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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
In article , enigma says...
Banty wrote in : All went very well, but one of the requirements was a visit from social workers. That went OK, but one item that concerned me is that they tested my son, showing him pictures. It looked like he was getting some testing for how he pronounces words. One picture was of a handgun. He didn't know what that was. At the end of the visit, one of the social workers commented that it was good that he didn't know what a gun was - are there guns in my house? I said "no". But I wondered - is their scope way beyond educational needs, and what if we were a hunting family? oh, yeah! they certainly are/were scoping out for other things. i got an earful about both the guns (it's a freaking air gun!) *and* the bows & arrows. neither was within child reach, but OMG! they were *in the house!!!* they're also checking out your housekeeping. you get huge ticks off for clutter, dishes in the sink & probably the dust bunnies under the furniture. big dogs are a "bad thing" too, especially "dangerous" breeds like Malamutes. i'm shocked my kid has made it to 7, really. i bet they'd be having absolute hissies if they knew i bought Boo his very own soft pellet gun (with glow in the dark pellets) so he can target practice in the basement... You have Malamutes? Cool. Yes, although I'm pretty plain-vanilla as far as those issues, aside from being a single mother, I didn't like the feeling of being scrutinized in view of whatever the concern-du-jour would be. Banty |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
cjra wrote in
oups.com: Anyway - why was therapy so bad for him, other than the fallout of the preschool situation? oh no, the early intervention therapies were *wonderful*. the problems were when they tried to transfer him to the school district. the comment about speech therapy being the stupidest thing i've ever done, parenting-wise, is because he never shuts up now he's constantly yammering (lots of echolalia, which i'm getting better at tuning out) & even talks in his sleep (his teachers say he doesn't do that at school though). oh, one other thing... i think you mentioned your daughter cosleeps? don't tell them that! that was one of the things that got me labelled as overly attached. i didn't transfer him to his own bed until he was 3.5. lee |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
Banty wrote in
: You have Malamutes? Cool. only one, & he's not the one we had when Boo was getting services. we had Delby at that point. he was a rush rescue through AMRONE (he was put in a kill shelter on Friday evening & was due for euthanization Monday morning. AMRONE picked him up Saturday & i got him Saturday afternoon). he was 9 when we got him (pre-Boo) & was a *great* dog, and a huge Mal. 125 pounds, no fat. when he died of cancer at 12 i contacted AMRONE for another rescue, but they won't place dogs in homes with kids under 9 now. i understand, because rescue dogs can be quirky. the current Mal is Chief, who just turned 3 & is a bit, um, puppy exuberant still. our older Great Pyr/Border Collie doesn't like his exuberance. i've told Tom we need 2 more Mals for Chief to play with (& make a teamg) Yes, although I'm pretty plain-vanilla as far as those issues, aside from being a single mother, I didn't like the feeling of being scrutinized in view of whatever the concern-du-jour would be. some things just *aren't* their business. if the kid is clean, clothed, fed & happy, leave the parents alone. lee |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
In article , enigma says...
Banty wrote in : You have Malamutes? Cool. only one, & he's not the one we had when Boo was getting services. we had Delby at that point. he was a rush rescue through AMRONE (he was put in a kill shelter on Friday evening & was due for euthanization Monday morning. AMRONE picked him up Saturday & i got him Saturday afternoon). he was 9 when we got him (pre-Boo) & was a *great* dog, and a huge Mal. 125 pounds, no fat. when he died of cancer at 12 i contacted AMRONE for another rescue, but they won't place dogs in homes with kids under 9 now. i understand, because rescue dogs can be quirky. the current Mal is Chief, who just turned 3 & is a bit, um, puppy exuberant still. our older Great Pyr/Border Collie doesn't like his exuberance. i've told Tom we need 2 more Mals for Chief to play with (& make a teamg) Hee. We just got a lab-hound mix resuced from Little Rock in July. He's real sweet. My son wanted a Husky, but we're not home enough, and no fenced yard. Yes, although I'm pretty plain-vanilla as far as those issues, aside from being a single mother, I didn't like the feeling of being scrutinized in view of whatever the concern-du-jour would be. some things just *aren't* their business. if the kid is clean, clothed, fed & happy, leave the parents alone. lee Right. What's with the co-sleeping/spanking/gun bit. Banty |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Fri, 7 Dec 2007 15:35:33 +0000 (UTC), enigma
wrote: cjra wrote in oups.com: Anyway - why was therapy so bad for him, other than the fallout of the preschool situation? oh no, the early intervention therapies were *wonderful*. the problems were when they tried to transfer him to the school district. the comment about speech therapy being the stupidest thing i've ever done, parenting-wise, is because he never shuts up now he's constantly yammering (lots of echolalia, which i'm getting better at tuning out) & even talks in his sleep (his teachers say he doesn't do that at school though). oh, one other thing... i think you mentioned your daughter cosleeps? don't tell them that! that was one of the things that got me labelled as overly attached. i didn't transfer him to his own bed until he was 3.5. lee See, I didn't have any negative feedback for co-sleeping. My evaluator actually said she thought it was "wonderful". Nan |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Fri, 7 Dec 2007 06:45:29 -0800 (PST), cjra
wrote: This makes me feel better, since we're having our evaluation next week! Please forgive me if I'm not remembering correctly... are you in Indiana? Nan |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
Nan wrote in
: On Fri, 7 Dec 2007 15:35:33 +0000 (UTC), enigma wrote: cjra wrote in gr oups.com: Anyway - why was therapy so bad for him, other than the fallout of the preschool situation? oh no, the early intervention therapies were *wonderful*. the problems were when they tried to transfer him to the school district. the comment about speech therapy being the stupidest thing i've ever done, parenting-wise, is because he never shuts up now he's constantly yammering (lots of echolalia, which i'm getting better at tuning out) & even talks in his sleep (his teachers say he doesn't do that at school though). oh, one other thing... i think you mentioned your daughter cosleeps? don't tell them that! that was one of the things that got me labelled as overly attached. i didn't transfer him to his own bed until he was 3.5. lee See, I didn't have any negative feedback for co-sleeping. My evaluator actually said she thought it was "wonderful". maybe because you have girls & i have a boy? i'm sorry, but if they think a mother cosleeping with a baby/toddler boy is wrong then *they* have serious mental health issues they need to address! oh, apparently not forcing him to submit to haircuts was a no-no too. lee |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
Chookie wrote:
In article , Ericka Kammerer wrote: Chookie wrote: The only thing I disagree with Ericka about is dropping in unannounced; I think that's rude, and it can be very inconvenient for the carers. Dropping in unannounced is widely recommended in the US, and pretty much all daycare centers expect it. If you don't drop in once in a while, how do you know that what goes on at pickup/dropoff times is representative of what goes on all day? I was under the impression we were talking about *finding* a day care, not checking up on an enrolled child. I think the thread veered a bit to discussing ways to evaluate a daycare, which includes an ongoing component ;-) DOes your question imply your places have set dropoff/pickup times? We don't. Some places do, and some don't. If parents are coming and going all day long, you may feel less compelled to drop by at different times than if you had a situation where all the parents dropped off early in the morning and didn't pick up until late afternoon. With a smaller center or a home daycare, it's not uncommon that parents would be unlikely to be coming and going all day. I think it's reasonable for visitors evaluating the facility to have scheduled times for a visit, but if you have a child in the facility then you should never be forbidden to enter. It never crossed my mind that someone would try to forbid me seeing/collecting my own child! And if it happened, my kid would be out of there so fast the director would be spinning for a week. Some will try to discourage parents from arriving unannounced or at unexpected times. That's typically a bad sign, and the point of the suggestion that one should test out their willingness to have parents drop in unannounced. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Fri, 7 Dec 2007 16:28:46 +0000 (UTC), enigma
wrote: Nan wrote in : On Fri, 7 Dec 2007 15:35:33 +0000 (UTC), enigma wrote: cjra wrote in gr oups.com: Anyway - why was therapy so bad for him, other than the fallout of the preschool situation? oh no, the early intervention therapies were *wonderful*. the problems were when they tried to transfer him to the school district. the comment about speech therapy being the stupidest thing i've ever done, parenting-wise, is because he never shuts up now he's constantly yammering (lots of echolalia, which i'm getting better at tuning out) & even talks in his sleep (his teachers say he doesn't do that at school though). oh, one other thing... i think you mentioned your daughter cosleeps? don't tell them that! that was one of the things that got me labelled as overly attached. i didn't transfer him to his own bed until he was 3.5. lee See, I didn't have any negative feedback for co-sleeping. My evaluator actually said she thought it was "wonderful". maybe because you have girls & i have a boy? i'm sorry, but if they think a mother cosleeping with a baby/toddler boy is wrong then *they* have serious mental health issues they need to address! oh, apparently not forcing him to submit to haircuts was a no-no too. lee I'm wondering if you just had a bad caseworker or it's the agency you dealt with, rather than a child gender issue. My ds didn't co-sleep past the toddler stage but he had episodes of sleep walking at times and would come to my room in the middle of the night. Some nights he'd crawl in bed with me, other times I'd find him sleeping in a 'nest' on the floor next to my bed. He was around 7 or so. I wasn't about to forbid him from coming to my room if he needed to! Nan |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Dec 7, 10:36 am, Ericka Kammerer wrote:
Chookie wrote: In article , Ericka Kammerer wrote: Chookie wrote: The only thing I disagree with Ericka about is dropping in unannounced; I think that's rude, and it can be very inconvenient for the carers. Dropping in unannounced is widely recommended in the US, and pretty much all daycare centers expect it. If you don't drop in once in a while, how do you know that what goes on at pickup/dropoff times is representative of what goes on all day? I was under the impression we were talking about *finding* a day care, not checking up on an enrolled child. I think the thread veered a bit to discussing ways to evaluate a daycare, which includes an ongoing component ;-) DOes your question imply your places have set dropoff/pickup times? We don't. Some places do, and some don't. If parents are coming and going all day long, you may feel less compelled to drop by at different times than if you had a situation where all the parents dropped off early in the morning and didn't pick up until late afternoon. With a smaller center or a home daycare, it's not uncommon that parents would be unlikely to be coming and going all day. I think it's reasonable for visitors evaluating the facility to have scheduled times for a visit, but if you have a child in the facility then you should never be forbidden to enter. It never crossed my mind that someone would try to forbid me seeing/collecting my own child! And if it happened, my kid would be out of there so fast the director would be spinning for a week. Some will try to discourage parents from arriving unannounced or at unexpected times. That's typically a bad sign, and the point of the suggestion that one should test out their willingness to have parents drop in unannounced. Best wishes, Ericka Most schools I talked to said I can drop in any time and observe through the large glass window but I can't go inside and disturb the class. This is of course assuming that the day care is not home based. I came across one big establishment with at least 10 separate classes which had the policy of routing everything through the director. I was told if I have to convey anything to the teacher, I have to talk to the director first and she will pass my message on to the teacher. I didn't like that policy we picked another school which is more open. I still can't talk to teachers during the class in our school. I can send them emails and they reply in the evening. If I need to talk to them sooner, I can leave a note in their mailbox and they call me within an hour or two. |
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