starting pacifier for one year old

My daughter is almost 13 months old and still is waking every hour
most nights wanting to nurse. She has some nights a good stretch of up
to 5 hours of sleep and then wakes every hour or so afterwards. She
never did take a pacifier but I don't see an end to this, and I so
need it to change! I bought one of the Avent pacifiers and another
brand that is supposedly "just like mother's", I tried them both last
night and she just whimpered so I gave her the boob back. Has anyone
tried giving a pacifier at so late an age and had any luck?
I am not worried about nipple confusion at this point lol...I know it
seems ridiculous to start yet another habit that could be avoided but
I need to sleep. I have done without for over a year now (not even
counting those sleepless nights of pregnancy) and the state of mind it
puts me in has had negative effects on my life and relationship with
dh and the older kids. It is depressing to know that it's possible for
this to go on another year or so...from what I've read about high
needs babies that is common. I am willing to try almost anything. (not
CIO)
Marie

Do you co-sleep? Perhaps that will work... at that age, if she wants a
feed, she could probably do it without you waking up very much at all... if
she just wants the comfort, perhaps having you right there will be enough?

Jo

Marie wrote:
My daughter is almost 13 months old and still is waking every hour
most nights wanting to nurse. She has some nights a good stretch of up
to 5 hours of sleep and then wakes every hour or so afterwards. She
never did take a pacifier but I don't see an end to this, and I so
need it to change! I bought one of the Avent pacifiers and another
brand that is supposedly "just like mother's", I tried them both last
night and she just whimpered so I gave her the boob back. Has anyone
tried giving a pacifier at so late an age and had any luck?
I am not worried about nipple confusion at this point lol...I know it
seems ridiculous to start yet another habit that could be avoided but
I need to sleep. I have done without for over a year now (not even
counting those sleepless nights of pregnancy) and the state of mind it
puts me in has had negative effects on my life and relationship with
dh and the older kids. It is depressing to know that it's possible for
this to go on another year or so...from what I've read about high
needs babies that is common. I am willing to try almost anything. (not
CIO)
Marie

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Babies are Born... Pizzas are delivered.

Marie wrote:

Has anyone
tried giving a pacifier at so late an age and had any luck?

I tried, and for the same reasons. I didn't work for us either. He refused
it. He was around 16 months old at that time.

I know it
seems ridiculous to start yet another habit that could be avoided but
I need to sleep.

Well I did eventually night wean mine rather suddenly and while there was
crying I was right there with him and it was only for a couple nights.
Suprisingly easier then I thought. But there was a rather drastic down
side. He wanted to nurse every 20 minutes all day long! So, it wasn't very
successful for us. I night weaned my other child more gradually by
shortening each feed by a few minutes every 3-4 nights and when they were
only a couple minutes long I started eliminating them one by one. He
continued to wake up and ask to nurse for quite some time but would
generally go back to sleep with little distress. This wasn't perfect but we
co-slept so it was bearable. He was older (18mos) but still wasn't ready so
it wasn't as easy as some kids. He didn't completely quit with the asking
to nurse at night until he was completely weaned at 26 months but it did get
better. My kids and I seem to be on different planets when it comes to
nursing schedules so that has caused some significant stress and I can
empathize. Wish I could be of more help.

--
Nikki
Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2)

On Tue, 11 Nov 2003 08:31:46 +0800, "JoFromOz"
wrote:
Do you co-sleep? Perhaps that will work... at that age, if she wants a
feed, she could probably do it without you waking up very much at all... if
she just wants the comfort, perhaps having you right there will be enough?

Jo

We do co-sleep, and that is a large part of the problem. She still is
waking and also wakes me up. I have not been able to sleep through her
nursing (I slept through my older daughter's nursing but I am not able
to with Bethany, it has always felt uncomfortable with her). I think
she just has a very strong need to suck...if I could sleep through her
sucking all night I wouldn't complain.
Marie

Allison didn't start sucking on a pacifer until she was three years old when
I brought Jenny home. Jenny started sucking on a pacifer when she was 18
months old when I brought Kara home. Kara has never sucked anything until
now at age 6, she is sucking and biting her fingers. So there ya go. It's
possible and at that age, I was able to have the only at bedtime use of the
pacifer. Both Jenny and Allison stopped sucking on the pacifer about two
years later. Kara is stressed out so she is chewing on her fingers,
hopefully that will pass.
--
Sue (mom to three girls)
I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World...

Marie wrote in message
...
My daughter is almost 13 months old and still is waking every hour
most nights wanting to nurse. She has some nights a good stretch of up
to 5 hours of sleep and then wakes every hour or so afterwards. She
never did take a pacifier but I don't see an end to this, and I so
need it to change! I bought one of the Avent pacifiers and another
brand that is supposedly "just like mother's", I tried them both last
night and she just whimpered so I gave her the boob back. Has anyone
tried giving a pacifier at so late an age and had any luck?
I am not worried about nipple confusion at this point lol...I know it
seems ridiculous to start yet another habit that could be avoided but
I need to sleep. I have done without for over a year now (not even
counting those sleepless nights of pregnancy) and the state of mind it
puts me in has had negative effects on my life and relationship with
dh and the older kids. It is depressing to know that it's possible for
this to go on another year or so...from what I've read about high
needs babies that is common. I am willing to try almost anything. (not
CIO)
Marie

Marie wrote:

We do co-sleep, and that is a large part of the problem. She still is
waking and also wakes me up.

So, have you tried setting up a bed for her elsewhere, nursing her to
sleep there, and then going to your bed? That would not have worked
with Noah, but I was able to do that with Rebekah some time around 16
months or so, maybe even earlier, and there were nights when I could
have had 4 or 5 hours of solid sleep with her in her bed, before she
woke up and needed me.


Just a thought,


Emily

On Tue, 11 Nov 2003 20:34:34 GMT, Emily Roysdon
wrote:
So, have you tried setting up a bed for her elsewhere, nursing her to
sleep there, and then going to your bed? That would not have worked
with Noah, but I was able to do that with Rebekah some time around 16
months or so, maybe even earlier, and there were nights when I could
have had 4 or 5 hours of solid sleep with her in her bed, before she
woke up and needed me.

Yes, she starts the night alone and once she wakes up I bring her to
our bed. I have tried several times laying with her and nursing her to
sleep during the night, but the frequent waking is a huge problem. By
the time I am almost asleep she wakes up. I need something to get her
to either sleep longer or carry her through the times she does wake
up, whether she is in our bed or hers(actually she sleeps on a pallet
on the floor if not with us) I was hoping if she took a pacifier it
would satisfy her sucking need. No luck yet though.
Marie

Marie wrote:
On Tue, 11 Nov 2003 20:34:34 GMT, Emily Roysdon
wrote:

So, have you tried setting up a bed for her elsewhere, nursing her to
sleep there, and then going to your bed? That would not have worked
with Noah, but I was able to do that with Rebekah some time around 16
months or so, maybe even earlier, and there were nights when I could
have had 4 or 5 hours of solid sleep with her in her bed, before she
woke up and needed me.


Yes, she starts the night alone and once she wakes up I bring her to
our bed.

Ah, ok. You probably said that in your original post, but I didn't get
it, sorry. How old is she, exactly? If she's closer to age two than
just barely one, I'd be looking at ways to get a protein snack into her
just before bed. My kids sleep sooo much better when they have a slice
of cheese or some yogurt--something with protein in it--just before bed.
When I forget, we have much more wakeful nights.

I have tried several times laying with her and nursing her to
sleep during the night, but the frequent waking is a huge problem. By
the time I am almost asleep she wakes up. I need something to get her
to either sleep longer or carry her through the times she does wake
up, whether she is in our bed or hers(actually she sleeps on a pallet
on the floor if not with us) I was hoping if she took a pacifier it
would satisfy her sucking need. No luck yet though.

She may actually need that milk; I know my two kids did at that young
age. If I had a third child who was eating solids and could handle
dairy between age one and two, I'd probably put the protein theory to
work. Also, could she be waking up because it's cold, or some noise
startles her? My kids had to be dressed warmly at night, and sometimes
I had music playing to cover any household noises that might disturb
them, but time was the best fix of all. As it was, I hung in there, and
can look back at it as a brief time. I know that's of little help now,
but I've been there, and so have others, and we came out okay :-)


HTH,

Emily

Hi, Marie. I actually did do this with my one year old DD knowing that I
would be introducing something I would have to break her out of soon.

If you are doing it to get more sleep keep in mind, that if she does get
attached to it, you will be woken up to find the pacifier under the covers
in the middle of the night

My DD finally started to sleep without waking when we bit the bullet and
never replaced the "lost" binky. It was tears for a couple of nights but
than solid sleep from then on.

HTH.
Amy

"Marie" wrote in message
...
My daughter is almost 13 months old and still is waking every hour
most nights wanting to nurse. She has some nights a good stretch of up
to 5 hours of sleep and then wakes every hour or so afterwards. She
never did take a pacifier but I don't see an end to this, and I so
need it to change! I bought one of the Avent pacifiers and another
brand that is supposedly "just like mother's", I tried them both last
night and she just whimpered so I gave her the boob back. Has anyone
tried giving a pacifier at so late an age and had any luck?
I am not worried about nipple confusion at this point lol...I know it
seems ridiculous to start yet another habit that could be avoided but
I need to sleep. I have done without for over a year now (not even
counting those sleepless nights of pregnancy) and the state of mind it
puts me in has had negative effects on my life and relationship with
dh and the older kids. It is depressing to know that it's possible for
this to go on another year or so...from what I've read about high
needs babies that is common. I am willing to try almost anything. (not
CIO)
Marie