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"teaching your baby to read"
"Shena Delian O'Brien" wrote in message news:jlYIb.187454$8y1.591655@attbi_s52... Sue wrote: Oh you would be surprised at what lengths people go to, to have a smarter, brighter child. It's all the rage now. Having an average child is not enough anymore. It's nothing about smarter or brighter. Children are already smart and bright. It's about giving them opportunities to communicate and understand the adult world sooner, because it is the frustration of every child to be hopelessly bored and misunderstood because of lack of communication skills. I'd rather have my child occupied with and riveted to their latest book than screaming in their playpen, bored to tears, because I have to do the dishes. But a child young enough to be stuck in a playpen isn't going to have the physical control to read a book, even if he *could* read the words. And "sight reading" is a wretched teaching method, if what I'm hearing you say is right - the flash cards, with words to recognise? I've seen kids like that, kids taught to recognise words by sight. When offered a word they'd never seen, they *could* not figure it out. If it wasn't a memorized word, they were doomed (except to memorize a new one) because they could they not sound it out, and it was inaccessible to them. I'd love it if my kids could read (they're 6, 4 and 4). One is close, one will do all right, and the other one can't sit still to listen to a book to save her own life. But, until they can read, *I* can read them fascinating books with good vocabulary, like the Little House books, and so on. It's got to be at least as good for them, none of this dumbed-down 'grade level' junk with simple words and no challenge. --angela |
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"teaching your baby to read"
On 01 Jan 2004 01:55:05 GMT, (H Schinske) wrote:
If you look on Google Groups for "doman baby" (in quotation marks) and "donna" you will find some reasons you might not want to give the Domans any money -- they're quacks who have done a lot of harm over the years. and Daye ) wrote: I did a search, but I couldn't find anything specific. Could you please share some URLs?? Are you looking on Google GROUPS, http://groups.google.com , not just google.com? --Helen |
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"teaching your baby to read"
Well now your going the opposite of what I mean. I'm not suggesting that you
ignore your child and never teach them anything. But what I am suggesting that children learn at their own rate and pace and for parents to respect that. Not forcing a child into learning something they are not ready for will depress their love of learning. -- Sue (mom to three girls) I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World... Shena Delian O'Brien wrote in message news:jlYIb.187454$8y1.591655@attbi_s52... Sue wrote: Oh you would be surprised at what lengths people go to, to have a smarter, brighter child. It's all the rage now. Having an average child is not enough anymore. It's nothing about smarter or brighter. Children are already smart and bright. It's about giving them opportunities to communicate and understand the adult world sooner, because it is the frustration of every child to be hopelessly bored and misunderstood because of lack of communication skills. I'd rather have my child occupied with and riveted to their latest book than screaming in their playpen, bored to tears, because I have to do the dishes. I also remember being very young (4-5) and throwing fits because people wouldn't read more than 1-2 books to me at a time and I wanted to devour them all. My family thinks the old story of me threatening to beat up my big sister if she didn't read me another book is hilarious, and tells how I huffed myself up to her reply of "No" with, "Then I'll just learn how to read myself!" Unfortunately that didn't happen until I got to school at age 6. I find it hopelessly tragic and am upset that they didn't attempt to teach me anything besides my own name and what a stop sign was. Just reading everyday to your child will be enough. Don't worry about trying to teach it to read. It's not enough for my child. Children have very bad eyesight (are nearsighted) until their eyes fully develop around age 2-3. They can't focus on the small text in most books and will only be able to see the pictures. While it will teach them that books are fun things, I believe in giving them more tools than this. If I sit down and transcribe books so the text is bigger, so they can actually focus on them, and THEN read the books with my child, THAT would be a much more rewarding experience because then they could focus on the words and know that they stood for something. |
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Sue wrote:
that children learn at their own rate and pace and for parents to respect that. Not forcing a child into learning something they are not ready for will depress their love of learning. I agree. Keep it fun for the child. If the child is having fun, they are learning, and learning will remain fun. It is the #1 rule with these early learning programs - go at a pace your child finds fun, stop before your child is bored, and don't continue if they get bored during. |
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Chotii wrote:
But a child young enough to be stuck in a playpen isn't going to have the physical control to read a book, even if he *could* read the words. And "sight reading" is a wretched teaching method, if what I'm hearing you say is right - the flash cards, with words to recognise? I've seen kids like that, kids taught to recognise words by sight. When offered a word they'd never seen, they *could* not figure it out. If it wasn't a memorized word, they were doomed (except to memorize a new one) because they could they not sound it out, and it was inaccessible to them. I disagree about sight reading. It can give a child an enormous amount of power to read -- especially the Dr Seuss books -- with just a few memorized words. Phonics has its time and place as well. The two complement each other perfectly. Sight reading gives you works like 'some', which Julian still forgets a lot and it is hard to sound out for a beginning reader. Now that he is learning some phonics (mostly the idea of the first letter sound in words, not complicated rules yet) he can figure out lots of words when reading with me to help him. The idea of phonics is to sound out and understand a word so you can memorize it and not sound it out again!! I wish he would get over 'some' plus a few other hard to sound out words, and just memorize them so we don't have to take so much time on each when we get to them. An equal extreme like your example is the all phonics kids who sound every single word out and by the time they get to the end of the sentence, have no idea of the meaning of the sentence they started some time ago. Carolyn -- Carolyn Fairman (to email me, terra is earth...) Mom to Julian, born Sept. 28, 1998 ds #2 due mid Feb 2004! |
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Carolyn ) wrote:
The idea of phonics is to sound out and understand a word so you can memorize it and not sound it out again!! I wish he would get over 'some' plus a few other hard to sound out words, and just memorize them so we don't have to take so much time on each when we get to them. Oh, I remember that phase. Peter was actually sounding out words like "it" for what seemed like just ages. I don't think it was really very long at all though (possibly a month or two), and a year later his sight words now include things like "synergy." I am not kidding. This is what buying up the natural cereals aisle at Trader Joe's will do for you. There is a cereal called Eight Grain Synergy. My husband and I were inventing variations on it this morning, Eight Grain Coalition, Eight Grain Committee, etc. --Helen |
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"Carolyn Fairman" wrote in message ... Chotii wrote: But a child young enough to be stuck in a playpen isn't going to have the physical control to read a book, even if he *could* read the words. And "sight reading" is a wretched teaching method, if what I'm hearing you say is right - the flash cards, with words to recognise? I've seen kids like that, kids taught to recognise words by sight. When offered a word they'd never seen, they *could* not figure it out. If it wasn't a memorized word, they were doomed (except to memorize a new one) because they could they not sound it out, and it was inaccessible to them. I disagree about sight reading. It can give a child an enormous amount of power to read -- especially the Dr Seuss books -- with just a few memorized words. Phonics has its time and place as well. The two complement each other perfectly. Sight reading gives you works like 'some', which Julian still forgets a lot and it is hard to sound out for a beginning reader. Ahhhh, yes, I see what you mean. And I can see where either extreme is bad. Even most phonics systems I've seen, however, include words that simply must be memorised to move ahead, like 'to', 'do', 'the' and so on. They're not pronounced anything like they're written, and you run across them all the time. --angela |
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"teaching your baby to read"
Shena Delian O'Brien wrote in message
.. I'd rather have my child occupied with and riveted to their latest book than screaming in their playpen, bored to tears, because I have to do the dishes. I'm going to have to respond further to this because raising super kids is one of my pet peeves. Ah, but they are still learning while they are in the playpen. Do you not plan to do anything around the house, except give input to your child? Constant entertainment and stimulation from you is not in the best interest of your child. Your child will need to learn to amuse himself on his own. How else is h/she going to figure out what interests h/her if he doesn't get a chance to be a child and explore things on his own. Don't forget the value of having a child be able to entertain himself. There is also self exploration that is important for a child. Also, the child is learning gratification delay when you need to do something and the child needs to wait for a bit (I'm not talking newborns and little babies). And never underestimate the power of a child watching a ceiling fan go around. These are all things that babies learn. Babies are learning when they put a toy in their mouth. My point is, you don't have to constantly give your child input for them to be a smart individual. Perhaps your little one won't be able to stand sitting there long enough for you to flash flashcards in front of them. And with reading so early, most kids don't have the ability to understand what they are reading. And if they can read farther ahead of their age group, there are a lot of books that just because a child *can* read them, they are not appropriate for them to be reading. So I guess I don't see the advantage of a child reading really early. I also don't see the advantage of raising a super child. Perhaps I am going off further than you were thinking. I just happen to see the result of such parents trying to raise super kids. With one girl in particular (my oldest daughter's age, 11) it is really sad to talk to her. She never gets to just play and be a kid. Her mom makes her study so much so that she could get into the talented and gifted program. She makes her take piano and ballet. The child cannot even make it at a slumber party because she doesn't have the social interaction that it takes to be with other kids. It's really sad. I would encourage a child to be the best they can, but I will never push them to the point that they miss out on being a kid. And to me, that is more important than being able to recite Einstein's theory. -- Sue (mom to three girls) I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World... |
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"teaching your baby to read"
How else is h/she going to figure out what interests h/her if he doesn't get
a chance to be a child and explore things on his own. I could not agree more. EXACTLY. I will never push them to the point that they miss out on being a kid. And to me, that is more important than being able to recite Einstein's theory. Also, when you place such gigantic importance on academic achievement and your child comes in contact with people "smarter" than he/she is, they may feel like a failure. It is inevitable. OR, even worse.....in my own family, for instance, one of my cousins is 6. He was unable to get into the private school his mom teaches at. She was devastated, even though they live in a great public school district. He MUST feel her disappointment! YUCK! |
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doesn't have to be by Doman methods particularly. You can do immense harm trying to force a child into something s/he is not ready for, but that is another matter and I am sure you would not do that. I seriously doubt that showing a kid flashcards is going to irreparably harm them. If they aren't interested they won't pay attention. There's no forcing involved. Did you think I would strap them down and hold their eyes open or something? Omigod... I would *so* not do any method with a baby that involved flashcards. Babyhood is for being a baby! If you're looking for ways of helping your child maximize his or her potential, try having good nutrition during pregnancy, breastfeeding, reading to your child, holding your baby lots, and responding when your baby cries. Why not teach babies to do things "very young" so they can be geniuses? Because it is a waste of their developmental time! For example, you could probably teach a 2 year old to tell time. It might take many hours, weeks, months of your child's time, but you could teach the kid to do it. OTOH, if you wait until that same kid is, say, 5 or 6 (or even 4), the same lesson may only take an hour or two. So you can spend hours showing your baby flashcards to teach them what they would pick up, quite naturally and without your even noticing, maybe, a few years later if you spent the same "baby" time reading them stories or making silly noises with them. Babies have *so* many things to learn about their environments. They learn it best by moving along with an adult through the adult's day, IMO, occasionally getting down to play in the dirt, but mostly just being carried along as an adult does what adults do all day. They have to learn about being safe, being loved, being human. They have to learn that stoves are hot and water is wet and ice is cold and nothing in the world tastes better than Mama's milk when you're tired and hungry. They are in the process of learning how to speak, not just words, but cadences of language that go much farther than any flashcard can. Have you ever heard a baby babble an entire "sentence"? The best way to teach babies language is to talk to them and the best way to teach reading is to read to them. Flashcards for babies, are, IMO, a complete waste of time in every sense of the word. Whether they work or not is irrelevant. That's not the point. The point is that you don't need to waste your baby's precious short "babyhood" time teaching them things they'll just "get" or learn quickly a few years down the road. It matters not one whit whether you child is a bookworm at age 3 or age 5. It matters that by the time your child is an adult, he or she can read, and enjoy reading. Jenrose |
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