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reasons I've heard for not breastfeeding
The mind boggles. I understand choosing not to breastfeed if you don't
have proper supply and can't get it, if your baby isn't thriving, or you have to take medications to live which would go through the breastmilk and harm the baby, etc... but some of the reasons I've heard lately just floor me. For example: 1) dh doesn't want me to (he thinks sex would be awkward with lactating breasts, etc) 2) I don't like looking at my breasts (!!?) 3) it's just *icky* Those seem to be the top three ?! |
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reasons I've heard for not breastfeeding
"Shena Delian O'Brien" wrote in message news:Knw0c.89544$4o.113481@attbi_s52... The mind boggles. I understand choosing not to breastfeed if you don't have proper supply and can't get it, if your baby isn't thriving, or you have to take medications to live which would go through the breastmilk and harm the baby, etc... but some of the reasons I've heard lately just floor me. For example: 1) dh doesn't want me to (he thinks sex would be awkward with lactating breasts, etc) To which my response might well be, "Oh? Funny, I thought they were YOUR breasts. Not his." Aw, for crying out loud. Sex is inherently a messy process. It's frequently awkward. Sex while pregnant is even more awkward. But we somehow manage to get through that (or we go without, which is another option.) 2) I don't like looking at my breasts (!!?) Boggle? 3) it's just *icky* See, I don't get that either. But I *always* knew I would breastfeed. It never once occurred to me to do any differently. Not once. Even through the difficulties I faced at the beginning each time. I don't get the whole 'icky' part. (Of course, heh, I think if you THINK about it, sex looks pretty icky too. But that doesn't stop most of us. Obviously, or we wouldn't be here. --angela |
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reasons I've heard for not breastfeeding
On Mon, 01 Mar 2004 01:31:22 GMT, Shena Delian O'Brien
wrote: 1) dh doesn't want me to (he thinks sex would be awkward with lactating breasts, etc) If the man is going to be a father he really should get over it and want the best for his children! 2) I don't like looking at my breasts (!!?) Ok that's just an odd excuse. I think mine are unattractive but they sure make the babies grow. 3) it's just *icky* Sex isn't? Giving birth isn't? Changing diapers isn't? I think any excuse is selfish. There is no reason not to breastfeed if you are able to. I don't see how any mother could just choose not to out of some stupid reason like "it's icky". I was in classes with a girl who was going to be an RN in an OB's office, and when we were discussing breastfeeding one day she said "I ain't never lettin' no baby suck my titty!" Like it's something disgusting! Those seem to be the top three ?! Many women don't bother to try when they failed with the first child. That's probably the excuse I hear the most. And I did quit with my first, I got mastitis and was ignorant and stupid and there was no excuse for me to make her do without breastmilk. I went on to nurse my next two for a year and a half each, still going with #2. I'll always regret stopping with my oldest daughter. Marie |
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Shena Delian O'Brien wrote:
The mind boggles. I understand choosing not to breastfeed if you don't have proper supply and can't get it, if your baby isn't thriving, or you have to take medications to live which would go through the breastmilk and harm the baby, etc... but some of the reasons I've heard lately just floor me. For example: 1) dh doesn't want me to (he thinks sex would be awkward with lactating breasts, etc) 2) I don't like looking at my breasts (!!?) 3) it's just *icky* Those seem to be the top three ?! The top three for me a 1) I didn't have enough milk 2) The baby had colic 3) The baby was lactose intolerant Ya.......okay....... -- Brigitte aa #2145 http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/joshuaandkaterina/ http://www.villagephotos.com/pubbrow...elected=782084 "Readers are plentiful; thinkers are rare." ~ Harriet Martineau |
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DeliciousTruffles wrote:
2) The baby had colic I thought breastfeeding reduced colic. I know a girl currently breastfeeding her 12 week old. The baby had colic for a while; she was able to figure out that the reason was some of the food she was eating that didn't agree with baby. She has been avoiding it and all is well. Supply issues are tough to work through but there are a world of remedies out there to try before giving up. I think a lot of moms (I'm not referring to you, I don't know your situation) give up too soon because they run out of ideas. I think it's sad that more doctors and nurses aren't out there giving them better ideas. |
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reasons I've heard for not breastfeeding
"Shena Delian O'Brien" wrote in message news:Knw0c.89544$4o.113481@attbi_s52... The mind boggles. I understand choosing not to breastfeed if you don't have proper supply and can't get it, if your baby isn't thriving, or you have to take medications to live which would go through the breastmilk and harm the baby, etc... but some of the reasons I've heard lately just floor me. Well, proper supply is rarely a *real* issue, people just don't think they have adequate supply because either the baby is nursing all the time (which they are supposed to) or because they are only able to pump small amounts (babies are MUCH more efficient suckers than even the best pump money can buy). It's just so clearly better for the baby to nurse, as well as for the mom. I lose my patience with people who "try" nursing for a week but then end up supplementing so they could sleep more or for some other reason that seems lame. Of course the medication issue is real and there are few medical situations that make it difficult, but in just about every other case, it's a matter of stick-to-it-iveness on the part of the parents. Just my $.02 - Jen, who never thought before becoming a mom that I'd be such a breastfeeding advocate |
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New York Jen wrote:
- Jen, who never thought before becoming a mom that I'd be such a breastfeeding advocate LOL I'm with you there I've found myself the champion of quite a few issues these days that I never even spent one moment thinking of before. My husband is *SO* tired of hearing about all this girl stuff. |
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Ah, Shena, I am so with you...
When I was pg I said "I would "try" to breastfeed" as my mum had told me that she "couldn't" and that I'd probably have a hard time (which I now know is totally bogus and there were many reasons she had difficulty, not least because she found it "icky". Grrr). After I tried it, I couldn't believe that I could be so ambilivalent about it - it was such a great feeling to know I was giving the best I oculd to my beloved child. I have a hard time when people refuse to even *try* breastfeeding, and imo, a lot of people quit for selfish reasons. The top 3 reasons I hear: 1) It's inconvenient (HELLO! What's inconvenient about a food that's always exactly the right temperature, always there, perfect in every way and GOOD for your child?) 2) Formula fed babies sleep through the night sooner (ha, try telling that to my mum - I (formula fed) didn't sleep through the night till I was around 2) 3) It's icky/I don't (or won't) have enough milk. That's because or culture makes breasts only a sexual thing and these women think somehow that it would be sexual. PLEASE!! It's amazing how passionate you can be about something you had NO idea would mean so much to you until it happens. I am a "lactivist" in every sense of the word!!! This is mainly because my DD is so robust, smart and affectionate, which I largely contribute to breastfeeding. She is rarely sick, and when she has been sick, she bounces back quicker than her formula fed counterparts. Sure, breastfeeding was a challenge the first weeks, but when has anything worthwhile been easy? You don't hear (many) women say "You know, pregnancy makes me have morning sickness, have round ligament pain, give me uncomfortable scars and labor is painful, so I don't think I'll do it again", or "It's takes too much time to brush my teeth and shower every day, so I'm not going to do that". Things that are good for you take effort and some think that bottle feeding is "just the same" as breastfeeding only out of ignorance and lack of education (please don't flame me, anyone!). anyone that doesn't give their baby a chance at the best is cheating not only their child, but themselves. My favourite websites on the subject: http://www.promom.org/101/ http://www.cs.colorado.edu/~kolina/a...f-formula.html OK, I'm done! Thanks for your post, Shena!! CY Mama to the 2-year-old-who-still-loves-mama-milk! "Shena Delian O'Brien" wrote in message news:Knw0c.89544$4o.113481@attbi_s52... The mind boggles. I understand choosing not to breastfeed if you don't have proper supply and can't get it, if your baby isn't thriving, or you have to take medications to live which would go through the breastmilk and harm the baby, etc... but some of the reasons I've heard lately just floor me. For example: 1) dh doesn't want me to (he thinks sex would be awkward with lactating breasts, etc) 2) I don't like looking at my breasts (!!?) 3) it's just *icky* Those seem to be the top three ?! |
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New York Jen wrote:
- Jen, who never thought before becoming a mom that I'd be such a breastfeeding advocate LOL! Me too! :-D I think the one comment above others that always upset me when I was nursing the twins was, "Oh! You couldn't possibly have enough!" -- Brigitte aa #2145 http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/joshuaandkaterina/ http://www.villagephotos.com/pubbrow...elected=782084 "Readers are plentiful; thinkers are rare." ~ Harriet Martineau |
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reasons I've heard for not breastfeeding
Shena Delian O'Brien wrote:
DeliciousTruffles wrote: 2) The baby had colic I thought breastfeeding reduced colic. It does. But I still hear that excuse. Sigh. -- Brigitte aa #2145 http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/joshuaandkaterina/ http://www.villagephotos.com/pubbrow...elected=782084 "Readers are plentiful; thinkers are rare." ~ Harriet Martineau |
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