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Hey FFK. Answers Please! was: Who Is Fighting For Kids?
If I agree with something someone says here, the group attacks. If I disagree with something someone says here, the group attacks. My ex doesnt pay support. Last year he paid a total of $2,000 or 167.00 a month on average. He makes about $40,000 a year and then complains to the CSE office about how he cant afford to live and his support order is too high (he is ordered to pay about 6000 a year for two kids, thats 500 a month. He also doesnt have to pay any health insurance plan amounts as I pick up the tab. My employer offers family health insurance, but thats still 300 a month!!! I have to have it too for my sons medical expenses. I PAY the co-pays on everything also and I meet the deductable each year). The courts ordered him to pay an additional $100.00 on his arrears, he calls CSE and complains that he cant afford it. They reduce the amount to a dollar!!!! He is 15,000 behind in arrears, and no our state doesnt charge interest on the arrears. His original support order was made when he was making about $20,000. I have NOT asked for it to be raised ( which would move it up to almost 900 a month). On top of all this one of his children is disabled and he doesn't help with anything. He has visiation rights and doesn't even bother to see his children. HE DOESNT, I have nothing to do with this part. I have in the past begged him to see his children and he refuses because of his sons problems. I also have make sure my children see at least pictures of him and we talk about him all the time. I NEVER talk bad about him to them. That is not right. I will not however make up excuses for him as to why he isnt involved. If they ask, I simply say "I dont know" or "thats his choice". I have worked my ASS OFF full-time, gone to school full-time, taken my son to all kinds of doctors and specialists and therapist every single week all to make sure my family is taken care of, im very active with my children's schools and their extra ciricular activites. He does nothing. So, I know that you all think i'm an evil bitch who just wants to get as much money out of my child's father as I can, but that is simply not the case. I do not however agree with a lot of things you guys post here and i'm willing to be attacked to voice my own opinon. On Wed, 12 Nov 2003 10:20:28 -0500 (EST), wrote: FFK ... On the whole, most contributors here have stated their case. They are divorced, going through a divorce, or have questions and are here seeking answers. I went through a terrible divorce, but am now remarried to a wonderful woman and have no CS probs now. What's your story? I have an idea you're a female, with (about) a $15,000 arrearage owing to you and/or your child. Wanna comment on that? Give us some background on yourself. Maybe then we could understand your zeal. Otherwise, you're going to seem like just a cranky troll. nm |
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Hey FFK. Answers Please! was: Who Is Fighting For Kids?
I better clarify before someone hits me over the head with club.
"my ex doesnt his ordered support all the time" instead of doesnt pay support (although he didnt pay support for an entire year, so I guess its kinda true but not currently) On Wed, 12 Nov 2003 14:30:22 -0700, Fighting For Kids wrote: If I agree with something someone says here, the group attacks. If I disagree with something someone says here, the group attacks. My ex doesnt pay support. Last year he paid a total of $2,000 or 167.00 a month on average. He makes about $40,000 a year and then complains to the CSE office about how he cant afford to live and his support order is too high (he is ordered to pay about 6000 a year for two kids, thats 500 a month. He also doesnt have to pay any health insurance plan amounts as I pick up the tab. My employer offers family health insurance, but thats still 300 a month!!! I have to have it too for my sons medical expenses. I PAY the co-pays on everything also and I meet the deductable each year). The courts ordered him to pay an additional $100.00 on his arrears, he calls CSE and complains that he cant afford it. They reduce the amount to a dollar!!!! He is 15,000 behind in arrears, and no our state doesnt charge interest on the arrears. His original support order was made when he was making about $20,000. I have NOT asked for it to be raised ( which would move it up to almost 900 a month). On top of all this one of his children is disabled and he doesn't help with anything. He has visiation rights and doesn't even bother to see his children. HE DOESNT, I have nothing to do with this part. I have in the past begged him to see his children and he refuses because of his sons problems. I also have make sure my children see at least pictures of him and we talk about him all the time. I NEVER talk bad about him to them. That is not right. I will not however make up excuses for him as to why he isnt involved. If they ask, I simply say "I dont know" or "thats his choice". I have worked my ASS OFF full-time, gone to school full-time, taken my son to all kinds of doctors and specialists and therapist every single week all to make sure my family is taken care of, im very active with my children's schools and their extra ciricular activites. He does nothing. So, I know that you all think i'm an evil bitch who just wants to get as much money out of my child's father as I can, but that is simply not the case. I do not however agree with a lot of things you guys post here and i'm willing to be attacked to voice my own opinon. On Wed, 12 Nov 2003 10:20:28 -0500 (EST), wrote: FFK ... On the whole, most contributors here have stated their case. They are divorced, going through a divorce, or have questions and are here seeking answers. I went through a terrible divorce, but am now remarried to a wonderful woman and have no CS probs now. What's your story? I have an idea you're a female, with (about) a $15,000 arrearage owing to you and/or your child. Wanna comment on that? Give us some background on yourself. Maybe then we could understand your zeal. Otherwise, you're going to seem like just a cranky troll. nm |
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Hey FFK. Answers Please! was: Who Is Fighting For Kids?
FFK ...
I can (now) see why you are so bitter. I doubt very seriously anyone would dispute you have gotten the short end of the stick. With your ex only paying 5% of his income for CS, I'd be ****ed too, if I were you. Just what kind of pull does this joker have that he can get away so cheap? Is he bribing somebody, or does he have someone at Friend of the Court in his pocket? FFK, I'm gonna assume you're in Mi. (due to that Cox thread) If you can't get your CS straighten out here, you ain't gonna get it staight anywhere. If you're in Wayne, Macolmb, and particularly Oakland county, if your CS isn't right, YOU are doing something awfully wrong, or you're not doing anything, At All. I know, just as well as you should, no matter what his present situation is, he owes you (like) $600-$800 a month or so easily, based on a 40k a year income. That's two kid's, right? You can't say 'they' look at your income, 'cause in most states, particularly Mi., that counts for little, if anything. I don't say you should try to 'bleed' the guy, but for krys sake, get what's fair. $2k a year ain't ****. Double that is only 10% of his income. You know what you gotta do. Do it. nm |
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Hey FFK. Answers Please! was: Who Is Fighting For Kids?
You are only heraring one side of the story, and just like all her posts, I
bet it is full of wrong ASSumptions and exagerations. Also if she acts this way in court, it would be no wonder if the judge was just plain tired of all of her BS. wrote in message ... FFK ... I can (now) see why you are so bitter. I doubt very seriously anyone would dispute you have gotten the short end of the stick. With your ex only paying 5% of his income for CS, I'd be ****ed too, if I were you. Just what kind of pull does this joker have that he can get away so cheap? Is he bribing somebody, or does he have someone at Friend of the Court in his pocket? FFK, I'm gonna assume you're in Mi. (due to that Cox thread) If you can't get your CS straighten out here, you ain't gonna get it staight anywhere. If you're in Wayne, Macolmb, and particularly Oakland county, if your CS isn't right, YOU are doing something awfully wrong, or you're not doing anything, At All. I know, just as well as you should, no matter what his present situation is, he owes you (like) $600-$800 a month or so easily, based on a 40k a year income. That's two kid's, right? You can't say 'they' look at your income, 'cause in most states, particularly Mi., that counts for little, if anything. I don't say you should try to 'bleed' the guy, but for krys sake, get what's fair. $2k a year ain't ****. Double that is only 10% of his income. You know what you gotta do. Do it. nm |
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Hey FFK. Answers Please! was: Who Is Fighting For Kids?
I wish that I was exagerating this, but im not.
I have fought for 5 years and just got tired of it. The CSE office unfortuneately doesn't even know their own rules and regs. My state doesnt put emphasis on the chldren as clearly demonstrated by their own expenditures on education and other child related services. Do I spend all my time and energy on a deadbeat or do I spend my time finding other ways to support my children and take care of my sons extraordinary needs? I have taken on almost all (except the small amount he contributes) my child's expenses on my own. I have said I dont agree with the system. I dont go into court and ask for him to pay more because I feel he shouldnt have to pay 800 + a month for supporting his children. On Thu, 13 Nov 2003 08:34:26 -0500, "Paul Fritz" wrote: You are only heraring one side of the story, and just like all her posts, I bet it is full of wrong ASSumptions and exagerations. Also if she acts this way in court, it would be no wonder if the judge was just plain tired of all of her BS. |
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Hey FFK. Answers Please! was: Who Is Fighting For Kids?
FFK ...
Just where are you? Is there no way (like a civil action) that you can get what's fair? Jeezus, with a disabled child, if you were here in Mi, you could tear your ex a new ass. How 'bout trying something different. What about getting the folks who work in the disabled children's organizations to lean on some folks who have some pull? They have a lot of grunt with the politicians, because disabled kids just DO NOT get messed around with. The disabled are high on everybody's priority list, and that in itself should get things turned around, IMO. nm |
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Hey FFK. Answers Please! was: Who Is Fighting For Kids?
FFK ...
You said you had to leave your job for a while to take care of your child. The state you're in must be totally behind the rest of the country in taking care of it's disabled kids if you received no help, or were offered no help with that child. Have you checked with neighboring states, or another state? Maybe moving to a state that took care of it's kids would be better than where you're at now. You sure as hell couldn't be much worse off when it comes to the CS, and maybe another state wouldn't be so 'tolerant'. I just can't believe their total indifference to your/a special needs child. Maybe 'cause it's not that way here. nm |
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