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Moon Shyne wrote: "CasualObserver" wrote in message oups.com... wrote: I have the sole physical custody of my minor child with the father having the usual visitaion rights. I am a citizen of state of Georgia. The father does provide child support. But he refuses to have any relationship with his son. In these circumstances, it is very traumatic for my child to bear his father's last name when he has never seen him. Can I change his last name to my last name without the father's approval. Since the father hasn't visited my child in over an year, can this be considered abandonment. And can abandonment be a reason enough for me to file for name change of my son. At the same time I do no want to lose child support. Please suggest avenues for his name change. Thanks in advance. Your situation might be different but a lot of fathers dont visit because they feel that they themselves are the enemy. Wouldn't their own feelings be their own problem? Why inflict them on a child? I guess you have to ask why many fathers feel that way. Could it be that they are treated like dirt by the system? Maybe they are constantly berated by the mothers making them feel like an unwelcome visitors? Isnt it the gentlemen thing to do is not visit if you are not welcome? And still pay. |
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"CasualObserver" wrote in message oups.com... Moon Shyne wrote: "CasualObserver" wrote in message oups.com... wrote: I have the sole physical custody of my minor child with the father having the usual visitaion rights. I am a citizen of state of Georgia. The father does provide child support. But he refuses to have any relationship with his son. In these circumstances, it is very traumatic for my child to bear his father's last name when he has never seen him. Can I change his last name to my last name without the father's approval. Since the father hasn't visited my child in over an year, can this be considered abandonment. And can abandonment be a reason enough for me to file for name change of my son. At the same time I do no want to lose child support. Please suggest avenues for his name change. Thanks in advance. Your situation might be different but a lot of fathers dont visit because they feel that they themselves are the enemy. Wouldn't their own feelings be their own problem? Why inflict them on a child? I guess you have to ask why many fathers feel that way. Could it be that they are treated like dirt by the system? Maybe they are constantly berated by the mothers making them feel like an unwelcome visitors? Isnt it the gentlemen thing to do is not visit if you are not welcome? And still pay. There's nothing gentlemanly about walking away from your children. |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
Moon Shyne wrote: "CasualObserver" wrote in message oups.com... Moon Shyne wrote: "CasualObserver" wrote in message oups.com... wrote: I have the sole physical custody of my minor child with the father having the usual visitaion rights. I am a citizen of state of Georgia. The father does provide child support. But he refuses to have any relationship with his son. In these circumstances, it is very traumatic for my child to bear his father's last name when he has never seen him. Can I change his last name to my last name without the father's approval. Since the father hasn't visited my child in over an year, can this be considered abandonment. And can abandonment be a reason enough for me to file for name change of my son. At the same time I do no want to lose child support. Please suggest avenues for his name change. Thanks in advance. Your situation might be different but a lot of fathers dont visit because they feel that they themselves are the enemy. Wouldn't their own feelings be their own problem? Why inflict them on a child? I guess you have to ask why many fathers feel that way. Could it be that they are treated like dirt by the system? Maybe they are constantly berated by the mothers making them feel like an unwelcome visitors? Isnt it the gentlemen thing to do is not visit if you are not welcome? And still pay. There's nothing gentlemanly about walking away from your children. Tell that to the fathers who weren't gentlemen and now have restraining orders. And btw, what does being an occasional visitor have to do with being a father? |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
"CasualObserver" wrote in message ps.com... Moon Shyne wrote: "CasualObserver" wrote in message oups.com... Moon Shyne wrote: "CasualObserver" wrote in message oups.com... wrote: I have the sole physical custody of my minor child with the father having the usual visitaion rights. I am a citizen of state of Georgia. The father does provide child support. But he refuses to have any relationship with his son. In these circumstances, it is very traumatic for my child to bear his father's last name when he has never seen him. Can I change his last name to my last name without the father's approval. Since the father hasn't visited my child in over an year, can this be considered abandonment. And can abandonment be a reason enough for me to file for name change of my son. At the same time I do no want to lose child support. Please suggest avenues for his name change. Thanks in advance. Your situation might be different but a lot of fathers dont visit because they feel that they themselves are the enemy. Wouldn't their own feelings be their own problem? Why inflict them on a child? I guess you have to ask why many fathers feel that way. Could it be that they are treated like dirt by the system? Maybe they are constantly berated by the mothers making them feel like an unwelcome visitors? Isnt it the gentlemen thing to do is not visit if you are not welcome? And still pay. There's nothing gentlemanly about walking away from your children. Tell that to the fathers who weren't gentlemen and now have restraining orders. And btw, what does being an occasional visitor have to do with being a father? Gosh, Cas, what's the matter with you? A GENTLEMAN visits his child "when ordered" (by the court or by mommy.) Visiting the child has NOTHING to do with being a father. PAYING CHILD SUPPORT is what makes a man a father. Don't you know that? |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "CasualObserver" wrote in message ps.com... Moon Shyne wrote: "CasualObserver" wrote in message oups.com... Moon Shyne wrote: "CasualObserver" wrote in message oups.com... wrote: I have the sole physical custody of my minor child with the father having the usual visitaion rights. I am a citizen of state of Georgia. The father does provide child support. But he refuses to have any relationship with his son. In these circumstances, it is very traumatic for my child to bear his father's last name when he has never seen him. Can I change his last name to my last name without the father's approval. Since the father hasn't visited my child in over an year, can this be considered abandonment. And can abandonment be a reason enough for me to file for name change of my son. At the same time I do no want to lose child support. Please suggest avenues for his name change. Thanks in advance. Your situation might be different but a lot of fathers dont visit because they feel that they themselves are the enemy. Wouldn't their own feelings be their own problem? Why inflict them on a child? I guess you have to ask why many fathers feel that way. Could it be that they are treated like dirt by the system? Maybe they are constantly berated by the mothers making them feel like an unwelcome visitors? Isnt it the gentlemen thing to do is not visit if you are not welcome? And still pay. There's nothing gentlemanly about walking away from your children. Tell that to the fathers who weren't gentlemen and now have restraining orders. And btw, what does being an occasional visitor have to do with being a father? Gosh, Cas, what's the matter with you? A GENTLEMAN visits his child "when ordered" (by the court or by mommy.) Visiting the child has NOTHING to do with being a father. PAYING CHILD SUPPORT is what makes a man a father. Don't you know that? It's all about women wanting to control men's behavior - One father is a bad father because he visits the child but doesn't pay CS. The next father is a bad father because he pays but doesn't visit the child. Some fathers are considered bad fathers regardless of what they do. Why do some women feel so qualified to define what good fathering means? The OP has her own issues and I'm somewhat surprised no one has confronted her yet. Why is she so concerned about the child's last name when she is the one who provided the input for the name on the child's birth certificate? Does she have a different last name from the child? Was she ever married to the child's father and changed her name, or was she just another "single mother" who never bothered to marry the child's father? Is she trying to avoid her own past and why? |
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"Bob Whiteside" wrote .......................... The OP has her own issues and I'm somewhat surprised no one has confronted her yet. Why is she so concerned about the child's last name when she is the one who provided the input for the name on the child's birth certificate? Does she have a different last name from the child? Was she ever married to the child's father and changed her name, or was she just another "single mother" who never bothered to marry the child's father? Is she trying to avoid her own past and why? == Well, I think the mother who was whining about her son going to live with his dad and laid all kinds of guilt on the child trumps this one as scoundrel mother of the year. |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
teachrmama wrote: "CasualObserver" wrote in message ps.com... Moon Shyne wrote: "CasualObserver" wrote in message oups.com... Moon Shyne wrote: "CasualObserver" wrote in message oups.com... wrote: I have the sole physical custody of my minor child with the father having the usual visitaion rights. I am a citizen of state of Georgia. The father does provide child support. But he refuses to have any relationship with his son. In these circumstances, it is very traumatic for my child to bear his father's last name when he has never seen him. Can I change his last name to my last name without the father's approval. Since the father hasn't visited my child in over an year, can this be considered abandonment. And can abandonment be a reason enough for me to file for name change of my son. At the same time I do no want to lose child support. Please suggest avenues for his name change. Thanks in advance. Your situation might be different but a lot of fathers dont visit because they feel that they themselves are the enemy. Wouldn't their own feelings be their own problem? Why inflict them on a child? I guess you have to ask why many fathers feel that way. Could it be that they are treated like dirt by the system? Maybe they are constantly berated by the mothers making them feel like an unwelcome visitors? Isnt it the gentlemen thing to do is not visit if you are not welcome? And still pay. There's nothing gentlemanly about walking away from your children. Tell that to the fathers who weren't gentlemen and now have restraining orders. And btw, what does being an occasional visitor have to do with being a father? Gosh, Cas, what's the matter with you? A GENTLEMAN visits his child "when ordered" (by the court or by mommy.) Visiting the child has NOTHING to do with being a father. PAYING CHILD SUPPORT is what makes a man a father. Don't you know that? I do know and must say that I've been a model payer for many years now and hope to achieve the NCP of the year award sometime. |
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