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The right to abandon your child (aka - Roe v. Wade for Men)
"tonita" wrote in message ups.com... Ok, I'll try this one more time. The original post wasn't about that. If the man was complaining that a woman was going to abort and he *wanted* the child, the of COURSE he should. Otherwise, my other opinions stand. These are your words, Tonita--the words that I responded to: "If a man sires a kid he should pay support for the kid." My question stands: Why shoud the man pay support? Why should he not have the privilege of raising his child? teachrmama wrote: "tonita" wrote in message ups.com... If a man sires a kid he should pay support for the kid. Why should a man "pay support"? Why can a man not raise a child? His responsibilities can be met by raising the child 50% of the time. I have been trying to get you to answer this, Tonita. WHY is it a man's responsibility to *pay money* rather than fulfill his responsibility to the child by actually being a parent to that child? Simple concept. I have been responding in the context of the original post about a guy not wanting to pay financial support for a "surprise" baby. Of course I believe that both parents should be involved in the rearing of the kid. I also believe that kids should be raised in a cohesive, two-parent home, that men and women should behave like adults and keep their hormones in check, that men and women have different roles in the family, that feminists today are sad, pathetic creatures. If a woman posted something similar I would have the same message for her. If you don't want a child, don't engage in behavior that will create one. Intercourse can lead to pregnancy no matter what kind of birth control you are using outside of abstinence. No one should be surprised or horrified if there is a pregnancy after sexual intercourse. It happens. There is no "trickery" involved. teachrmama wrote: "tonita" wrote in message ups.com... Dogs and cats breed without thought. Humans are supposed to have evolved above that level. No one *has* to give in to that drive. It's too bad everyone couldn't stay focused on the topic without all the bitterness taking over. Nothing will ever be solved in such a scattered way. Everyone wants to have their "Sex In The City" moments but refuse to consider the consequences after the fact. Hence the state of our world today. Too many fatherless kids, not enough personal accountability. Everyone wants theirs and to hell with everyone else. Someone else is always to blame. No more grit and backbone. Everyone is weak and must cater to their "feelings" above all else. Kind of makes for a very weak society in general and it certainly shows. I feel sad really. Kids are hurthing and the adults care very little about their psyches. As long as all the men and women are happily screwing, who cares? The kids will get over it, the kids will be fine, the kids don't care what the parents do. Go ahead and believe all that if that's what it takes to get through the day. There *are* good men and women in the world and I mean *real* men and women, not these morons who are behaving like juveniles. They're out there raising good kids, focusing on their families and working together to keep it together. They're not worried if they're going to feel good every second, or being happy every second. It's hard work and they're up for it. They're not into the blame game or the emotional tennis match, batting the blaming ball back and forth. Real men aren't guided by their penises and won't risk it all for some woman they hardly know. They actually care about who becomes the mother of their children. Real women are discerning and don't let just anyone into their bodies just for the momentary feelings. Real men and women don't have any interest in abortion issues or who's responsible for the pregnancy. They don't have to because they don't indulge in the self serving behavior that's created this mess in the first place. They don't have the "me, me, me" mindset. They sacrifice for the sake of their families. Yes, it's a very sad state and I suppose it will only get worse given the types of responses to this post. Everyone will just continue to blame someone else. There is a *big difference* between blaming someone else, and accepting equal responsibility. Don't you think that BOTH PARENTS should have equal rights and responsibilities in the raising of their children? Or do you really believe that the woman should raise the child and the man should pay for it? |
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The right to abandon your child (aka - Roe v. Wade for Men)
"Moon Shyne" wrote in message
... "Dusty" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:_NZSf.1086$5F1.18@fed1read08... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Dusty" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... [snip] For all of Gini's babble about how the woman is only fertile at one point in her cycle, what she overlooks is that sperm may live in the female reproductive tract for up to 7 days and fertilization may occur even days after intercourse. Which is something you contradict yourself on in several previous posts (no, I ain't gonna spoon feed ya either - go look it up). You yourself have stated that MEN must be the primary party responsible for all births Um, no, I haven't. Haven't said anything even remotely along those lines. I have said that men need to be taking responsibility for their own birth control though. Last I checked, men don't control birth. When they control their own fertility, they sure do. No conception, no birth. That's how it works. Please explain how men control their own fertility? This I gotta hear... By using whatever birth control methods are available - rhythm method, condoms, abstinence, only having sex with someone they KNOW is not fertile (as in sterile) and sterility are currently the available choices. If and when a male pill becomes available, that will be another option. Not, that's not it. I want you to tell us how a man is in control of his fertility, not a list of birth control options. How does one do that Moonie? How do you control something that you have no control over?? Birth control is one thing, controlling one's own fertility is quite another. |
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The right to abandon your child (aka - Roe v. Wade for Men)
I think I just did answer that question so I'm not sure in what context
you are asking here. Are you saying in *all* cases of pregnancy? Statistically men don't ask for custody of the newborn. Your question can't be answered generally because all cases are different I suppose. And I guess women generally are the custodians, but at this time, men aren't fighting enough for their own rights. How many men as opposed to women really fight for the custody of a newborn? I wouldn't have a problem with a man gaining custody of his child. I dare to say there are a lot of women out there who should not be mothers but things won't change I guess for a long long time, if ever. So, I'll say this...a child should get monetary support from the non custodial parent, whoever it may be. How's that? teachrmama wrote: These are your words, Tonita--the words that I responded to: "If a man sires a kid he should pay support for the kid." My question stands: Why shoud the man pay support? Why should he not have the privilege of raising his child? |
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The right to abandon your child (aka - Roe v. Wade for Men)
Well, I guess the feminists have suceeded in beating men down. I
always say anything worth having is worth fighting for. Maybe it's time for men and women to start behaving themselves so none of this will happen? It's still a blame game. Blame the man, blame the woman, blame the government. I suppose if I had a child out of wedlock I could turn to the government for help but I didn't and I won't. My kids didn't. My friends didn't. It all boils down to behavior and the attitude of wanting something more for one's life and the lives of their children. The idea of living a more dignified life. People can change but they don't have to. It's a societal problem, government included but I don't think it's totally to blame. There are no values to stand behind anymore. Nobody has to have values or, dare I say, morals. It's a free-for-all world and everybody just stands by and watches and supports. I can't change it but I certainly haven't contributed to it either. Phil #3 wrote: "tonita" wrote in message ups.com... I respectfully disagree with, well...everything. You make it sound as if when a man doesn't get sex he'll either walk around with an eternal erection or he'll end up raping someone. You apparently misunderstood. We all know that isn't true. People can use their intellect far more than they do. They *can* but as long as we let the government tell us how to think, why bother? Self control and self discipline. As for the government, that's kind of far fetched. Not at all. Apparently you are unaware that the state governments, the ones that force the child support guidelines upon the People, rake a tidy profit from the federal government in the form of block grants as a reward for collecting child support. Then add to it the interest on millions of dollars sitting in the government accounts for varying lengths of 1-3 months before disbursment. The government, at least in my opinion, horns in when there is a lot of public pressure. Look at our society today...political correctness and all of that crap. It is so acceptable for a teenaged girl to get knocked up, continue school, keep the kid go to junior prom and do it again the next year. Or worse, quit school and have babies as a career. The government pays because there isn't a choice anymore. Sure there's a choice, several in fact, but the basic step is for the governement to butt out. The government rewards women who operate the system by giving them the lion's share of the marriage plus custody of the children and far more money than is needed to support those children and people are surprised when the numbers of these women increase. Whether the mother has been married or not, the subject is the same: rewarding bad behavior and wondering why the bad behavior increases. It's done so kids won't starve or die. Hardly. It's done for political correctness; that is, feminists demand women be treated special and men be punished for being male. Child support has nothing to do with supporting children. Most fathers would do whatever is necessary for their children but the government will not permit it. It's almost a badge of honor to be a single mother these days. It's shameful. I think it happens because there are so many fatherless homes. To a large degree, absolutely. So it is with may pathological amomalities such as failing or dropping out of school, drug use, runaway juveniles, child abuse and neglect, crime and many others. I don't agree with any of it but that's the way it is. People get divorced because they can, men abandon because they can, women think they can have it all but they can't. That's why marriages end and thank the feminists for the victim status many women take. It's downright pathetic. Too true. Except most fathers want to remain in their children's lives as a parent but are not allowed. The government promise is custody and a C$ order, which is promoted as "liberating" for women. In fact, it makes them dependent on the government instead of their husbands and due to the monolothic number of laws in this regard, the husbands then come under the control of the government as well. Phil #3 Phil #3 wrote: "tonita" wrote in message ups.com... Dogs and cats breed without thought. Humans are supposed to have evolved above that level. No one *has* to give in to that drive. I am not so sure. Of course, it is different between men and women. Men have a stronger sex drive than women, which is, IMO, the main reason some women think of men as perverts for having a normal (for men) sex drive. From what I've read, women can do without sex easier than men and the longer they do without it, the easier it is to do without it; sort of a self-fullfilling prophecy, if you will. Men, on the other hand, are sexual creatures and the longer they do without it, the stronger the urge becomes. It's nature's way of insuring continuation of the species. Still, you are correct in that no one has to give in but it *is* a natural drive. What is unnatural is *not* giving in to it. The problem is not sex, the problem is that the government is ready, willing, and with our tax and child support dollars, able to become surrogate husband and father. More is done to insure a steady supply of divorces with children than is devoted to the idea of a strong family consisting of mother, father, children. The strong family has no need for the government to step in and control the family (and a very large part of it's finance) and a split family, that is where at least one parent does not live with their children, the government is making a profit from enabling and assisting in broken familes and as a side benefit to an ever-increasing government, gaining further total control over the People. In short, it's not so simple as just saying "no". Phil #3 It's too bad everyone couldn't stay focused on the topic without all the bitterness taking over. Nothing will ever be solved in such a scattered way. Everyone wants to have their "Sex In The City" moments but refuse to consider the consequences after the fact. Hence the state of our world today. Too many fatherless kids, not enough personal accountability. Everyone wants theirs and to hell with everyone else. Someone else is always to blame. No more grit and backbone. Everyone is weak and must cater to their "feelings" above all else. Kind of makes for a very weak society in general and it certainly shows. I feel sad really. Kids are hurthing and the adults care very little about their psyches. As long as all the men and women are happily screwing, who cares? The kids will get over it, the kids will be fine, the kids don't care what the parents do. Go ahead and believe all that if that's what it takes to get through the day. There *are* good men and women in the world and I mean *real* men and women, not these morons who are behaving like juveniles. They're out there raising good kids, focusing on their families and working together to keep it together. They're not worried if they're going to feel good every second, or being happy every second. It's hard work and they're up for it. They're not into the blame game or the emotional tennis match, batting the blaming ball back and forth. Real men aren't guided by their penises and won't risk it all for some woman they hardly know. They actually care about who becomes the mother of their children. Real women are discerning and don't let just anyone into their bodies just for the momentary feelings. Real men and women don't have any interest in abortion issues or who's responsible for the pregnancy. They don't have to because they don't indulge in the self serving behavior that's created this mess in the first place. They don't have the "me, me, me" mindset. They sacrifice for the sake of their families. Yes, it's a very sad state and I suppose it will only get worse given the types of responses to this post. Everyone will just continue to blame someone else. Phil #3 wrote: Doesn't seem to have made much difference over the past 30 years although the marriage rate has dropped and will continue to do so, sex is one of humankind's basic drives. It's a difficult instinct to overcome. |
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The right to abandon your child (aka - Roe v. Wade for Men)
No, the problem is behavior and attitude. Just having the attitude
that it's not so easy to say no. Everything is easier said than done, but who even tries anymore. There's nothing guiding anyone to say no. People screw around because they want to and they can. Who needs marriage anymore? Phil #3 wrote: The problem is not sex, the problem is that the government is ready, willing, and with our tax and child support dollars, able to become surrogate husband and father. More is done to insure a steady supply of divorces with children than is devoted to the idea of a strong family consisting of mother, father, children. The strong family has no need for the government to step in and control the family (and a very large part of it's finance) and a split family, that is where at least one parent does not live with their children, the government is making a profit from enabling and assisting in broken familes and as a side benefit to an ever-increasing government, gaining further total control over the People. In short, it's not so simple as just saying "no". Phil #3 It's too bad everyone couldn't stay focused on the topic without all the bitterness taking over. Nothing will ever be solved in such a scattered way. Everyone wants to have their "Sex In The City" moments but refuse to consider the consequences after the fact. Hence the state of our world today. Too many fatherless kids, not enough personal accountability. Everyone wants theirs and to hell with everyone else. Someone else is always to blame. No more grit and backbone. Everyone is weak and must cater to their "feelings" above all else. Kind of makes for a very weak society in general and it certainly shows. I feel sad really. Kids are hurthing and the adults care very little about their psyches. As long as all the men and women are happily screwing, who cares? The kids will get over it, the kids will be fine, the kids don't care what the parents do. Go ahead and believe all that if that's what it takes to get through the day. There *are* good men and women in the world and I mean *real* men and women, not these morons who are behaving like juveniles. They're out there raising good kids, focusing on their families and working together to keep it together. They're not worried if they're going to feel good every second, or being happy every second. It's hard work and they're up for it. They're not into the blame game or the emotional tennis match, batting the blaming ball back and forth. Real men aren't guided by their penises and won't risk it all for some woman they hardly know. They actually care about who becomes the mother of their children. Real women are discerning and don't let just anyone into their bodies just for the momentary feelings. Real men and women don't have any interest in abortion issues or who's responsible for the pregnancy. They don't have to because they don't indulge in the self serving behavior that's created this mess in the first place. They don't have the "me, me, me" mindset. They sacrifice for the sake of their families. Yes, it's a very sad state and I suppose it will only get worse given the types of responses to this post. Everyone will just continue to blame someone else. Phil #3 wrote: Doesn't seem to have made much difference over the past 30 years although the marriage rate has dropped and will continue to do so, sex is one of humankind's basic drives. It's a difficult instinct to overcome. |
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The right to abandon your child (aka - Roe v. Wade for Men)
On Sat, 18 Mar 2006 18:50:15 -0800, "teachrmama"
wrote: "tonita" wrote in message oups.com... If a man sires a kid he should pay support for the kid. Why should a man "pay support"? Why can a man not raise a child? His responsibilities can be met by raising the child 50% of the time. I have been trying to get you to answer this, Tonita. WHY is it a man's responsibility to *pay money* rather than fulfill his responsibility to the child by actually being a parent to that child? I'm a bit perplexed at your tunnel vision, mama, what easier way to garner a guaranteed income than breeding? Simple concept. I have been responding in the context of the original post about a guy not wanting to pay financial support for a "surprise" baby. Of course I believe that both parents should be involved in the rearing of the kid. I also believe that kids should be raised in a cohesive, two-parent home, that men and women should behave like adults and keep their hormones in check, that men and women have different roles in the family, that feminists today are sad, pathetic creatures. If a woman posted something similar I would have the same message for her. If you don't want a child, don't engage in behavior that will create one. Intercourse can lead to pregnancy no matter what kind of birth control you are using outside of abstinence. No one should be surprised or horrified if there is a pregnancy after sexual intercourse. It happens. There is no "trickery" involved. teachrmama wrote: "tonita" wrote in message ups.com... Dogs and cats breed without thought. Humans are supposed to have evolved above that level. No one *has* to give in to that drive. It's too bad everyone couldn't stay focused on the topic without all the bitterness taking over. Nothing will ever be solved in such a scattered way. Everyone wants to have their "Sex In The City" moments but refuse to consider the consequences after the fact. Hence the state of our world today. Too many fatherless kids, not enough personal accountability. Everyone wants theirs and to hell with everyone else. Someone else is always to blame. No more grit and backbone. Everyone is weak and must cater to their "feelings" above all else. Kind of makes for a very weak society in general and it certainly shows. I feel sad really. Kids are hurthing and the adults care very little about their psyches. As long as all the men and women are happily screwing, who cares? The kids will get over it, the kids will be fine, the kids don't care what the parents do. Go ahead and believe all that if that's what it takes to get through the day. There *are* good men and women in the world and I mean *real* men and women, not these morons who are behaving like juveniles. They're out there raising good kids, focusing on their families and working together to keep it together. They're not worried if they're going to feel good every second, or being happy every second. It's hard work and they're up for it. They're not into the blame game or the emotional tennis match, batting the blaming ball back and forth. Real men aren't guided by their penises and won't risk it all for some woman they hardly know. They actually care about who becomes the mother of their children. Real women are discerning and don't let just anyone into their bodies just for the momentary feelings. Real men and women don't have any interest in abortion issues or who's responsible for the pregnancy. They don't have to because they don't indulge in the self serving behavior that's created this mess in the first place. They don't have the "me, me, me" mindset. They sacrifice for the sake of their families. Yes, it's a very sad state and I suppose it will only get worse given the types of responses to this post. Everyone will just continue to blame someone else. There is a *big difference* between blaming someone else, and accepting equal responsibility. Don't you think that BOTH PARENTS should have equal rights and responsibilities in the raising of their children? Or do you really believe that the woman should raise the child and the man should pay for it? A jury is 12 individuals who decides who has the best lawyer. - Mark Twain |
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The right to abandon your child (aka - Roe v. Wade for Men)
"tonita" wrote in message oups.com... Well, I guess the feminists have suceeded in beating men down. I always say anything worth having is worth fighting for. Maybe it's time for men and women to start behaving themselves so none of this will happen? It's still a blame game. Blame the man, blame the woman, blame the government. I suppose if I had a child out of wedlock I could turn to the government for help but I didn't and I won't. My kids didn't. My friends didn't. It all boils down to behavior and the attitude of wanting something more for one's life and the lives of their children. The idea of living a more dignified life. People can change but they don't have to. It's a societal problem, government included but I don't think it's totally to blame. There are no values to stand behind anymore. Nobody has to have values or, dare I say, morals. It's a free-for-all world and everybody just stands by and watches and supports. I can't change it but I certainly haven't contributed to it either. Blame is not the correct word. Identifying a problem is the first step in correcting it. Do you have any idea about the possibility of an unmarried father gaining custody? It is so close to impossible as to *be* impossible and without at least $150K to spend on lawyers, it just won't happen and probably won't then. It's damn near impossible for a divorced father as well. Mothers are freely given what men must fight for and usually are denied including custody and in the cases where father gets custody (almost always because the mother allowed it), they rarely get C$. In my opinion, the drop in respect for others led to legalized abortion-as-birth-control and the so-called 'no-fault' divorces. The nation's thought is "it's all about *me*". Phil #3 Phil #3 wrote: "tonita" wrote in message ups.com... I respectfully disagree with, well...everything. You make it sound as if when a man doesn't get sex he'll either walk around with an eternal erection or he'll end up raping someone. You apparently misunderstood. We all know that isn't true. People can use their intellect far more than they do. They *can* but as long as we let the government tell us how to think, why bother? Self control and self discipline. As for the government, that's kind of far fetched. Not at all. Apparently you are unaware that the state governments, the ones that force the child support guidelines upon the People, rake a tidy profit from the federal government in the form of block grants as a reward for collecting child support. Then add to it the interest on millions of dollars sitting in the government accounts for varying lengths of 1-3 months before disbursment. The government, at least in my opinion, horns in when there is a lot of public pressure. Look at our society today...political correctness and all of that crap. It is so acceptable for a teenaged girl to get knocked up, continue school, keep the kid go to junior prom and do it again the next year. Or worse, quit school and have babies as a career. The government pays because there isn't a choice anymore. Sure there's a choice, several in fact, but the basic step is for the governement to butt out. The government rewards women who operate the system by giving them the lion's share of the marriage plus custody of the children and far more money than is needed to support those children and people are surprised when the numbers of these women increase. Whether the mother has been married or not, the subject is the same: rewarding bad behavior and wondering why the bad behavior increases. It's done so kids won't starve or die. Hardly. It's done for political correctness; that is, feminists demand women be treated special and men be punished for being male. Child support has nothing to do with supporting children. Most fathers would do whatever is necessary for their children but the government will not permit it. It's almost a badge of honor to be a single mother these days. It's shameful. I think it happens because there are so many fatherless homes. To a large degree, absolutely. So it is with may pathological amomalities such as failing or dropping out of school, drug use, runaway juveniles, child abuse and neglect, crime and many others. I don't agree with any of it but that's the way it is. People get divorced because they can, men abandon because they can, women think they can have it all but they can't. That's why marriages end and thank the feminists for the victim status many women take. It's downright pathetic. Too true. Except most fathers want to remain in their children's lives as a parent but are not allowed. The government promise is custody and a C$ order, which is promoted as "liberating" for women. In fact, it makes them dependent on the government instead of their husbands and due to the monolothic number of laws in this regard, the husbands then come under the control of the government as well. Phil #3 Phil #3 wrote: "tonita" wrote in message ups.com... Dogs and cats breed without thought. Humans are supposed to have evolved above that level. No one *has* to give in to that drive. I am not so sure. Of course, it is different between men and women. Men have a stronger sex drive than women, which is, IMO, the main reason some women think of men as perverts for having a normal (for men) sex drive. From what I've read, women can do without sex easier than men and the longer they do without it, the easier it is to do without it; sort of a self-fullfilling prophecy, if you will. Men, on the other hand, are sexual creatures and the longer they do without it, the stronger the urge becomes. It's nature's way of insuring continuation of the species. Still, you are correct in that no one has to give in but it *is* a natural drive. What is unnatural is *not* giving in to it. The problem is not sex, the problem is that the government is ready, willing, and with our tax and child support dollars, able to become surrogate husband and father. More is done to insure a steady supply of divorces with children than is devoted to the idea of a strong family consisting of mother, father, children. The strong family has no need for the government to step in and control the family (and a very large part of it's finance) and a split family, that is where at least one parent does not live with their children, the government is making a profit from enabling and assisting in broken familes and as a side benefit to an ever-increasing government, gaining further total control over the People. In short, it's not so simple as just saying "no". Phil #3 It's too bad everyone couldn't stay focused on the topic without all the bitterness taking over. Nothing will ever be solved in such a scattered way. Everyone wants to have their "Sex In The City" moments but refuse to consider the consequences after the fact. Hence the state of our world today. Too many fatherless kids, not enough personal accountability. Everyone wants theirs and to hell with everyone else. Someone else is always to blame. No more grit and backbone. Everyone is weak and must cater to their "feelings" above all else. Kind of makes for a very weak society in general and it certainly shows. I feel sad really. Kids are hurthing and the adults care very little about their psyches. As long as all the men and women are happily screwing, who cares? The kids will get over it, the kids will be fine, the kids don't care what the parents do. Go ahead and believe all that if that's what it takes to get through the day. There *are* good men and women in the world and I mean *real* men and women, not these morons who are behaving like juveniles. They're out there raising good kids, focusing on their families and working together to keep it together. They're not worried if they're going to feel good every second, or being happy every second. It's hard work and they're up for it. They're not into the blame game or the emotional tennis match, batting the blaming ball back and forth. Real men aren't guided by their penises and won't risk it all for some woman they hardly know. They actually care about who becomes the mother of their children. Real women are discerning and don't let just anyone into their bodies just for the momentary feelings. Real men and women don't have any interest in abortion issues or who's responsible for the pregnancy. They don't have to because they don't indulge in the self serving behavior that's created this mess in the first place. They don't have the "me, me, me" mindset. They sacrifice for the sake of their families. Yes, it's a very sad state and I suppose it will only get worse given the types of responses to this post. Everyone will just continue to blame someone else. Phil #3 wrote: Doesn't seem to have made much difference over the past 30 years although the marriage rate has dropped and will continue to do so, sex is one of humankind's basic drives. It's a difficult instinct to overcome. |
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The right to abandon your child (aka - Roe v. Wade for Men)
"tonita" wrote in message ups.com... If a man sires a kid he should pay support for the kid. Why? Simple concept. I have been responding in the context of the original post about a guy not wanting to pay financial support for a "surprise" baby. Of course I believe that both parents should be involved in the rearing of the kid. I also believe that kids should be raised in a cohesive, two-parent home, that men and women should behave like adults and keep their hormones in check, that men and women have different roles in the family, that feminists today are sad, pathetic creatures. If a woman posted something similar I would have the same message for her. If you don't want a child, don't engage in behavior that will create one. Intercourse can lead to pregnancy no matter what kind of birth control you are using outside of abstinence. No one should be surprised or horrified if there is a pregnancy after sexual intercourse. It happens. There is no "trickery" involved. teachrmama wrote: "tonita" wrote in message ups.com... Dogs and cats breed without thought. Humans are supposed to have evolved above that level. No one *has* to give in to that drive. It's too bad everyone couldn't stay focused on the topic without all the bitterness taking over. Nothing will ever be solved in such a scattered way. Everyone wants to have their "Sex In The City" moments but refuse to consider the consequences after the fact. Hence the state of our world today. Too many fatherless kids, not enough personal accountability. Everyone wants theirs and to hell with everyone else. Someone else is always to blame. No more grit and backbone. Everyone is weak and must cater to their "feelings" above all else. Kind of makes for a very weak society in general and it certainly shows. I feel sad really. Kids are hurthing and the adults care very little about their psyches. As long as all the men and women are happily screwing, who cares? The kids will get over it, the kids will be fine, the kids don't care what the parents do. Go ahead and believe all that if that's what it takes to get through the day. There *are* good men and women in the world and I mean *real* men and women, not these morons who are behaving like juveniles. They're out there raising good kids, focusing on their families and working together to keep it together. They're not worried if they're going to feel good every second, or being happy every second. It's hard work and they're up for it. They're not into the blame game or the emotional tennis match, batting the blaming ball back and forth. Real men aren't guided by their penises and won't risk it all for some woman they hardly know. They actually care about who becomes the mother of their children. Real women are discerning and don't let just anyone into their bodies just for the momentary feelings. Real men and women don't have any interest in abortion issues or who's responsible for the pregnancy. They don't have to because they don't indulge in the self serving behavior that's created this mess in the first place. They don't have the "me, me, me" mindset. They sacrifice for the sake of their families. Yes, it's a very sad state and I suppose it will only get worse given the types of responses to this post. Everyone will just continue to blame someone else. There is a *big difference* between blaming someone else, and accepting equal responsibility. Don't you think that BOTH PARENTS should have equal rights and responsibilities in the raising of their children? Or do you really believe that the woman should raise the child and the man should pay for it? |
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The right to abandon your child (aka - Roe v. Wade for Men)
"Phil #3" wrote in message nk.net... "tonita" wrote in message ups.com... Dogs and cats breed without thought. Humans are supposed to have evolved above that level. No one *has* to give in to that drive. I am not so sure. Of course, it is different between men and women. Men have a stronger sex drive than women, which is, IMO, the main reason some women think of men as perverts for having a normal (for men) sex drive. From what I've read, women can do without sex easier than men and the longer they do without it, the easier it is to do without it; sort of a self-fullfilling prophecy, if you will. Men, on the other hand, are sexual creatures and the longer they do without it, the stronger the urge becomes. It's nature's way of insuring continuation of the species. Still, you are correct in that no one has to give in but it *is* a natural drive. What is unnatural is *not* giving in to it. The problem is not sex, the problem is that the government is ready, willing, and with our tax and child support dollars, able to become surrogate husband and father. More is done to insure a steady supply of divorces with children than is devoted to the idea of a strong family consisting of mother, father, children. The strong family has no need for the government to step in and control the family (and a very large part of it's finance) and a split family, that is where at least one parent does not live with their children, the government is making a profit from enabling and assisting in broken familes and as a side benefit to an ever-increasing government, gaining further total control over the People. In short, it's not so simple as just saying "no". Phil #3 It's too bad everyone couldn't stay focused on the topic without all the bitterness taking over. Nothing will ever be solved in such a scattered way. Everyone wants to have their "Sex In The City" moments but refuse to consider the consequences after the fact. Hence the state of our world today. Too many fatherless kids, not enough personal accountability. Everyone wants theirs and to hell with everyone else. Someone else is always to blame. No more grit and backbone. Everyone is weak and must cater to their "feelings" above all else. Kind of makes for a very weak society in general and it certainly shows. I feel sad really. Kids are hurthing and the adults care very little about their psyches. As long as all the men and women are happily screwing, who cares? The kids will get over it, the kids will be fine, the kids don't care what the parents do. Go ahead and believe all that if that's what it takes to get through the day. There *are* good men and women in the world and I mean *real* men and women, not these morons who are behaving like juveniles. They're out there raising good kids, focusing on their families and working together to keep it together. They're not worried if they're going to feel good every second, or being happy every second. It's hard work and they're up for it. They're not into the blame game or the emotional tennis match, batting the blaming ball back and forth. Real men aren't guided by their penises and won't risk it all for some woman they hardly know. They actually care about who becomes the mother of their children. Real women are discerning and don't let just anyone into their bodies just for the momentary feelings. Real men and women don't have any interest in abortion issues or who's responsible for the pregnancy. They don't have to because they don't indulge in the self serving behavior that's created this mess in the first place. They don't have the "me, me, me" mindset. They sacrifice for the sake of their families. Yes, it's a very sad state and I suppose it will only get worse given the types of responses to this post. Everyone will just continue to blame someone else. Phil #3 wrote: Doesn't seem to have made much difference over the past 30 years although the marriage rate has dropped and will continue to do so, sex is one of humankind's basic drives. It's a difficult instinct to overcome. |
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The right to abandon your child (aka - Roe v. Wade for Men)
tonita wrote:
Well, I guess the feminists have suceeded in beating men down. I always say anything worth having is worth fighting for. Maybe it's time for men and women to start behaving themselves so none of this will happen? It's still a blame game. Blame the man, blame the woman, blame the government. I suppose if I had a child out of wedlock I could turn to the government for help but I didn't and I won't. My kids didn't. My friends didn't. It all boils down to behavior and the attitude of wanting something more for one's life and the lives of their children. The idea of living a more dignified life. People can change but they don't have to. It's a societal problem, government included but I don't think it's totally to blame. There are no values to stand behind anymore. Exactly. Nobody has to have values or, dare I say, morals. Yes - exactly, again. It's a free-for-all world and everybody just stands by and watches and supports. I can't change it but I certainly haven't contributed to it either. Tonita, you're wasting your time trying to get it to register "over there". There's nothing "there". Just a vacuum. Phil #3 wrote: "tonita" wrote in message ups.com... I respectfully disagree with, well...everything. You make it sound as if when a man doesn't get sex he'll either walk around with an eternal erection or he'll end up raping someone. You apparently misunderstood. We all know that isn't true. People can use their intellect far more than they do. They *can* but as long as we let the government tell us how to think, why bother? Self control and self discipline. As for the government, that's kind of far fetched. Not at all. Apparently you are unaware that the state governments, the ones that force the child support guidelines upon the People, rake a tidy profit from the federal government in the form of block grants as a reward for collecting child support. Then add to it the interest on millions of dollars sitting in the government accounts for varying lengths of 1-3 months before disbursment. The government, at least in my opinion, horns in when there is a lot of public pressure. Look at our society today...political correctness and all of that crap. It is so acceptable for a teenaged girl to get knocked up, continue school, keep the kid go to junior prom and do it again the next year. Or worse, quit school and have babies as a career. The government pays because there isn't a choice anymore. Sure there's a choice, several in fact, but the basic step is for the governement to butt out. The government rewards women who operate the system by giving them the lion's share of the marriage plus custody of the children and far more money than is needed to support those children and people are surprised when the numbers of these women increase. Whether the mother has been married or not, the subject is the same: rewarding bad behavior and wondering why the bad behavior increases. It's done so kids won't starve or die. Hardly. It's done for political correctness; that is, feminists demand women be treated special and men be punished for being male. Child support has nothing to do with supporting children. Most fathers would do whatever is necessary for their children but the government will not permit it. It's almost a badge of honor to be a single mother these days. It's shameful. I think it happens because there are so many fatherless homes. To a large degree, absolutely. So it is with may pathological amomalities such as failing or dropping out of school, drug use, runaway juveniles, child abuse and neglect, crime and many others. I don't agree with any of it but that's the way it is. People get divorced because they can, men abandon because they can, women think they can have it all but they can't. That's why marriages end and thank the feminists for the victim status many women take. It's downright pathetic. Too true. Except most fathers want to remain in their children's lives as a parent but are not allowed. The government promise is custody and a C$ order, which is promoted as "liberating" for women. In fact, it makes them dependent on the government instead of their husbands and due to the monolothic number of laws in this regard, the husbands then come under the control of the government as well. Phil #3 Phil #3 wrote: "tonita" wrote in message ups.com... Dogs and cats breed without thought. Humans are supposed to have evolved above that level. No one *has* to give in to that drive. I am not so sure. Of course, it is different between men and women. Men have a stronger sex drive than women, which is, IMO, the main reason some women think of men as perverts for having a normal (for men) sex drive. From what I've read, women can do without sex easier than men and the longer they do without it, the easier it is to do without it; sort of a self-fullfilling prophecy, if you will. Men, on the other hand, are sexual creatures and the longer they do without it, the stronger the urge becomes. It's nature's way of insuring continuation of the species. Still, you are correct in that no one has to give in but it *is* a natural drive. What is unnatural is *not* giving in to it. The problem is not sex, the problem is that the government is ready, willing, and with our tax and child support dollars, able to become surrogate husband and father. More is done to insure a steady supply of divorces with children than is devoted to the idea of a strong family consisting of mother, father, children. The strong family has no need for the government to step in and control the family (and a very large part of it's finance) and a split family, that is where at least one parent does not live with their children, the government is making a profit from enabling and assisting in broken familes and as a side benefit to an ever-increasing government, gaining further total control over the People. In short, it's not so simple as just saying "no". Phil #3 It's too bad everyone couldn't stay focused on the topic without all the bitterness taking over. Nothing will ever be solved in such a scattered way. Everyone wants to have their "Sex In The City" moments but refuse to consider the consequences after the fact. Hence the state of our world today. Too many fatherless kids, not enough personal accountability. Everyone wants theirs and to hell with everyone else. Someone else is always to blame. No more grit and backbone. Everyone is weak and must cater to their "feelings" above all else. Kind of makes for a very weak society in general and it certainly shows. I feel sad really. Kids are hurthing and the adults care very little about their psyches. As long as all the men and women are happily screwing, who cares? The kids will get over it, the kids will be fine, the kids don't care what the parents do. Go ahead and believe all that if that's what it takes to get through the day. There *are* good men and women in the world and I mean *real* men and women, not these morons who are behaving like juveniles. They're out there raising good kids, focusing on their families and working together to keep it together. They're not worried if they're going to feel good every second, or being happy every second. It's hard work and they're up for it. They're not into the blame game or the emotional tennis match, batting the blaming ball back and forth. Real men aren't guided by their penises and won't risk it all for some woman they hardly know. They actually care about who becomes the mother of their children. Real women are discerning and don't let just anyone into their bodies just for the momentary feelings. Real men and women don't have any interest in abortion issues or who's responsible for the pregnancy. They don't have to because they don't indulge in the self serving behavior that's created this mess in the first place. They don't have the "me, me, me" mindset. They sacrifice for the sake of their families. Yes, it's a very sad state and I suppose it will only get worse given the types of responses to this post. Everyone will just continue to blame someone else. Phil #3 wrote: Doesn't seem to have made much difference over the past 30 years although the marriage rate has dropped and will continue to do so, sex is one of humankind's basic drives. It's a difficult instinct to overcome. |
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