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Breastfeeding for life?
"Elfanie" wrote in message ... On 9 Mar 2006 00:30:20 -0800, wrote: I can't quite put my finger on why I feel such revulsion towards mothers who breastfeed for so long. wow....revulsion is quite a strong word. I find it just odd, in some way, but I would never think to use revulsion. It's probably based on the norm around here. I think it's because they gain some sort of sexual pleasure from having the child at their breast. It is not the role of the child to give a mother that "wonderful feeling" via breastfeeding *heavy sigh* Have you never nursed a baby/child?? goodness gracious why does it always seem to come back to a sexual thing for people who have never done it?? I've nursed all my children. I don't think of nursing at all in a sexual way. and why is a "wonderful feeling" something sexual to you? I find THAT repulsive...that your mind goes to sex. I have wonderful feelings whenever I nurse any of my children.....it's called love. Love to me is a wonderful feeling... I agree. I have always found nursing to be MY bond with my child. Something that only I have ever done with my children that no one else ever has. Anyone - grandparents, dad, aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings, friends, whatever, can change baby's diaper, give baths, whatever, but no one else was ever able to nurse my babies. It's definitely love, and a time that a mother can have with her child that no one can really take away or take over on. and love, to me, is not sexual. I think these women are lacking something in their lives. Why do you think this? And what do you think is lacking, in your opinion? A child asking for breast milk for their 9th birthday is clearly not a normal thing to do. It actually can be....depending on the circumstances. When I gave birth to my third child...my oldest, who was 7 at the time, asked what breastmilk tasted like. I expressed some and he drank it...didn't like it...and we moved on. That's actually VERY VERY common. However, I fully support the right of women to breastfeed children in public - just not 8 and 9 year olds! What is the age limit at which a woman should no longer be able to nurse her child? For me, yes, I probably would wonder why on earth someone is nursing a child of that age. I wouldn't sit and dwell on it, and my life would go on just the same. I think, the way it is for me, is that I do believe that nursing is a natural and normal thing to do. I nursed mine, and I didn't have a whole lot of support, other than my own mother. The females in my family weren't very supportive, and the males would have nothing but discouragement, other than my dad who didn't really care either way. He was there when my mother nurse my brothers and I, and he was alright if I sat down and nursed mine, and all I did was toss a receiving blanket over me and baby. Partly since I didn't think my dad or anyone else really cared to actually watch, it made it more comfortable for everyone else - myself included - and all my children had a thing with blankets where they'd fall right asleep when they had a receiving blanket the covered their faces. Kind of like a comfort thing. I find nursing completely normal, healthy, fine, I'm totally good with it, and I don't mind carrying on any type of conversation or discussion with someone while I nurse or while they do. I also think about every mamal and how mamals, humans included, nurse their young. I also think about how mamals eventually wean or are weaned from their mother and are expected to be on their own. Humans are the only mamals that tend to keep their young under their wing for so long. When you think about something like a cat, and for an easy number, let's say cats live 15 years. A human let's say lives 75 years - for another easy number. That's 5 times longer that people live when compared to a cat. A kitten is normally weaned by about 6-8 weeks, sometimes longer, sometimes shorter. By around those 6-8 weeks of age, a kitten is usually ready to venture out on their own and have a new family or would be alright without needing its mother so much. People normally aren't ready to be on their own until they're done school, have a job, whatever, and that's probably anywhere around 20 or so years of age, and again, sometimes earlier, sometimes longer. So after all this rambling that makes very little sense (as I read it over again!) all I'm trying to say is that although nursing is natural, it's also natural to wean. When that should be done does depend on what you're talking about - cats, dogs, monkeys, mice, whatever. Humans, we tend to be at a fairly higher level than a cat, but as human beings - animals - it's still a natural thing to wean your children, and for me, it was just before the time that mine could lift my shirt up and help themselves, but again, although I would find it definitely strange, in my own personal opinion, my life would go on, I wouldn't be permanantely damaged, and maybe it would strike me as odd and bothersome, but the great thing is... If I don't like something, agree with something, want to do or see something, I can just as easily turn around and walk away and go about my day as normal, just as any other person, no matter what their choices and beliefs may be! Just my 2¢, backed up with why! Stephanie Soderblom CLD CCCE CD(DONA) CBC Mommy to Mikael 5/9/95 - Kerstyn 8/6/99 - Kevin 8/30/02 and Megan 5/16/05 Birth Minister/Doula/CBE/Pregnancy-Birth Photography Mesa, AZ http://www.birthdiaries.com VISIT OUR NEW ONLINE STORE! |
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