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  #11  
Old October 20th 08, 11:46 PM posted to misc.kids
Clisby[_2_]
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Rosalie B. wrote:
Clisby wrote:

Babie wrote:
Hey folks,

I'm not sure if any of you will remember me or not, but I recently
decided to resubscribe to this NG.

Here's some information about my family.

My name's Les. My partner's name is Jarrod. We have a 5 year old
daughter and we also, up until about 3 months ago, raised my almost 9
year old niece.

I was an extremely nervous/excited first time father. Now that our
little one's "grown up" I've found all new questions I may need quick
answers to, and this NG gave me so much help 5 years ago I thought I
could jump in here again.

We currently live in Albuquerque, NM, but we're really in need of a
move. Alegra (DD) wants to finish kindergarten with the same teacher so
we're waiting until June to move. Our plan is to move to Fresno, CA, so
I've been obsessively looking for new homes in that area *grin*

I know I'm leaving out a LOT, but that's us in a nutshell (whatever that
means)

LES!

Hi, I remember you! I'm putting in my vote for moving in the summer
rather than midyear.

I think it also depends on whether there are a lot of military families in the
area or not. When we lived in Florida, practically everyone was connected to
the military, so the schools and teachers were used to having kids come and go
through the year and had procedures for that. Here where we re now it is the
same. The are two types of people living here - military and local long time
residents. It was the same in California - there was a large transient
population.

In Boston and later in RI we lived far from the base and you weren't a local
unless your grandparents were born there.


Charleston (SC) is like that, too. Although it might have to be a
great-grandparent; I'm not sure.

(I bought an old wardrobe from the
lady down the block who sold antiques and asked her about a little girl I saw on
her bike at the end of the driveway, and she said - oh those are the new people.
The 'new people' had been there for 12 years and ran the local store.) And in
California, the 'old people' were friendlier to newcomers. We lived in south
Philly for part of one year, and I don't think the kids had any particular
trouble there either.


There's a (perhaps apocryphal) story about a 90-year-old man whose
parents had brought him to Charleston as an infant. He was a succssful
businessman and civic leader. At his funeral, the minister's glowing
eulogy began, "Although he was not one of us ..."



Of course in the military you don't get much choice about when you move.




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Old October 21st 08, 01:24 AM posted to misc.kids
Rosalie B.
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Clisby wrote:

Rosalie B. wrote:
Clisby wrote:

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In Boston and later in RI we lived far from the base and you weren't a local
unless your grandparents were born there.


Charleston (SC) is like that, too. Although it might have to be a
great-grandparent; I'm not sure.

(I bought an old wardrobe from the
lady down the block who sold antiques and asked her about a little girl I saw on
her bike at the end of the driveway, and she said - oh those are the new people.
The 'new people' had been there for 12 years and ran the local store.) And in
California, the 'old people' were friendlier to newcomers. We lived in south
Philly for part of one year, and I don't think the kids had any particular
trouble there either.


There's a (perhaps apocryphal) story about a 90-year-old man whose
parents had brought him to Charleston as an infant. He was a succssful
businessman and civic leader. At his funeral, the minister's glowing
eulogy began, "Although he was not one of us ..."

My mother was born in NC and her mother was from NC but married a man from PA.
My mom always said that in the south they would be polite but wouldn't accept
you if you were from the north. It's a different kind of non-acceptance than in
New England - lower profile.

We were born in and lived in Maryland, and my sister went to Duke and she was
HIGHLY incensed when she was referred to as "that little northern gal" because
she did not think she was Northern. But of course Maryland did not secede in
the Civil War and so was therefore Northern, even if south of the Mason Dixon
line.

My mom was worried when my son (who married a PA girl) moved to the Charleston
area. My DIL doesn't seem to feel any discrimination from local people, but I'm
not sure whether they live in an area with a lot of old time society people. Or
if she would notice if they weren't as welcoming as they could be.
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Old October 21st 08, 12:43 PM posted to misc.kids
Banty
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In article , Ericka says...

Rosalie B. wrote:

I found, through moving around the country a lot (having a dh in the Navy) that
the kids did better WRT friends and people to play with if they moved during the
school year, or at least not in the summer.


Differently people have different experiences. I was a
military brat and made seven moves during my primary and secondary
school years. Five of those were during the summer, and two
were during the school year. I found the summer moves easier.
It's true that moving during the school year gets you in the
social milieu faster, but being dumped in a new classroom
mid-year when everyone else knows the ropes and you don't
(and in later years, when the curriculum is out of synch with
what you were used to) was harder.


That was my experience too. Timing moves (if we could; most often we couldn't)
for the summer meant we kids entered school along with others, having a start
with everyone else. Being dumped in during the middle of the school year meant
standing out more as the new kid. And, if there was any town-base antagonisms,
stand out as a base kid if the school was off the base.

When we moved in the summer, we typically didn't
make all that many friends until school started, but since
we were busy settling in and getting to know the area,
that didn't seem like much of a problem to me.


Yeah. Indeed, I wasn't sure what Rosalie was talking about until I realized she
saw the summer as friend-less therefore moving in the middle of school meant
friends right away.

To my way of thinking, I have lots of things I would enjoy that were more on a
solitary nature during the summer, like piano and crafts, plus I had two younger
siblings including my brother within a year of my age, so I didn't feel the lack
of new friends during whatever part of the summer that is left. I'd worry more
about getting a hopeful social start in school. Being really tall and gangly
and always "the smart kid", I had enough of a challenge as it was!

I also
think that it's not that bad to come in fresh to first
grade, since a number of kids change schools between
kindergarten and first grade, for a variety of reasons.


The only drawback normally would be that the real estate market would be more
competitive during the summer as most families try to move during the summer,
but I dont' think that will be a problem this time!

Banty

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Old October 21st 08, 01:16 PM posted to misc.kids
Banty
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In article , Clisby says...
There's a (perhaps apocryphal) story about a 90-year-old man whose
parents had brought him to Charleston as an infant. He was a succssful
businessman and civic leader. At his funeral, the minister's glowing
eulogy began, "Although he was not one of us ..."


My bet it's apocryphal. Because, as a miltary kid, I heard that story (told by
a military parent always) about just about everywhere we lived.

Banty

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Old October 22nd 08, 10:24 AM posted to misc.kids
Chookie
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Welcome back, Les! I remember you!

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Chookie -- Sydney, Australia
(Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply)

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