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Benefits of daycare for 20-month old?
We have a 20-month old, who has been at home until now. I think she
might benefit from going to daycare for 3 days a week, but at the same time, I have mixed feelings about it. My child is very shy and cried for 2 weeks when we changed sitters a month ago. I am worried about upsetting the balance now. Something else: a financial issue is that the centers here don't have part-time programs for children under 3, so we'll need to pay the full-time price for daycare + the nanny for the rest of the week. Are there really any benefits to the child if she goes to daycare before the age of 3? She sees other kids on the playground almost every day, and she goes to a music class once a week. Gia |
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Benefits of daycare for 20-month old?
On 12 Jun 2006 11:58:11 -0700, "Gia" wrote:
We have a 20-month old, who has been at home until now. I think she might benefit from going to daycare for 3 days a week, but at the same time, I have mixed feelings about it. My child is very shy and cried for 2 weeks when we changed sitters a month ago. I am worried about upsetting the balance now. Something else: a financial issue is that the centers here don't have part-time programs for children under 3, so we'll need to pay the full-time price for daycare + the nanny for the rest of the week. Are there really any benefits to the child if she goes to daycare before the age of 3? She sees other kids on the playground almost every day, and she goes to a music class once a week. It's not unusual for a child under 2 to be shy. If I were in your position, I wouldn't send her to daycare, mainly due to the expense. Sure, social exposure to other children is a benefit, but it sounds like she's getting that at the park and at music class. You could always see if your nanny can get her involved in a playgroup if you're wanting more one on one play time with children. IME, daycares have a great purpose if you need them. When we needed to send our 2 yo to a daycare temporarily while I recovered from surgery, she brought home every bug going around, and then some. It's just not worth it, if you don't need to take her, imo. Nan |
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Benefits of daycare for 20-month old?
Gia wrote: We have a 20-month old, who has been at home until now. I think she might benefit from going to daycare for 3 days a week, but at the same time, I have mixed feelings about it. My child is very shy and cried for 2 weeks when we changed sitters a month ago. I am worried about upsetting the balance now. Something else: a financial issue is that the centers here don't have part-time programs for children under 3, so we'll need to pay the full-time price for daycare + the nanny for the rest of the week. Are there really any benefits to the child if she goes to daycare before the age of 3? She sees other kids on the playground almost every day, and she goes to a music class once a week. Gia My advice, don't. I moved my 1st to a day care in similar circumstances and I didn't see any big benefit from it. The move was a struggle. She wouldn't eat at the day care for a long time and it was hard on everybody. Money wasn't a factor because it was costing me the same. She took 2 months to adjust and we continued her at the daycare because it wasn't a bad place or anything. Just that I didn't see any big benefit. We all went through agony because of this shift which was unnecessary. My 2nd is now at the same age my 1st was when me moved her. We are NOT moving my 2nd to a day care anytime soon. She's happy and healthy where she is. We will re-visit this issue when she turns 3. One other thing that irks me about daycare centers is their rules and stuff. I can go on and on about this topic. My home care provider is much more flexible and one-on-one than the daycare. She also costs much more than the other daycare providers around the area but I'm not changing her. My 2nd loves her. Hope that helps. |
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Gia wrote:
We have a 20-month old, who has been at home until now. I think she might benefit from going to daycare for 3 days a week, but at the same time, I have mixed feelings about it. My child is very shy and cried for 2 weeks when we changed sitters a month ago. I am worried about upsetting the balance now. Something else: a financial issue is that the centers here don't have part-time programs for children under 3, so we'll need to pay the full-time price for daycare + the nanny for the rest of the week. Are there really any benefits to the child if she goes to daycare before the age of 3? She sees other kids on the playground almost every day, and she goes to a music class once a week. No way in heck I'd pay for full time daycare if I didn't need it! It sounds like your daughter has plenty of interaction with other kids, and it's not that long before she can do a part time program. What has made you think that daycare would be so beneficial at this stage that it would be worth not only paying for the time you'd use, but also extra time you wouldn't be using (and on top of a nanny!)? Best wishes, Ericka |
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"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ... Gia wrote: We have a 20-month old, who has been at home until now. I think she might benefit from going to daycare for 3 days a week, but at the same time, I have mixed feelings about it. My child is very shy and cried for 2 weeks when we changed sitters a month ago. I am worried about upsetting the balance now. Something else: a financial issue is that the centers here don't have part-time programs for children under 3, so we'll need to pay the full-time price for daycare + the nanny for the rest of the week. Are there really any benefits to the child if she goes to daycare before the age of 3? She sees other kids on the playground almost every day, and she goes to a music class once a week. No way in heck I'd pay for full time daycare if I didn't need it! It sounds like your daughter has plenty of interaction with other kids, and it's not that long before she can do a part time program. What has made you think that daycare would be so beneficial at this stage that it would be worth not only paying for the time you'd use, but also extra time you wouldn't be using (and on top of a nanny!)? Are there parent's day (or mother's day) out programs where you are? These are one or two day a week childcare/preschool programs for infants or toddlers which have some of the benefits of daycare as far as being a group setting, but you only pay for the days you need, usually only one or two part-days a week. They tend to be affiliated with private schools which have preschool divisions, and I suspect it's largely a recruiting tool and a service to keep parents happy as opposed to a big revenue producer. My daughter's is pretty exploratory-at the young toddler level, they usually have about 6 children to two adults, and there will be part of the time of day in the room playing with toys and doing simple crafts/coloring/etc, listening to music and dancing around, and listening to stories for those who will stay still that long. They also have a toddler-specific outdoor play area and a gymboree-type indoor play room for gross motor, take walks around the campus, etc. Since Alli has a motor skills delay, this provides her another avenue for gross motor exploration, and it's worked well for us for the most part. She does seem to recognize the children from week to week. As someone who teaches toddler music classes, unless yours is structured very differently than the ones I teach, I wouldn't count on them for providing a lot of child-child interaction. They're designed to improve parent-child or caregiver-child interaction, so while children can observe others and see that there's other little people in this world, they aren't getting time to really play with other children that they'd get at the park, a playgroup, or a free play time at a baby gym. Just as school isn't the best place for school aged children to learn socialization, any sort of formal "class" is unlikely to be the ideal setting for socialization for younger children. |
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Benefits of daycare for 20-month old?
Hi -- It doesn't sound as though daycare is the right fit just now. But perhaps next year, when she's closer to 3 years old, an old-fashioned nursery school (a few hours a day, several days a week) might be a good choice. Are there any nursery schools in your area? Our kids started nursery school (2 mornings/week) at 24 months and both LOVED it. But then, my kids saw the school and pushed me out the classroom door saying "bye bye. you go now, mama." Other kids in the class had more trouble separating from their parents, and one family pulled out for a semester, then had a more successful introduction to school when their son was close to 34 months. Kids love to watch other kids, but don't really start to play interactively until somewhere around age 3 1/2 years. At that point, I think a nursery school program can be quite valuable. Before then, the advantage of nursery school is that your child can be exposed to routines, projects and materials that either you don't think to use at home, or are impractical in a home setting. Just my two cents, --Beth Kevles http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. NOTE: No email is read at my MIT address. Use the AOL one if you would like me to reply. |
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Benefits of daycare for 20-month old?
Gia wrote:
We have a 20-month old, who has been at home until now. I think she might benefit from going to daycare for 3 days a week, but at the same time, I have mixed feelings about it. My child is very shy and cried for 2 weeks when we changed sitters a month ago. I am worried about upsetting the balance now. Something else: a financial issue is that the centers here don't have part-time programs for children under 3, so we'll need to pay the full-time price for daycare + the nanny for the rest of the week. Are there really any benefits to the child if she goes to daycare before the age of 3? She sees other kids on the playground almost every day, and she goes to a music class once a week. Gia I can't see any benefit if she already sees other kids on the playground and she goes to music class but YMMV. Does your daughter know/like any of the other children at the playground? Maybe the nanny or you can start to set up scheduled playdates with one of the other children. Jeanne |
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Benefits of daycare for 20-month old?
"Beth Kevles" wrote in message ... Kids love to watch other kids, but don't really start to play interactively until somewhere around age 3 1/2 years. At that point, I think a nursery school program can be quite valuable. Before then, the advantage of nursery school is that your child can be exposed to routines, projects and materials that either you don't think to use at home, or are impractical in a home setting. Are you sure it's 3 1/2? DS was interacting earlier than that and DD is 2, not yet 2 1/2, and she interacts like there's no tomorrow. |
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Benefits of daycare for 20-month old?
I appreciate all the replies! Yes, viruses are something I worry about.
On the other hand, our child is very active, and I am worried that she is bored at home. There are huge waiting lists for the daycare centers where we live (1-2 years!), so it would be difficult to just decide to enroll her in one when we are ready. We either enroll her now, or wait at least another year. I have a couple of weeks to think before I make up my mind. Gia Jeanne wrote: Gia wrote: We have a 20-month old, who has been at home until now. I think she might benefit from going to daycare for 3 days a week, but at the same time, I have mixed feelings about it. My child is very shy and cried for 2 weeks when we changed sitters a month ago. I am worried about upsetting the balance now. Something else: a financial issue is that the centers here don't have part-time programs for children under 3, so we'll need to pay the full-time price for daycare + the nanny for the rest of the week. Are there really any benefits to the child if she goes to daycare before the age of 3? She sees other kids on the playground almost every day, and she goes to a music class once a week. Gia I can't see any benefit if she already sees other kids on the playground and she goes to music class but YMMV. Does your daughter know/like any of the other children at the playground? Maybe the nanny or you can start to set up scheduled playdates with one of the other children. Jeanne |
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Benefits of daycare for 20-month old?
In article , toypup says...
"Beth Kevles" wrote in message ... Kids love to watch other kids, but don't really start to play interactively until somewhere around age 3 1/2 years. At that point, I think a nursery school program can be quite valuable. Before then, the advantage of nursery school is that your child can be exposed to routines, projects and materials that either you don't think to use at home, or are impractical in a home setting. Are you sure it's 3 1/2? DS was interacting earlier than that and DD is 2, not yet 2 1/2, and she interacts like there's no tomorrow. I remember clearly when my son went to a new day care when he was 18 months old. He and this little girl took a shine to each other and spent all day together, although they had to be separated at lunch else nothing got eaten. We dubbed them "Pebbles and Bam Bam". I've seen older ages given as being "interactive" depending on criteria like play no longer being parallel. But I wonder about the age given because 3 1/2 gets pretty stubborn and nothing much is in parallel *or* in series IME around five is when they get out into the world outside the home and other venues associated with the parent. So I'm with you - these ages depend on the definition of "interactive" and don't take into account when a child actually enjoys and gets something out of other kids, and IME that starts pretty soon in infancy. My son as a tiny infant paid special attention to childrens' faces, and in his first day care I'd drop him off in the morning, put him on the floor, and he'd crawl right over to where the action is. Banty -- |
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