over the
stress and interference of our home situation and well luckily was given
unemployment. I could use some comments and ideas about coping with all this. I
am not whining I just need some suggestions, I have exhausted all that I have
to use right now and it seems to be a hurry up and wait again. Meanwhile the
baby is healthy and seems to be a happy baby....she is 10 months old now... we
have so far had the support of the babies other grandparents, my daughters
mental health has never been kept a secret from them , or the B/F for that
matter, I did tell him about it when they first started going out, because of
how different our lives were at that time, it appeared that my daughter was
doing well, but now I think what she did was stuff a bunch of issues and
depended on him to make her happy, once he bailed she went straight back to the
craziness we were going through before she met him? Well I blabbed long enough.
Thanks for reading. Bev

"Bebelestrnge0721" wrote in message
...
What happens when I am not around! Everybody GO TO YOUR ROOMS!

Tiffany started it!
hee hee



There will be no T.V. and there is early bedtime for all of you until this
flirting, and bickering comes to an end and you can play nice!

I wished someone would send me to bed early!



So how's the single-parenting going?


A bit hairy. I think I need a bit of a break. C is so hormonal or something,
and she is at some sort of stage from hell!
J is computer addicted. It is like some sort of battle to get him to even eat
or play on the weekends!
My classes are on Saturday now, but had to take it that way so I could be
ready for law school Fall 05.
We are still recovering from the hurricane that left this place a mess!
Ahhh..but we finally have electricity. 12 days without will make you crazy
acting and I yelled to the pole men, "God bless you people for helping" (They
come from all over with recovery efforts). These guys were from New Jersey.
They think southerners are "real nice", but we are extra nice when you are
going to help get our power on!


We have been struggling lately, ever since
my daughters B/F bailed out on her and the baby, my daughter has gone
haywire.
She just had a psyc eval done, cause it has to be reviewed every so often
for
SSI.
Now all of a sudden she is diagnosed, ADHD???? , Major depressive
disorder,Intermittent explosive disorder, and is being watched for Bulimia
nervosa.
I just am so exhausted with this? With all that said they just let us go
with
no meds for any of this ? She had been on 40 mg. of Prozac and was doing
o.k.
on that for the longest time, then after the breakup she started to not take
her med and began drinking again, she took a bottle of advil to off herself
and
of course the cutting resurfaced,and with all of this going on she has been
unable to focus on her baby much, I have tried to get her admitted into a
mental health situation to get her back on track and all they say is she can
sign herself out so there is no sence in signing her in ?, we are stumbling
through with the mobil therapist that comes to the house twice a week for
about
an hour and a half each time. The
earliest Psyciatrist appt. we can get is Nov. 23rd. I lost my job over the
stress and interference of our home situation and well luckily was given
unemployment.

O dear. I did not know he left! I am so sorry and know it is rough.


I could use some comments and ideas about coping with all this. I
am not whining I just need some suggestions, I have exhausted all that I
have
to use right now and it seems to be a hurry up and wait again.

I wished I could offer some sort of advice. But mental health services in your
county could really help out if she is uninsured.


Meanwhile the
baby is healthy and seems to be a happy baby....she is 10 months old now...
we
have so far had the support of the babies other grandparents, my daughters
mental health has never been kept a secret from them , or the B/F for that
matter, I did tell him about it when they first started going out, because
of
how different our lives were at that time, it appeared that my daughter was
doing well, but now I think what she did was stuff a bunch of issues and
depended on him to make her happy, once he bailed she went straight back to
the
craziness we were going through before she met him? Well I blabbed long
enough.
Thanks for reading. Bev

I am glad the baby is well. Bev, hang in there. I am thinking of you guys.
Vicky

"Bebelestrnge0721" wrote in message
...
What happens when I am not around! Everybody GO TO YOUR ROOMS!
There will be no T.V. and there is early bedtime for all of you until this
flirting, and bickering comes to an end and you can play nice!

So how's the single-parenting going? We have been struggling lately, ever
since
my daughters B/F bailed out on her and the baby, my daughter has gone
haywire.
She just had a psyc eval done, cause it has to be reviewed every so often
for
SSI.
Now all of a sudden she is diagnosed, ADHD???? , Major depressive
disorder,Intermittent explosive disorder, and is being watched for Bulimia
nervosa.
I just am so exhausted with this? With all that said they just let us go
with
no meds for any of this ? She had been on 40 mg. of Prozac and was doing
o.k.
on that for the longest time, then after the breakup she started to not
take
her med and began drinking again, she took a bottle of advil to off
herself and
of course the cutting resurfaced,and with all of this going on she has
been
unable to focus on her baby much, I have tried to get her admitted into a
mental health situation to get her back on track and all they say is she
can
sign herself out so there is no sence in signing her in ?, we are
stumbling
through with the mobil therapist that comes to the house twice a week for
about
an hour and a half each time. The
earliest Psyciatrist appt. we can get is Nov. 23rd. I lost my job over the
stress and interference of our home situation and well luckily was given
unemployment. I could use some comments and ideas about coping with all
this. I
am not whining I just need some suggestions, I have exhausted all that I
have
to use right now and it seems to be a hurry up and wait again. Meanwhile
the
baby is healthy and seems to be a happy baby....she is 10 months old
now... we
have so far had the support of the babies other grandparents, my daughters
mental health has never been kept a secret from them , or the B/F for that
matter, I did tell him about it when they first started going out, because
of
how different our lives were at that time, it appeared that my daughter
was
doing well, but now I think what she did was stuff a bunch of issues and
depended on him to make her happy, once he bailed she went straight back
to the
craziness we were going through before she met him? Well I blabbed long
enough.
Thanks for reading. Bev

I may be way off here but I think MAYBE at this point, I would want to look
and see who I can help first and foremost and it might just be that baby.
Your daughter needs help but she is old enough to not take it no matter how
hard you try. I imagine it kind of like dealing with a drug addict (since I
got a few of those in my life). You want to help them..... they need your
help...... but until they are ready, they won't get help. It comes to a
point where one has to state how they feel and step back so they can gather
their own energies to continue to be strong. You have now lost your job and
though it may seem fine because you are getting unemployment, that is temp.
and some will say the longer you don't have a job, the harder it is to find
another. In this economy, I would never stay unemployed. Your daughter can
sign herself out of a program? She is 18 then or is that how it works? She
probably shouldn't even be left alone with this baby and you should be
honest with the other grandparents and father (even if he is absent). Maybe
they would be willing to have the baby while your daughter gets ****
straight...... that would leave you the time to also be there.

T

(Bebelestrnge0721) wrote in message ...
What happens when I am not around! Everybody GO TO YOUR ROOMS!
There will be no T.V. and there is early bedtime for all of you until this
flirting, and bickering comes to an end and you can play nice!

So how's the single-parenting going? We have been struggling lately, ever since
my daughters B/F bailed out on her and the baby, my daughter has gone haywire.
She just had a psyc eval done, cause it has to be reviewed every so often for
SSI.
Now all of a sudden she is diagnosed, ADHD???? , Major depressive
disorder,Intermittent explosive disorder, and is being watched for Bulimia
nervosa.
I just am so exhausted with this? With all that said they just let us go with
no meds for any of this ? She had been on 40 mg. of Prozac and was doing o.k.
on that for the longest time, then after the breakup she started to not take
her med and began drinking again, she took a bottle of advil to off herself and
of course the cutting resurfaced,and with all of this going on she has been
unable to focus on her baby much, I have tried to get her admitted into a
mental health situation to get her back on track and all they say is she can
sign herself out so there is no sence in signing her in ?, we are stumbling
through with the mobil therapist that comes to the house twice a week for about
an hour and a half each time. The
earliest Psyciatrist appt. we can get is Nov. 23rd. I lost my job over the
stress and interference of our home situation and well luckily was given
unemployment. I could use some comments and ideas about coping with all this. I
am not whining I just need some suggestions, I have exhausted all that I have
to use right now and it seems to be a hurry up and wait again. Meanwhile the
baby is healthy and seems to be a happy baby....she is 10 months old now... we
have so far had the support of the babies other grandparents, my daughters
mental health has never been kept a secret from them , or the B/F for that
matter, I did tell him about it when they first started going out, because of
how different our lives were at that time, it appeared that my daughter was
doing well, but now I think what she did was stuff a bunch of issues and
depended on him to make her happy, once he bailed she went straight back to the
craziness we were going through before she met him? Well I blabbed long enough.
Thanks for reading. Bev

gosh, I can see why you're worried about her. It's really hard for
your daughter to find happiness in life when looking for it only in
The Relationship and coping with the stresses of life and with some
unsuccessful life's experiences and mental health challenges to boot.
I think she's better off without him, though, don't you? I hope she
agrees to the hospital care to help her get some of the stuff evened
out for herself.

You sound like the glue that is keeping everything together. What a
responsibility you have. I hope you're finding a little fun here and
there to cope with the pressure of it all.

Karen

Subject: Now see
From: 'Kate
Date: 10/24/2004 12:27 PM Eastern Standard Time
Message-id:

Prozac is known to have a nasty side effect. It can cause suicide.
Stopping the drug has side effects too. Ask the MHMRA or your
therapist for information.

Yeah........we have been aware of this, apparently there really are no "Safe"
anti-depressants for kids?

There is sense to her signing herself in. It is an admission that she
knows and is committed to getting well. Once she is admitted, the
professionals will work to help her understand what is going on.


I have spent the past few days addressing exactly this with her.......Tues. I
will have the backing of the therapist, in convincing her to do this for
herself.


You have options other than waiting for your daughter to sign herself
in or waiting for the appointment on the 23 Nov. Find out abou these
options from the MHMRA or your therapist. Do not hesitate to call 911
if you feel that she may be a danger to herself or a danger to others
or if her mental health deteriorates rapidly.

Thanks for the suggestions
Bev

'Kate

Subject: Now see
From: "V"
Date: 10/24/2004 1:27 PM Eastern Standard Time
Message-id:

What happens when I am not around! Everybody GO TO YOUR ROOMS!

Tiffany started it!
hee hee


Someone should take away her green M&M's


There will be no T.V. and there is early bedtime for all of you until this
flirting, and bickering comes to an end and you can play nice!


I wished someone would send me to bed early!



So how's the single-parenting going?


A bit hairy. I think I need a bit of a break. C is so hormonal or something,
and she is at some sort of stage from hell!
J is computer addicted. It is like some sort of battle to get him to even eat
or play on the weekends!
My classes are on Saturday now, but had to take it that way so I could be
ready for law school Fall 05.
We are still recovering from the hurricane that left this place a mess!
Ahhh..but we finally have electricity. 12 days without will make you crazy
acting and I yelled to the pole men, "God bless you people for helping" (They
come from all over with recovery efforts). These guys were from New Jersey.
They think southerners are "real nice", but we are extra nice when you are
going to help get our power on!

oh yeah I know about hormones! Kids with hormones can be dangerous Good luck
in school ! We lose power fro 15 minutes and I am panicked , I couldn't imagine
being without it for that long.


We have been struggling lately, ever since
my daughters B/F bailed out on her and the baby, my daughter has gone
haywire.
She just had a psyc eval done, cause it has to be reviewed every so often
for
SSI.
Now all of a sudden she is diagnosed, ADHD???? , Major depressive
disorder,Intermittent explosive disorder, and is being watched for Bulimia
nervosa.
I just am so exhausted with this? With all that said they just let us go
with
no meds for any of this ? She had been on 40 mg. of Prozac and was doing
o.k.
on that for the longest time, then after the breakup she started to not
take
her med and began drinking again, she took a bottle of advil to off herself
and
of course the cutting resurfaced,and with all of this going on she has been
unable to focus on her baby much, I have tried to get her admitted into a
mental health situation to get her back on track and all they say is she
can
sign herself out so there is no sence in signing her in ?, we are stumbling
through with the mobil therapist that comes to the house twice a week for
about
an hour and a half each time. The
earliest Psyciatrist appt. we can get is Nov. 23rd. I lost my job over the
stress and interference of our home situation and well luckily was given
unemployment.


O dear. I did not know he left! I am so sorry and know it is rough.

Yeah they broke up just before our vacation to Cape Cod in July. It has been
really hard for my daughter. My heart breaks for her and the baby.


I could use some comments and ideas about coping with all this. I
am not whining I just need some suggestions, I have exhausted all that I
have
to use right now and it seems to be a hurry up and wait again.


I wished I could offer some sort of advice. But mental health services in
your
county could really help out if she is uninsured.

She and the baby are covered by the state, we have help, currently we are
enrolled in a program called "Valley youth house" which is where our mobil
therapist is from.

Meanwhile the
baby is healthy and seems to be a happy baby....she is 10 months old now...
we
have so far had the support of the babies other grandparents, my daughters
mental health has never been kept a secret from them , or the B/F for that
matter, I did tell him about it when they first started going out, because
of
how different our lives were at that time, it appeared that my daughter was
doing well, but now I think what she did was stuff a bunch of issues and
depended on him to make her happy, once he bailed she went straight back to
the
craziness we were going through before she met him? Well I blabbed long
enough.
Thanks for reading. Bev

I am glad the baby is well. Bev, hang in there. I am thinking of you guys.
Vicky

Thanks Vicky !
Bev

Subject: Now see
From: "Tiffany"
Date: 10/24/2004 6:49 PM Eastern Standard Time
Message-id:

I may be way off here but I think MAYBE at this point, I would want to look
and see who I can help first and foremost and it might just be that baby.

No you are not way off Tiff......the baby is of course being well taken care of
between us and her paternal grandparents.

Your daughter needs help but she is old enough to not take it no matter how
hard you try. I imagine it kind of like dealing with a drug addict (since I
got a few of those in my life). You want to help them..... they need your
help...... but until they are ready, they won't get help. It comes to a
point where one has to state how they feel and step back so they can gather
their own energies to continue to be strong. You have now lost your job and
though it may seem fine because you are getting unemployment, that is temp.
and some will say the longer you don't have a job, the harder it is to find
another. In this economy, I would never stay unemployed.

My daughter is struggling with her issues yes, we are taking it day to day. I
have no intention of staying unemployed, I haven't even received a check yet
this is all rather fresh. If I must be honest here the final straw at work was
that I was written up for baking a dry cake LOL! yep Betty Crocker I guess I am
not ! I had been writen up about 4 other times in two weeks for being late
1,2,3, minutes, I was getting phone calls, I also had to call out within that
period of time because of late night trips to the police station to pick up my
daughter who was picked up for underage drinking and breaking curfew, another
time I was out searching for her cause she took one of our cars for a late
night ride to see the father of the baby.Needless to say I was at breakdown
point by the time the cake incident occured and I just began to cry and could
not stop, I quit my job. When I went to p/u my last paycheck ... the
administrator told me to apply for the benefits she would not prevent me from
getting them she understood about my daughter and where I needed to be right
now.

Your daughter can
sign herself out of a program? She is 18 then or is that how it works? She
probably shouldn't even be left alone with this baby and you should be
honest with the other grandparents and father (even if he is absent). Maybe
they would be willing to have the baby while your daughter gets ****
straight...... that would leave you the time to also be there.

Yep in this state they can sign out at the ripe old age of 14 !!!!! How about
that? My daughter is 17.........She has not been left alone with the baby since
the breakup. There is an adult at home 24/7 here. We have been honest to the
paternal grandparents who were made aware of my daughters issues from the start
of the kids relationship, the B/F knew as well. They take the baby from fri -
sun every other weekend and every mon. and wed. from 2:30 p.m. to 9:00 p.m.
They have also offered to take the baby more if need be .

Thanks for your thoughts
Bev
T

Subject: Now see
From: (Karen O'Mara)
Date: 10/24/2004 6:59 PM Eastern Standard Time
Message-id:

gosh, I can see why you're worried about her. It's really hard for
your daughter to find happiness in life when looking for it only in
The Relationship and coping with the stresses of life and with some
unsuccessful life's experiences and mental health challenges to boot.
I think she's better off without him, though, don't you?

I kinda feel she is better off in some ways in others I would of liked to see
them pull this off as a team . The baby would have benefitted from being given
that chance . There is a lot my daughter has to work through I know. I've seen
her really really good and I've seen her really really bad, I'm looking for
that happy medium for her, I am hoping together we will find that .


I hope she
agrees to the hospital care to help her get some of the stuff evened
out for herself.

Me too........

You sound like the glue that is keeping everything together. What a
responsibility you have. I hope you're finding a little fun here and
there to cope with the pressure of it all.

Just call me Elmer LOL! I just refuse to ever give up, no.... I really did
break down there for a minute......I was trying to do it all again and snapped
a little but when I finally stopped crying of disapointment in myself for
quitting my job that I fought so hard to get and have and survive after going
back to work a year after G passed. I started to make lists and slowly but
surely things are forming, This is the best choice right now for my family, I
need to regroup it and start again. Secretly when the paternal grandparents
take the baby we do have some fun ! :P
Thanks for your reply !
Bev
Karen

"'Kate" wrote in message
...
On 25 Oct 2004 00:55:23 GMT,
(Bebelestrnge0721) wrote:

Yeah........we have been aware of this, apparently there really are no
"Safe"
anti-depressants for kids?

if that's a question, no. But then, there are no "safe" fever
reducers for children either.



Actually there are..... there are various essential oils that work wonders
(ask my kid)..... there are Asian techniques that work wonders too.

Fever is actually the bodies way of fighting off a virus or bacteria that
invaded the body. Unless the temperature is extremely high, sometimes it is
best left alone. But that is MY opinion, shared by many, even some in the
western medical community. lol

T

Subject: Now see
From: 'Kate
Date: 10/24/2004 10:07 PM Eastern Standard Time
Message-id:

On 25 Oct 2004 00:55:23 GMT,
(Bebelestrnge0721) wrote:

Yeah........we have been aware of this, apparently there really are no
"Safe"
anti-depressants for kids?

if that's a question, no. But then, there are no "safe" fever
reducers for children either.



Yep, kinda a question of the knowledge I have on the subject. I know there are
no safe meds at all.... probably because they all have side effects that damage
the body.
People have had to make sacrifices for quality of life. Double edged sword eh?